I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

Free the boy na?
He's just curious ni.

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

What's wrong in viewing porn?
What other avenues of entertainment have you created for him.

He is 16 years old, he needs to view porn it's a stage in life...and this stage will pass.

How about when you were 16…?

Now that the boy is minding his business and enjoying his porn, una no go allow him. Killers of joy!

Oh really, so I should encourage him ehn, I hope you know this particular stage has ruined some people's lives for good.

Charleys:


What's wrong in viewing porn?
What other avenues of entertainment have you created for him.

He is 16 years old, he needs to view porn it's a stage in life...and this stage will pass.

How about when you were 16…?

Whatever you do, make sure you don't appear like a pest to him for he might Hate you

Watching porn is a criminal offense so you should report him to the police..

Exactly my fear

bluebay:
Whatever you do, make sure you don't appear like a pest to him for he might Hate you

Leave the guy to self-service in peace na. We all passed through this stage and most of us are not doing bad including his father. Abu where do you want him to channel all the sexual hormones brewing in him?

He's too young to be thinking about sex, maybe I'm overreacting but I can't just sit and watch pornography and masturbation take over him. He's supposed to be preparing for waec.

YourCoffin:
Leave the guy to self-service in peace na. We all passed through this stage and most of us are not doing bad including his father. Abu where do you want him to channel all the sexual hormones brewing in him?

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

I don't know you but I feel God has sent you to save the boy's life.

He must be secretly masturbating.
He may even have a girlfriend, why not tell your male friends to talk sense into him.

There are many solutions to this matter but the first is that you should not let the boy feel like a sinner. Heck, the boy may even be turned on by you or wish he could sleep with you too because such things are what is found in porn...

He needs prayer and all the counsel he can get, as for those saying it will pass, IT IS A BIG FAT LIE, addictions do not pass, they translate into some hideous form of craving.

He needs a male role model that can give him something better to spend his emotions on.

Check his chats and his male friends, the influence may come from there. He is curious so he is trying to explore but porn has a spiritual side that will cage him for life so please be prayerful else he will sleep with many girls and may find it a sport.

Ask your male friends for advice but as a female that teenage boy is closed up to you but will only open up to a male he can look up to.

You should have addressed the issue immediately you noticed it, there was no need involving his parents, now he will never trust you, he sees you as an intruder.

You are absolutely correct.

I spoke to a close uncle about it and he promised to talk to him but the thing is, now he is rebellious and I feel it's only his dad that can slap sense into him. I'm praying for him, I also encouraged his mom to do so also because I know this phase is a very tempting one for him.

Ladylite:


I don't know you but I feel God has sent you to save the boy's life.

He must be secretly masturbating.
He may even have a girlfriend, why not tell your male friends to talk sense into him.

There are many solutions to this matter but the first is that you should not let the boy feel like a sinner. Heck, the boy may even be turned on by you or wish he could sleep with you too because such things are what is found in porn...

He needs prayer and all the counsel he can get, as for those saying it will pass, IT IS A BIG FAT LIE, addictions do not pass, they translate into some hideous form of craving.

He needs a male role model that can give him something better to spend his emotions on.

Check his chats and his male friends, the influence may come from there. He is curious so he is trying to explore but porn has a spiritual side that will cage him for life so please be prayerful else he will sleep with many girls and may find it a sport.

Ask your male friends for advice but as a female that teenage boy is closed up to you but will only open up to a male he can look up to.

I tried to but to him it felt like I was preaching, he didn't care to listen so I thought he would at least respect his own mom.

lilyheaven:
You should have addressed the issue immediately you noticed it, there was no need involving his parents, now he will never trust you, he sees you as an intruder.

missimelda01:
Oh really, so I should encourage him ehn, I hope you know this particular stage has ruined some people's lives for good.

How many people's lives do you know that have been ruined from viewing porn, leave that boy alone and mind your business

The stories that people post here is enough to know that this path he's taking is leading him to nowhere good.
Maybe it worked for you but I'm not going to let him ruin his life with pornography.

Charleys:


How many people's lives do you know that have been ruined from viewing porn, let me tell you the truth.

Once you start viewing porn as a man, you can't have sex anymore. Because when the time comes it's either you wish the girl will look as beautiful as the IndecentStar which you always watch therefore you can't have sex.

So it's to his advantage, the more he watches the more he can't have sex due to the disregulation of the dopamine.

Just let him be Miss.

missimelda01:
The stories that people post here is enough to know that this path he's taking is leading him to nowhere good.
Maybe it worked for you but I'm not going to let him ruin his life with pornography.

As if you never watch porn before. Give him a girlfriend na.

U just de narrate the boy up and down. It will only make him more curious.

If I say you be a, you say pro another man say ko, Omo na you Sabi.

missimelda01:
You are absolutely correct.

I spoke to a close uncle about it and he promised to talk to him but the thing is, now he is rebellious and I feel it's only his dad that can slap sense into him. I'm praying for him, I also encouraged his mom to do so also because I know this phase is a very tempting one for him.

Who slap hep? It will make him more curious and stubborn

Violent reaction will make him become cunningly devisive and you will think he has changed but he will outsmart you all. He needs friendly counsel to overcome it. Else he will become a damaged adult that sees women only good for sex. And also if you know anyone good in ICT they can help you with how to configure his phone in a way that porn will never show.... Just saying o

Na from clap them dey enter dance. If he doesn't stop it now, he might become addicted and finds it difficult to stop in future.


Edit
Just stumble on this https://www.nairaland.com/5667899/how-stop-friend-watching-porn . I believe the person in question started small.

All these women in this thread are wicked.

Let him learn, no one gives sex education these days, only porn can do that.

missimelda01:
He's too young to be thinking about sex, maybe I'm overreacting but I can't just sit and watch pornography and masturbation take over him. He's supposed to be preparing for waec.

Is his results bad?

He is undergoing puberty. Guess what guys think about during that time? Let his father educate him on how handle it.

Charleys:


How many people's lives do you know that have been ruined from viewing porn, leave that boy alone and mind your business

You are wrong and so many levels. Porn gives more appetite for sex and at age 16 is the peak for influence, so he will want to experiment.

If your theory was correct then porn industry would not be increasing by leaps and bounds.

Pls your theory is sooooo wrong

Thank you.

Ladylite:


Who slap hep? It will make him more curious and stubborn

Violent reaction will make him become cunningly devisive and you will think he has changed but he will outsmart you all. He needs friendly counsel to overcome it. Else he will become a damaged adult that sees women only good for sex. And also if you know anyone good in ICT they can help you with how to configure his phone in a way that porn will never show.... Just saying o

missimelda01:
I tried to but to him it felt like I was preaching, he didn't care to listen so I thought he would at least respect his own mom.

It's okay.
Tell him you didn't want to tell his mom but because he didn't give you ear.
If you can't go at length in telling him the disadvantage of his actions, print it out and hand over to him, believe me he will read, he may not say thank you, but that information will go a long way.

once again members of the frustrated Vaseline crew has invaded this thread to justify their addiction

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

when you were first fvcked....who went to report to ur Dad

The boy is pure evil, you should arrange for some area boys to deal with him... how dare he watch porn?!

I no know why women sabi do over sabi too much. There is something flawed in yalls dna.

Guys are weird, mehn.

Larryfest:
Watching porn is a criminal offense so you should report him to the police..

Your head nor correct

many of us did that at that age or even younger sef... Afterall my first gf was in ss3 while I was in jss3.... anyway the good part is, he isn't delving towards being gay or dem Bobby risky type... just counsel him