missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

you talk like a child, I think it's because you are not male so you don't understand what he's going through. at this age his hormones is so raging that even a look at a woman his penis would become erect and that porn is his only remedy. Please leave that boy alone masturbation never ruins anyone in time before 18 to 19 he would get over it at his age now it's impossible to talk him out of it or discipline him it won't work

So because I don't support a 16 year old boy watching porn I talk like a child? You are the one who has a shitty mentality.

coolie1:
you talk like a child, I think it's because you are not male so you don't understand what he's going through. at this age his hormones is so raging that even a look at a woman his penis would become erect and that porn is his only remedy. Please leave that boy alone masturbation never ruins anyone in time before 18 to 19 he would get over it at his age now it's impossible to talk him out of it or discipline him it won't work

I'll check the thread, thank you.

Sijo01:
Na from clap them dey enter dance. If he doesn't stop it now, he might become addicted and finds it difficult to stop in future.


Edit
Just stumble on this https://www.nairaland.com/5667899/how-stop-friend-watching-porn . I believe the person in question started small.

Leave him alone!
He is at the age to explore these things.
Why should he be slapped for something that is completely normal at his age? The way you people treat kids like they have no feelings. It needs to stop!
What he needs is education about his raging hormones and encouragement to explore other outlets (playing sports, music, etc).
Everyone went through this stage but instead of identifying with the boy, you are busy playing assistant Jesus. Mtchew.

I think he hates me already with the way he's been acting lately

lilyheaven:

It's okay.
Tell him you didn't want to tell his mom but because he didn't give you ear.
If you can't go at length in telling him the disadvantage of his actions, print it out and hand over to him, believe me he will read, he may not say thank you, but that information will go a long way.

Charleys:


What's wrong in viewing porn?
What other avenues of entertainment have you created for him.

He is 16 years old, he needs to view porn it's a stage in life...and this stage will pass.

How about when you were 16…?

U go fear advice nawa

Oh wow, I'm playing assistant jesus because I know porn will ruin his life. I don't know how you raised/want to raise your child but encouraging pornography is a NO NO for me. I'm sure there are better ways of managing the hormone thingy and I'm ready to explore other options.

elektra:
Leave him alone!
He is at the age to explore these things.
Why should he be slapped for something that is completely normal at his age? The way you people treat kids like they have no feelings. It needs to stop!
What he needs is education about his raging hormones and encouragement to explore other outlets (playing sports, music, etc).
Everyone went through this stage but instead of identifying with the boy, you are busy playing assistant Jesus. Mtchew.

missimelda01:
Oh wow, I'm playing assistant jesus because I know porn will ruin his life. I don't know how you raised/want to raise your child but encouraging pornography is a NO NO for me. I'm sure there are better ways of managing the hormone thingy and I'm ready to explore other options.

Porn will not ruin his life.
ADDICTION to porn is what will. Addiction to ANYTHING is bad, not just porn.
You are free to raise your child however you want but you have limited authority over someone else’s child. I don’t know why you are flexing your child raising muscles over this kid.

missimelda01:
So because I don't support a 16 year old boy watching porn I talk like a child? You are the one who has a shitty mentality.

not viewing things from two or more perspective shows childish tendencies, I imply you understand what the boy is going through before acting like a child

missimelda01:
Oh wow, I'm playing assistant jesus because I know porn will ruin his life. I don't know how you raised/want to raise your child but encouraging pornography is a NO NO for me. I'm sure there are better ways of managing the hormone thingy and I'm ready to explore other options.

what's the better way huh?

rape. or why don't you Bleep him yourself to stop his masturbating habits

Porn is bad. Even repentant porn actors confesses it is bad and they regret going into it.

So for cousin, you have plenty of work to do. But no be gra gra oh, it won't work that way. You need to sit down do better research and write down you points carefully - i.e be prepared and even pray; before you start. You both may need to go out somewhere and do some great chat. You must get him to trust you and you must promise to keep it cool within.

Start from how he got into it...let him open up. On your own part you start by telling him as a child of God, it is bad and not healthy for him. Support your statement with relevant bible passages (preferably NLT version, so that the thing go sink very well). Thereafter list out the side effects of indulging in porn. Of course part of it is that it would affect his studies and may end up not attaining his full potential academically, which in turn has other ripple effects. Also marriage, erectile dysfunction etc.

In all it must be done in love and always put him in prayer. You could enlist a male who is level headed too to help out. Not anyhow uncle, if not you don lose am be dat.

You should have talked to him urself instead of reporting

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

I tried, read through my comments.

echibuogwu:
You should have talked to him urself instead of reporting

missimelda01:
Oh really, so I should encourage him ehn, I hope you know this particular stage has ruined some people's lives for good.

Wait till you have your own kids then search their phones and search for hymen and the rest. Mind your business this 2020.

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

This one you don't mind your business, you want to create enmity between you two. This is the age they are curious. If you are not giving him sex education, then back the f**** off. You are creating an unnecessary family enmity.

Tell us about when you were 16 and how you got disvirgined.

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

The first mistake you made was asking such a question in a corrupt and faceless platform as this, no wonder the concerned ones responded to justify their lifestyles.

Well, now, that's the seed of immorality (leading to addiction)getting implanted at youthful age. The best is to involve a very close party (higher male personalty like his father not female) to talk sense into his head with a strong hand. (He's still 16).

What dictates and controls him comes from the inside..THE MIND, so the mind needs to be cleaned. Check around what he feeds his mind with, the type of songs you play in the house and even most tv stations you watch, the types of friends he hangs around with e.t.c.

Finally, the best thing that keeps a man's mind is the fear of a BEING greater than all creatures.. GOD...find a way at all cost to teach him the way of the Lord.... expect a drastic change

missimelda01:
He's too young to be thinking about sex, maybe I'm overreacting but I can't just sit and watch pornography and masturbation take over him. He's supposed to be preparing for waec.

i wanked first in ss2 aged 14. I have not died or became an addict. Leave the boy alone. He will soon enter uni will u go monitor him there

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

Aproko... Mind you business abi uwant the boy to fvck you..?

Honestly I understand where you're coming from but I think you're overreacting about nothing. Porn is a part of every guy's life. Especially guys going through puberty. It's just a phase and it'll definitely pass so you have nothing to worry about.

Hahjascho:
The first mistake you made was asking such a question in a corrupt and faceless platform as this, no wonder the concerned ones responded to justify their lifestyles.

Well, now, that's the seed of immorality (leading to addiction)getting implanted at youthful age. The best is to involve a very close party (higher male personalty like his father not female) to talk sense into his head with a strong hand. (He's still 16).

What dictates and controls him comes from the inside..THE MIND, so the mind needs to be cleaned. Check around what he feeds his mind with, the type of songs you play in the house and even most tv stations you watch, the types of friends he hangs around with e.t.c.

Finally, the best thing that keeps a man's mind is the fear of a BEING greater than all creatures.. GOD...find a way at all cost to teach him the way of the Lord.... expect a drastic change

Na this same religion dey make una no reason things well. So I'm to believe you didn't go through puberty at some point in your life? You didn't browse porn just to know what it's like? Oga park well.

missimelda01:
He's too young to be thinking about sex, maybe I'm overreacting but I can't just sit and watch pornography and masturbation take over him. He's supposed to be preparing for waec.

Try talk to him in a way he won't feel insecure or odd... At least educate him with what person of his age should know...

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

I wonder how you knew what's porn? And I believe you are still a virgin

Don't you know without him doing that he would got a girl pregnant before 17; if not by raping. Do you really know what he's passing through at this stage of puberty?

Trust me, you can never make him cheat the nature and his dad won't even consider your report because he's a man and have passed through the stage.

I know your type, always trying to raise another person's child through hard way but would let yours become spoilt brat.

A day will come when the boy will mock you for getting pregnancy from your boyfriend without being married.

I think you're sick in the head, so you cannot drop your opinion without cursing your generation. I wonder how y'all think, so I should see my cousin going down the wrong path and encourage him because I'm not his parent.. I would continue to do my best to help him because he's family and I love him, and I don't have to worry about my own kids... They'd do great. Now if you have nothing useful to say, stay out of this thread.

Techcrunchng:
I wonder how you knew what's porn? And I believe you are still a virgin

Don't you know without him doing that he would got a girl pregnant before 17; if not by raping. Do you really know what he's passing through at this stage of puberty?

Trust me, you can never make him cheat the nature and his dad won't even consider your report because he's a man and have passed through the stage.

I know your type, always trying to raise another person's child through hard way but would let yours become spoilt brat.

A day will come when the boy will mock you for getting pregnancy from your boyfriend without being married.

missimelda01:
I think you're sick in the head, so you cannot drop your opinion without cursing your generation. I wonder how y'all think, so I should see my cousin going down the wrong path and encourage him because I'm not his parent.. I would continue to do my best to help him because he's family and I love him, and I don't have to worry about my own kids... They'd do great. Now if you have nothing useful to say, stay out of this thread.

Through most guys' comments check who's sick in the head between you and me. You ain't a male and you won't understand what the young man is currently passing through! You can't stop him except you provide him a girlfriend or sex mate of which the best option is allowing him to masturbate a little bit except you want to get a report of him raping someone of which you're not an exclusion if care is not taken.

What you should do for him as a good sister is to find a way to make him reduce the rate of which he masturbates and this could be achieved by keeping him busy through video games, sports, social and religious activities.

Masturbation and wet dreams is certain for him because every male human passed and must pass through that stage of life, even those few guys up there advising you as if they are innocent, they all did the same if not worse.

So take a chill pill and stop insulting us that told you the truth and reality of life because the mission you are trying to embark on; is mission impossible, it's just like fighting a female adolescent for starting menstruating or avoiding a due lady from entering the stage of menopause.

Papadoh:
The boy is pure evil, you should arrange for some area boys to deal with him... how dare he watch porn?!

At this point permit me to scream Maaad o

missimelda01:
I think you're sick in the head, so you cannot drop your opinion without cursing your generation. I wonder how y'all think, so I should see my cousin going down the wrong path and encourage him because I'm not his parent.. I would continue to do my best to help him because he's family and I love him, and I don't have to worry about my own kids... They'd do great. Now if you have nothing useful to say, stay out of this thread.

Come, but what exactly is your problem with a 16yr old boy watching porn on his own phone which you didn't buy for him?

If it really bothers you that much, his parents are there...go tell them and let them handle it. SIMPLE. You have no business talking to him about it unless you plan to provide him with another way to burst a nut.

Is it not better he's exploring his teenage sexual fantasies on people he can't see or touch? Or would you rather have preferred if he starts spying on you while you're bathing and masturbating to your nakédness, or bringing in girls secretly into the house to bang?

Na wa oo..
Oya goan preach the Lord Jesus to him nah.

missimelda01:
Oh wow, I'm playing assistant jesus because I know porn will ruin his life. I don't know how you raised/want to raise your child but encouraging pornography is a NO NO for me. I'm sure there are better ways of managing the hormone thingy and I'm ready to explore other options.

Not really something to fight over, it's all a matter of choice and not your making at all.

There is this book that says "you can house their body but not their soul" gragra is the last option miss

spiralwedge:


This one you don't mind your business, you want to create enmity between you two. This is the age they are curious. If you are not giving him sex education, then back the f**** off. You are creating an unnecessary family enmity.

Tell us about when you were 16 and how you got disvirgined.

Please let me squat and shout MAD O

missimelda01:
Oh wow, I'm playing assistant jesus because I know porn will ruin his life. I don't know how you raised/want to raise your child but encouraging pornography is a NO NO for me. I'm sure there are better ways of managing the hormone thingy and I'm ready to explore other options.

Wow, I didn't even see this before my first comment.
Now your intentions are so much clearer, you're a pervert.

What other options are you ready to explore?
You want to give him a girlfriend, you want him to make you the object of his sexual desires, you want to preach Jesus to him?

What exactly?
What are these other options, don't be shy...share it.

I can't help but laugh at your comments

I already got the advice I needed, you came late to the party.

crackkhaus:

Wow, I didn't even see this before my first comment.
Now your intentions are so much clearer, you're a pervert.

What other options are you ready to explore?
You want to give him a girlfriend, you want him to make you the object of his sexual desires, you want to preach Jesus to him?

What exactly?
What are these other options, don't be shy...share it.

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

Let me drop my personal comment before leaving;

1. Porn or watching naked people doing shit ain't cool.
2. you are a lady and an adult now, as a lady yo might not understand the other body type and an adult you might feel it's wrong maybe based on ur past experience.
3. See, if he sense you like to mention his name everywhere, if he can handle tech gadget like i do, you will never find any sex content on him (he won't a dine but still it's there for him ). So talking about catching him red handed, that might not happen till time part you both. Remember he is a guy no matter how young, he can always manage to outsmart you.
4. Look for a very chilling dude that look innocent enough and trust looking but understands this business (bad guy i mean ) as undercover pastor/sex-expert/doctor.
5. Never expect him to stop in a day, if he was watching CD, he will reduce to 20min then maybe picture later on. If he self-services everyday then he takes two days off, then a week off, a month off. Maybe next you see him doing shit is gonna be on a bae.


Thank God no be Homo matter, i would have given you a simple instruction

1. Assassinate him

missimelda01:
I can't help but laugh at your comments

I already got the advice I needed, you came late to the party.

I still think you're a pervert

You're probably wondering why the boy will have someone as sexy as you around to fantasize on, but instead he chose to masturbate to those white girls with their narrow asses on pornhub.