missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

My dear, it is not only your 16 years old cousin that watches porn. Catching him red handed and reporting him to his dad will not make matters better. He will only become smarter when watching it, he will even graduate to having sex and nobody will have a clue about it.

My advice is let these children know Jesus. Let them have a relationship with Jesus, let the word of God be preached all the time to their hearing, pray to God for them because at the end of the day na who wan change go change. Who no wan change no go change and only God can change a man.

If he was much younger, I can say that you can flog the child but at 16, he is a grown boy, you should just talk to him and advice him on the bad effects of pornography

Charleys:
All these women in this thread are wicked.

Let him learn, no one gives sex education these days, only porn can do that.

I wish there was a dislike option. I would have given this useless comment uncountable dislikes. Porn does not teach anything it only makes people caged in an addiction.

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

sweethat, talk 2 him like a friend. Let him know d dangers of watching porn. Reporting 2 his dad will only escalate d matter.

flex04:


At this point permit me to scream Maaad o

Lol I was being sarcastic... i actually think she should free the boy.

op must have been a very dull biology student

it is very normal for a boy in his age bracket to watch explicit videos
trying to stop him will actually make him more curious/adventurous
it's doesn't work like a switch
it's just like trying to stop a girl from menstruating
let the boy do his thing
if you seize his phone, he has friends
at this current time and age where the internet is readily and easily accessible....
your only concern should be trying to prevent him from making it a/an habit
i started watching porn and masturbating at the age of 15 and i'm sure it's the same story for every guy out there
as he gets older, he'll outgrow it



sex education is important and it's not your job to talk to him
let his father/elder brother/teacher or any male figure do the talking
mind your business
this is 2020

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

You don't need to catch him red handed, he us smart on his game

Report to dad and he knows better how to talk with him with out making him feel bad about it

And that saves your identity as the informant

The truth is that a lot of people watch porn in recent times. not like before you need to go get a CD and play it in your computer or video player. Android Phones have made porn accessible. Don't wait until you catch him, you might not. call him, talk to him, tell him about the dangers of watching that, talk to him often. You could also tell the parents to watch out on him. The danger of porn is enormous, I know what i am saying and I could tell you that it is one of the hardest thing to stop when you get addicted to it. so he needs therapy and counseling. and you can do that. you must not shout at him, for he needs serious help. that is exactly what happens parents gives teenagers big phones and don't care about what they use it for. it is a product of parental failure. For those who said that he is curious and want to explore, that is not it. He is in danger of being a sex addict and he will masturbate to calm the fire burning in him as he watches porn. So he is in path of getting addicted to masurbation. If you claim that he is curious and want to explore, who knows, in near future he might rape your daughter. These things are connected.

Madam op,pls try nd mind ur business next time.It's because the boy is ur cousin(by the story),if not,u are nothin but a poke noser who has nothing worthwhile to do with her time, than chasing shadows.


If it's me,I would not listen to a word u say,u can go to hell with ur preaching nd advice..
U are there acting like a saint in white aparrel,but I know gals like u do far more dirty things in secret when no one's watching.

I rather commit the crime with imaginary gals,than all these naija gals that will be asking for money to buy airtym.

Today is valentine,nd many bitches be coming around to ask for shawama,pizza,ice cream, suya,barbeque,nd drinks because they feel they are entitled to those things,because they are women,Spits

Bleep those bitches,I say Bleep them!

They dont deserve shit from anyone.All they are coming for is the money�� nd nothing else,so that's why I hardly bother myself about them.

I will say it again,I rather commit the crime with those gals in the videos,than to do it with most naija gals,because they are trash

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

It isn't the right approach and I'd honestly be more surprised if a 16 year old was NOT watching porn. What do you think reporting him to his mother or his father would achieve? Leave the boy alone. Once the novelty wears off and his curiosity is fully satisfied, he will let go and find another hobby. Women and their control issues.

Charleys:
What's wrong in viewing porn?
What other avenues of entertainment have you created for him.

He is 16 years old, he needs to view porn it's a stage in life...and this stage will pass.

How about when you were 16…?

Davash222:
Now that the boy is minding his business and enjoying his porn, una no go allow him. Killers of joy!

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I don laugh, i don tire

Nairaland, you guys are the best, no cap.

See eh, I have a younger bro at age 15, very tall and handsome. During his break, I was using his phone cos mine was faulty. I saw many things, though I didn't see porn but his chats with his Gf (did I even mention he has a gf already) exposed a lot.

I saw them and just smiled, Baba even sharp pass me, at that age I was concerned with just finishing sec school. What did I do? When he came back during the holidays, I made him understand I saw his chats, I didn't say more, he's growing I understand. What I can do is to tell him about diseases, condom and baby mama. I didn't involve any family member, why should I? When I know he's at that stage of his life.

Joke is on anyone who gives this teenagers phones and think they won't be exposed to these things. It's like walking naked in an exposed reactor of a nuclear plant, you will definitely get cancer (I hope I made sense there )

Those saying talk to him about Jesus are the big Jokers here, someone (a teen) is hungry, he needs to satisfy that urge, you tell him to go and pray, you are sick. Didn't Apostle Paul say something like "when I was a kid I reasoned like a kid?" Didn't Jesus say the bridegroom doesn't fast when the bride is around?

Don't be a hypocrite, help them to pass this phase out objectively, it's not easy for them, at least you were once a teen.

By the way, there's a lady o met here, for weeks we haven't spoken, edakun, Ify, what I do? Why have you forsaken me?

Nairaland, I love you all

CsRockefeller:


I don laugh, i don tire

Nairaland, you guys are the best, no cap.

See eh, I have a younger bro at age 15, very tall and handsome. During his break, I was using his phone cos mine was faulty. I saw many things, though I didn't see porn but his chats with his Gf (did I even mention he has a gf already) exposed a lot.

I saw them and just smiled, Baba even sharp pass me, at that age I was concerned with just finishing sec school. What did I do? When he came back during the holidays, I made him understand I saw his chats, I didn't say more, he's growing I understand. What I can do is to tell him about diseases, condom and baby mama. I didn't involve any family member, why should I? When I know he's at that stage of his life.

Joke is on anyone who gives this teenagers phones and think they won't be exposed to these things. It's like walking naked in an exposed reactor of a nuclear plant, you will definitely get cancer (I hope I made sense there )

Those saying talk to him about Jesus are the big Jokers here, someone (a teen) is hungry, he needs to satisfy that urge, you tell him to go and pray, you are sick. Didn't Apostle Paul say something like "when I was a kid I reasoned like a kid?" Didn't Jesus say the bridegroom doesn't fast when the bride is around?

Don't be a hypocrite, help them to pass this phase out objectively, it's not easy for them, at least you were once a teen.

By the way, there's a lady o met here, for weeks we haven't spoken, edakun, Ify, what I do? Why have you forsaken me?

Nairaland, I love you all

God bless you. To the OP. There is no way you can stop that. Most of d guys here will tell you that. However, you are the adult, u need to educate him abt porn and sex. Tell him about d pro and cons of sex, porn and mastubation. Inform him of d damages it can create to the body and den leave the decision 2 him. But i can tell u with outmost certainty dat he is not going to leave porn at dis stage. His body is maturing and nature gat to do what nature dos. All he need now is proper sex education. Its a phase and soon it will expire.

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Alright, as a 16 years old boy, i think i have something to say eventhough it might be too late, but just to the future readers who come across this post.

First i wanna share my disgust at those who use the terms hunger or need or something they starve of for masturbation and porn. Yeah you disgust me and I ask you respectfully not to spit your lies and consider a truth one that isn't.
We are not animals,nor we are vampire who starve of this as if it was blood, but that only becomes the case when you entertain what you so call hunger and not the other way around...you are disgusting. No i dont walk around having only this on my mind, womans are not objects, I DO NOT NEED THIS AFTER I STOPPED, SO NO WE ARE NOT DRIVEN MY OUR HORMONES UNTIL WE ACT ON THEM.
No, it is not if i dont watch porn that I will be a rapist as someone in this thread stated, it is quite the other way around actually, as science has very beautifully proven it, but sadly animals can not read.
Sorry for the aggressivity but what has been said here is ridiculous, calling the wise a fool and the fool a wise, the wise a pervert ...
Now There was some truth in what has been told, when i was watching porn, my parents giving me a lecture about Jesus wouldn't have changed anything, at least positively but that is the case because i just didnt believe and had been blinded by the lie that i could control this evil.
It will take time, but doing nothing will make it worse, that is for sure.

Please for anyone who reads, this is a 16 year old who stopped porn and masturbation for what is now almost 6 months and is willing to make it till mariage.
DO NOT BELIEVE THOSE WHO SAY THAT IT IS A PHASE AND THAT IT WILL PASS. I can say with every ounce of certainty i have that i wouldnt have stopped if Jesus my Savior wouldn't have stepped in. I mean why would I ? My parents didn't know, no one knew! It was giving me pleasure, and making worse my pain, but who care if it makes you feel good huh? Because that is what everyone care about now? Feelings? Shame on you, you who is blind.

Shame on you who are justfying evil, calling it a phase, a hunger, a need, a pleasure, an urge, a stage, and calling out those who are wise.
If i wish something, is that people like you come to their senses, because it is because of you that this evil is still, because of you, that when I was addict, I searched help but all i got was "it's normal"... it wasnt the evil the problem anymore, but it was me for seing it as evil while this very thing were killing me on the inside. Shame on you, but it isn't your fault, I am sure you are not a christian, or a very bad one, or a teen who is struggling, or a child with his mother's phone in hand, or a very weird old man who doesnt have anything to do with his life and regrets the old times, or just...anw you are weird, cause that is how i was before and i wouldve said the same...

For the one who started the thread, i hope and pray that you acted on the issue, and for those who read, just know that you are loved no matter what. There is freedom in Jesus, you are not alone, this is a battle against evil, not the evildoers for they are just too blinded to see.
the Lord loves you, if only i had believed my parents when they would tell me this, but i was stupid, please learn from my mistake.
I don't know what else to say, truly this thread has digusted me and make we wanna vomit but
Anyway.
Shalom shalom
"Free the devil and he will flee from you"

missimelda01:
I was going to use his phone for something then I noticed some pornography sites in his browser, aside that he makes some funny moves like skipping school and just being home alone, hiding when pressing his phone and lots more. I tried convincing his mom to search his phone but this boy cleared everything, now he gives me this funny attitude. I want to catch him red handed and report to his dad, but I'm not sure if that's the right approach.

1. You people should enroll him for Computer lessons. Let him have other things that will make him, interest him.

2. Buy him a saint book and give him.

3. Say One Our Father in honour of his Guardian Angel daily to keep him from pornography.