piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

OP, report the guy you are chasing that refuse to accept ur kind gesture, let me punish him.


Don't thank me sis

Bcus una shakara too much... You do shakara waste person time finish when finally una go still Gree ooo ladies with fish brains

Dobson43:




Next time when you want to rant, do yourself a favor and correct your mistakes. And stay off my mentions. I wouldn't scoop low and reply your insults

same here mr corrector and before u go its

Stoop low

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

When u say "African men", are u referring to d more than 669,000,000 men who reside in d continent of Africa? If yes, how were u able to interact with more than 600million to have to your conclusion as to how they respond when a Lady shows interest in them?

How many experiences have u had with men whether from africa or other continents to say "I have noticed men...loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit"?

piamily:
So men stop becoming sweet when they get their woman ��

Nawa o

believe that rubbish at your own peril, that is the most ridiculous statement I read in 2020. Rubbish

Most men don't leave women that add value to their life
Let me give you a secret to know be always relevant in your man's life

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

My dear that's not the point.
The point is that people are different and different people respond differently to their respective relationship.
With the right person, they will never loose interest in you, I guess in your scenario that guy wasn't right for you.

ibksiv:
Ionknow!
I had such an experience where a female friend of mine, shocked my azz by telling she loves me. At first it didn't cause any change of my attitude towards her, but after while, I began to see involuntary indifference all over my attitude towards her. I believe it is just a matter of feelings. She has feelings for a guy but he doesn't have, so that while she expects the guy to behave towards her according to her feelings, she gets disappointed when he doesn't therefore appearing as though the guy is losing interest or has lost interest.

It once happened to me tho
I liked the girl at first but immediately she started showing interest
The thing pissed me off, imagine talking to someone for over 30mins on the phone everyday,..... That shit irritated me, I had to remove my sim and use another number and told her my phone is faulty, blocked her on WhatsApp and up till now have not heard from her......don't need such attention jare

Taywon:


Ok... This is what u should do... Learn to smile b4 starting any conversation.... Be playful with words not mindful...
Call the said lady by name from a distance... Am telling u... It works like corona virus

lol!...you won't really understand.....

the only thing that works for me is alcohol which I've stopped taking for a long time.

but I'll find a way round it, thanks.

Well, it's true.

I notice it's because you suddenly find out a burden is coming your way and you check your bank account, it's not giving you joy.

So you back down as you cannot come and kill yourself.

Besides a girl falling for you means your options are narrowing down and the fear of commitment and limiting your contacts with other girls becomes worrying.

Let's tell ourselves the Truth. Once, a girl falls in love with you, she becomes overly protective by shooing away other girls. It could be wrapping arms around him in public. Some guys don't need that drama.

This is Africa. As a lady in this part of the world, you should show covert rather than overt interest in a guy. This is due to the skewed mentality we have that ladies who show overt interest in a guy are cheap and tend to be promiscuous. I advise you ladies to thread cautiously when it comes to showing your emotions to guys

So one post from a stranger is all it takes for you to chart a new course in life!

How sickening!!

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

Dobson43:



Let me tell you the parable of the lost sheep.
A shepherd once lost a sheep. He left the other 99sheep in search of that one lost sheep. He searched every nooks and crannies till he found what he was looking for.

Moral of the story: you don't search for what you have.

this is the most ridiculous, useless, devils-inspired, misleading, dangerous, interpretation I have ever read.

Ah, anyone that read this and believe it make the biggest mistake of his or her life


Keep chasing, you will know how It feels when you loose 99 and you didn't even get that 1 you are running after
That when you will know that "A bird at hand is better than thousands in the bush".

Ekemeze:


This one is obviously the most foolish person on earth

Says the numbskull

bobkezel:

wetin is dis one be saying. Will you be shut up.

Fvck off, idi.ot

4gunners:
Factory reset Men have suffered

If a guy starts feeling too important because he thinks I like him, I tell him to fuu.ck off.

EmekaBlue:


na true...

i jokingly asked one lady out recently and she accepted...even to call her now dey hard me

walahi i dont know why

The reason is most likely because you subconsciously started seeing her as an easy lady, a lady of loose morals that would easily accept any guy that asks her out. You most likely don't want to get involved with that kind of lady.

But you might be wrong about her though and she readily accepted because you are a guy she likes.

Even Buhari ran for election more than 3x but lost interest in change wen he won

We lead attacks
And
Not the other way...

Renida:


Not true


Allow me explain. A young lady met me at my friends place and just vibes with me, since then we became another thing o. Where dog is the tail would be there. She entrusted me to choose her partners. If we stayed months apart where she stopped she tells me, I'll tell her do this and that and sent many away. She was insistent she would trust on me to mentor her right. It took us three to six years, filtering from contractor to engineer different men with different motives, today she struck gold, after our long experimentation. She got married to a top. Engineering contractor. I broke my aim to let her enjoy her marriage, she's now about five years in marriage to a dude that turned out wealthy. What many ladies which like your case need is a male guide to help navigate those seasons you're in high demand to make the right choices


Everyone I told not to marry whom they married ten years ago are either dead or completely devastated. The ones that listened to me which were few are very happy. The choice in whom one gives one self to is one that determines much, but sadly at young age, ladies don't seen how their choicescan affect their entire life.

You should open a ministry
"Guidance and counselling for single ladies"
I'll come and pay tithe

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

Your story is still incomplete. Answer these questions please:
1. Did you meet this guy one on one or it was online?
2. Did you have a date with him?

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piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

Message me so I can give you counseling

Zoie:

You should open a ministry
"Guidance and counselling for single ladies"
I'll come and pay tithe

Gracias

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

No matter what these men tell you on this forum the truth is men love the chase. You gave in to easily and that turned him off.
They don't like women playing too hard to get but they also live for the chase. Men are natural predators and women are their prey.

ladies should not loose guards or be confused by men behavior going forward.
once you have accepted the partner, going forward should be for you to REMAIN YOURSELF.

Do only things you will do to your father, mother etc because your marriagability assessment just commenced without announcement.

men tend to withdraw when doing assessment. you hear!

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

Based on my life's experience, it probably may have to do with the 2 people involved. You know in life, when you see something from a distance, it looks so attractive until closer inspection and probably you begin to see the flaws you wouldn't put up with.

Secondly, and I think generally, men love and cherish what gives them more hard time than otherwise. (Of course, if after closer inspection, it's worth all the efforts generally speaking)

Now, I have been in situations of that nature severally. It could be the girl isn't the height I wanted, not educated to the level I wanted or simply she doesn't fits into my needs.

You see, men are naturally competitive, when a man is suffering to get the attention of a girl he can take any insult just to overcome that challenge, that is even why men stay long with a girl that gives them tough time. But the moment the girl said she loves him that will be the point of diminishing return of his love for her. So it's normal. Only I will advice the girls to always maintain their class with a guy. Else they will suffer at last

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

Wow... Take easy Tiger. The next guy (the one who would love you to the moon) might not be that play hard to get time and might not have the time for it.

In life, its not always spelt out in stones what to expect. So be cautious in everything. Not too easy, not too hard.

Pattypatt:
If a guy starts feeling too important because he thinks I like him, I tell him to fuu.ck off.

Then what if you like him for real. Well I guess you will say that you will never find yourself liking a guy that would behave like that. But it happens, who we come to have strong feelings for isn't within our control. A guy would have other good qualities that would make a girl develop strong feelings for him, and he would later start feeling self important when they notices the girl's feeling.

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It is usually the ladies that you don't want that are interested in you.

But if a crush shows interest, it is party on.

\

Renida:



One lady I met, I had a dream before meeting her. I almost knelt begging her if she wouldn't accept my proposal let me be around her as I seldom have such strong instincts that life wanted me to be around a person, especially because I had a dream and saw her the day before. We met around Covenant University so I guess the environment polluted our relations. She kept assuming I wanted her cause she looked like she was rich despite the fact I was working. She refused regardless of the attempts I passed through, we maintained friendship where I call just twice in a year as I told her I didn't want friendship or brotherliness since she was single. I call her twice a year one at the start of the year, the other in the middle. The last time I called, someone picked, she had died. What happened, wrong blood transfusion or blood transfusion done wrongly. When we met I kept hearing the word, blood, blood, even as a Minister and in the Medical line I couldn't place it, if I remaining in her life, she will be alive today because I understood what happened into to. This is one event of regret, I chose to not be patient cause I didn't have things my way. Though life brought us together for free d ship and perhaps her moment of difficulty. Well she was someone else's responsibility and not me, but the new boyfriend mm couldn't handle the situationship


.. Other times the reverse was the case, many ladies saw me on low key and assumed he's a nobody, when they see my work ehtmmthics when working they come flocking, but then I've cut the thread. I then begin to see regrets in their faces.



Let's pray we don't regret in love. My mother's ex from over 45 years ago till today would call and say, if not your mother, if not your mother, cut the call. He does this once every year. There are persons of qualities life would send our way, if out of our own self importance we don't value people because they are the ones doing the chasing and not the other way around and abort our relationships, we will throw away the good along with the bad in the process.



Tolerance is key. Endurance is golden. Patience is a virtue. We should be patient with people..




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