TheABOMINATION:


The reason is most likely because you subconsciously started seeing her as an easy lady, a lady of loose morals that would easily accept any guy that asks her out. You most likely don't want to get involved with that kind of lady.

But you might be wrong about her though and she readily accepted because you are a guy she likes.

Renida:



One lady I met, I had a dream before meeting her. I almost knelt begging her if she wouldn't accept my proposal let me be around her as I seldom have such strong instincts that life wanted me to be around a person, especially because I had a dream and saw her the day before. We met around Covenant University so I guess the environment polluted our relations. She kept assuming I wanted her cause she looked like she was rich despite the fact I was working. She refused regardless of the attempts I passed through, we maintained friendship where I call just twice in a year as I told her I didn't want friendship or brotherliness since she was single. I call her twice a year one at the start of the year, the other in the middle. The last time I called, someone picked, she had died. What happened, wrong blood transfusion or blood transfusion done wrongly. When we met I kept hearing the word, blood, blood, even as a Minister and in the Medical line I couldn't place it, if I remaining in her life, she will be alive today because I understood what happened into to. This is one event of regret, I chose to not be patient cause I didn't have things my way. Though life brought us together for free d ship and perhaps her moment of difficulty. Well she was someone else's responsibility and not me, but the new boyfriend mm couldn't handle the situationship


.. Other times the reverse was the case, many ladies saw me on low key and assumed he's a nobody, when they see my work ehtmmthics when working they come flocking, but then I've cut the thread. I then begin to see regrets in their faces.



Let's pray we don't regret in love. My mother's ex from over 45 years ago till today would call and say, if not your mother, if not your mother, cut the call. He does this once every year. There are persons of qualities life would send our way, if out of our own self importance we don't value people because they are the ones doing the chasing and not the other way around and abort our relationships, we will throw away the good along with the bad in the process.



Tolerance is key. Endurance is golden. Patience is a virtue. We should be patient with people..




CC Liliantalks

Nikes:


OMG. I dont know how to react to this but it's by far the best thing I've read all day

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piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying SOME Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

Triplerg:
This is Africa. As a lady in this part of the world, you should show covert rather than overt interest in a guy. This is due to the skewed mentality we have that ladies who show overt interest in a guy are cheap and tend to be promiscuous. I advise you ladies to thread cautiously when it comes to showing your emotions to guys

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

LordShiva97:



Speak for yourself sir, some of us wants to be chased

James4bright:


It's just immaturity and nothing else.

I met a girl some weeks ago, starting wooing her immediately I saw her walking in her building, this girl made me talk for too long without saying anything back, but I could catch those little grins and smiles she tried to hide, I knew she liked me but was playing hard to get. Lastly she gave me her number but I didn't even think of calling. Am I mad ni? I hate pretentious and fake people.

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

James4bright:


It's just immaturity and nothing else.

I met a girl some weeks ago, starting wooing her immediately I saw her walking in her building, this girl made me talk for too long without saying anything back, but I could catch those little grins and smiles she tried to hide, I knew she liked me but was playing hard to get. Lastly she gave me her number but I didn't even think of calling. Am I mad ni? I hate pretentious and fake people.

Renida:
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I didn't say Nigerian men. I simply wrote about some persons, male and female, humans in general. It's psychological immaturity. Don't let their immaturity lead you to form new unhealthy habits. If you like the person, keep them far, and watch them beg for your attention as they outgrow their mental posturing. For now, go for where you're worshipped, not where you're tolerated


As for me, I don't want a lady I have interest in making it hard, at my age, level of maturity, five minutes is what I want to bear chasing anyone. Nothing more. In fact, I rather be chased

lanibi:
Don't you think you're being extreme? How can you expect a lady you just met to give you a "yes"?
Seems you have ego issues

humilitypays:
He is not being extreme, ladies need to learn decorum, for a guy to summon the courage to walk up to you a stranger and start telling u he likes u, he deserves some little respect, and if you show sign of arrogance when a guy approaches you, a reasonable guy will never call you even after collecting your number and you the lady may lose your best man ever like that. Only foolish playboys chasing any lady for sex endure some nonsense attitudes from ladies in the name of chasing a girl, well to do men with purpose and on a good mission hardly endure it cos they feel bad knowing the thought they have for u is good and u let them down.

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

humilitypays:
Preach it

xrayj:

It apply to both genders, if u show interest in someone that does not like u, it won't change what they feel towards u. But when u show interest in someone who likes u, he will naturally reciprocate. U ladies feel once u show interest in any man, he should reciprocate, because u are a lady, it doesn't work like that. A man also need to feel something for u.

piamily:
Oh ! I get you now. So you’re saying Nigerian men really want ladies to play the hard to get very hard then. So why are they complaining. Well then I’ll keep playing it hard as usual since they think it was bread and butter they got in a platter of gold

frankkydee:










That may be becos they sensed that the reason for you getting interested in them is for your personal benefits and not for a mutual benefits

Renida:



I'll stay here to read comments. At times when the guy pursues and purses and purses, it's oftentimes when the other party picks interest, his begin to dry up

piamily:
Okay. There’s thing guy I met one time last year. So he came up bold and said he was interested in a relationship. He didn’t even waste time. I was impressed . Normally I was supposed to dish out my “naija shakara girls style” you know, but I didn’t . After some days I agreed to date him.

I found out he’s easy going so I decided to give in and be mutual with the love and attraction etc. as soon as I got interested, he withdrew.

I noticed it . I don’t understand why a man will do this. Was he not interested? And does he expect the woman to hate him.

I see some men complain about ladies being hard to get and now a lady didn’t play that much hard yet the man withdrew a bit. Still don’t get men sometimes sha

piamily:
This is a different scenario.cos here you’re saying the girl made the move.

I’m actually saying that In my case the man made the move

boyjo:


You didn't get it.

The guy approached her first.
She liked him and agreed to date him without delay; she reciprocated his interest.
And as soon as she did, he withdrew.

piamily:
I have noticed men especially African men loose interest when a lady becomes interested in them even just a bit. I really don’t get it.

Do men expect women to hate them even when the men love the women? Cos I don’t understand if it should be mutual or not

Your views please

Renida:



I'll stay here to read comments. At times when the guy pursues and purses and purses, it's oftentimes when the other party picks interest, his begin to dry up

lanibi:
Don't you think you're being extreme? How can you expect a lady you just met to give you a "yes"?
Seems you have ego issues

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