Needhelppls:
I've never been a downer, never asked for help, but I think i need help . I'm depressed


I'm socially fvcked up beyond repair. Ever think you're at the point where you started learning things too late? It's where I am right now.

High school days were tormenting, I had friends that tortured me emotionally, lowered my self esteem and confidence.


Now I'm 19, first year in the uni. Never had a gf, very few friends.
I've been a chronic Introvert, was shy (not anymore).

Would have asked for help earlier but I dismissed the thought, thinking I'll soon get around to fixing my completely non-existant social life.

Social skills, to others, is just like a normal everyday skill, but to me, I apply conscious effort and focus. Trust me, I've tried

Things like having anxiety attacks moment before calling a girl. Ended up calling, was a disaster


I just have this feeling of being behind
- too behind

Now anyone I encounter, I feel completely out-of-sync within a few minutes. I keep loosing meaningful connections.



My outward appearance makes people wanna come close, then they get to notice I'm socially awkward and I'm politely forgotten.

I don't want this Life anymore, I just want to live a normal social life.


Someone pls help!
FP pls

mrNEMZY:
What are your interests?
Like are you good at playing video games?
Watching football?
Movie freek?
Nerd?

Just build on what interests you, everything begins to fall in place.
Let me take video games for example, if you like it, try leaving your room, go to gaming centres and play, you would see how good you would fit with the people around because they share the same interests.
Football? Instead of watching on your own, go to viewing centers. This would go a long way.

Another thing that would go a long way is maturity, you are just 19 in 1st year, you are still a baby, with time things would fall into places for you.

Chronic introvert? Don't try to change this, there's nothing wrong with it.

The girl friend part... you are lucky. Believe me, the time for this haven't reached, though society might try to pass it as normal having girls at this age, but the truth is, they can be a major source of distraction to your future, especially if you turned into a womanizer, most of your productive time would be spent on trying to get someone laid. Your days in the University can usually make or Mar you, don't spend it chasing after women.

Needhelppls:
I've never been a downer, never asked for help, but I think i need help . I'm depressed


I'm socially fvcked up beyond repair. Ever think you're at the point where you started learning things too late? It's where I am right now.

High school days were tormenting, I had friends that tortured me emotionally, lowered my self esteem and confidence.


Now I'm 19, first year in the uni. Never had a gf, very few friends.
I've been a chronic Introvert, was shy (not anymore).

Would have asked for help earlier but I dismissed the thought, thinking I'll soon get around to fixing my completely non-existant social life.

Social skills, to others, is just like a normal everyday skill, but to me, I apply conscious effort and focus. Trust me, I've tried

Things like having anxiety attacks moment before calling a girl. Ended up calling, was a disaster


I just have this feeling of being behind
- too behind

Now anyone I encounter, I feel completely out-of-sync within a few minutes. I keep loosing meaningful connections.



My outward appearance makes people wanna come close, then they get to notice I'm socially awkward and I'm politely forgotten.

I don't want this Life anymore, I just want to live a normal social life.


Someone pls help!
FP pls

Digmygold:


Lol. Deadbeat redpiller. Where is your family. Pvssy hunter. Now you are old sad and lonely. Waiilng on your mattress, no solution to your misery. Your devil.mind come tell you to come and preach your redpill poo on this platform thinking we will be stupid to join you in your folly. Wifeless old mofo.

Digmygold:


Poor redpiller wailer. Your children are hungry. Their hoe mothers are fvcking retards to exist. Child support is what you should be researching on. Deadbeat mofo.

ibiso1986:
Guy, I'm like you.. the funny thing is that I'm in my mid 30's.. I'm comfortable in terms of work. (I earn close to 150k per month), I drive a car but still find it difficult to socialize.. I don't have a close male friend, the female friends that come always back out after a while..

Their main reason is that im too boring.. I have to be honest, it affects my me psychologically in the sense that the next friend I'll meet might still say the same.

To be honest, making money doesn't make girls chase after you or improve your social life. I know jobless people that have lots of friends and hot Girls chase after..

Or could it be the lifestyle of Port Harcourt based people (especially the females).. I served in Calabar and had lots of friends there.

How do I improve my social life.. I'm not getting any younger and I hope it doesn't affect my search for a spouse.

zedegit:


If he doesn't pick up getting to flow with women. It might be difficult later.

Forget the make money Marxism and NO, he's not a baby anymore but an adult at 19 years.

ibiso1986:
Guy, I'm like you.. the funny thing is that I'm in my mid 30's.. I'm comfortable in terms of work. (I earn close to 150k per month), I drive a car but still find it difficult to socialize.. I don't have a close male friend, the female friends that come always back out after a while..

Their main reason is that im too boring.. I have to be honest, it affects my me psychologically in the sense that the next friend I'll meet might still say the same.

To be honest, making money doesn't make girls chase after you or improve your social life. I know jobless people that have lots of friends and hot Girls chase after..

Or could it be the lifestyle of Port Harcourt based people (especially the females).. I served in Calabar and had lots of friends there.

How do I improve my social life.. I'm not getting any younger and I hope it doesn't affect my search for a spouse.

Needhelppls:
I've never been a downer, never asked for help, but I think i need help . I'm depressed


I'm socially fvcked up beyond repair. Ever think you're at the point where you started learning things too late? It's where I am right now.

High school days were tormenting, I had friends that tortured me emotionally, lowered my self esteem and confidence.


Now I'm 19, first year in the uni. Never had a gf, very few friends.
I've been a chronic Introvert, was shy (not anymore).

Would have asked for help earlier but I dismissed the thought, thinking I'll soon get around to fixing my completely non-existant social life.

Social skills, to others, is just like a normal everyday skill, but to me, I apply conscious effort and focus. Trust me, I've tried

Things like having anxiety attacks moment before calling a girl. Ended up calling, was a disaster


I just have this feeling of being behind
- too behind

Now anyone I encounter, I feel completely out-of-sync within a few minutes. I keep loosing meaningful connections.



My outward appearance makes people wanna come close, then they get to notice I'm socially awkward and I'm politely forgotten.

I don't want this Life anymore, I just want to live a normal social life.


Someone pls help!
FP pls

liquidfaya:
dustbin baby of the year.

Digmygold:


Go pick the retardss you had with epic midnight toilet papers from the sewage where they belong.

liquidfaya:
say hie to grandma

Digmygold:


When your hoes call, face the morons you hang out with and lie to.them that.that was your wife calling like they already dont know you have none. Shameless wifeless ancestor.

Your swing both ways daughter's expressway dirty cunt is wider than a well. Great granddma pvssy. You.chased after haggard pvssies and she got bleeped anally too by redpiller gay retardss like you. Now she's a fvcking hoe and you just wanna die. Karma gave it to you.

Needhelppls:
I've never been a downer, never asked for help, but I think i need help . I'm depressed


I'm socially fvcked up beyond repair. Ever think you're at the point where you started learning things too late? It's where I am right now.

High school days were tormenting, I had friends that tortured me emotionally, lowered my self esteem and confidence.


Now I'm 19, first year in the uni. Never had a gf, very few friends.
I've been a chronic Introvert, was shy (not anymore).

Would have asked for help earlier but I dismissed the thought, thinking I'll soon get around to fixing my completely non-existant social life.

Social skills, to others, is just like a normal everyday skill, but to me, I apply conscious effort and focus. Trust me, I've tried

Things like having anxiety attacks moment before calling a girl. Ended up calling, was a disaster


I just have this feeling of being behind
- too behind

Now anyone I encounter, I feel completely out-of-sync within a few minutes. I keep loosing meaningful connections.



My outward appearance makes people wanna come close, then they get to notice I'm socially awkward and I'm politely forgotten.

I don't want this Life anymore, I just want to live a normal social life.


Someone pls help!
FP pls

Needhelppls:

FP pls

Needhelppls:
I've never been a downer, never asked for help, but I think i need help . I'm depressed


I'm socially fvcked up beyond repair. Ever think you're at the point where you started learning things too late? It's where I am right now.

High school days were tormenting, I had friends that tortured me emotionally, lowered my self esteem and confidence.


Now I'm 19, first year in the uni. Never had a gf, very few friends.
I've been a chronic Introvert, was shy (not anymore).

Would have asked for help earlier but I dismissed the thought, thinking I'll soon get around to fixing my completely non-existant social life.

Social skills, to others, is just like a normal everyday skill, but to me, I apply conscious effort and focus. Trust me, I've tried

Things like having anxiety attacks moment before calling a girl. Ended up calling, was a disaster


I just have this feeling of being behind
- too behind

Now anyone I encounter, I feel completely out-of-sync within a few minutes. I keep loosing meaningful connections.



My outward appearance makes people wanna come close, then they get to notice I'm socially awkward and I'm politely forgotten.

I don't want this Life anymore, I just want to live a normal social life.


Someone pls help!
FP pls

Digmygold:


Go pick the retardss you had with epic midnight toilet papers from the sewage where they belong.

mrNEMZY:
What are your interests?
Like are you good at playing video games?
Watching football?
Movie freek?
Nerd?

Just build on what interests you, everything begins to fall in place.
Let me take video games for example, if you like it, try leaving your room, go to gaming centres and play, you would see how good you would fit with the people around because they share the same interests.
Football? Instead of watching on your own, go to viewing centers. This would go a long way.

Another thing that would go a long way is maturity, you are just 19 in 1st year, you are still a baby, with time things would fall into places for you.

Chronic introvert? Don't try to change this, there's nothing wrong with it.

The girl friend part... you are lucky. Believe me, the time for this haven't reached, though society might try to pass it as normal having girls at this age, but the truth is, they can be a major source of distraction to your future, especially if you turned into a womanizer, most of your productive time would be spent on trying to get someone laid. Your days in the University can usually make or Mar you, don't spend it chasing after women.

Stevecreativex:
The fact is YOU ARE PROUD!!!!! Now you don't want to be PROUD again cause you losing a lot...

I understand that feeling all you need to do is walk up to people you've use your ego to send away, patch things up.

By doing this you're already boosting your self-confidence..

Enjoy

Kiddler:


I'm 20, in my 3rd year of Uni. I've never had a girlfriend, at first it was because i was scared of girls. Now I realise there's really nothing to it. I am a chronic introvert. I've been ridiculed all the way from primary school cos of my height. But it stopped when i gained admission, lol. I'm not the only vertically challenged guy in the university. I'm the first born, but somehow my younger ones know their way around the town more than I do, cos I'm always at home.

My point is that your agenda should be in building yourself, I was socially awkward for a while, but I had to come to my senses. I'm studying biochemistry and it involves tons of seminars, lab works, presentations, group study. There's absolutely no time to be shy. I once delivered a seminar on collagen synthesis and although I wasn't able to ace the questions directed at me the professors were impressed with my delivery.

You sound young like me and I don't have to tell you, this is your life. Live it now or never. Everyone is responsible for his mental health. You own your life, live it as you want.

CapedBaldy:

We're sorta similar but I've been able to turn my life around little by little. I'm about to turn 20 and I'm in 100lv. I've been shy and introverted for about half of my life but I'm a lot better now. I'm not shy anymore. I've managed to make a few friends in school. I'm even surprised that people want to hang out with me but I avoid them sometimes. I'm still an introvert and I probably won't change cos I like my space. I just try to focus on school and my hobbies and I'm finally starting my journey as a programmer. I've never had a girlfriend either but I think that'll come eventually. I'm just working on myself everyday.

And also try to stay away from any vices. I was an addict for nearly a decade but I'm clean now.

zedegit:


If he doesn't pick up getting to flow with women. It might be difficult later.

Forget the make money Marxism and NO, he's not a baby anymore but an adult at 19 years.

Fidelismaria:

social life is overrated

normal is also overrated

abnormal/extraordinary makes the news not normal

So op

don't be normal be abnormal/extraordinary

Theevilone:
I've never been a downer, never asked for help, but I think i need help . I'm depressed


I'm socially fvcked up beyond repair. Ever think you're at the point where you started learning things too late? It's where I am right now.

High school days were tormenting, I had friends that tortured me emotionally, lowered my self esteem and confidence.


Now I'm 19, first year in the uni. Never had a gf, very few friends.
I've been a chronic Introvert, was shy (not anymore).

Would have asked for help earlier but I dismissed the thought, thinking I'll soon get around to fixing my completely non-existant social life.

Social skills, to others, is just like a normal everyday skill, but to me, I apply conscious effort and focus. Trust me, I've tried

Things like having anxiety attacks moment before calling a girl. Ended up calling, was a disaster


I just have this feeling of being behind
- too behind

Now anyone I encounter, I feel completely out-of-sync within a few minutes. I keep loosing meaningful connections.



My outward appearance makes people wanna come close, then they get to notice I'm socially awkward and I'm politely forgotten.

I don't want this Life anymore, I just want to live a normal social life.


Someone pls help!

Ur still normal at 19 and in ur first yr trust me u will get better before u finish school , it happened to me too , I got over it when I started gyming , I built and was fucking good looking, it attracted finer and bigger girls to me.

Cindy a beautiful graduate of Imsu was all over me in the gym house while i was in my 1st year and within 3 days we bleeped and since then I have never dated any girl if ur not fair skinned or endowed .

Blakewilli:

Dear friend,
I know it took you a great deal of effort to release these inner fears, but what you should know is that life is so good.
Sometimes, things might get so so f*cked up around you that you just feel like giving up but at those times, try calming yourself down and telling yourself: "this is only temporal! I am strong in Christ, he can never fail me!".

I was moved to tears by your post friend but its so so normal here in 9ja where growing adults are neglected and seem directionless.
My post is getting too long so i better stop here even though i have a lot to tell you.
You should see this thread friend;
www-nairaland-com.0.freebasics.com/5806472/dont-feel-sad-here-ways?iorg_service_id_internal=1646953538912597">https://https-www-nairaland-com.0.freebasics.com/5806472/dont-feel-sad-here-ways?iorg_service_id_internal=1646953538912597%3BAfqede32plBpD4fl