bid4rich:




I disagree on this because mine is completely the opposite direction. I married outside my tribe and we have been fine and happy. Say something else...

In every rule in life, there is always an exception.


Coronavirus is deadly, but so many people are surviving it!


Whenever there is marital crises, marriages of people from same tribe who share similar values, culture, tradition survive better than marriages between people from different tribe or race.


Another thing you need to pray for is long life, pray to live long to continue to stand in for your wife cos if anything happens to you while young, then your wife will realize her mistake of marrying outside her tribe......yours can also be an exception though

Go for what your heart wants Cos love conquers all

kill your parents, problems solved.





Good luck!

ur parents must be from Ikwere in Rivers and the girl must be from Mbaise in Imo... ...

thus Mbaise and Ikwere no dey carry eye see there self because the two tribe na sence people.

Kobicove:


OP, your parents are very wise.

Marrying someone with whom you share cultural orientation saves you a lot of stress later on

In 21st century you still dry think like this?

Let your parents know they will not leave your life for you

I followed such advice and now regretting. If am giving a second chance I'll rather not marry at all than to marry because of tribal difference. When you truly fall in love with someone and didn't mutually stop the relationship based on any

issue between you then you may never fall in love with someone else no matter how good the person is. When you stay for sometime and show lack of interest in getting married they will allow you marry the person you like. Please follow your heart all they do is to dance and leave you to your fate

nyzeo:
You're Akwa Ibom. Let me speak to you as an elder. Dismiss that love immediately and go do your mother's bidding. I won't state my reasons. You were told o



Please I would like to hear from you.. Whts the advice.. You sound like you have somthing really interesting to say.. Am curious.. Please speak out..

The guy is right... Two months into the marriage na u go come back with another topic. Leave that girl.

Hmmm..... I can understand the mother wanting her son to marry from the same tribe..... but must it be from the same State? Is it she must be able to dash over to her in laws?

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

33 33 33 33 ...... years old and you can't marry who you love until you get your parents approval, wow. I your parents were having a relationship with your girl ❤️ as well.

Funny enough tribe is the least of my worries when looking for love. Can you love ? or will we patch patch it through that's how.... you get someone who speaks your language and does a hell of some damage because after all una day speak the same language

The Divorcees will tell you its not by language its understanding and strength ....in times of need ....can you still stand for love when all is said and done.

Awka ibom and Ibo marriages dont always end well most especially becos of the love lost between the older generation. There is this hidden hatred between them that I don't seem to understand.. The younger ones don't have issues but the bad blood from the old generation still lingers on, runs deeps and eventually sows discord among the younger generation.. Its shame anyways becos when the whites start been racists against us, its largely becos we do not also love ourselves.

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

I don't really understand this part, because you are 33, but I get you want to be respectful though, I always have this mindset that as a man that nobody can tell me what is good for me or not, it's better for me to make the mistake myself. But I think this is the time to be stubborn and stand your ground.

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

When sm1 disagrees with u the first thing to know is their reasons and how valid they are.

When seeking a partner the 1st thing to worry about is the type/kind of person they are. Not tribe, class or whatever.

In intertribal marriages of which I am a product of there are a few things to probably consider so u don't get stuck half way. Learn if there are any things bwtn ur tribes and customs that may bother u now not when u already moving ahead. It's an unknown step for u and ur family.

If nothing is a bother to both families or individuals involved then push ahead with consent of atleast 1 of ur parents or senior family members. Bt if ure sm1 who has been absolutely sure of his decision making and this will be out of wide exposure and due consultation feel free to do what u feel is right bt u will face the consequences if u are wrong also so take ur time and observe all the lights, warning lights especially.

I don't think it's right to disregard ur whole family for a stranger u just met. Sm people in ur family shud have to agree with u after meeting ur partner in person otherwise smtn is wrong.

Language can be learnt, customs can be taught, people can adapt so I see no reasons why it shud be a problem.

What an elder sees while laying down, a child can not see it even if he climbs the roof of World Trade Centre.


Quit the relationship your parents don't want you to marry an Igbo lady, it will be best for you to adhere to their instructions.

I don talk my own

topedoski:
@ 33yrs ur parents still decide who u mingle with?
Well u still have 6 more years to be a fool forever

u no sabi math.. na7 years e remain

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

Your parents are not comfortable with that. Which state are you from by the way?

What your parents saw while sitting on a chair , you may not see it while standing up. OK , I will give you an example of marriage . Let's assume a man dies after marriage, what would be the relationship between the widow and the family of the man . In most cases , there would be none . Especially when the lady is from another tribe. Again, marriage isn't friendship alone, it's actually more than that . Marriage isn't bad of roses.

Someone I know married outside her state , the lady died after childbirth, two months after she was buried, her family couldn't locate the husband and her kids . Please listen to your parents . All the best .

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

No need beating this too much. You have your mind made and I think it is right you go with it. EOD!

humilitypays:
Tell them!


In as much as we all want to act civilized and also encourage peace, unity and diversity through intertribal marriage.....it comes with a lot of pitfalls.....my parents once advised an elder brother against this but he felt he was too civilized and married from another tribe.....his marriage today is like hell and on the brink of total collapse all because of cultural disagreements as a result of cultural differences ad misunderstandings.


Whenever there is marital issues, intertribal marriages hardly survive the turbulence unlike same tribe.


Op, please listen to your parents

That is not true. That your brother's inter-tribal marriage failed does not mean there are not dozens thriving!

nyzeo:
I am 33 and I come from a state from the south south. I met a girl in Lagos 4 years ago who is from the south east and we have been very good friends ever since then.

I have developed very strong affection for her over time and we started dating. We really love each other now and we have have finalized plans to get married anytime between this year and early next year.

The issues now is that my parents are insisting I marry from my state, somebody who speaks the same language. It has caused me to have issues with my mother because she is the orchestra of all this tribal bigotry.

Please lala and house memeber make una advice me abeg. I have found someone who truly complements my life I really sincerely love this lady. Thanks

OP, your folks might be seeing what you are not seeing. Remember easterners wants to break away. We go pursue all easterners, wife or not comot for our Niger Delta o. So find one anang or ibibio chick land..

i bet the same parents wont object if u brought a german girl as a wife or the girl from outside tribe u about marrying is from wealthy parents .we nigerians we tend to throw our bigotry off the window once it involves money .Even a strong born again sister tagging muslims as unblievers wont hestitate marrying a rich alhaji once money is involved .nigerians we funny die .

Jakemedg:
Is that necessary？

It is bro , it is, I know how many times my Mother tells me not to do stuff at 25 and I felt disgusted and still did it, naturally a Man is a man at 24 as long as he is working and fending for himself. I cannot imagine someone telling me what or what not to do, especially from a woman. I'd understand if it were a man even though nah no still.

Tell ur mum that it's either u marry her or u will not marry any other person. It's time to grow some balls and have u made ur intension know to the girls parents? What was their taught



They have accepted me.. Agreed to our union the mother is in full support.

wizzytm:
Marry your woman, and damn all consequences. Your parents won't be there when you start suffering as a result of ending up in an unhappy marriage. Have a man to man talk with your father, if he affirms your decision, your mum will have no choice than to accept, even if not wholeheartedly.

I remember when I started dating my girlfriend, my mum opposed it from all angles, even involved a pastor, I just had a heart to heart talk with my old man, and made it clear that nothing will change my decision, in no time my mum had to agree, now she and my girl are like mother and daughter.

Exactly

Renida:
At 33 your life is still being run by external parties.


First, leave your parents house dude and be a man. If you stand on your own, you will command respected it's your orders that will be followed. And not the other way around.


Also, stop going to ask for favors from your parents. Till you stop, you continue to be subject to their decisions


Also I just checked your time line the past 6 years and your comments are filled with the rants of a spoiled child. Perhaps you need people to make decisions for you afterall



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You should be with the CIA.

Oga please be factual with your advice,
please what's wrong with ladies from the S.E

tatatar:
They won't allow you marry from the SE is different from not allowing you marry from any other tribe.
I wonder why that should be an issue to you...you ought to know by now why you shouldn't marry from there.
Believe me,you should not!
You've been warned.

humilitypays:
Tell them!


In as much as we all want to act civilized and also encourage peace, unity and diversity through intertribal marriage.....it comes with a lot of pitfalls.....my parents once advised an elder brother against this but he felt he was too civilized and married from another tribe.....his marriage today is like hell and on the brink of total collapse all because of cultural disagreements as a result of cultural differences ad misunderstandings.


Whenever there is marital issues, intertribal marriages hardly survive the turbulence unlike same tribe.


Op, please listen to your parents

we cant marry from another tribe but we can marry a foreigner without question ..is that not funny .someone shares the same skin colour with u then u objecting cos of tribe but wen it comes to oyibo woman wey come from different country the same tribalistic parents will be the ones supporting the marriage

Arkmanbuddy:



You should be with the CIA.

Nitric:


These people telling you to go ahead and disobey your parents will not be there when the storm starts.

I discovered through experience that marrying from your tribe saves you a lot of additional stress in marriage!

I am a product of same tribe marriage and their marriage was still chaotic , now my mother re-married another tribe and she is okay even the tribe people say are wicked. Oga we will be alright, same tribe doesn't guarantee anything just easier communication.

Renida:



You're Akwa Ibom. Let me speak to you as an elder. Dismiss that love immediately and go do your mother's bidding. I won't state my reasons. You were told o

Your volte face is legendary. In your first post you literally roast the OP. Then here you support the mum? Truly the elders see stuff that youngings won't see even if they climb a tree