Mrs, Chima:

We should do unto others as we want them to do unto us. Let remember that people.

49cents:

@ shy one i always relish the balance in your comments. But you will agree with me that true love is unconditional else the love is not perfect yet. We have the duty of verifying the qualities of the person we have feelings for first, before we put ourselves into it else we have ourselves to blame. The love especially between a couple  must be a fusion of all these: first the romantic (emotions between lovers, many relationships and even marriages have just these, at this stage infidelity is highly probable and rampant)  secondly the fraternal (love between siblings and friends, when lovers get to this point marriage talk comes up, and married couples feel happy cos they can trust the other much more marriage is stronger and infidelity is drastically diminished  due to the comfort that filial love provides, yet infidelity cannot be stomached as the betrayal cannot be rationalsed away)  thirdly filial (emotions between parents and their children, this love is rare in couples . When this dimension of love exist nothing can shake it not even  repeated infidelity the love the other shows the other will be responsible for the  change of the beloved to the extent of laying ones life for the beloved. At this stage it is love itself that heals and renews and transforms the couple)      

sexylogan:

it's not easy to forgive someone that has done sumthing very bad to u.

Shy-One:

wowww, ok - i read your words - I COMPLETELY AGREE

until we get to this part i have highlighted in blue,

LOVE transforms ALL - that is definitely true - I deeply believe that God is love and God as Love - transforms ALL

Now, let's look at that:  If I love you 49cents unconditionally, allowing you to do WHATEVER you want to do, getting upset---but continuing to love you, continuing to stay with you------your cheating ways might diminish somewhat-------but if YOU don't ever get to the point and place where you LOVE ME in the manner in which I LOVE YOU, the transformation from cheater to loyal spouse MAY NEVER OCCUR COMPLETELY WITH YOU.  You may decide to allow a transformation to occur for 4-5 years and year 6 starting cheating again for whatever reason or you may decide to limit your "scope of cheating to a specific region" out of your growing love for me because I HUNG IN THERE like a PARENT'S UNCONDITIONAL LOVE EXISTS FOR A CHILD.  Instead of cheating on me in Nigeria ----where we would be known far and wide------perhaps you would have lovers overseas to protect my reputation.

I believe that we are to ALLOW A TRANSFORMATION TO OCCUR.  IT doesn't just happen because I love you unconditionally.  How many times have you seen couples giving the "unconditional love" to the other and the cheating continues incessantly with no end in sight?  Similar to a parent who loves a child and the child becomes a young man, then a middle aged man, then an old man and the parent dies and the child, who is now an old man------still didn't do ANYTHING, still didn't accomplish, still didn't grow and meet the expectations of that parent. And those expectations WERE NOT LARGE, they were small, simple.  Come on over to the U.S.-----if you aren't already here ---- you will see grown men and women still living at home, living off their parents who are exhausted and worn out from that big-black-bama they call child-----who never, ever got it together.  They are bleeding mom and dad dry----taking their parents money, energy, time, golden years of retirement---taking everything their parents have acquired.  The parents want them out of the house but they won't leave and yet the parent won't get rid of him/her. (Women do it too)

49 - you had me with the first two loves - but that 3rd love nooo I don't agree - because if you have the wrong mate, they will take advantage of that 3rd love and they will ride your love "FOR ALL IT'S WORTH."  They will swim in it, doing the backstroke enjoying your love, while simultaneously committing all types of unethical atrocities, and they, their family and friends will throw in YOUR face that if you loved them "you would forgive them----but their so-called love for you doesn't halt their cheating ways; they will remind you of your vows that you made to them before God---yet somehow always forget their vows as your bf, mate, husband.  They will utilize your unconditional love as a Monopoly Board's  "Get out of jail Free card," to commit lies and crime after crime on the relationship and/or marriage.  Rarely reaching to change themselves-----every now and then, you will find a man or woman who is a cheater that will change their ways but once that cheating door has been opened, it is usually too good and smooth for them to walk in and out of it, regardless to how much you love them as though your love will be the catalyst for them to change.  Change comes from within----not from without.  Most cheaters always justify their ways and their actions and they never change.  Are non-cheaters suppose to align ourselves "til death do us part" with cheaters-----while life goes on in bliss for others who are aligned to those who don't cheat?     

My role in life is to progress and to reflect God as much as possible (I have faults too) - I cannot progress if I have to keep covering the very same ground over and over and over again with a cheater or with someone who is jobless EVERY SINGLE DAY or with an addict of alcohol or drugs --- it is not my cross to bear to continually listen to mediocrity because "they didn't" --- not "they couldn't"----but they didn't get it together.  They didn't wake up and go to work, they didn't get an education, they didn't take the high road and keep their hands off new p.u55y.  etc, etc.