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Rushing Into A Relationship? Why You Need To Learn To Slow Down by tkgz(m): 1:51pm On Sep 01, 2020 |
The pressure to be loved up is immense these days. However, rushing into a relationship when you’re not compatible, or ready, leads to heartache. Is it me, or is the world on fast forward these days? Everyone is so busy rushing around, trying to get from A to B, hit so-called life milestones, rushing into a relationship, and doing better than everyone else. What happened to taking your time? Enjoying the moment? Actually living? For some reason, being single still has that dreaded stigma attached to it. Blame it on the movies, TV, social media, whatever you like, but there’s a lot to be said for staying single for a while, getting to know yourself a little better, and actually living for yourself. No, it’s not selfish, it’s necessary! If you’re nodding your head, ask yourself why you’re rushing into a relationship. When you meet someone, do you automatically start thinking ahead and wondering what the relationship is going to be like? This is all before a relationship even begins! If so, chill out a little bit, let things evolve naturally, and see what happens. There’s a lot to be said for going with the flow! The clearest signs you’re rushing into a relationship To help you understand whether this is a problem you should address, let’s look at a few signs that you might be rushing into a relationship. #1 You just don’t feel comfortable being yourself. It takes time to get to know someone, and, equally, it takes time to feel comfortable enough to just be yourself around someone. Most people are on their best behavior when they first meet someone and start dating. Think about the last time you met someone. How quickly did you feel comfortable lounging around in your sweat pants and not really caring about your appearance? It probably took months or longer! If you feel pressure to keep up a certain pretense all the time, it’s probably because you’re rushing into a relationship that hasn’t had time to evolve naturally. There should be a period of time when you just get to know one another, when you simply focus on having fun and learning about the other person. When you’re rushing, you side-step all of that. It feels completely overwhelming. #2 You feel pressured to be part of a couple. This particular sign is usually because everyone around you is coupled up. It’s one of the main reasons that people are rushing into a relationship these days. The thing is, you don’t have to compete when it comes to love. If your friends are all in relationships, that doesn’t mean you have to be. We all move at difference paces. Some people simply might prefer to be single. If you’re rushing things, it could very well be because you feel like you’re the odd one out or that you’re missing out on something. Remember, there are many perks to being single too! #3 The L word is uttered very soon after meeting. While you might think you love someone the moment you set eyes on them, the chances of this being true are very slim. If the L word is uttered within weeks, sit back and think about your motivation here. You don’t know the person well enough to be telling them you love them, and if you hear it from someone you’re dating, you should wonder what’s going on. Sure, it’s nice, but let’s be honest here, love takes a while to develop and strengthen. If it’s being claimed too soon, it can’t be that true. See More https://examprestige.com/rushing-into-a-arn-to-slow-down
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Re: Rushing Into A Relationship? Why You Need To Learn To Slow Down by Nobody: 1:59pm On Sep 01, 2020 |
If u must enter a relationship, dont do it because u need someone to "love you". No love for any man, search for it and end up miserable in life. |
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