Solozzo:

Well in my community, isoko in Delta state, it is against the norm for a parent to beat up an adult child. You would be blamed by the elders if u attempt no matter what the child has done.

It is a shame many NL members still support this brutish culture. just because  one lives under their roof does not give parents right to assault their adult children or anyone for that matter. An NL member had related how she almost got killed for coming home late from school. The uncaring parents never thought child may be in danger and focussed on meting punishment before hearing the story. This is a way of bringing up children not to value natural justice, the right to be heard and defend yourself before being found guilty.

  Time we ban corporal punishment no matter the age of the child. All that high-handed discipline has contributed to produce corrupted politicians and a high crime rate in our country.

no one is supporting we are just saying it happens

Time for parents to learn positive parenting skills,  exemplary lifestyles that lead to respect and emulation of good values, so we can '' hand unto our children a banner without stain"

ddippset:

a nigerian man would smack and slap even his 40 year old wife not to talk of a 27 year old GIRL. in this part of the world is 27 really an adult? adulthood here begins @ 32.

CILondon:

Nigerian men are so savage and backward. No wonder everyone over here in Europe dislikes them so mucn.

fstranger3:

Not quite!

duduspace:

Will you stop that hasty generalisation? I am Nigerian and live in the UK but I've never been considered savage orbackward by anyone I've met and I should tell you that I have a lot of European friends I share a pint with at the pub and go watching movies and playing footie at the weekend.

It is important to differentiate between mild old school 'tough love' which involves only minor spanking and wholesale domestic abuse which could include elements of GBH. There is a massive difference between the horn of a snail and that of a buffalo.

FibbA:

If u can't play by the rules, get your own house. No complain.

FibbA:

If u can't play by the rules, get your own house. No complain.

eghost247:

simple as ABC

ladygaga:

it is 100% possible
im 24yrs old an a recent graduate, my parents are so annoying especially my dad, he think everybody should tremble at the sound of hi voice, never wanna accept that his kids are all grown up,
i cant just wakeup and say i want to go out .that ll mark d begining of trouble,i wonder if he wants me to write an epistle saying i want to go out, my mum is not even helping matters,
at 24 there are a lot of things i wanna do on my own and for my self like starting up a business, looking for a job, making new friends even, my social life is zero , u cant go out freely , my friends cant come home freely, sleeping out is anoda issue(i dont think that day will ever come- what excuse do i wanto give-am sure he ll look at me like i am drunk )
all he wants is for you to keep cooking beans and yam all day long, so far u are under his roof he calls the shot!!! i cant for nysc where i ll just run away and maybe never come back

my relationship with my bf is kinda stressed, cos i cant go out just like that eg on sunday we agreed we were gonna go out either to the beach or a show , and he came 5pm, i just told him not to bother, cos even if we went at that tym i was supposed to be home say 8:45pm, each tym we want to go out , its either i am late or i cant go at all cos i have to cook , it is really terrible

growing up was even worse.

ladygaga:

it is 100% possible
im 24yrs old an a recent graduate, my parents are so annoying especially my dad, he think everybody should tremble at the sound of hi voice, never wanna accept that his kids are all grown up,
i cant just wakeup and say i want to go out .that ll mark d begining of trouble,i wonder if he wants me to write an epistle saying i want to go out, my mum is not even helping matters,
at 24 there are a lot of things i wanna do on my own and for my self like starting up a business, looking for a job, making new friends even, my social life is zero , u cant go out freely , my friends cant come home freely, sleeping out is anoda issue(i dont think that day will ever come- what excuse do i wanto give-am sure he ll look at me like i am drunk )
all he wants is for you to keep cooking beans and yam all day long, so far u are under his roof he calls the shot!!! i cant for nysc where i ll just run away and maybe never come back

my relationship with my bf is kinda stressed, cos i cant go out just like that eg on sunday we agreed we were gonna go out either to the beach or a show , and he came 5pm, i just told him not to bother, cos even if we went at that tym i was supposed to be home say 8:45pm, each tym we want to go out , its either i am late or i cant go at all cos i have to cook , it is really terrible

growing up was even worse.

SA Lady:

Wonder how old is the woman on the story. But if my dad tried to hit me, he had better be prepared what's coming his way. I'd get all kung-fu all over him. mxewww!!!

eghost247:

mtchew

FibbA:



You sound funny, you probably don't know what others young adults are going through in their homes.

It's better to get a few kids you can take care of till they are capable of living on their own. The real wahala really starts from 'many children are blessing from God' mentality, therefore no family planing. Sooner or latter, the kids starts suffering for notting. If you find your self in such situation, and you want to do things in your own way, try and get a house, your parents will even appreciate your sence of maturity. If not, sharraaap and play by the rules. Don't complicate things for you parents because you feel you've grown up. I'm not a mean father though, but that's ' d tru tori'.