erico2k2:

yes nah, nah upgrade form of friends with benefits, U remember that music, every time I try to leave something keeps holding me back? something like that

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

wirinet:


They actually do, but it make the male folks feel uncomfortable to see women show they enjoy sex. That's why they have to pretend and deceive. 99% of women lie about their sexual exploits and experience.

Ever wonder why most African societies cut of a girls clitoris at birth? The society can't stand the thought of women enjoying sex.

purples25:


Well there's the truth but it's easier said than done.

Kudos to those who can do it though. I guess they're the ones who end up married.

Uzomacharles:


Please eeh

Can you date a guy with no dick?

This is for those saying sex is not important in a relationship..

If you ain't ready for sex while indulging in a relationship....


Just tell the dude that you ain't ready for any sort of friendship or relationship....

fati2001:


I don edit am to 12...

Uzomacharles:



@Bolded Don't even try using that word or sentence on me please and please...
Abeg Very serious about it..
Say any other thing you want to say but don't try that statement again...

You want to involve in a relationship only to benefit right?
Why don't you ask the guy when he will be willing to settle down as a man...
This is all you get dating young boys....
That your bolded word should be used properly..
U will ask me if I have used any word to lay any of your sis or whoever...
No try am again

shaksman96:
if u like change am to virgin mary with 5 dozen kids

larryking540:


sorry to interrupt you ,I know ladies who prefer to give Mouth Action instead of sex ,what's your take in that

purples25:


If only men would just marry and love their virgins first and last. Oh well.

Lets hope all the remaining and upcoming virgins are only picked up by men ready for marriage who will wife them up and instantly love them.

Asides this, I wouldn't advice any virgin to give in believing that he's going to love her or something. Based on the deal, marriage first.

DEMZEE:


Men love it if their wives love sex. Sex is only pure and undiluted in marriage anything outside that is just diminishing the woman's worth or value especially in terms of marriage.

Nooo African societies want to raise good families by ensuring most women are virgins b4 getting married. Then u can enjoy sex with ur husband

African societies don't promote hoes and whoredom for women. We are not like the foolish western society whom have made women and marriage worthless.

Hoes and whores don't raise good children and they don't keep a good home

fati2001:



en com concern you...



WAHALA TIE GELE..

shaksman96:
Concern me ke! nibo.....wahala 4 who e concern. neman tsokana

wirinet:

You are persisting with your arguing senselessly again. You are the that made a blanket statement that women don't enjoy sex, I debunked it, by pointing it that they pretent because men feels women that shows they enjoy sex are seen as whores, now you are going of the tangent once again by saying women enjoy sex only inside marriage.

Really? You just make up crazy assertions with so much confidence.


African societies that promotes polygamy and female genital mutilation is foolish?
The same western society that gave you your religion, culture, system of governance and economy is foolish? You are obviously delusional.


I don't know about good homes, but hoes and whores raise good children as any Christian or pastor. Most wayward children are children of christians and pastors. You have a conditions known as whorephobia or hoephobia.

NoToPile:


This table you are shaking ehn

Sex before marriage is one thing that is frowned at in Christianity, Islam and even traditionally/culturally. That's the only thing the 3 seem to agree on. E get why ooo.


I am a Christian and I will always say it having sex before marriage is not worth it both male and female. Even if you have been having sex before you can still change, decide to stop and hold on till you get married.

Show me a man/woman that can delay gratification for an appointed time,that is someone with a high level of self control and endurance.


Beside Sex has never and can never keep a man lailai so for my sisters what exactly is the point, I am talking as a married woman.

And then the spiritual side, sexual immorality has opened people to a whole lot of problems, but they will say na lie, If only God can open their eyes. Our bodies are the temple of the living God- some people no dey open bible reach that side


Lemme read down more I know you will be quoted a lot

wirinet:

Different strokes for different folks. There are more that 7 billion people on earth each with different personalities. That you could wait for two and a half years does not make it the standard of other men. Some can't wait for one month.

wirinet:

Yes, sex is very important to men in most relationships. A sexless marriage or relationship is likely to fail.

wirinet:

Why should the man invest heavily financially and emotionally if he gains nothing from the relationship? What differentiates the relationship from any other relationship?

wirinet:

As I said, different strokes for different folks. I have a friend who married his wife because he slept with her the same day they met, and he always boasts of it. He is a successful lawyer today.

Same as above. You don't speak for all men.

wirinet:

You obviously have never been to divorce court and hear the reason for filing for divorce. Most times sex plays a part.

Define sexual purity. If you are talking about body count before marriage. Then there is no scientific data to suggest that virgins have more successful marriages than their non virgin counterparts.

wirinet:

True. Also the fact that you don't give in also does not guarantee he marries you or that if he marries you the marriage will be a successful one. It would even be a travesty if he marries you because of his desire to break your virginity.

DEMZEE:


Men love it if their wives love sex. Sex is only pure and undiluted in marriage anything outside that is just diminishing the woman's worth or value especially in terms of marriage.

Nooo African societies want to raise good families by ensuring most women are virgins b4 getting married. Then u can enjoy sex with ur husband

African societies don't promote hoes and whoredom for women. We are not like the foolish western society whom have made women and marriage worthless.

Hoes and whores don't raise good children and they don't keep a good home

Misslilbootay:
I am not a virgin because the guy I dated before made it seem like sex was the only thing that could keep him.
Unfortunately, that is another story of its own.


Recently, a friend of mine came and asked me if sex was necessary to keep a relationship. She told me the guy has given her everything she needed in a man but he couldn't stop asking for sex. She said that she wasn't ready to compromise her faith that premarital sex was a sin but she didn't want to lose this guy as he felt that her refusal to have sex with him meant she didn't love him.

The question I'm throwing now is
1. Can a man stay without sex in a relationship and wait till she is ready. (As in this case, she wants to wait till she is married)
2. Why is sex so important to men in a relationship? Do they see it as reciprocating of love especially when they spend heavily on the lady?
3. Also, most men wants a decent lady. Here is a lady who wants to keep herself for her husband but the boyfriend sees it as she manipulating him. Since you guys want a lady that isn't a borehole, why do you demand for sex when you are not sure if it will work out?

Your intelligent opinions will be appreciated.

Nuttella:
If only they will listen.

Nuttella:
Fornication is a deadly sin, flee from it. The consequences are brutal. Any man that wants to sleep with you while dating you does not actually love you and when he gets tired of you, he will move on to the next lady. Stop sharing your body, your body is the temple of the holy spirit which dwells in you. Stop creating soul ties with strange men, you will regret it later by the time sexual demons start tormenting your life, that is why many men and women have spirit husband and wife.

Nazgul:
To me sex isn't necessary.

From my past relationships, if I'm to advice any girl I'll tell them to avoid sex and stand on it. Sex makes you suspicious of your partner. It makes you have unnecessary problems, unnecessary commitments, unnecessary responsibilities.... etc. How many guys would you keep offering your body to just to make them stay?

What makes most guys wants sex is when the financial demand from the girl becomes too much. Most girls will tell you that they're not ready for sex, but will still want you to show dedicated financial commitments towards them. No guy will ever agree to that.

Many girls naturally lack wisdom. Let me share a my own experience here. I met this girl some years ago, she told me her usual no sex till marriage. I asked her if she's a virgin she said no that she dated just one guy who broke her heart and now she has decided to zip up till her wedding night.

To me, I didn't have any problem with that. My problem was that this girl literally flirts on the phone with guys even in my presence. When I confront her she'll tell me they're just toasters that she doesn't have anything with them. She receives calls like a call center agent. Always on Facebook and WhatsApp till even midnight. And to make matters worse she's the urgent 2k type. So tell me would any guy in my shoes honour her request to date without sex....of course not. I had to end the whole stuff cos she wasn't contributing to my life in anyway. Most times I initiate a discussion with her on chat, she can't even sustain it without indirectly telling me one problem or the other she has.

My take...if you don't want sex in a relationship and you don't want to have any problem with your man concerning your stand, then avoid unnecessary request so it won't make him feel that you're owing him. Avoid flirting with other guys on phone and in reality. Concentrate on your relationship by looking for ways to make an impact in his life. It could be through business ideas, could be counseling, could be partnership in business, education...etc. also develop yourself. Let him see that your life is progressing. That you're successful in whatever it is that you're into.

Make him see you as someone he can't do without and he'll stick to you regardless of your no sex stand.

Liposure:
unfortunately our morally conscious african society is being eroded by crude western ideas and cultures we copied from the media because we think it is modern and progressive.

femmoy:
foolish nairaland girls,it's now you are claiming holy holy relationship but you wouldn't be holy or spiritual when making demands your father's can't meet.

I hate Naija girls mentality.

DEMZEE:


Ahbi

That's why we need to uphold our traditions and traditional values especially wen it comes to sex and marriage.

We can't b like the west that has revolutionize sex for women, that is why marriage is worthless over there SMH!!

Erotix:


They will have to look for guys that prefer blow jobs and get into relationship with them.
“Two cannot walk, except they agree “