jornwhite:




How can you be so sure it will turn to irritation, the fact that they are poor today does not mean they can't be rich tomorrow, all they have to do work hard & be smart.
There is a formula for money, if you work you will earn money buh "Love" has no formular, nothing guarantees you genuine love which is why i find it hard advice people that find Love to throw it away. i believe the synergy of two heart beating as one is enough to produce wealth.

cc willingheart instead of putting your savings into wedding, why not use it to start a joint business, 30%(ROI) 70% profit sharing to enable him grow faster, from there you can proceed to court wedding or traditional wedding. just an opinion.

Yea yea, why him never get the money since. There's a difference here jor. No job, no source of income and u thinking of marriage? Anyways they say love conquers all so Mayb.

Organsmuggler:
Rich or poor they still gonna cheat on u, marry the rich/financially stable man cuz it's better to cry in Dubai than your village farm

Organ smuggler indeed...

willingheart:
I appreciate everyone for all the advice and suggestions.
Just like some people suggested, Please, I would love to use this medium to appeal to anyone who have the power or can help him get a job or carry him along in terms of business, should please help.
Our location is Abuja.
I will keep update on any decision I finally make.
Thank you

Ooooooh! It's even Abuja! Buhhaahhaha, that's their mode of Operation oooo. Look for a lady they can attach to. Na even Abuja man sef.

Let him go out there and look for a job and not sit waiting for you to connect him. He's probably living with you and eating free food and free p. I just hope when things gets better for him, he won't develop shoulder pad.

ojuu4u:


Are u female and have you married?

Yeah I'm female n recently married

SweetCunt97:
Ooooooh! It's even Abuja! Buhhaahhaha, that's their mode of Operation oooo. Look for a lady they can attach to. Na even Abuja man sef.

[b]Let him go out there and look for a job and not sit waiting for you to connect him. He's [/b]probably living with you and eating free food and free p. I just hope when things gets better for him, he won't develop shoulder pad.

All join. Why is it so hard for some of you to help a man you claim you love? What is wrong if the @op, connect him?

Dainy1:
All join. Why is it so hard for some of you to help a man you claim you love? What is wrong if the @op, connect him?

Do you know if she's struggling? No be person wey see road go show person road?

Mrscarter:


Yeah I'm female n recently married

Pls take care of complete bills of house for just 3 months and come back and explain ur experience.

If you ask me nah who I go ask? But you sef know the answer already... I'm not sure of this issue of love today especially from the ladies' part. But I'm sure husbands are to love their wives and wives be submissive to your husband. That's the meaning of "He who find a wife have found a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord"( if this is basic in a union then the financial breakthrough is included in the favours).... What if he suddenly change his mind when you marry him and you can't bear his new attitudes also he can change when he becomes rich, Will you still advertise this "I love him" "he loves me". No! laying a foundation of sponsoring your own marriage to me is wrong u can't finish what you re about to start think about your unborn children. I see this as present day story of bestie(often they are the nonfinancial stable opposite sex paddy, female clinge to and claim it's love(unhidden sexual attraction) because of play and laziness to work inthe name of I need love, attention and care) don't worry when you marry you will know that even as a woman you don't have that much wasted time for play inthe name of love and attention.. infact all I see here is obsession/desperation at 30 you should know that you have wasted time in telemundo. If a 35yrs old don't hv a skill job then the devil is innocent in this case coz I'm sure serious minded guy came for you but it's either you were playing then for fun(as most do) or you were with Mr. Handsome(lust) if he chooses to leave you when u r 35yrs or so then you will settle for anything-goes.. learn from so called female celebrities...

Normally I don't trust a woman love or pretence character but I can value her submissive.

Remember you only know your lover when you let him/her go due to inevitable conditions. If fate says you are meant to be it will surely bring him/her back.

According to the divine Book I haven't seen where a woman-love. It's submit to the authority (ur head),
she builds her home, forget telemundo oo coz ur children will hold it against you.

SweetCunt97:
Yea yea, why him never get the money since. There's a difference here jor. No job, no source of income and u thinking of marriage? Anyways they say love conquers all so Mayb.

you are asking why he never make the money since, aside hurting for job with ND & maybe playing bet9ja bii awon temi is there anything OP said that stipulate he as tried entrepreneurship/business, they should try that direction, if he is truly her dream man then they are these together.
poverty as only one vaccine, job/investment/business that is why i adviced she invest in him in form of a joint business @least that would give her access to protect her own interest and @ the same time lift the guy which is the primary goal. love is sweet buh when money enter love its sweeter i rest my case

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Don't make the mistake of marrying someone who doesn't have a steady source of income. It always ends in tears. It is never right, and can never be.

willingheart:
I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.


He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.

Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.

Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.

My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me.
I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.

Married people in the house please help.
I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?

It depends on how rich you are.
If you're rich enough to help him to start a profitable business,then the marriage can work.
But if you don't have enough,then your marriage will fail unless someone helps both of you adequately.
Besides,I find it baseless for a jobless/poor man to be married.

EvE11:
Don't make the mistake of marrying someone who doesn't have a steady source of income. It always ends in tears. It is never right, and can never be.

just make sure that you are also ambitious, independent-minded, and also support not a burden to your chosen partner

if he's industrious he should have a job or something doing even l know the country is hard, think deeply after marriage then what? love will not put food on the tables, pay bills, fend for the children and if it's just you responsible financially for the family, you will be worked up and stressed out with worries. Then the sweet love will turn sour and conflicts begin to set in.
Let him gather himself financially before he thinks of marriage if he really loves you but for me Sha love is important but money is more important...

ubola:
Op,ladies were asked to choose between marrying a keke rider and be happy, and crying inside a G-wagon. so many said they prefer happiness in keke, only one was sincere enough to say that even if she cries inside g-wagon the AC will dry her tears. In your own case this your love no even get keke to carry start life, not to talk of marriage. you cannot use your money to pay your brideprice haba. He should be able to bring something to the table no matter how little.

My aunty use her money de look for man still en hard her get one old man.she say de insult don de too much from those small small gals

Someone said the only person who is supposed to love in marriage is the Husband. The duty of husbands is to love their wives as Christ loves the church. Another duty of the husband is to provide. The Bible says any man who cannot provide for his household is worse than an infidel. Another duty of husbands is to lead their family to God.

The duty of a wife is to submit to her husband. And the rest of the duty of a good woman is in Proverbs 31.

Women aren't really supposed to love. I think liking him enough to be with him is good enough. But the man must love the woman.

If the financially stable man loves you, and you like him even as a friend, that's good enough for me. Because he can already perform 2 put of the 3 duties. The last one is his closeness to God.

But pray to God to guide you. Only Him knows the near and far future. He will give you the right now.

MrJibana:
But why?

I never reach to marry

BABZIENE:


No wonder �

Ok

JovialJune:



Yes.

In as much as I have tasted the both, I will advice you go for the financially stable man, if he is a good man. Love dies and love also grows. How sure are you that your broke boyfriend won't leave you the moment he's financially stable?
Life no balance at all, if you were below 25years of age, it would be fine to give him some time to fix up himself financially, but you are no longer a baby, so marry who's ready.

Champagnegold:
If you ask me nah who I go ask? But you sef know the answer already... I'm not sure of this issue of love today especially from the ladies' part. But I'm sure husbands are to love their wives and wives be submissive to your husband. That's the meaning of "He who find a wife have found a good thing and obtain favour from the Lord"( if this is basic in a union then the financial breakthrough is included in the favours).... What if he suddenly change his mind when you marry him and you can't bear his new attitudes also he can change when he becomes rich, Will you still advertise this "I love him" "he loves me". No! laying a foundation of sponsoring your own marriage to me is wrong u can't finish what you re about to start think about your unborn children. I see this as present day story of bestie(often they are the nonfinancial stable opposite sex paddy, female clinge to and claim it's love(unhidden sexual attraction) because of play and laziness to work inthe name of I need love, attention and care) don't worry when you marry you will know that even as a woman you don't have that much wasted time for play inthe name of love and attention.. infact all I see here is obsession/desperation at 30 you should know that you have wasted time in telemundo. If a 35yrs old don't hv a skill job then the devil is innocent in this case coz I'm sure serious minded guy came for you but it's either you were playing then for fun(as most do) or you were with Mr. Handsome(lust) if he chooses to leave you when u r 35yrs or so then you will settle for anything-goes.. learn from so called female celebrities...

Normally I don't trust a woman love or pretence character but I can value her submissive.

Remember you only know your lover when you let him/her go due to inevitable conditions. If fate says you are meant to be it will surely bring him/her back.

According to the divine Book I haven't seen where a woman-love. It's submit to the authority (ur head),
she builds her home, forget telemundo oo coz ur children will hold it against you.

You exposed every hidden things that hope dodged to include in her write ups.

She is crazing and dying for outlook, that was why she laid emphasis on " I love him in her post

All these infatuations will soon fly off, and quickly understand real definition of marriage.

Any guy who is not ready to hustle legit not deserve ordinary attention from girls not to talk of marriage.

If OP dears to marry the first guy, she will end in premium tears.

I knw outcome of few lazy guys who deceived lady with outlook.

It always lead to toxic relationship

addictiv:
Reading comments here show that poverty has really altered the mindset of many Nigerians. One thing I have learnt is in life there re no right or wrong decisions, you make a decision and put in the work everyday to make it the right decision for you.

A thousand likes for this statement.
Even those that have money in their bank accounts still suffer from poverty mentality.

EvE11:
Don't make the mistake of marrying someone who doesn't have a steady source of income. It always ends in tears. It is never right, and can never be.

Reading this comment made me realize that people come online and post whatever rubbish they like (just so that they can sound politically correct), but go on to live an entirely different life.

@ O.P.

Start with what you have and turn your lemons to lemonade. A bird in hand is worth 10 in the bush. The problem I see here is that you are indecisive like most nigerian women and also suffering from poverty both mentally and physically. Else making your choice wouldn't be a problem at all. It is not how you start but the effort you put in it that matters. Focus on your own achievements and also help him where you can, it is not easy, but very achievable.

Yes we know that love can fade, same as money. But then again, it has been proven too many times that love is the best foundation for any relationship, as long as humanity is concerned.

A person who isn't suffering from poverty mentality would buckle up and double her hustle to create the life she wants for herself. She would never see her partners financial inability/ability as limiting her. If she is successfull, they both are.

You can trust that I know what I am saying, as I am speaking from my many experiences.

For example,
I know of a cook in a hotel (a lady), from a humble background who married her childhood friend, a final year student of education. They both started life with almost nothing practically living in a single room apartment.

Fastforward 5 years later she gets a contract from a client in her hotel to supply diesel and with her hotel experience she is able to penetrate most hotels and grows her biz with the help of her husband. Fastforward again, another 15 years later he is a professor (schooling
was funded by her biz) in a federal university and they have 4 kids together. The biz has crumbled now but the man who had no source of income initially is the backbone of the family today paying for the tuition of the last 2 children in foreign universities, while she (the lady in question) is trying to regain her feet.

There were challenges but they faced them squarely and made a beautiful future for themselves.
If this lady had listened to that aunty who said she should not be stupid, she might have still been there asking God for a financially stable man in her 40's. Whereas that her aunty that adviced her against marriage is still unmarried till date and still hoping for a financially stable man, in frustration, instead of turning her lemons to lemonade.

The other of her aunty who was advising her, got married to a domineering patriach, who is 15 years older than her and treats her like a piece of furniture but she would not mention that part when dishing out her unsolicited advice.

We are humans and we come preinstalled with brains for a reason, "to solve problems". If you focus your brain enough on solving your problem and face the initial pain rather than trying to run away anytime there is a challenge. Your problem will have to give way at some point.

manos:
@ O.P.

Start with what you have and turn your lemons to lemonade. A bird in hand is worth 10 in the bush. The problem I see here is that you are indecisive like most nigerian women and also suffering from poverty both mentally and physically. Else making your choice wouldn't be a problem at all. It is not how you start but the effort you put in it that matters. Focus on your own achievements and also help him where you can, it is not easy, but very achievable.

Yes we know that love can fade, same as money. But then again, it has been proven too many times that love is the best foundation for any relationship, as long as humanity is concerned.

A person who isn't suffering from poverty mentality would buckle up and double her hustle to create the life she wants for herself. She would never see her partners financial inability/ability as limiting her. If she is successfull, they both are.

You can trust that I know what I am saying, as I am speaking from my many experiences.

For example,
I know of a cook in a hotel (a lady), from a humble background who married her childhood friend, a final year student of education. They both started life with almost nothing practically living in a single room apartment.

Fastforward 5 years later she gets a contract from a client in her hotel to supply diesel and with her hotel experience she is able to penetrate most hotels and grows her biz with the help of her husband. Fastforward again, another 15 years later he is a professor (schooling
was funded by her biz) in a federal university and they have 4 kids together. The biz has crumbled now but the man who had no source of income initially is the backbone of the family today paying for the tuition of the last 2 children in foreign universities, while she (the lady in question) is trying to regain her feet.

There were challenges but they faced them squarely and made a beautiful future for themselves.
If this lady had listened to that aunty who said she should not be stupid, she might have still been there asking God for a financially stable man in her 40's. Whereas that her aunty that adviced her against marriage is still unmarried till date and still hoping for a financially stable man, in frustration, instead of turning her lemons to lemonade.

The other of her aunty who was advising her, got married to a domineering patriach, who is 15 years older than her and treats her like a piece of furniture but she would not mention that part when dishing out her unsolicited advice.

We are humans and we come preinstalled with brains for a reason, "to solve problems". If you focus your brain enough on solving your problem and face the initial pain rather than trying to run away anytime there is a challenge. Your problem will have to give way at some point.

Let me take you back to own story.

A lady who is cook married guy who marry final year student.

Final year student is still Young, at most under 30, even thou he was undergraduate, did u knw so many legitimate stuff, he was into that was bringing money? My friend" son bought Lexus car(legitimate income o) before he was posted to youth service.

Comparing it with 36 year old guy of ND older who refused to struggle to bring income but wholly depend of woman as his shield

I

legacystore:


Lalasticlala
Seun

Insulting a nairalander
Do the needful

U dey craze oooooo,big time idiot u be

Hmmmm...the only time a poor dude is worth fighting for is when he is actually working legit towards changing his story...they call them hipo(High potential) peeps. Be guided o...let no one uses you in the interim. Hipos are very easy to pick out in a crowd. Even when they are poor, you can see their bright future already. It is well.

Verysmart101:

U dey craze oooooo,big time idiot u be

Lalasticlala
Insulting a nairalander

I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together, We understand each other perfectly. With him I'm � myself, No pretence. Same with him. He's everything I want in a man, but the problem is that: he doesn't have money. He keeps trying, but things are not working. no job and he's from a family where everyone are on their own facing their challenges, no support.


He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it.

Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him.

Age is not on my side, yet the only man I love and that loves me can't afford to marry me. If we're married, it will be easy for me to share everything with him without my family members putting eyes.

My Aunt called me stu.pid that i should accept a financially stable man instead of being with a man who can not afford to take care of me.
I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing.

Married people in the house please help.
I want to have direction plan for my life coming year.

Marrying the one you love or the one that's financially stable. What's your advice and opinion?

Pls if that guy is from Delta State especially Kwale and some other part of Delta to be precise kindly run their men are very very lazy, all good for nothing. Depends on their women for food and cloth

You don't have any business with marriage if you can't fend adequately for your family. It's only the lazy and irresponsible men who seek to share responsibilities of home keeping with their wives.