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Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Charley2018(m): 7:59pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
trust me dear u dont need experienced married folks to advice u cus they themselves havent mastered it yet, why dont u ask God to show u who ur life partner is by doing something u have never done b4 for God, think about it dear 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Hathor5(f): 8:03pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Hassanmaye: Oh no! You have just ruined Christmas. 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by pocohantas(f): 8:03pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
cassyrooy: But she no lie na. They still gona cheat on you... 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Hathor5(f): 8:03pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
keneharry: Can he be sensible? 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by optm(m): 8:03pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
It depends on the type of man he is .... Ask yourself these questions and answer sincerely. Do you think the reason for his financial struggles is because he lacks necessary support? Would you be able to provide the needed support or help in getting the support? I wouldn't advice you to go ahead in marrying him. Let him at least have something bringing income. Infact he has not business thinking about marriage without sorting his finances . He musnt be rich but should at least have a source of income that can carter for himself and you to an extent. Even the bible stated that a man that cannot provide for his household is worse than an infidel. If you so love him, see how you can help him come out of this financial state and not just financing his needs or the marriage. marrying him in this state isn't advisable. Well, in all, pray for God's leading if you are a Christian cos he knows the end from the beginning. 3 Likes |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Anaerobi(m): 8:04pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
God bless me financial so that my topic won't be discussed about the woman I truly Love.... Heavenly Father bless that Young man financially and established is plan. Amen. 4 Likes |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Hassanmaye(m): 8:04pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Cutehector:Lol another alpha male in site |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Olatara(f): 8:05pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
TransAtlanticEx:What exactly are you saying? Because she is 30 years old, she should marry a broke man right? Dear OP if a financially stable man wants you, pls give him a chance. I have seen above 30 ladies getting married to extremely rich guys, make sure you are financially stable yourself. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by mechanics(m): 8:08pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Love. |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by ndcide(m): 8:08pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
fannybaby: Question : You are a lady, based on your Nairaland details. Are you saying a woman cannot love? I think we are misinterpreting this scripture. Women love. Marriage requires mutual love, (whatever and however you want to define love) mutual respect and mutual restraint. Again, we are misinterpreting the scripture. |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Emaytex(m): 8:10pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
nitoriolohun:An Advice from a loving father/mother. Pray for God's guidance. |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Hassanmaye(m): 8:14pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
bluefilm:another wicked boy |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Gerrard59(m): 8:16pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Ikjosh04: If so, then Nigeria won't have the highest number of poor people in the world. But then, what do I know? One becomes prosperous when he gets married? You people will learn one day, I am here for it. 5 Likes |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Hassanmaye(m): 8:17pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
gaetano:I tell you bro this life no balance at all the Same guy she is rejecting will be rich tomorrow while the son of Atiku will treat her like trash and inventually send her out |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Nobody: 8:18pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
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Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by seanwilliam(m): 8:18pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Jamersirwin1971:u go sabi write film die 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by toye440: 8:18pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
I'm truly in love with this guy. We are happy together: Love they say is blind, but marriage na eye opener. "He's everything I want in a man": lol, everything including being broke. sister thats infactuation. He's 35yrs this yr and I'm 30 already. He wants to get married, but he can't afford it: Marriage is not for children, if u gabbage in u will gabbage out. Lately, I buy almost everything for him, to support him: For how long will u continue pls, u just like the idea of marriage but let me give u a hint. Many wish they had waited while some want out, they want to quit. Age is not on my side: Better single than in the wrong relationship. My Aunt called me stu.pid : No offence it might sound harsh but ur desperation might be ur undoing. I have little money I saved to support my wedding as well, but he have nothing: The hand writing is there on the wall, this will no doubt sully upon return. My 2cents pls let him get a job he must bring something to the table or else ur love will fizzle out. |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Dpaulie(m): 8:18pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
The one u love, but must have prospect, no yahoo yahoo and sagging sagging.. I got married on nothing(financially).. today... na smile all the way 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by chinchonglee(m): 8:18pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
LordKO:Jisos!!! Money is easy to make
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Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Gerrard59(m): 8:19pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
willingheart: This is how people perpetuate poverty in the home of the highest number of poor people globally. Tomorrow, same man and this woman will procreate like rabbits; next tomorrow, they would blame one innocent Buhari. |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by HeavenlyHolines(m): 8:22pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Well, they says love conquers all but romance without finance might destroy ur marriage at the long run. I have this same case last two years ago with my present wife. She was a federal government staff with a good salary but I was a teacher with a masters n my salary was 24k but we really love each other. There was this other guy that engaged her also in 2018 n would have married her but she never loved the guy. She just wanted to fulfil all righteousness. The button line is that romance without finance will make your marriage have a lot of hiccups. If you want to sacrifice for the guy,just like others have said. You have to check his prospect in life,his vision, his quest for better things like hustling etc coz if you want to rate love above money in marriage,it might end in Nigerians films. Finance and romance are very very important in 21st century marriage. 2 Likes |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by MiQui: 8:22pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
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Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by sammysmiles(m): 8:23pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Ikjosh04:So you are saying in essence that we should develop more relationships than develop knowledge?.... I don't agree with that line... 1 Like |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by LordIsaac(m): 8:23pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
dominique:You don't know the meaning of the word love. What you described above negates the concept and it's pure self centredness. |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by ujuvals: 8:26pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
My sister I am advising you with love pls run and don’t look back you won’t regret it. If at 35years he cannot sort little bills my dear he is a time bomb and if you dare marry him the suffering increases after childbirth I am a talking from experience and that’s where I still am, the love don clear for my eyes, frustration left right center You fit give an money sef to start business he will not be able to give account of the funds. I am not entirely against supporting a man but he should be able to do the basic whilst planning marriage then u can handle the major bills In my case dude can’t do anything I pay water, gas,light, school fees, feeding, gotv, house rent, compound contribution my dear everything down to matches and detergent it is pathetic He keeps reassuring and promising and my kid is four years he still Dey promise Pls don’t left desperation make u enter a worse situation Give him time to pick himself, get sth going for him, you observe if he has vision and is hardworking then you make a decision I still Dey paddle my canoe 11 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by dandollaz: 8:27pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
What if financial stable man broke tomorrow? What if no job finds work on shell? No one know tomorrow...Onyemaechi I'm a testimony thanks to my wife.No house No Money No Job BUT Rides 2 cars and have stable cash flow.If you love him start planning for wedding God will surely show you a helper.Shalom |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Patrizona77: 8:27pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
fannybaby:don't be blinded by your circumstances! How do you know for sure that he wouldn't provide when he eventually gets the money? Money is very important in marriage but don't you think that nothing supercedes a peaceful marriage? I'm not going to come here to tell her what to do, because it's her cross and she must face whatever comes out of her decision. Please let's not be too money conscious |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by MrJavaS: 8:28pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
This is an elderly issue |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by GideonOludayomi(m): 8:30pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
willingheart:Marry the man you love bcoz the substance from that is all that would ever count. As per financial stability, gauge his capacity. Does he have the intellectual acumen and the character(emotional pillar) for financial sustainability? If he does, then the issue of financial stability is both your responsibilities and not a validation for him alone. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Mryacks: 8:30pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
addictiv: Wisdom... |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Naikkie(f): 8:32pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
This story is similar to someone I know. Pls don’t marry him oh. The guy is jobless with no foresight because of his egocentric nature. Friends and family wants to help him but he keeps saying he can do it all alone. Run as fast as your leg can carry. Even this person will not do house chores and take care of the baby. You will slave alone. The only thing he knows how to do is speak grammar which I am sure will translate to good love and sweet notes. Na suffer head for the woman who will eventually marry him. Can you believe he can’t clean or cook in his father’s house where he currently stays. If it is this person, pls stay away, he needs to fix himself. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Marrying Financially Stable One Or The One You Love? by Tribalism123(m): 8:34pm On Dec 15, 2020 |
Sorry I had to put it this way. Questions to ask urself are these 1: Are u materialistic? 2: Does your love boyfriend have potentials that have not been rewarded yet? 3: Will u be Happy with love of the person who knows about you or the love of a person who u don't love 4: When men don't provide for their family they tend to be irritated by any action of the wife, are u ready to face that with ur loverboy? 5: When the rich starts misbehaving because u were in love with another person and he just forced u put and still don't trust u, will you be able to take such? Finally, don't take the situation too personal. Study these questions and pick ur husband |
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