harakiri:

This is the part that always baffles me. How many women would choose their careers over raising THEIR OWN KIDS? This kind of talk would be strange to mothers decades ago but today (no thanks to feminism), a woman believes she is entitled to certain privileges because she gave birth TO HER OWN KIDS! Sometimes i wonder if people listen to themselves when they utter this kind of statements.

Marriage is all about the interest of WOMEN! A man has little or NOTHING to gain from marriage. There is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING marriage "offers" a man that he can't get WITHOUT the marriage. Who craves for commitment during a relationship? Women! Who pushes for marriage? Women! Who wants to have the big white wedding? Women! Who wants to have kids asap? Women! And yet after the man has succumbed to all this manipulation, he's still expected to be "grateful" to his woman for bearing HER OWN KIDS! Una dey listen to una selfs sometimes?

Nekai:

It's sad that alot of men that are raised by single moms turn out despising women. It's natural for these guys to only see the negative things associated with raising a family, since they never saw their dad do anything. It seems like these men are trying to find reasons in their mind to rationalize away the need for a father/husband to stick around. Because to acknowledge that marriage is desireable, wanted, and respected by men, is to acknowledge that their absentee dads are really sad individuals. (Even if the dad is late, these boys sometimes grow up to misunderstand the role of a father in the home.)
Any man that was raised by both parents would have seen that a marriage isn't always perfect, but the good times outweigh the bad, especially if you have found the right person.

Both husband and wife make sacrifices in a marriage.

The man, who is the head, bears the burden of responsibility. As the oldest child I understand that this invisible pressure can sometimes be overwhelming. However, as much as I resented it at times, this pressure has pushed me to succeed. The pressure that a man faces in a marriage should push him to succeed. It is a weak man indeed who will destroy/tear down their marriage by abusing or cheating on his wife. If you can't control your sexual desire or your anger, most likely you do not have the control necessary to be successful in the real world.
The woman is responsible for  the household duties. It is no easy task to keep a house running amoothly. It can be a full time job by itself. In childbearing a woman must sacrifice her body. This is more intense than it seems, because a woman has shoulder this responsibility alone, even though the man might be by her side. In the case of a miscarriage or stillbirth it is the woman who suffers the longest, in most cases these things haunt her for life because she will feel like her body failed the baby. Pregnancy is not easy. A woman goes through a whole lot of misery in those 9 months. And childbirth itself is an unbelievable amount of agonizing pain. After, the woman is tied down to the baby 24/7. A man thinks he gives up his freedom? He most likely knows nothing about being shackled to a mini person for months and years. It basically makes the woman do double duty because she has to feed, cloth, clean, and entertain another person beside herself for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Every other child multiplies this effort.

Bottom line, a mother sacrifices more for the children. My mother sure did. That doesn't mean she contributes the most, but sacrifice, yes.

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It's sad that alot of men that are raised by single moms turn out despising women. It's natural for these guys to only see the negative things associated with raising a family, since they never saw their dad do anything. It seems like these men are trying to find reasons in their mind to rationalize away the need for a father/husband to stick around. Because to acknowledge that marriage is desireable, wanted, and respected by men, is to acknowledge that their absentee dads are really sad individuals. (Even if the dad is late, these boys sometimes grow up to misunderstand the role of a father in the home.)
Any man that was raised by both parents would have seen that a marriage isn't always perfect, but the good times outweigh the bad, especially if you have found the right person.

Both husband and wife make sacrifices in a marriage.

The man, who is the head, bears the burden of responsibility. As the oldest child I understand that this invisible pressure can sometimes be overwhelming. However, as much as I resented it at times, this pressure has pushed me to succeed. The pressure that a man faces in a marriage should push him to succeed. It is a weak man indeed who will destroy/tear down their marriage by abusing or cheating on his wife. If you can't control your sexual desire or your anger, most likely you do not have the control necessary to be successful in the real world.
The woman is responsible for  the household duties. It is no easy task to keep a house running amoothly. It can be a full time job by itself. In childbearing a woman must sacrifice her body. This is more intense than it seems, because a woman has shoulder this responsibility alone, even though the man might be by her side. In the case of a miscarriage or stillbirth it is the woman who suffers the longest, in most cases these things haunt her for life because she will feel like her body failed the baby. Pregnancy is not easy. A woman goes through a whole lot of misery in those 9 months. And childbirth itself is an unbelievable amount of agonizing pain. After, the woman is tied down to the baby 24/7. A man thinks he gives up his freedom? He most likely knows nothing about being shackled to a mini person for months and years. It basically makes the woman do double duty because she has to feed, cloth, clean, and entertain another person beside herself for 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. Every other child multiplies this effort.
Bottom line, a mother sacrifices more for the children. My mother sure did. That doesn't mean she contributes the most, but sacrifice[quote]

Dirac:

Men make the sacrifices and do not complain, the only time u know a man is having a tough time is when he starts drinking, Women on the other hand make all the noises, so they get easily noticed when they make sacrifices. Just picture a home where the man has no job and the woman takes care of the house, the neighbours would surely hear it. I am not taking anything away from the women folks, but we just have to be honest, its not usually the person who cries the loudest that suffers the most

mama-gee:

Mothers and fathers take equal sacrifices. ,

They just take equal measures, no one takes more nor less.

PhysicsMHD:

1. Marriage is neither "desirable, wanted, etc." by men, except when they're reaching 40 and have no children and no legacy. It's all about sex or about having kids. The overwhelming majority of men in this world are not romantic. Sexually active, yes, but not romantic. There's a very real reason that successful marriages are on the decline in many Western countries and in those (mostly developing) countries where it isn't on the decline, romance is an almost alien concept to men.
2. It's actually pretty easy taking care of a home compared to a real job, unless that job is simple, part-time, low-wage, etc.
3. Saying that a woman "sacrifices her body" for her children is exactly like saying a man "sacrifices his freedom" for his children. It's ridiculous. How is it a sacrifice if you're deliberately doing something for your own pleasure (the joy of having children, being a father/mother) and benefit? People don't seem to understand the connotations of the word sacrifice.

Just clearing up some misconceptions.

wiseman2011:

I am a man, but be honest to ourself is a 'Woman' because it is easy 2 carry her belly 4 9month and during d labour. Bravo Mother.

Nekai:

1. Hmmm.  By your own definition, if the only reason a man desires marriage is for sex and kids, then it is true that men desire and want to be married.
2. Taking care of a home is, in most cases, in addition to having a real job.
3. A woman sacrifices her body for the pleasure of herself and her children. But she also sacrifices her body so that her husband can have the pleasure of becoming a father. Most women would not choose to sacrifice her body in this way for a mere boyfriend, no matter how much she wants the pleasure of being a mother. A man sacrifices his freedom, but the woman also sacrifices her freedom. Most men are free to pursue their dream educational path or career before and after marriage and kids. A man can choose to move their entire family anywhere in the world for a job opportunity. After work, men are free to pursue their vocational interests and indulge in recreational activity. After a full day of work, a woman comes home to continue to work by feeding her children, doing their hair, the laundry, the housework, ect. A man comes home just in time for a ready made dinner and to tuck his kids in bed. While the woman continues cleaning up, the husband relaxes. Then later the man often expects his wife to be ready for this sex he married her for. (Which may or may not be work in the woman's case if she is up for it.)
The next day it starts all over again with the husband going to work in his clothes that were cleaned and ironed by his wife, and the wife getting both herself and the kid(s) ready and going to work.

The sacrifice of freedom goes both ways.

fellis:

Those doing it are mostly those that were forced by their husbands into being full time housewives.

dayokanu:

Isale, Dont be scared to agree with me, I suspected all along you have it for me.


Abi oooo

Look on NL, and see threads like "I am giving money to my BF-Is it right". This is what guys have done and have been doing for centuries yet no one complains.

A woman would complain that working at home is too strenous, Give her the option of going out to do the hustle and she would decline sharp sharp

emmatok:

Some women are claiming it is sacrifice to getting pregnant and rising children.

Well it is in the nature of the woman to get pregnant and rise children.

Most women including singles alway look towards motherhood.

Because motherhood is the peak of womanhood.

Calling it sacrifice create the impression they are doing the world are favor. Which is not a favor.



Actually, They are doing the world a GREAT favour!

cultey:

All you men that voted "father",

Deep down in your heart,

Do you believe that?!