Men are allowed to talk too much cos they make a lot of sense when they talk, Woman talk too much, but make very little sense!

Buncha reetards!

Inked_Nerd:


You make it sound like she randomly approached him and asked him to hit her. He made a threat so she responded by telling him since he thinks he can do it, he should go ahead. Had he not been making threats would she have said that? No. I'm quite sure she didn't wake up one day and say "Oya, hit me"These sisters you say you have, I feel sorry for them if your response is to just disregard them. Its relatives like you that will see abuse and turn a blind eye.

Dont play feminine here, Iya.

You complained about "Tempting" and I made it clear to you. Now you here telling me "she didn't wake up one day and say "Oya, hit me" Is it until she says such before we know that she was tempting him? Now, lets do the remix. . .Did the guy wake up 1 mornin and started beating her? NO! why? Her refuser to leave.

You said "he made threats", what knida threats was that? According to her write up, I SEE NO THREAT! Is "leave my house" a threat? Is arguement threat? Pls, where was the threat?

Dont get it twisted about my sisters, ma'am, they'r as cool as the word COOL! But if they find themselves in cases like these, then they should carry their crossess, for I see no reason why som1 would ask you to leave his house and you refused (try play block headed), unto which level?. . .When NOT yet the wife?. . .Now, let me ask you a simple question. . .Had it been the OP left when she was asked to leave, are we gon be here discussing about this issue (just a question)?

na wa oooo. so suprising to see some guys on this forum are girl/woman-beaters. that's bad. really bad.

@op, wat is happening in ur relationship is not love and u should be thanking ur stars dat u r still alive to tell dis story and ask for advice cos people have died for lesser reasons all in the name of love. LOVE is totally the opposite of wat u are experiencing. i will advise u leave dis guy and find someone who will truly love u for whu u are. i am sure u will gain a lot from wat inked_nerd have written.

Bottomline is, u have to move on no matter ow hard it seems and am sure u dont wanna live ur entire life in fear of being strangled/murdered all in the name of love. please think about it.

all da best.

R u going to let him kill u before u see sense?my goodness,y will u even let it get to this ,gosh,i'm speechless,he held ur head down with pillow(trying to suffocate u),n u r saying,should u leave him?,


I'm stunned, i know this happens in abusive relationship, but mehnnn this really got to me,

Walk away babes now!,while u still have bruises,next might be broken leg,arm,disfigured face and so on,

If not for you,think about ur unborn children, think!

Nerd, pls tell me what is the cause of all these problem between the OP and her boyfriend and lets see who's at fault?

Walk away and don't ever go back. He won't change in the future,im talking from a personal experience.

i hate this man beating woman of a thing , it is madness, for me , i think woman are the people you should care 4, and there is a way you can make them realise they mistake without beating, and a piece of advice for you, ANYMAN That beat you now, it will be more serious when he married u, RUN FOR YOUR LIFE

sorry dear, since is obvious that u still love him, i wil advice u stay way when u notice he is angry rather than daring him, to avoid quarells, when he says go u quitely leave without arguement.

@ poster,
Pls one question for you. Are you living with him?

Inked_Nerd:

Cheer up,it's in the past

Inked can we connect on fb?

Its simple!!, sure u'll leave him,but after u stop breathing!!

Its sick to hear of issues like this and yet u say "I know he loves me'' what??, dat's bull

If i were, and i am been very frank here, take a walk girl, a very long one and dont even look back!

Inked_Nerd:

@OP: Please, let me start off by saying that I am so so so very sorry for all the things that you are going through. I know we are just faceless ID's here on a site but what you've just written is really tugging at my heart right now. What breaks my heart even more is the fact that you know what he is wrong and you're asking us if you should go back to him. I hope you love yourself enough to know what what this man is doing to you is WRONG!! I don't know where you live or what the laws of your regions are but you really must find a way to get away from this guy. You need to tell people around you. Make sure you inform others [particularly your friends and family] about what this person is doing to you. Only you have the power to put an end to this. You cannot make excuses for this guy by telling us the sort of person he was before he started abusing you because that may be something that will keep you entrenched in this horrid situation. You've acknowledged that there is a problem, now the next step is how to leave this relationship. Let me ask you something, is causing someone both bodily and emotional harm love? Is threatening their life love? This disgusting creature you call a boyfriend knows perfectly well what he's doing but it seems that you don't. Your excuse for being with him is that previously he was gentle and responsible, the commitment and the sacrifice you've made, and that you have and that you love him. . . Tell me, is this what love is? Please keep in mind, love isn't supposed to hurt. What kind of sacrifice is so great that you would put your life in danger? If you do stay in this relationship with this guy, what makes you think he will change? What would make you think the situation would get any better? If he's doing this to you while you're just dating, imagine what he would or could do to you while married. Don't allow this boyfriend of yours to keep using you as a punching bag. You really don't know how much this is breaking my heart to hear that this person is causing you so much pain. Please, I'm begging you for all that is good please TRY to see your worth so you can leave that monster.

If you don't mind, I'd like you speak to you outside of Nairaland. If you're interested, please let me know

Here are some websites that can provide you with information on how to tend to this situation:

(1) http://www.loveisrespect.org/

(2) http://www.thehotline.org/

(3) http://www.thesafespace.org/

(4) http://www.safehorizon.org/

(5) http://www.helpguide.org/mental/domestic_violence_abuse_types_signs_causes_effects.htm

(6) http://www.beckysfund.org/cms/index.php?page=how-to-end-an-abusive-relationship

(7) http://www.stanford.edu/group/svab/relationships.shtml http://www.safehorizon.org/

(8 ) http://www.gurl.com/findout/fastfacts/articles/0,,697185-1,00.html
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So well said, it brings tears to my heart, where were u when i needed this?
@poster, its never going to be easy to take a step towards leaving him, iv had a similar experience so believe me when i say it wont be easy. Like someone commented, u usually get to break up with a guy like this several times n back b4 finally leaving for good. And dont ignore letting your close friends and family members know about the situation, cos such threats to kill u n stuffs like dat mite not be just mere threats!!

@OP

Your boy friend is an abuser you should leave him before he kills you.

Speak to people close to him let them encourage him to have a psychiatric evaluation regarding his behaviour

neonet:

Any woman that talks too much,should be beaten thoroughly!!!!!!!

fstranger3:

I totally agree

they talk too much.

It is a crime to beat up women and I think both of you should re-evaluate your thoughts on the issue of women bashing it makes you less a man

@poster,
N u're still in d relationship? I'm a guy n i knw it's effed up hittin a woman.A guy who does dat has confidence issues,stay away from such guys.REAL MEN DON'T HIT WOMEN!

Inked_Nerd:


I know its in the past but you seem like such a nice person so to hear that someone did that to you is sad

Yeah, we can connect on Facebook.

Thanks. Send me your fb name on babyme59@yahoo.com.

I've been dying to see this intelligent young gurl. For some weird reason i think you look like Sydney,the actress in Alias

baby.me:

Thanks. Send me your fb name on babyme59@yahoo.com.

I've been dying to see this intelligent young gurl. For some weird reason i think you look like Sydney,the actress in Alias

Get ready to be dissapointed

sorrytoo:

Get ready to be dissapointed

If you've seen Alias you'll know where im coming from. The girl is very intelligent,just like our Inked_Nerd.

poster

run for your life!

what the hell kinda love are you talking about the man almost killed you! why isn't that resinating into your brain? you obviously have the battered woman's syndrome where a battered woman stays with her abuser because they think they still love each other.
choking you almost to death doesn't seem to mean anything to you i guess you are waiting to be killed so your loved ones can pick up the pieces?

i get so mad when i see stories like this. you have a chance to escape with your life but you still think you are in love.

Singing "There is Fire on the Mountain" by ASA.

That man will kill you. What kind of love is that? you are not inlove please, you are just being stuuupiddd.

I have been in love and still inlove and believe violence does not come in with ''love'' . Any man that truly loves his gurl will not raise his hands on her. Don't you have parents?

You are sick, I just cannot believe you mentioned love after all of these.

No advice is worth it anyways, you are not going to leave him so I'd rather save the rest of my advice. But if you were my sister I swear I will kill you with my own hands and feed your already battered body to the birds.

What nonsense, are some gurls still dumb?in these day and age?

@OP,stay tight for dia.If you leave him,NO man wud as much as give u a glance,ur life is meaningless and worthless without this dude . . .Not forgetting the sex after battering . . .my oh my,the best.

Don't forget to pick your coffin,choose hymns and write your autobiography if possible.

Yeye de smell.

It is well with my soul,Amen. 

run for your life, dont wait untill he kills you.

u will die loving this animal. fact.

Men are goats and don't listen until you walk away. The average woman leaves her abuser 8 times before finally cutting him off. The cycle of abuse only gets worse. Don't tell me BS about "He was so good for the first couple of years, and everything was sooo perfect". Examine your relationship and find tmes when he belittled you, put you down, made you feel like less of a person. Run away as fast as you can!!! Do you want to wait until you get married to him so that your children can see this coward putting his hand on you? Statistics show that boys often follow right in their abusive fathers' footsteps. At least 3 women in the US are killed every day by their so called lovers/boyfriends/husbands.

Are you going to allow yourself to be the next victim of a cowardly killer? Forget your wasted time and be greatful he didn't wait until you two were married before showing his true colors.

@nekai,
how come u are still alive? if i have my ways, i will let Fstranger3 be your boyfriend so that he will teach u how to behave.

@poster,
check urself and see what u are doing wrong since u are saying he still loves u. ur story maybe an edited version just to suit ur interest. the truth of the matter is that i don't beat but some women are so terrible that beating them with sticks and woods will not do the job as iron and rods will always do a better job.
some women will nevere let the man be the man of the house.
like i said, this poster wears the shoes and knows where it is paining her. she owns herself the best of advise. some women enjoy relationships with beating and slapping as a prove of the man's love. maybe what this poster is against might be the strangling aspect of it.