Kingcalls:


The truth is alot of marriages crash these days due to let me just marry cos I am getting too old and also marrying out of pity....marriage is no childs play.... those butterflies u feel in the beginning will fade away with time, thats just human nature .... if years later she can't bare him kids or the broke man still wanders around with nothing to show for it, frustration will kick in... if she eventually has a daughter and she starts to hoe around, he will secretly start to regret marrying her ... if u marry the broke guy and he makes money and somehow it disappears again, u will regret marrying him...most terrible partners are terrible because of something about their partners that they wudnt wanna disclose to anyone...some live in self-denial... if this op eventually marries her and he finds a girl with a clean past, he will dump her as a wife and u guys that encouraged him to marry her will still co e to call men scum

Acidosis:


When it comes to sexual purity, a slut is not better than a virgin. Stop typing rubbish please.


She may be better in terms of wealth, education, etc. It all depends on what a man wants in a woman. A man seeking to settle down with a sexually pure woman would not choose a slut over a virgin.

Make una no dey type rubbish please

larryjonze:



So you know life is not fair, are you also aware in life sometimes fate overwrite our plans/decision. if you ask many couple today they are married to spec they never evision they could date as teens.

You can't marry a lady that as done abortion, noted !! shebi na the one wey telll you abi yu get detector.

Have you heard rihanna when a good gurl gone bad, what makes you think a virgin can't go bad moreover wives cheat in marriage. virginity is not what guarantees fidelity, its more of conscience & commitment tin. every gurl was once a virgin

Babymama is a trend, i for like join the trend sef if not that my babe serves a living God babymama is not a disease we all have choices, ur poison is another man's food. so lets just leave it at that. @times its not entirely these gurls fault, as a man you shuldnt impregnate a gurl you know you can never marry if finally ur hands are tied.

BLOODYSPERM:



Foolish low valued man who wants to save a used Hoe because he's emotions to love clouds his judgement that she's damaged and needs medical intervention

deni2002:


If the op does that, it's because the lady has no value in his eyes. Newsflash: he isn't the one to determine her worth. If this lady has changed, another man will come for her and in cases like this, the other man will be far better than the man op is... Go check history

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

PrimadonnaO:



Chai. Lessons to all the ladies out there o. Ndi wokeism! Ndi sex-on-the-first-date, Ndi sexually-liberated. They will use it against you!

Oga is not criticising himself for making out with the lady... instead he's criticising the lady. What a life!

As for the things she told you, I hope it doesn't make her feel worthless. I understand her kind of person. When she likes a person, she doesn't want secrets. She wants to bare it all and be seen for who she really is.

I applaud her and I hope she doesn't change because that's what it means to be authentic. If this gist had come out in marriage, the man would have felt defrauded.

OP, you have to handle this with tact and utmost sensibility. Since you said you don't want to marry her, no wahala... your intentions weren't even pure. You were considering her because she's from a wealthy background.

What I'll advise you do is that you sustain the tempo of your interactions for a while so that when you begin to disconnect, she won't trace it to the revelations she made.

And biko, don't sleep with her whether or not she initiates it.


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That being said, please my dears, try not to make too many mistakes in life so you don't have secrets that you'll be advised to take to the grave. Isn't that too burdensome?

Try not to do things that you can't boldly come out to admit you did.

One abortion may be a mistake, but two, three four. Haba nau! Why? These men you're having sex with and aborting babies for are walking away unscathed. Can't you see it? Don't cover it up with wokeness or whatever. You're doing yourself such an injustice.

A man who may have made other girls in the past to abort his babies will still come out tomorrow and dump another girl who tells him she's had an abortion.

whirlwind7:


I believe you got fermented shít inside your skull.
This isn't about a ho.
This isn't about wether the girl has a thousand body counts and has done a hundred abortions.

This is about what you should expect when digging for someone's past.
When you ask someone you want to marry to tell you about her past, and you expect the whole truth, at that point you should have made up your mind that her past doesn't matter.
He had already decided she is marriage material, so why drag the past into it?
If you have a girlfriend you got pregnant and she aborted it with your knowledge, would you decide she is no longer suitable for marriage because of that?
What medical intervention does she need here? Where does it say she was damaged? Or don't women recover normally after a medical procedure such as D&C?

Stop being an îdiot.

Lovethaa:
Have been friends with a babe at my workplace and from her frequent visit to my office plus the way she calls me to check on me . you could easily tell that she likes me .

One thing led to another and we ended up kissing , after the kiss I told her to tell me about her past relationships plus her sexual life .

She opened up to me that she was introduced to sex at 8years old by one neighbor uncle ,
she told me how the uncle take her to his room and ask her to play with his Prick and sometimes would make her suck it ,she claim she couldn't tell her mom because she will beat her mercilessly

She said she officially started having sex at 10 ,she disclosed that she had done 4 abortions so far although the abortions were for the same guy . mind you she is just 24 years old

She claimed she's telling me all this because she loves me and wants to be honest with me .

But hearing all that I was weak.. this babe is from a wealthy family , she travels to yankee like someone going to a neighboring state plus she is an MSC Holder , unknown to her I have decided that I would marry her because she's educated and wealthy family is like a bonus but now she actually disgust me and I wish she didn't tell me all that ..

Ladies are doing shit behind forget all that pretty gentle face.. if I was to judge with the face I could have bet with my life that this babe was a virgin or atleast not that experienced in sex ...


and pls ladies if you have such dirty past ,I think u should keep it to yourself...



I'm just lost for words , wish I could unhear everything

Lovethaa:




My brother that would not be my portion.... wish you what you wish me

Ecosystem4u:


I wonder how and why people will lump up murder of innocents foetus and consider it what they call past. Call these girls murderers for all its whorth. Period!! If I can't get a decent woman, I would remain single. To hell with their western bulshit, this is Africa such behavior is not accepted and doesn't obtain here.

rollandben:
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if you know you cant let go of the past, kindly never ask People to confide that with you.
you knew you couldn't handle HER past, then why did you ask for it in the first place?[/s]

Acidosis:



Don't you think you're doing too much by trying to dictate who a man should settle with?

The thought of sleeping around without protection is a NO for some. I don't care whether the sex leads to pregnancy or not. If you can open your legs (as a man or woman) and allow another person exchange his or her fluids with yours in this age of hepatitis and hiv, you can NEVER be mine. That's a principle many have adopted. Please don't come back with that bull-crap of knowing your partner's hiv status. It's all lies, nobody ever requests for lab results when the tensions are as high as the rooftop.

darealbabe:
I just read rubbish. No be your fault, na boy you be. Only a child thinks like you do, and it's obvious you are a little child.
What is dirty about her past? What's the meaning of shit behind pretty face? Or are you just plain foolish and have lost use of your senses(that's if you have any)? Oh, I forgot, you are just a child.
You successfully advertised your stunted intelligence. Congratulations.
See, make sure you leave her alone! Change your mind completely! And keep your judgemental, deluded self to you and the people that deserve you.

deeva2:
just watch out.....Your eyes go soon clear when A more understanding and matured man will go for her

Lovethaa:
It surprises me how Men are the ones trying to make me feel guilty o'er my post.. So you mean this generation no longer have principles..


She's slept around and aborted babies ... her body count is uncountable and y'all want me to settle down with her because she is honest... you are all silly ...


Fnvk maturity... maturity kill all of you there ... I'll train my daughter well and lead her into the right path... to all those supporting her actions... I pray you breed that kind of daughter and your son's marry that kind of wife....

Magnoliaa:


That. Is right. So, what now? My own story is even darker and more twisted than the lady's.

Lovethaa:
It surprises me how Men are the ones trying to make me feel guilty o'er my post.. So you mean this generation no longer have principles..


She's slept around and aborted babies ... her body count is uncountable and y'all want me to settle down with her because she is honest... you are all silly ...


Fnvk maturity... maturity kill all of you there ... I'll train my daughter well and lead her into the right path... to all those supporting her actions... I pray you breed that kind of daughter and your son's marry that kind of wife....

Lovethaa:
It surprises me how Men are the ones trying to make me feel guilty o'er my post.. So you mean this generation no longer have principles..


She's slept around and aborted babies ... her body count is uncountable and y'all want me to settle down with her because she is honest... you are all silly ...


Fnvk maturity... maturity kill all of you there ... I'll train my daughter well and lead her into the right path... to all those supporting her actions... I pray you breed that kind of daughter and your son's marry that kind of wife....

Romanoff:
This is why many women lie to y'all.

They don't want the judgement and rejection.