I have prayed to God so many times for forgiveness. I am just so scared that my brother in law could exposed my mistake.

You mean you can actually allow ANOTHER human being like yourself with one head. . .two hands and 2 legs to keep you in emotional blackmail for 1 minute, not to mention 5 years?

Please, let your brother-in-law go and publish it on YOUTUBE or "THE ENQUIRER" or "THE GLOBE" for all I care.
In fact, help him and make money ourra the notorious celebrity status. . . REMAIN UNSHAKABLE darling. Men impregnate their wives' mothers, sisters, aunts, mothers, grand-mothers and THEIR OWN daughters all over the world. . .who has killed them?
Shuuuuuuut happens please.

Sooooooooooooo bloooooooooooooody WHAT?

The harm has already been done.

You did not commit the first incestual crime in the history of the animal kingdom.
So what is the problem?


Let the chips and dips fall where they may please. . . life goes on.
People can only talk. . . then die talking. The children are here to stay.
Amen!

cantell:

Your advice is cold,foolish and a disaster waiting to happen.
How can you think of such lies and deceit?
God! I don fear die!
@Op,
It's just a matter of time. If your BIL is as desperate as you say, it wouldn't take much time before he spills his guts.
Tell your husband the truth and save yourself (from lies and deceit) while you still can.
He cheated on you and you forgave him. It may not be the same with you, considering African men and their ego.
But you have to try. Marriage based on lies can never amount to anything.
The truth will eventually come back to haunt you.
It's hard but its the only way.
Truth is bitter but it must be told.
So long.

. . .and who is the dirty,smelly and slimy lil'toad 

Was my reply meant or addressed to you and do you have to agree with me?
eeeediot !

cantell:

Your advice is cold,foolish and a disaster waiting to happen.
How can you think of such lies and deceit?
God! I don fear die!
@Op,
It's just a matter of time. If your BIL is as desperate as you say, it wouldn't take much time before he spills his guts.
Tell your husband the truth and save yourself (from lies and deceit) while you still can.
He cheated on you and you forgave him. It may not be the same with you, considering African men and their ego.
But you have to try. Marriage based on lies can never amount to anything.
The truth will eventually come back to haunt you.
It's hard but its the only way.
Truth is bitter but it must be told.
So long.

Amen !

I appreciate the advice and feedback from all who took the time to reply. I've had to give this situation careful thought. The thought of my family breaking up brings me to tears, just thinking about it. Knowing that my children could learn of my past one day isn't something I proud of. With all that in mind, I've decided to face my fate anyway. I'm going to my husband because I honestly can't live with this, it's killing me inside. I am not expecting forgiveness but I am hoping for it. As I said, I made a terrible mistake but I trust that God will take care of me. I know this could be the end of my marriage but not the end of the world. It's something I just have to learn from. Thank you for responding and adding some perspectives for me to consider. God bless you and thank you again.

ifyalways:

. . .and who is the dirty,smelly and slimy lil'toad 

Was my reply meant or addressed to you and do you have to agree with me?
eeeediot !
Amen !

Rijuo nsi afo. Nna gi ka i na-akpo eeeediot.
Such nonsense coming from an Igbo lady.
Ikwesiri ka apia gi 24 na ike.
Onye owo!

Sheemitwu:

I appreciate the advice and feedback from all who took the time to reply. I've had to give this situation careful thought. The thought of my family breaking up brings me to tears, just thinking about it. Knowing that my children could learn of my past one day isn't something I proud of. With all that in mind, I've decided to face my fate anyway. I'm going to my husband because I honestly can't live with this, it's killing me inside. I am not expecting forgiveness but I am hoping for it. As I said, I made a terrible mistake but I trust that God will take care of me. I know this could be the end of my marriage but not the end of the world. It's something I just have to learn from. Thank you for responding and adding some perspectives for me to consider. God bless you and thank you again.

You're welcome anytime. Just don't listen to people like Ifyalways abi na ifybefore. She's a deceiever. She wants you to be like her.

^Kitikpa racha gi anya,ozu a na akwaghi gi akwa.

I naruo(assuming na i nwere ulo)gwa "ihe" o bula zutere gi ya tuo gi "aturu"!Enwe Calabar.

Ihu nne gi i kpo ya Onye ara.

Ihe ojoo na enweghi atu kpogwa gi ihu for the rest of your miserable life,Amen!

Agbara narakwa gi umunna gi,ekuke.Jobless thing.Instead of i ga cho ihe i ga eme ya "o-di-ndu-onwu-ka-nma" situation,I noro hia acho ihe na anaghi acho gi.Ama nna gi chikwa dia.

So what If I told the OP,to chin up?Is there any rule somewhere that she must do as i said?You jumped out from the morgue where your dead,stinking self was dumped to call your mother foolish et all,AMADIOHA napukwa gi isi,eeeediot.

clear commot biko,adaka.

^^ My loolo don vex.

Who dey vex my honey?

ifyalways:

^Kitikpa racha gi anya,ozu a na akwaghi gi akwa.

I naruo(assuming na i nwere ulo)gwa "ihe" o bula zutere gi ya tuo gi "aturu"!Enwe Calabar.

Ihu nne gi i kpo ya Onye ara.

Ihe ojoo na enweghi atu kpogwa gi ihu for the rest of your miserable life,Amen!

Agbara narakwa gi umunna gi,ekuke.Jobless thing.Instead of i ga cho ihe i ga eme ya "o-di-ndu-onwu-ka-nma" situation,I noro hia acho ihe na anaghi acho gi.Ama nna gi chikwa dia.

So what If I told the OP,to chin up?Is there any rule somewhere that she must do as i said?You jumped out from the morgue where your dead,stinking self was dumped to call your mother foolish et all,AMADIOHA napukwa gi isi,eeeediot.

clear commot biko,adaka.

Egbe enigwe daji kwaa gi onu!
Ama nke nna gi chie! Eeediot!
Ozu otele dika gi! Akwuna nairaland! I na-agaghari na cho ndi i ga-ara.
Onye ohi amu! I na-egbu okuko na izu a ma na-acho amu i ga ara.
Ogwu gi agaghi alu olu na ebe m no.
Crazy b*itch!
Go jam tipper! Ashi!

ifyalways, oya na your turn, fire am. I hapu kwa ya omerie gi. Gwa ya okwu. Gwa ya ubochi amuru ya. Gosi ya your true colour.

cantell:

Egbe enigwe daji kwaa gi onu!
Ama nke nna gi chie! Eeediot!
Ozu otele dika gi! Akwuna nairaland! I na-agaghari na cho ndi i ga-ara.
Onye ohi amu! I na-egbu okuko na izu a ma na-acho amu i ga ara.
Ogwu gi agaghi alu olu na ebe m no.
Crazy b*itch!
Go jam tipper! Ashi!

Onye mmuo.

Opara akwuna,born throway for gutter.A na m acho amu na nld achotula m nke gi?Bush meat.

Owu aguwa nwoke onu, a gunye gi?M chowa amu,O buru ma nke gi?Akwukwu dogbukwa gi ebe ahu.

Just like u fessed up,u go die and rotten on top my matter.Agu dobikwa gi na ihe nile gbasara gi uzo abuo.

Abuzu Congo biara imu okwu na ahu,mgbo fiapukwa gi anya.Egbe napu gi anya.

Baaaaastard !

I don do my own ashi corner 1 man siddon for him house unlike ur mother who whored from tipper garage to train station yet. . .otu awu ezi.

Deadi Body.

May train without brake crush u and urs.anu a juru aju.

Oya cantell, hope you hear that one. Kulie n' ura, ifyalways agwala gi okwu di njo. Kedu ihe inwere isa ya. Pls don't keep quiet, gwa ya gbasara elu na ala. gwa ya eze ole di ya n'onu.

ifyalways:

Onye mmuo.

Opara akwuna,born throway for gutter.A na m acho amu na nld achotula m nke gi?Bush meat.

Owu aguwa nwoke onu, a gunye gi?M chowa amu,O buru ma nke gi?Akwukwu dogbukwa gi ebe ahu.

Just like u fessed up,u go die and rotten on top my matter.Agu dobikwa gi na ihe nile gbasara gi uzo abuo.

Abuzu Congo biara imu okwu na ahu,mgbo fiapukwa gi anya.Egbe napu gi anya.

Baaaaastard !

I don do my own ashi corner 1 man siddon for him house unlike your mother who whored from tipper garage to train station yet. . .otu awu ezi.

Deadi Body.

May train without brake crush u and urs.anu a juru aju.

Opara abi Okpara? I no say na ashawo owerri you be. Na so dem dey do.
Icho ga m ka icho ga nwa m nwanyi? Ka i choro ya turn by turn?
Like mother like daughter. See ashawo wey dey give advice. Wetin you wan give person for advice? How to put a condom for p*rick abi na wetin?
You show for NL dey form Rev. sister ify. I don sabi you tey tey.
Tell that hoochie mama you call a mother to stop whoring around and look for something better to do.
And take your *sperm-stained cu*nt and dip it into a hot charcoal!

^ Ozu

I say go and get a job! Stop allowing your LovePeddler wife and mother to feed you while you maSTURbate in front of your key board with my username and looking for customers on Nairaland! Dandaudu Ashewo penny penny!

Miserable toto sniffing dog! Go and look for a job. Real men are at work at this time and you are here displaying you profound ignorance! You filthy,smelly swine.

You will soon go blind from all the syphilis that has infected what ever is left of your stamp-sized brain!Go and get a real job you useless cOrk sucking male LovePeddler.

Is that all you could come up with?eeediot! Jobless cork sucking piece of thrash like you!Put your wife out of her misery and be the head of the household instead of the tail of an areshole for a change or better still go like naked on the highway.

Useless excuse for a man!Ani kpukwa gi na isi .

Rejected and dejected piece of thrashy scumbag like you!Keep sniffing around for my panties,You hear Be rest assured that you will not smell my dead finger nail not to talk of the real thing.

And you are who again to give advice? chief patron of "sluts" ,Male "homo" slut!

Ajo ikuku parakwa gi.Ikwikwi.

Eeediot . . .do ya worst.

No, no, ifyalways, wait no be your turn. Ngwa cantell bia na podium. Onwere ihe inwere igwa ifyalways. Unu ga agba mbo na-ede igbo, or at worst engli-igbo. Cantell, ike agwukwala gi. Ichere n'ihe ifyalways kwuru bu eziokwu? Biko gwa ya nke bu eziokwu.

. . .Enwe Cantell,I can afford to be online as much as I want cos as a retired "ochie dike" that is very good at her game,I got for myself a REAL man with DOUGH. . .Ego Igwe/Oyibo.

Thats something you can only dream of,loser.Ego Igwe na nwanyi mere way.

LOL.

Shebi,u sef be ashewo,try now,try getting a permanent and resident customer that wud fancy u and your leaking BUtthOle enough as to give u a roof over ya nappy head,enough cash and ample time to play with crayfish heads like you online.

You dey "jelos" my market?lol,Uzu kuchie gi anya.Udele napukwa gi olu.Off to play with a real man and do more shopping.

Mu he he.

Nwa-Ghana,puorom na uzo.Wislet na akpo gi.

Hmmmmm!!!!
The beauty of NL.
Fight no dey finish.

. . . . As usual, thread derailment in progress.

Good morning America my beautiful.
Thank you for making me beautiful.

Take it home African China. . . .



https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=22g0kfW4auc

ifyalways egbuo m. Biko kedu nke masara wislet ebe a. Biko don't post yet, pls wait for cantell to reply. Cantell agala olu oyibo, chere ka o bata. ok, onwere ihe m choro igwa gi. ka m mara ma obi o ga di gi mma. Asi na-eme nwata ka emere ibe ya obi adi ya mma. But, remember not to post until cantell replies. I'm the umpire, onye isi game.

At this point, it is obvious the truth has to come out. You cant live with this secret forever. Moreover, this brother has nothing to lose so it's only a matter of time.  I FEAR WOMEN O!!

Sheemitwu:

I appreciate the advice and feedback from all who took the time to reply. I've had to give this situation careful thought. The thought of my family breaking up brings me to tears, just thinking about it. Knowing that my children could learn of my past one day isn't something I proud of. With all that in mind, I've decided to face my fate anyway. I'm going to my husband because I honestly can't live with this, it's killing me inside. I am not expecting forgiveness but I am hoping for it. As I said, I made a terrible mistake but I trust that God will take care of me. I know this could be the end of my marriage but not the end of the world. It's something I just have to learn from. Thank you for responding and adding some perspectives for me to consider. God bless you and thank you again.

Since you've decided to take the risk and tell your husband, I think you are making the right decision.

Better to live in regret than in fear . . . The deed has already been done and there's nothing you can do to change it.

Telling your husband might end your marriage, but at least you'll be free of the fear that one day it might come out in the open.

But if I were you, I'll make sure the child is his first before telling him. If the child is not his, then there's absolutely no need to tell! Better to let sleeping dogs lie. 

As for your BIL, there's not much he can do. Even if he tells your hubby (which I doubt he would especially if he knows the child is not his), you have a lot of options . . . .

1. Deny it
2. Admit it and claim he violated you
3. Admit it and claim he seduced you in your moment of weakness.

//

Im not so sure the OP is feeling guilty.She is worried and scared because the BIL is threatening to spill . . .that to me is not guilt  .I could be wrong though but If she felt guilty all these years,this whole issue wud have come out before now without the BIL threats et all.Someone truly dealing with guilt wud not have been able to keep such a secret within her for 5 years,No ?

I wud even say she had a better chance of her Hubby believing the[i] violation,moment of weakness/madness story[/i] IF she came out clean on her own to 'fess up rather than wait till the BIL starts making noise.

Moot point now though,She has made the best decision for herself and hopefully,she wud have no cause to regret.

Cantell where are you? Please come and do your final viva before I declare the result. Achoghim ka audience si na m na-eme partial. Achorom inye onye obula equal opportunity in this contest.

Sheemitwu:

I appreciate the advice and feedback from all who took the time to reply. I've had to give this situation careful thought. The thought of my family breaking up brings me to tears, just thinking about it. Knowing that my children could learn of my past one day isn't something I proud of. With all that in mind, I've decided to face my fate anyway. I'm going to my husband because I honestly can't live with this, it's killing me inside. I am not expecting forgiveness but I am hoping for it. As I said, I made a terrible mistake but I trust that God will take care of me. I know this could be the end of my marriage but not the end of the world. It's something I just have to learn from. Thank you for responding and adding some perspectives for me to consider. God bless you and thank you again.

What a tough position to be in, but my sister, go with God. The truth will set you free, and it shall be well with your soul. You will continue be a source of blessing & inspiration to your children and your family. I pray for the best possible result for you. That what everyone says is impossible to happen, to forgive, may it be different in your case. You will look back at a full age and have no regrets. And may your husband have his heart healed, knowing that to err is human, but to forgive is divine. May it be so for you. Amen.
  Godbless.

ifyalways:

. . .Enwe Cantell,I can afford to be online as much as I want cos as a retired "ochie dike" that is very good at her game,I got for myself a REAL man with DOUGH. . .Ego Igwe/Oyibo.

Thats something you can only dream of,loser.Ego Igwe na nwanyi mere way.

LOL.

Shebi,u sef be ashewo,try now,try getting a permanent and resident customer that wud fancy u and your leaking BUtthOle enough as to give u a roof over ya nappy head,enough cash and ample time to play with crayfish heads like you online.

You dey "jelos" my market?lol,Uzu kuchie gi anya.Udele napukwa gi olu.Off to play with a real man and do more shopping.

Mu he he.

Nwa-Ghana,puorom na uzo.Wislet na akpo gi.

It's now pretty obvious that you spend your entire day in Nairaland. You couldn't even wait for me to give a reply and yet you posted another one.
Some of us still have work to do in the day.
Since you're always on night shift, you'll probably have all the time in world.
Btw, i'm feel for your fantasy husband. Imagine you as a married fellow.
Its like Satan getting married to Jesus. Keep day dreaming.
Look, i know there are traces of cretinism in your family so i don't always blame you for the things you do.
O bu amaghi ama. I probably won't get a reply till tomorrow.
Na only God knows the round-about you dey patrol for this time of the night.
Onye ohi amu!
**goes to sleep**

@ CC
That's the point of my post. The deed has already been done, why break the poor mans heart by telling. What a man doesn't know can't hurt him. IMO she's just opening up cos she think the BIL will tell on her anyway but that's very unlikely. He won't want to tell either except he's sure the child is his.


She made a mistake, one she wouldn't have made if her hubby didn't push her into it. Sometimes you just have to live with it. 'Telling' is NOT going to absolve her from this sin.

carry out d DNA test n lets knw d result

Sheemitwu:

I appreciate the advice and feedback from all who took the time to reply. I've had to give this situation careful thought. The thought of my family breaking up brings me to tears, just thinking about it. Knowing that my children could learn of my past one day isn't something I proud of. With all that in mind, I've decided to face my fate anyway. I'm going to my husband because I honestly can't live with this, it's killing me inside. I am not expecting forgiveness but I am hoping for it. As I said, I made a terrible mistake but I trust that God will take care of me. I know this could be the end of my marriage but not the end of the world. It's something I just have to learn from. Thank you for responding and adding some perspectives for me to consider. God bless you and thank you again.

I have been following your thread from day 1 till now. I wish you luck

Whatever happens be prepared to leave your marriage, live with a man that will never trust you for the rest of his life or have him forgive you and move on together with him.

You did not just sleep with any man but his OWN brother. Someone that you guys have to tolerate for the rest of your lives. A brother not just some random guy that would go away.

The one THING I expected you to do was FIND OUT WHO THE FATHER IS FIRST OFF. The result shouldn't stop you from telling your husband. Atleast save the man from living in suspense whilst waiting for a DNA to be carried out.

Cantell welcome back! I kwuola ihe di gi n'obi. Oya, Ifeoma gwa ya nke bu eziokwu. Ify tell him all tellables

//

cantell:

It's now pretty obvious that you spend your entire day in Nairaland. You couldn't even wait for me to give a reply and yet you posted another one.
Some of us still have work to do in the day.
Since you're always on night shift, you'll probably have all the time in world.
Btw, i'm feel for your fantasy husband. Imagine you as a married fellow.
Its like Satan getting married to Jesus. Keep day dreaming.
Look, i know there are traces of cretinism in your family so i don't always blame you for the things you do.
O bu amaghi ama. I probably won't get a reply till tomorrow.
Na only God knows the round-about you dey patrol for this time of the night.
Onye ohi amu!
**goes to sleep**

M-nmmeeeeeeeeeeeee I dey hide am before?

Abi the syphilis don take your eye?I wrote it myself that I can afford to curse crayfish heads like you as much as I want,any problems ? E dey pain you,Na my blessing[b]s[/b] i dey count. . .ihe m  gara far na ahia ma na ewetakwa oku

See this thing oooh  ,You work or you meant wa[b]lk[/b]ing round-and-about parks,stations and garages looking for awon Ho-moe-boyz?In your dreams or what sort of fantasy is that?Since when did p1mping and male a55-licking become paid employment?Awo susukwe gi onu ebe ahu.

BUtthole Scavenger !

Owu nne gi bu Onye oshi amu. 

Bianu,bia lee Otele m ka I racha,Udele Okija.Try now,bia kuru ishi otele m ka mmanwu tie gi na ahu na abalia.

Ozu,the world does not wake and sleep when your hamlet does.

Bad market don carry you comot from your usual gAy strip club waka reach round-a-bout  ,Uchu na aru I metara ga egbu gi.

Ijiji zokwa ozu gi.

Seeeee you whenever u are lucky to get a cyber boy to fumigate and navigate his a55 in return for 30 mins browsing time. 

Mu he he he he he



This NL na waya I swia.

Nna mheeeeeen. . . !!!

 

Laff wanno killy moi this morning o!


See missiles.


2 more hours to go. . . sleep dey catch me. Nothing to do.

This is the hottest one so far from ifyalways. Ify ina ekwuzi ka ima cantell ofuma. Chere ka cantell bata from Royal wedding ka ogwa gi okwu. Cantell the floor is yours.

ifyalways:

M-nmmeeeeeeeeeeeee I dey hide am before?

Abi the syphilis don take your eye?I wrote it myself that I can afford to curse crayfish heads like you as much as I want,any problems ?

See this thing oooh ,You work?In your dreams or what sort of fantasy is that?Since when did p1mping and male a55-licking become paid employment?Awo susukwe gi onu ebe ahu.

BUtthole Scavenger !

Owu nne gi bu Onye oshi amu.

Bianu,bia lee Otele m ka I racha,Udele Okija.Try now,bia kuru ishi otele m ka mmanwu tie gi na ahu na abalia.

Ozu,the world does not wake and sleep when your hamlet does.

Bad market don carry you comot from your usual gAy strip club waka round-a-bout ,Uchu na aru I metara ga egbu gi.

Ijiji zokwa ozu gi.

Gay strip club?? In Naija?? Lay off the keyboard ok? Your insults are way too lame and childish. You keep repeating yourself and it makes you dumber than you are. You have to do better than that.
You're trying to keep up but you're no match for me not even by a long shot.
A word of advice - don't start what you cannot finish.
So long.