Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Nobody: 5:51pm On May 05, 2021 |
B |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by SodO9: 5:51pm On May 05, 2021 |
Seeking public intervention is a sign of weakness 2 Likes |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by hedonido: 5:51pm On May 05, 2021 |
Oya. |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Ahmed0336(m): 5:51pm On May 05, 2021 |
Nope |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Iseoluwani: 5:52pm On May 05, 2021 |
WhiteRuler: ).
Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.
. Is this your definition of success. Until u change your mentality, you will always hate yourself. Get to love urself 1 Like |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by meobizy(f): 5:52pm On May 05, 2021 |
What happened to your main account? |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Kelvin30286063(m): 5:52pm On May 05, 2021 |
Lol... |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by pius4luv(m): 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
Just be patient God will change your story soon and keep on praying 2 Likes 1 Share
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Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by wwwtortoise(m): 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
![cry](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cry.gif) Abraham became a first time father at the age of 86. Moses married for the first time at 40. Joshua was 59 when he succeeded Moses. Daniel was 70 when he survived King Darius’ lion’s den. As long as you are alive, you are still eligible for success. Draw closer to your maker in total submission and prayer. 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by KazikageSama: 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
You dey alive and you dey write all these? You deserve small slap my brother. ![cheesy](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/cheesy.png) |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by k777(m): 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
Do not lose hope!
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Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by FarahAideed: 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
Don't stress yourself, 99 percent of human beings will end up failures financially 1 Like |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by feezay86: 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
Congratulations for you are alive...... have a strong relationship with God and lay all before him, God will change your story for good, to the envy of all.
Keep faith.
NB: keep working hard in any legitimate field you choose. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by IbrahimSkiba(f): 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
Im coming 1 Like |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Epistasis(m): 5:53pm On May 05, 2021 |
You are never a failure. There's time for everyone, just don't look down on yourself. Everything will fall in place soonest. 1 Like |
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Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Worksunlimited: 5:54pm On May 05, 2021 |
WhiteRuler: First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.
Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.
I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).
Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.
Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.
My questions: Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.
Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks. First of all, change your mindset.. 2. Speak positivity to yourself. 3. Remove that notion that no one can employ you at 33.. I got my first gainfully employed job at around 30, the pay wasn't great but it kept body and soul together.. people younger and my mates were balling heavily at the time, I shook the thought of comparing myself with them, soon as I felt it creeping up on me, I worked on myself day in day out, made mistakes, I dusted myself up and kept on grinding.. I worked hard on myself and few years down the line, guess what? I am still working on myself. 4. Work on yourself. Easier said than done but a day at a time will move you closer to your goal. 5. Keep applying for jobs. 6. Change your circle of friends, to more positive oriented people. 7. Stop comparing yourself with others.. everybody get em own destined race to run. 8. You aren't a failure. 9. Don't give up. 13 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by sofeo(m): 5:54pm On May 05, 2021 |
THERE'S STILL HOPE FOR YOU BRO, BELIEVE ME
GO TO MOST FED. UNIVERSITIES AND ASK THE LECTURERS AND PROFESSORS HOW THEY STARTED. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Nobody: 5:55pm On May 05, 2021 |
If I give you 500million Naira now will you call yourself a failure, won't you turn to a motivational speaker overnight.... Failure is a mindset , as long as you are alive , opportunities keeps coming like buses, just pray you are in the right place at the right time with the right resource (money, capacity, strategy e.t.c) to execute... 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Babafash(m): 5:55pm On May 05, 2021 |
My guy everybody has their own time in life. Dont ever think or believe u are a failure coz as a man thinketh in his heart so is he. Stay focus your time will come 2 Likes |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Elidrisy20: 5:55pm On May 05, 2021 |
You no do NYSC? |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by neyohh: 5:55pm On May 05, 2021 |
Find a way to get out of Nigeria. Apply for a graduate course abroad, find someone to borrow you their statement of account as prove.
Japa. 2 Likes |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by XDaBOSS(m): 5:56pm On May 05, 2021 |
Nawa ooo |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Demmama7(m): 5:56pm On May 05, 2021 |
D 12 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Pwashiks(m): 5:56pm On May 05, 2021 |
Thank God say u get android phone for this economy sef ![grin](https://www.nairaland.com/faces/grin.png) . Bros, my advice is never quit until it's over (I mean death). It's never too late 2 achieve something, just trust in God and keep trying hard. One day e go pay. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by babadee1(m): 5:56pm On May 05, 2021 |
WhiteRuler: First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.
Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.
I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).
Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.
Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.
My questions: Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.
Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks. I didn't read your write up. But I think it's extremely important that I let you know this. Any man who can expose himself for other people especially strangers to rate whether he is a failure or not is automatically a failure for doing so. Determine to be your own man and to hell with the approval of others. Peace be with you. 8 Likes |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by testimony1089(m): 5:57pm On May 05, 2021 |
A day is coming that u will be thanking God for all u have passed tru if u stop letting age define ur life and u keep on knocking the door of success... 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by melodyogonna(m): 5:57pm On May 05, 2021 |
I think you should go see a therapist. You might be slowly sliding into depression 1 Like |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by Sosqui: 5:57pm On May 05, 2021 |
WhiteRuler: First of all, apologies for any errors you may come across as I am not at the right frame of mind now.
Secondly, this post is 100% real about my life. So nothing is fake in it.
I'm a man, precisely 33 years old. I graduated from the University in 2019 at age 31. You may ask why I was still in school till that age. Well, I have realized that family/parental background matters a lot in a child's life no matter how people try to twist the fact. My family/parental background wasn't a good one educationally and financially as my parents were just petty traders and this has contributed negatively in achieving my goals and aspirations in life. With the above, you can deduce that there was no sources of funding for my tertiary education so I had to find a job after my secondary school while very ambitious about my furthering my education because I always believed in acquiring education up to university level. This led me to doing several odd jobs such as construction site labourer, security guard, cleaning, barbing, hawking, even to remove soak away and many others just to feed and see myself through school. Let me also add that @33 now, there are some jobs I can't do again because of some changes in my health system occasioned by some of the odd jobs I exposed myself to. For example, any strenuous job now is not for me as it makes me breath heavily like an asthmatic patient; any job that requires standing for long or bending down not for me due to broken waist (although these might be solvable issues but for now, I can't tell cos I have no money to visit health facility).
Moving on, while I may be thanking God for the academic success (even though the school is yet to issue me certificate) but I'm having strong feelings about myself. I feel like I have failed in life. I feel like I am a failure. My mates who got admission into university immediately after secondary school are gainfully employed today, living in comfortable apartment (built or rented), married with kids, have their own car and generally doing well. Even the ones who didn't further but venture into learning trade are doing well too. On the other hand, at 33, I have virtually nothing to show for it. Still living in one thatch house, poor, hungry and starving, no wife, no kid(s) (not even a serious girlfriend), no job, no car and nothing to show for my 33 years on earth. This is why I'm feeling like I have failed in life and it has made me to always be ashamed of myself and always trying to avoid meeting my mates who are doing well.
Also, looking at the country Nigeria, most employers recruit under 30. @33, what are my chances of landing a good job if I refuse to forge age and go for service but collect exemption letter? What are even the possibility of getting a job as I have no capital for business? Note: between 2019 and now, I've learnt several online money making skills but yet to make a kobo out of it all. Note also: ordinarily, I wouldn't seek employment (private or government) because I'm multi talented e.g in football, entertainment or business but these talents need money to develop which is what I'm lacking.
My questions: Please what do you all think? Do you think I have failed or I'm a failure in life? What is the future holding for me? As at today, the only thing I can boast of is "I am a graduate". Nothing more...like I said, poor, hungry and starving.
Help me with good pieces of advice please before my mind begins to consider evil as fastest way of making money. Thanks. You are not a failure. Just focus on your strength and look at the business angle. Don't wait for paid employment. Just as you focused to graduate, also focus to build a business empire. God is your strength, Amen 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by NwaIgboBoy(m): 5:57pm On May 05, 2021 |
My brother you are not a failure, rather Buhari is ! |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by BornToSucced(m): 5:58pm On May 05, 2021 |
My brother, our journey in life is different and so is our path. You’re a great man for simply rising above your family background and ensuring that you are a graduate against all odds.
Work hard Have faith in God Don’t let your circumstance define you. Don’t be ashamed of your journey, it would inspire others. Keep hope alive.
You’re better than those doing crime to survive.
Once again, you’re not a failure and don’t ever see yourself as a failure, even in your weakest moment. 3 Likes |
Re: Am I A Failure? Please Rate Me. by seyigiggle: 5:58pm On May 05, 2021 |
no be the hour wey dem take refine gold, naim dem take refine groundnut. 3 Likes |