OnlyDeCapPlease:


I doesn't mean you cannot be holding something while you're working towards your goal. Bodi nobi wood

Bodi no bi wood, there are options to hold oneself.


It's better to avoid unnecessary complications.

Hassanmaye:

How can you live in old age when all your family members are married and they too are old WHO Will take Care of you??

Then I'll adopt a child

bigpicture001:


Debra would you marry ur family when the timw comes...?

I know your one of those that places social economic standard like most girl on the type of guy u must meet...

Can you ever stand with a struggling, focused but currently broke guy that has his own plans..? The p is that u ladies want to choke the few guyz with money with attentiin to get them to love you people....you would be a very big liar if u say you dont know where to find love. You know, but u just preffered to look for it at places of choice....

Babe go outside your circles and look deeper, you will find genuine loving dedicated and loving men that are ready to die for ur love....

If you reply me, i will giv u a gist (true life story) of a lafy like you who saw love, paid the sacrifice nd got better for it...

You're very funny. One problem with we Nigerians is that we generalize everyone. See nobody says or does anything without no reason. I'm not that kind of chic. The first guy I dated had nothing,he had no job, in fact I spent more cos my family were giving me, i cant mention all I did for the guy, yet he cheated and he wasn't even my tribe. That was the first time I'll be in a relationship doing what a guy was meant to do for me,I wanted to be there through thick & thin, cos all I wanted was happiness and true love. So pls forget all these sermon, i'm talking from experience. Nobody is a saint these days. I used to love easily, in fact I fell in love with someone online, I've not even met him before but that one felt I fell for him cos he's staying overseas, I started giving him space. I'm from a comfortable home, the only time I became broke is during my nysc, i wanted to be independent, I didnt want to disturb my people. so a guy been rich or not, wasn't my problem, I wanted something genuine, irrespective of the fact that a lady loves to be spoilt with money, thats not my modus operandi. These relationship and marriage thing is overrated, Romance has gone wrong ,cheating is the other of the day, infact cheating is no longer a new thing, some brag with it cos they feel they're catching fun. I've got people asking me out but I'm still doing my proper check, if I'm not satisfied, I'll leave single, work towards my career, adopt a child of my own and train the child. Some humans are just created to spoil peoples joy &happiness, nobody deserves to be unhappy.

Eriokanmi:
Yea. Then, people nowadays have set a seemingly unachievable standard for themselves in view of what's obtainable in the present day world. Hardly would you see a man who would want to marry in a single room. Hardly would you also see a lady who would marry a guy who's struggling or managing in one room with shared toilets...whereas the billionaires and successful men and women of today started their lives this way after marriage. Some even married and managed in a friend's house before being buoyant enough to rent an apartment.

No jobs yet, those managing small salary job believe they can't survive with that, as if they created themselves in this world. They've forgotten the fact that God is always there to turn things around. I've referred to my case in various instances here in the past. I married in a room apartment with a leaked roof. Our kitchen was located outside the house . Today, all I can say is, thank God because there's nothing my peer can lay hands on, globally that I can't afford, except private jets but when the time is ripe and God says I'd acquire one, it will happen.

Youths of nowadays can't start from little...both male and female alike and that's why some of them take to fraud, rituals which many call yahoo plus. If you ask them whyare theyinto such illicit acts, they'd tell you there's no job but if you ask whether they could take up a 50k job, na insult you dey find. I started with 11k salary nearly 2 decades ago. My wife earned almost same amount and we saved and rented the one room apartment after which we got married. I've dined with pres Obama and other prominent figures globally. I remember a day I visited my friend who was a driver in Naira Pool, a pool company off Allen. The owner was very rich. I once heard his son say, he would never settle for anything less than 100k minimum as a fresh graduate as of that time. I just graduated as well. 100k that time is like 400k now. The last time I saw him, he was operating a small laundry outfit in Allen avenue. Things dabaru after their father died.
You don't have to keep up with the jonesis in life. Make do with what you have and all will be alright. Our marriage was low-key and we've achieved far more than what those whom I knew growing up, who had expensive wedding published in ovation. I wonder why Africans don't copy the oyinbos we always copy them wrongly and in the end , we find ourselves in a mess.

Immediately I finished reading this post, I concluded this can only be awelekiti. Why did you deactivate your old monicker? Anyways, welcome back

gpercuxionz:
Because they are all hypocrite

Yea because they think other decent people maybe as bad as them just pretending so they are obviously afraid to fall into someone like them why most of them go for street las las

The best thing is to face your study at your age.

YoungboyNBA:
I dey this list honestly speaking.

Abeg,if you hide your face you no go see person help you or dey with you,so I have to be honest.

I'm now interested in a relationship . I'm 22 from Niger Delta, any girl interested you can mention me with your contact details ASAP. I'm even ready to simp for you.

@smiliyB
We plentyyy oo and you're right on point. We want those that don't want us, that's life sha


@me
I want you and I'm sure that you want me. Good combo.

LagosInter:


I may not be a marriage aficionado but you just succeeded in citing or concentrating on only negative stuff.
It's akin to citing accident cases as a reason to not own a car or use one.

You have a point. But you too aren't comparing apples for apples here.

First, In a car (as a driver) You have an almost total control of events in the car. All human driving errors would be caused by you alone. Consequently you can avoid a lot (excluding the madness of other road users) by following all relevant driving rules YOURSELF.

On the other hand in marriage, it takes 2 to tango.
If you're putting in all the work /support to make things right and the other party isn't trying you're doomed. Both party have to be committed.
YOU CAN ultimately only control yourself.

God help us.

Cheers.

OgogoroFreak:
Decent people are boring... Life is too short.

Boring isn't bad.
Actually overstimulation fueled by social media & instant gratification has heightened our craving for excitement.

Most problems in the world would not be if people just sat still & maybe read a book.

Rounded boobs and assssss that’s all





I’ll move mountains for you.

Because decent people are just few

Good guys that are single in this time are mostly suffering and scared of going into relationships because what most of our ladies understand now is money. They will always cheat, nag, disrespectful, etc, just because there's another guy that offers more money not minding ur beautiful personality. No more faithfulness because everyone is trying to survive by all means sucking our moral values. U always think this one is different but time would prove u wrong. I really wish one day I find someone just like me, nothing more nothing less. It's tiring and confidence draining with what relationships are turning to....

Debra911:

You're very funny. One problem with we Nigerians is that we generalize everyone. See nobody says or does anything without no reason. I'm not that kind of chic. The first guy I dated had nothing,he had no job, in fact I spent more cos my family were giving me, i cant mention all I did for the guy, yet he cheated and he wasn't even my tribe. That was the first time I'll be in a relationship doing what a guy was meant to do for me,I wanted to be there through thick & thin, cos all I wanted was happiness and true love. So pls forget all these sermon, i'm talking from experience. Nobody is a saint these days. I used to love easily, in fact I fell in love with someone online, I've not even met him before but that one felt I fell for him cos he's staying overseas, I started giving him space. I'm from a comfortable home, the only time I became broke is during my nysc, i wanted to be independent, I didnt want to disturb my people. so a guy been rich or not, wasn't my problem, I wanted something genuine, irrespective of the fact that a lady loves to be spoilt with money, thats not my modus operandi. These relationship and marriage thing is overrated, Romance has gone wrong ,cheating is the other of the day, infact cheating is no longer a new thing, some brag with it cos they feel they're catching fun. I've got people asking me out but I'm still doing my proper check, if I'm not satisfied, I'll leave single, work towards my career, adopt a child of my own and train the child. Some humans are just created to spoil peoples joy &happiness, nobody deserves to be unhappy.

Like seriously, it's disheartening the way people now see unfaithfulness as normal thing. Sometimes I wonder if anything is wrong with me because of the way my friends attack me for being like this and still believe in faithful relationship because they believe it's not possible and my last relationship almost made me believe them. It's just a natural thing for me but believe me, it's tiring because cheating has been normalised. I'm really scared of ending up lik this because I can't settle for less...

YoungboyNBA:


I'm not talking about marriage Sir. I'm looking for a girl to date and I'm also planning my future. Being in a relationship doesn't mean I won't have time and focus for my job, work, business, academic or spiritual life pursuit.
If you get any daughter or sister, or maybe a friend or colleague, you fit still hook me up, as a brother.

Haha

aktolly54:
in your old age you will understand your mistake, find reasonable girl put for house and dey do your gf outside coded

That's what I want to hear, but what of if he adopt a child, honestly the way the world is now I dont think I Will marry, my only thinking is may be old age, I may need a helping hand which..

stanliwise:

Polygamy in this economy?
Have you priced pampas ?
Except you want your children to be almajiri beggars

Haha

Hassanmaye:

You are an introvert like us you are not alone

You are definitely right. I am an introvert.

lawrenzo007:


Hmmm...

I don't mind getting to know you

I don't mind you getting to know me either

Evolutionlove:


I didn't bother to read the garbage but I made sure I removed God from your gibberish as usual......

Oh, I guess you're one those who believe humans were formed from apes and apes surfaced from nowhere but same apes which had been in existence for centuries, which we still have around, had stopped becoming humans and humans too have stopped evolving further...

My advice, please leave us who believe in God alone and face your apes theory. The ends will definitely justify the means. Take care

What does Nigeria economy got to do with being single please?

obinna58:
I really want to get into relationship but due to Nigeria's current economy I dare not.

Loneliness sucks especially when you see people loving up but you can't.

stanliwise:

How many of 200 million people
Stop all this “some people” saying

Will there ever be a time where some people are not making money?

Thread says why are “many” decent people single. The next thing you said is polygamy

Thant's my oppinion...Why do you have problem with that?


Hold on to your own oppinion and let me hold to mine oga...one side!

patani:



Thant's my oppinion...Why do you have problem with that?


Hold on to your own oppinion and let me hold to mine oga...one side!

Na your forum abi?

Mtchewww

stanliwise:

Thumps up even though your moniker says otherwise

lol. Moniker is anything you just put to become anonymous. I'm a good guy in reality

Vision101:
@smiliyB
We plentyyy oo and you're right on point. We want those that don't want us, that's life sha


@me
I want you and I'm sure that you want me. Good combo.

Hahahaha you go fear nah

testimony1089:

Like seriously, it's disheartening the way people now see unfaithfulness as normal thing. Sometimes I wonder if anything is wrong with me because of the way my friends attack me for being like this and still believe in faithful relationship because they believe it's not possible and my last relationship almost made me believe them. It's just a natural thing for me but believe me, it's tiring because cheating has been normalised. I'm really scared of ending up lik this because I can't settle for less...

Please don't mind them, keep being you. The truth is that most of them even want to be like you but they find it difficult to.

stanliwise:
Na your forum abi?

Mtchewww

E be like say head dey pain you??

Ab ' o ni stroke ni?

They want perfect people like them, and again they're scared of been hurt.

calcal:
The best thing is to face your study at your age.

I'm not talking about marriage Sir. I'm looking for a girl to date and I'm also planning my future. Being in a relationship doesn't mean I won't have time and focus for my job, work, business, academic or spiritual life pursuit.
If you get any daughter or sister, or maybe a friend or colleague, you fit still hook me up, as a brother. cheesy

Debra911:

You're very funny. One problem with we Nigerians is that we generalize everyone. See nobody says or does anything without no reason. I'm not that kind of chic. The first guy I dated had nothing,he had no job, in fact I spent more cos my family were giving me, i cant mention all I did for the guy, yet he cheated and he wasn't even my tribe. That was the first time I'll be in a relationship doing what a guy was meant to do for me,I wanted to be there through thick & thin, cos all I wanted was happiness and true love. So pls forget all these sermon, i'm talking from experience. Nobody is a saint these days. I used to love easily, in fact I fell in love with someone online, I've not even met him before but that one felt I fell for him cos he's staying overseas, I started giving him space. I'm from a comfortable home, the only time I became broke is during my nysc, i wanted to be independent, I didnt want to disturb my people. so a guy been rich or not, wasn't my problem, I wanted something genuine, irrespective of the fact that a lady loves to be spoilt with money, thats not my modus operandi. These relationship and marriage thing is overrated, Romance has gone wrong ,cheating is the other of the day, infact cheating is no longer a new thing, some brag with it cos they feel they're catching fun. I've got people asking me out but I'm still doing my proper check, if I'm not satisfied, I'll leave single, work towards my career, adopt a child of my own and train the child. Some humans are just created to spoil peoples joy &happiness, nobody deserves to be unhappy.

With that your guy whom u tried to pull tru with..did u give him any "no sex till mrriage conditions" ...cuz good girls are fond of that and assume that a man is a wood hence he will cheat

bigpicture001:


With that your guy whom u tried to pull tru with..did u give him any "no sex till mrriage conditions" ...cuz good girls are fond of that and assume that a man is a wood hence he will cheat

Even if i had said no sex b4 marriage, so he wouldnt respect that wish,? after all i've done? If he cant respect my wish, then he should Bleep off, na by force to be in a relationship.

Debra911:

You're very funny. One problem with we Nigerians is that we generalize everyone. See nobody says or does anything without no reason. I'm not that kind of chic. The first guy I dated had nothing,he had no job, in fact I spent more cos my family were giving me, i cant mention all I did for the guy, yet he cheated and he wasn't even my tribe. That was the first time I'll be in a relationship doing what a guy was meant to do for me,I wanted to be there through thick & thin, cos all I wanted was happiness and true love. So pls forget all these sermon, i'm talking from experience. Nobody is a saint these days. I used to love easily, in fact I fell in love with someone online, I've not even met him before but that one felt I fell for him cos he's staying overseas, I started giving him space. I'm from a comfortable home, the only time I became broke is during my nysc, i wanted to be independent, I didnt want to disturb my people. so a guy been rich or not, wasn't my problem, I wanted something genuine, irrespective of the fact that a lady loves to be spoilt with money, thats not my modus operandi. These relationship and marriage thing is overrated, Romance has gone wrong ,cheating is the other of the day, infact cheating is no longer a new thing, some brag with it cos they feel they're catching fun. I've got people asking me out but I'm still doing my proper check, if I'm not satisfied, I'll leave single, work towards my career, adopt a child of my own and train the child. Some humans are just created to spoil peoples joy &happiness, nobody deserves to be unhappy.

Debra i have met a lady that talks like u...if u want i can giv u her number...she boast with all these your saying guyz are this guyz are that...no good guy anywhere,no tru love only cheats everywhere..sh refused to date anyone and like u said focuz on career...until we met....

Sh came out with lots of conditions..no sex till marriage, no visiting me at wee hours of night etc stupid stupid policies...because i love her brains and reasonings, and especially her slim obviously tall looks i agreed..the said girl started laff...and concluded i will run away in just 3months that guyz cant stay with those conditions...i dared her.

Ok..relationship started with her...am not a too much sex craving guy..i had a problem...i no get money..buy with lots of ambitions and certifications...wen its past two years..with no single cheating,sex, or fight or quarel sh was amazed and the time came for me to try to grow a biz ..that is grow financially, the said girl who now has plenty money from where sh works..became jiltery to be of help. Sh will grudge and say its a guy dats suppose to help a girl nd not the other way round....when i left her to out of anger sh wouldnt bring back the topic again...mind u,av yried almost all friends to no avail..she will always say go to bank na....

Eventually after much pressure on her.sh did help me albeit grudginly...do u know what? She ended the two and half years relationship on the ground of her percieved inapprioproate
Contributions to grow a man...she saw wot the biz is about how i invested the money in it...but she quitted...

I beeged this girl for the nest two months, and sh refused to come back till this day..now on her watsap.sh is out again looking for a patner..now if u would agree with me..what do ladies really want.. They want to have everything at the platter of gold..now the huzle gives me about 6digits earnings....

You see ,u dont blame me when i tell you ladies dont even know what they eant aside a guy who have money,they can disguise this need in variius forms,but bottom.line is its same thing they seek...u guys never see anything..be forcing urself on the few who are rich ,them go kill una with cheting and disregard.....

I am not saying ur experience is a lie, but u attached unachievable conditions to ur man.....u good girls are troublesome..looking at ur post,i know ur a good girl

Debra911:

Even if i had said no sex b4 marriage, so he wouldnt respect that wish,? after all i've done? If he cant respect my wish, then he should Bleep off, na by force to be in a relationship.

Is it now clear to you that i know you even from an opaque far away faceless forum...ladies are the same thing everywhere....

Just continue to endure till u meet ur puppet. You people dont know what you really want.

Will u be shocked to know that you can never be comitted to that guy even if he does everything u ever wanted in this life...you will stand by him till yoy meet a better person and then u will apologize and leave him..ladies are wired to ONLY be commited to a man after sex with him...no matter how she thinks she is commited..she is always at the door.. She will leave at the slightest provocation or whenever she sees a better man..

Know it debra..that all humans are grouped into differnt behaviours..nomatter how differnt u tink you are there are crowds of people begaving like you..just that you dont know them..and science has come to study large amount of diverse humans and grouo their behiours as a group..so dont think you are special in character..

I cn go aheaf and tell you alot of things on how you see life,patnership, achievement, etc..its not cuz i know you,but i could figure u out in a group of hman behaviour....

Just continue to try oyt in relationship..i know how it will end for u..and what ecactly will haooen in ur marriage..i dont wantbto sound like a God..but live out the life...wish could write it out and show u now so read them when they alk happen...

Good luck