I happy say I never marry.Make I die alone.

FAKE STORY as usual,1 month and she parked.

MummyD2020:


Are u married? Just a question

Yes I am. I have a better wife than you would ever be.

AutoChick4U:
You think all old marriages are rosy? It take deep understanding to have a woman who wont frustrate ur life when you broke

Well when you make money, it is good to let go of the all frustrations i.e the noisy generator set, hanging laptop and nagging wife. This life na just once.

Ishilove:
LIES. She left with 5 kids because of allowance? How will she cater for 5 children alone?

It's good to read and comprehend before typing, Looked again to see where OP said the wife left with five kids, to no avail. Don't allow emotions to go with your fingers, allow comprehensive skills to prevail always.

Lovely!

chatinent:
Hello,

First, I don't support the way she left. Marriage should not be all honey and darling when the going is good.

You guys didn't have any outstanding issue apart from the money thing? No quarrel ...no beating?

If that's the case, I think you should call her mobile phone.

I think you should try to meet her and discuss issues together.

Crowdfunding for public advice may not be too good sha. Awon redpills are coming to tell you to take in another woman.


Wouldn't another woman leave too if it is unbearable?

You don't need to be a redpill. You need to be an alpha gentleman. You need to know your responsibilities as though they were your body parts.

I must say... I hate it when families know husband and wife are having an issue.

We shouldn't listen to our family sometimes.

Check: they are all concentrating on the woman but none of them is telling you be more responsible. Of course, they'll support you with words. Will words help you take care of your family?

When I mean trying your best, I mean living up to the expectations of being a man; it is your responsibility to take care of your family! You don't bear children more than you can take care of.

You may rightly argue differently that you work hard. Sure, you do. But you aren't working harder enough for the family. You need to man up.

Bring your wife back.

Be the husband you'd want your daughter to have.

Be like the man who was sent to the lions to be eaten but came back leading the pride.

Please don't forget to buzz me when she is back make I come chop nkwobi biko.

You are welcome.

Richy4:



OP might be better than you in all ramifications... Assuming he didn't decide to wash his dirty laundry in public, who are u to call him lazy?

If being busy makes people rich, the wheelbarrow pushers would have been kings...

I will never get along with your type.. claiming religious but very dark at heart.. making Christianity look bad... Nonsense

God bless you

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

You’re a mumu person

She was very wrong and hope u @ telling us d truth and no beating inbolved in ur disagreement. For peace all u need is to call her to enquire why she left may be dere is another reason she did not tell you and u can take it up from dere only if she haa genuine reason dat warrant an apology if not just focus on ur life and ur kids 4 now. For her parent to have accepted her back home without calling u to know what happen shows d kind of family they are.. My brother ur life's matter

God bless you for this. Please don't get bitter. If you have five kids with an unemployed wife, it is a big challenge. Sometimes you might just have to do something radical. Don't rest on only looking for a white collar job if chances are becoming dim. Get a sales job in commission and work like your life depends on it because it does.
Losing a job should now be the new normal. We are in the midst of a shrinking economy and the likelihood of job loss is a reality. If she is not whoring around praise God for that. Her family would soon asking her to bring something to the table. Temptations are rife and just be a man and do something. I pray for you to find your feet. Oya, go do something and stop whining in this space.

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If you were not at home when she left, Traditionally, you have to go and ask her why she left... This is just to fulfill all righteousness.. Do it without wasting time.. if she said she wasn't coming back, thank them and leave..do not beg her... Don't make her do what was against her wish...

Take the three kids to your family if U can't look after them.. look for a job with determination, Try your best to take care of your children.. please also remember the ones she took with her... They are also your kids...

Forget about anything on skirts at the moment and focus on finding a job.. if she wants to come back in future and u will allow it okay, if not, just stay focused in training your kids....

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Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

The Bible says if anyone so it must not be the man alone thank you.

Neddstark:


Yes I am. I have a better wife than you would ever be.

I just asked a question. Same goes between your sorry ass and my hubby.

MummyD2020:


I just asked a question. Same goes between your sorry ass and my hubby.

Nigga is a simp. If you leave cos of finances, he'll come back begging. That is a weak man. If every Nigerian soldier were like him Boko Haram would have conquered Abuja

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s] Rubbish in the form of ignorance

Go finish your chores.

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

You are overtly SICK.
You need a course of 9months of IV ANTIBIOTICS

quote author=Olivertwist1985 post=105852108]My wife which we have been married for the past thirteen (13) years and have five(5) children, four boys and girl for me ,just left my house on Sunday to her parent house without informed me.

She left because we have little disagreement about monthly food allowance which I used to give her every month but I failed to give her this month when she requested for

She left with the girl which is six months old and a boy two years and left three boys for me.

Please I need your advice, should I go and beg her or I should forget about her and continue with my life. According to my family members, they said I should forget about her because of the manner she left.

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Make money and she will come back �
She is just with bc of what you can provide just let him stay with her parents or come back on her own.

Oladeji245:

always dishing out stuvpid advice.
oponu akindanidani..
who tell u say if he beg her now and she come back ,if issue happen again she no go comot again?
so every time she comot make d man go dey beg?

no mind dat Mumu........him even say,redpill go tell you to take another woman.

If I happen to hear your wife's own part of the story it would most likely be contrary to what you wrote here.

Olivertwist1985:
I want to thank you all for your advice and comments.
I want to clear some issues that some people brought fort.

1.The issue of domestic violence does not arise between her and me.I don't beat or fight her.

2. When I was working I established business for her and the business is not doing bad.

3.iam not totally jobless, I have a handwork, that is solar energy installations, CCTV camera and dstv,startime and general satellites installation, I told her that I will be supporting whenever I get jobs but she said ,she need it in bulk as I normally used to give her whenever I received my salary at the end of the months

4.Another issue is that of bearing kids which I cannot take care of them,.Actually my wife didn't support family, when she gave birth to our third Child, i told her that we should embarked on family planning but she turned it down, citing that her mother did not do ,hence she can't do it as well.Even another issue that she complained when she reported the case to my pastor before she finally left,was that we sleeping on the same bed for about two weeks but I am seeing her like a log of wood but for me iam afraid of anything pregnancy because the loads are too much on me.

Thanks you all for your advices,
May God bless.

Men can get vasectomy. It’s a quick solution but you need to find the right doctor and spend the money. Having 5kids in this day and age is extremely silly. Encouraging your wife to be a jobless baby factory is also incredibly unwise

That is definition of women, men are made to cater for them once you are having issue regarding that bro you are in big problem, may Almighty God keep on providing for us. as for your condition now you need to talk to her and the reason why going to her parent house is not the best uption. make sure you are not aggresive, pray and add more effort to your hustle

Ammishaddai:
[s][/s] Oga shut the hell up!!! What do you know about a family...? So because he's out of a job his wife and the innocent children should starve abi...? Nonsense. Instead you telling him to get his lazy ass up to scrap around and hustle like a man, you're encouraging him to fold his hands here on Nairaland by looking for sympathy from people of his calibre . Nonsense. Later you'll say you're a man . Tueh !!!

Why do you even have five children in this economy?(nobody should chat shit about this opinion because the last two kids are not older than two years). In this age and time, one source of income is rarely enough to make one comfortable and now it’s just one source of income you want to use to feed seven mouths habaaa

Get your finances in order before you can have any sort of conversation with her. What she did isn’t justifiable totally but it’s totally understandable.

This is a good example of women marrying who they don’t love because of pressure. If she truly loved you she would never have done that.

Olivertwist1985:
My wife which we have been married for the past thirteen (13) years and have five(5) children, four boys and girl for me ,just left my house on Sunday to her parent house without informed me.

She left because we have little disagreement about monthly food allowance which I used to give her every month but I failed to give her this month when she requested for

She left with the girl which is six months old and a boy two years and left three boys for me.

Please I need your advice, should I go and beg her or I should forget about her and continue with my life. According to my family members, they said I should forget about her because of the manner she left.

Do what is best for you and the kids, you don't anyone's opinion on whether to plead to her or not as long as you know what's at stake here.

Bro..u want her to die abi?with plenty children you can not take care of,you could not even provide the basic(food), not to talk of the rest things that will make life more pleasant...u think when u give food, you have done it all...and I even sense pride in you...shld u beg or let her be? imagine..she don suffer for 13 yrs with u and she could not take it anymore,that's why she left.if na ur sister u go like am?
My advice, get a job, then go and beg her like your life depends on it.then try to give her more than bFre.u no get money..u d born plenty

royalfly:

See these women are something else.. my wife left cos I told her for three days not to use a Netflix login that belong to someone else.. someone she sent my apology to after she left the first time after I confronted her for taking from the family savings.. mind u.. she recorded my apology and sent it out claiming stupid reasons.. funny enough this time she went to my parents place.. her father even came to escort her out... I have had enough sometimes it's not about the man.. men a serious victims in marraiges but no one seems to see it or care... on no grounds should a woman that her bride price was fully paid should leave the house.. especially if her life is not in danger... in my own case I have been labeled alot of things... God u can't imagine..

It is not that we don't understand. Instead it is that we also know that with eyes wide open, many of you chose those particular women for yourselves knowing quite well their level of reasoning before committing to begin with. Way too many men go in to marriage believing a woman is some sort of dog you can "teach" new tricks to after she becomes a wife.... and when that fails, the men come running with hands up in the air as is something strange has happened to them. This when the handwriting has always been on the wall.

For instance, this man most likely knew his wife's ideas as far as family planning is concerned and did nothing on his end to cover for her lack. Only to attempt to dump the problem all on the woman. You can't sensibly do that and then expect the world to believe that it was all her fault now, do you?

You chose this person so you need to be willing to accommodate this person as their irrational ways of thinking same applies for women as well.

She left because she didn't love you.

Why did she leave Oga? You have not told us the real story. How many times did you batter her emotionally, maybe even physically because you can't handle your negative emotions? How many times did you transfer your self pity and negative aggression on her? A woman doesn't just leave because of missed 1 months feeding allowance. Be sincere with yourself and try to do better.

Ammishaddai:
Bros, the bible clearly says a man who can't provide for his home is worst than an infidel(1Timothy 5:8.). Mr man , why are you not providing for your home and wife ? Can you see you're the one using your own hand to destroy your house ...? If your wife leaves you for greener pastures, she'll be justified because you can't provide for her and the children . So better go and beg her and start looking for a fvcking job !!!

See as you open mouth waaaaaa....

That same Bible, bread was almost free in those days but in reality now....

So what happened to the woman also providing for the house, what happened to her having a job? or is she a baby making machine?
EVEN MACHINES DON'T COMPLAIN WHEN WORKING.