This guy is not satisfied. She can't go for master in another state with pregnancy now. Let her give birth and ask her for contributions if that is what is worrying you Sir.
Seem you were forced to marry her.

Note:- I am not married.

read the thread again

Foodqueen:
Have you ask her if she would like to start up a business.

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

You have to really do something serious like waking her up in the mid night and bring up other issues then slip this one in it.

Btw bro,can you please furnish us with your kind of work from home job,thanks.

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Dat yur wife go like sex well well ooooooo

Abio

i wonder why some still dey run after paper or or academic qualification
.the world is changing

i know school is not scam in other saner clines but as far as naija is concern school na scam

KiNg0G:


Your mumu noe be here.


With normal bsc, she'nor won work.

You still want force her to do masters make she carry the paper put for house.


You nor just get Sense at all

you want space so u can bring in ur sidechick abi....better go pay for hotel

Inbetween she dey enjoy naija woman mentality of the man providing while she just sit and give u sex/food/children. Full time housewife

peacettw:
She is currently pregnant and you want her to relocate to another state to continue her education, in this critical moment that she needs your support and love.

Why not wait till the baby is 6 months at the very least before telling her to embark on this exercise? Better still, find a school nearer home to make it easier for her to cope or register an online masters course for her

Critical? So the 100s of millions of pregnant women out there working nko? There own pregnancy no Critical abi? There own no need support and love that is why they are out there working abi?

Stop making up silly excuses for pregnant women. Pregnancy no be sickness.

Massiveglory:
What Efforts have u made to get her a job?
Has she gotten job offers and refused?
Does she have a business to manage?

Please Is it the responsibility of the husband to get his wife a job ? In reaction to your first paragraph and didn't you read where the OP said he had made efforts to set up a business for her without success ?

100%✓ House wife!!

Kobojunkie:
Critical? So the 100s of millions of pregnant women out there working nko? There own pregnancy no Critical abi? There own no need support and love that is why they are out there working abi?

She is going to another state and I bet he will want her to be visiting him often and on. How do you want her to go about all this 'in her critical state'?

Two days ago, I was lucky to get garri which I soaked and drank. Yesterday, I didn't ate at all. Today, I do not know my fate! Hunger is killing me, please help me.

I opened a thread, where I explained my ordeal, please read and help me https://www.nairaland.com/6847602/car-accident-rendered-me-useless

Please safe my life.

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

You are a disgrace to other responsible married men

amnesty7:
Someone taking care of your home, your meals and her pregnancy and you still think she is doing nothing?

Don't mind him..

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

Open a shop for her especially now that she's pregnant. More responsibilities More spending. It takes two to run a home these days. Even that masters in the east may not be good for her rn. Let her have the baby and shop. Nurture them together.

@Op. If she wants to be a house wife.

Don't force her

Open a shop for her or inquire about what she really wants to do

I even like this situation. She'd have time for my kids

Not this yahoo yahoo children you all are birthing in the name of working mother and working father.

peacettw:
She is going to another state and I bet he will want her to be visiting him often and on. How do you want her to go about this 'in her critical state'?

Going to what state? The Op dey tell you say she no wan go,you dey talk something else.

What critical state? No be pregnant women dey Waka all over the place. Why do you keep concluding that because she is pregnant, she is critical ?

That is an insult to women, you know?,

Saicrumam:
Honestly I de salute married people
I mean married men and women
You won't understand until u enta...

Some men see it as testament to manhood, that's why even your loved ones will want you to get married. But man there's more you won't see until u enta

Be you who, once married you've got to bear and bear...that's when one understands the word tolerance

My old paddy got married...
At first he was drunk, I no gree am hear word
Before I go cap one or two he will remind me he's married.

If something sup for area whey warrant settlement...before I go yan, my guy go make everyone know say he's a responsible man. If na woman matter then he's the one that understands women more

My guy de ma bunk like this...He left home unannounced since Tuesday.
Him never shee shomething

you nor go advice am to go back house ? Daddy duties are calling

Massiveglory:
What Efforts have u made to get her a job?
Has she gotten job offers and refused?
Does she have a business to manage?

You're not a smart person. With all he wrote you still couldn't deduce your answers?

neonly:




Dat yur wife go like sex well well ooooooo

This is all you know that's why you're batlting with attacks and poverty.

She doesn’t have to do the masters if she doesn’t want to. Try to give her something to do or ask her what she wants to do in Lagos.

Fredamanda:


Thanks! But I have tried my best all the interviews she has gone, none was successful and that is why I want her to pick that masters

Let me see your wife's picture before I make any comment.

NarcissistKing:


You're not a smart person. With all he wrote you still couldn't deduce your answers?

There is nothing wrong with this question.

olabrinks:
How do you expect her to do her masters when she’s pregnant? Are you alright?

Let am dey make stupid decision. She no use bsc work.. You wan go waste money for master that she will not use too.. Why not open a mini super market / pharmacy with that money for the family, while she manages it?

Let her do her masters in unilag instead of you letting her go to the east.
My one kobo.

amnesty7:
Someone taking care of your home, your meals and her pregnancy and you still think she is doing nothing?

Seriously??!!!!

rimijoshua:

There is nothing wrong with this question.

His answers are in the write-up already.

Fredamanda:
Please guys ignore the grammar, I need urgent advice because I am dying slowly towards my wife altitude.

I am a young guy working from home and I try all my best to make my wife happy always but there is one attitude in her which I am not comfortable with and I don't know how else to explain to her after I have tried so much for her to start up something.

She is a graduate with good result but she does not want to do anything rather she prefers staying at home maybe because I am working from home. My problem now is that she is pregnant and she got admission for her masters in one of the Eastern Universities while we live in lagos which she does not want to go and owning to the fact that she is not doing anything in the house and she is not working, I really want her to go for that masters and is causing big issues between two of us.

Please kindly advice me on what to do.

if you force her to go out, it will turn to cheating, just let her be

I think the timing for the studies is not quite right. She is pregnant, and studying with it will be lots of stress. Maybe give it some time. If she must school, it were better you consider school options closer to home to reduce the nightmare of commuting on Nigerian roads

Elporo:
Rubbish.

If I see this kain wife sef; me go happy. Not like this end time wives of these days.

So, should travel to the east for her masters; while you stay in Lagos? or will you go along as your job is flexible.

Congratulations on the baby, sha.

OP you are about to learn a very bitter lesson .. very bitter

Make she start work abi?

Work on your self esteem.

Allow her to put to bed first, when your baby clocks one year, it's either she gets a job, or you start a business for her, if you can afford it. If she refuses, you reduce the allowance you give to her.
I don't see any reason why any one should choose laziness over productivity.

Favfables1:


1. Na wa o... So a full grown adult would seat down at home all day, doing nothing but probably watching movies and then say there's no job and the husband is to blame for it ba?? Can't she go out and look for a job by herself?? Abi you're tryna to Blame her laziness on her husband?? And besides, if you read his post well, you'd see a place where he said he, he has tried for her to start up something but to no avail...

2. Has she tried and she didn't find any??

3. If she did, the husband wouldn't be complaining would he??

If her being pregnant is the reason for her not wanting to find a job, then it's understandable, cause pregnancy comes with is own wahala...but even as that, there are things she can do to make money even while at home...

Theonly places that advertise jobs are kiosks, mini marts, barbing salon, other smaller smes..
U can't see shell, nnpc, banks even civil service put advert notice on their entrance looking for people to employ.
Na online these agencies dey advertise their jobs.
And i know she is a graduate,unless u want her to go look for sale's girls job in a mini mart.