Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

Mynd44
Lalasiclala
Seun

This whóre again







cut her father off, na you all can see where her toxic nature towards men is coming from.

yes

everyone around me
because I don't want to hurt their feelings, I'm two-faced person.. I JUST PRETEND and PLAY ALONG.

Datboredberry:
Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

Datboredberry:
Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

Jesus, he only gave me false hope and lies

Yeah, my appendix (literally).

Datboredberry:
Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

actually, i have no one related to me to cut-off. . is like youse been hatinq on your pa lately. .

sorry if ya pa brought pains to ya family, buh my father too has abandon us for over 13 years, buh i dnt have a hatred on him. I believe he was not with his riqht mind.. Thank God he raise us frm sch. buh honestly it was my mum that did all the raising and supportin. Thou my father leave alone.

TeddyJammy:



actually, i have no one related to me to cut-off. . is like youse been hatinq on your pa lately. .

Why not? You're all alone?

I don't hate him anymore...

sorry if ya pa brought pains to ya family, buh my father too has abandon us for over 13 years, buh i dnt have a hatred on him.

I'm sorry... My dad was horrible... He poured petrol on me once, said if I were dead he would no longer be responsible for me... I was a kid.

Not to mention that he said I would be having sex with men when I'm 15 and they would take care of me...

Those were the nicest things!

Do you know how if feels to call your dad after he's abandoned you... At ten... And a prostitute picks up... Screaming at you... Because she seized the phone...

He was a degenerate scum... He and his messed up family...

But I'm not hating anymore... I did because I felt sad and different but I've accepted that he doesn't deserve love.

Sorry about your dad... And I appreciate your mum... It's sad most people judge single mothers without considering the deadbeat fathers...nor condemn their selfish actions...

I believe he was not with his riqht mind.. Thank God he raise us frm sch. buh honestly it was my mum that did all the raising and supportin. Thou my father leave alone.

It's hard to not love mothers... Their perseverance and strength...

I'm grateful to her for doing an amazing job...

Datboredberry:
Why not? You're all alone?

I don't hate him anymore...


I'm sorry... My dad was horrible... He poured petrol on me once, said if I were dead he would no longer be responsible for me... I was a kid.

Not to mention dat he said I would be having sex with men when I'm 15 and they would take care of me...

Those were d nicest things!

Do you know how if feels to call your dad after he's abandoned you... At ten... And a prostitute picks up... Screaming at you... Because she seized the phone...

He was a degenerate scum... He and his messed up family...

But I'm not hating anymore... I did because I felt sad and different but I've accepted that he doesn't deserve love.

Sorry abt ur dad... And I appreciate ur mum... It's sad most people judge single mothers without considering d deadbeat fathers...nor condemn their selfish actions...

It's hard to not love mothers... Their perseverance d strength

thanks, same goes to u.

Yup. We dated couple of years then we broke up. After sometimes we reconnected as friends with benefits. She is in school so i help her with most of her school work (most girls no get head for books again smh). I help with cash too.

Of late i she has been less and less attractive to me sexually. Not that she is ugly or something, the babe set well but somehow i don't get sexual vibes around her anymore.

Now the reason I cut her off is because she was trying to get us back to being officially lovers but since i am not giving into her sexual advances she started nagging life outa me. Again i run like 90% of her school work for her. Na to write exam for am remain.

I am a busy person and her school burden is one i am tired of shouldering. That's why i had to let her go as she brings nothing to the table. OK bye

9ja girls are out to add more burden to your life instead of softening it.

In mosdii voice: They are all useless..... All of them!

Datboredberry:
Why not? You're all alone?

I don't hate him anymore...


I'm sorry... My dad was horrible... He poured petrol on me once, said if I were dead he would no longer be responsible for me... I was a kid.

Not to mention that he said I would be having sex with men when I'm 15 and they would take care of me...

Those were the nicest things!

Do you know how if feels to call your dad after he's abandoned you... At ten... And a prostitute picks up... Screaming at you... Because she seized the phone...

He was a degenerate scum... He and his messed up family...

But I'm not hating anymore... I did because I felt sad and different but I've accepted that he doesn't deserve love.

Sorry about your dad... And I appreciate your mum... It's sad most people judge single mothers without considering the deadbeat fathers...nor condemn their selfish actions...

It's hard to not love mothers... Their perseverance and strength...

I'm grateful to her for doing an amazing job...

ANYONE WITH RESPONSIBLE DAD SHOULD KNOW THAT HE/SHE IS RESIDING WITH GOD IN HEAVEN..

BECAUSE IT'S A RARE GIFT.

I stopped taking things too personal.

Life is beautiful more than that

I'm a ghost.

helinues:
I stopped taking things too personal.
Life is beautiful more than that

seconded

TeddyJammy:



seconded

It doesn't make sense to allow once good friendship/relationship to end up in such bitter way

I have cut off many people mostly old friends. . . now these days when I notice toxic behaviors or jealousy in anyone be it a friend, colleague, neighbor , family. I try as much as possible to stay away from such people.

Datboredberry:
Why not? You're all alone?

I don't hate him anymore...


I'm sorry... My dad was horrible... He poured petrol on me once, said if I were dead he would no longer be responsible for me... I was a kid.

Not to mention that he said I would be having sex with men when I'm 15 and they would take care of me...

Those were the nicest things!

Do you know how if feels to call your dad after he's abandoned you... At ten... And a prostitute picks up... Screaming at you... Because she seized the phone...

He was a degenerate scum... He and his messed up family...

But I'm not hating anymore... I did because I felt sad and different but I've accepted that he doesn't deserve love.

Sorry about your dad... And I appreciate your mum... It's sad most people judge single mothers without considering the deadbeat fathers...nor condemn their selfish actions...

It's hard to not love mothers... Their perseverance and strength...

I'm grateful to her for doing an amazing job...

I have had similar experience. The truth is that, their are people(negative people) we just have to cut off from and there are people we just have to accept.

I don't cut off completely.
I only give distance in a way that reads out of site is out of mind

Datboredberry:
Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

Mynd44
Lalasiclala
Seun

Today we know your problem come from, you never have love of a father..Sorry

diogo23:

Today we know your problem come from, you never have love of a father..Sorry

What problem?

I absolutely love men... I'm sorry if I call out the stupidity of the young boys on this FORUM... Take it personal, that's your bizz...

Truvelisback:
I have had similar experience. The truth is that, their are people(negative people) we just have to cut off from and there are people we just have to accept.

I'm sorry...

Exactly! For own benefit... Afterall, life is short...

Datboredberry:
I'm sorry...

Exactly! For own benefit... Afterall, life is short...

Yea, not everyone would love u or treat u well. That's life. I'm an introvert. I rarely make friends. I'm that gentle type.

I'm sorry that you don't have a father figure in your life.
Don't be bitter against men, all men ain't like your father.

Datboredberry:
Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

Mynd44
Lalasiclala
Seun

Yes. I had to cut off my best friend when I realized that he was competing with me in life. He wants the things I aspire to get, just that he wants to get them first.
He doesn't want me to prosper more than him, I reckoned that if he cannot stop my growth, this yoruba boy will poison me one day. I had to sack him for good.

Ma guy na woman matter i won cutoff kpatakpata.

I've got goals set and i truly want to avoid any form of distraction.

Now na how i go puttam inna simple way way AbiGail no go feel bad about am. And she's a very nice somebody o. Bur very stubborn sha.

Datboredberry:
Is there a relative or friend that you had to cut-off? And the reason?

There's alot of people who would tell you that life's too short to distance yourself from others...that you should learn to move on from the past, forgive and forget... But that's all toxic positivity...

Most often, it's better... For our body, mind and soul... Blood ties alone aren't enough to pledge ourselves to those who aren't deserving of our affections and loyalty and trust.

Mine: my father, paternal relatives...

Any one you've deliberately let go off?

Mynd44
Lalasiclala
Seun

Same here. I had to stop communicating with him because he is a bachelor for life. I don't know how on earth my mother got herself involved with such a man. Honestly, I feel sorry for her.

My father doesn't give a damn about anybody. He only lives for fun and what little thing he does must be announced to everyone who cares to listen. He has brought so much problem and burden into our lives that I wish my mother had done the needful years back.

Datboredberry:
Why not? You're all alone?

I don't hate him anymore...


I'm sorry... My dad was horrible... He poured petrol on me once, said if I were dead he would no longer be responsible for me... I was a kid.

Not to mention that he said I would be having sex with men when I'm 15 and they would take care of me...

Those were the nicest things!

Do you know how if feels to call your dad after he's abandoned you... At ten... And a prostitute picks up... Screaming at you... Because she seized the phone...

He was a degenerate scum... He and his messed up family...

But I'm not hating anymore... I did because I felt sad and different but I've accepted that he doesn't deserve love.

Sorry about your dad... And I appreciate your mum... It's sad most people judge single mothers without considering the deadbeat fathers...nor condemn their selfish actions...

It's hard to not love mothers... Their perseverance and strength...

I'm grateful to her for doing an amazing job...

I really think you need to seek some sort of closure, and maybe therapy. You've really been through a lot, and at such a young age! I feel for you.

Datboredberry:
Why not? You're all alone?

I don't hate him anymore...


I'm sorry... My dad was horrible... He poured petrol on me once, said if I were dead he would no longer be responsible for me... I was a kid.

Not to mention that he said I would be having sex with men when I'm 15 and they would take care of me...

Those were the nicest things!

Do you know how if feels to call your dad after he's abandoned you... At ten... And a prostitute picks up... Screaming at you... Because she seized the phone...

He was a degenerate scum... He and his messed up family...

But I'm not hating anymore... I did because I felt sad and different but I've accepted that he doesn't deserve love.

Sorry about your dad... And I appreciate your mum... It's sad most people judge single mothers without considering the deadbeat fathers...nor condemn their selfish actions...

It's hard to not love mothers... Their perseverance and strength...

I'm grateful to her for doing an amazing job...

Don't mind people who are quick to judge you for cutting off your dad without wondering what your reasons were

I hope you get to see that not all men are like your dad. There are some genuinely good, loving, and caring men out there

Opeyemiextra:


Same here. I had to stop communicating with him because he is a bachelor for life. I don't know how on earth my mother got herself involved with such a man. Honestly, I feel sorry for her.

My father doesn't give a damn about anybody. He only lives for fun and what little thing he does must be announced to everyone who cares to listen. He has brought so much problem and burden into our lives that I wish my mother had done the needful years back.

I'm honestly sorry... My dad ran off...

Get rid of the negativity that's him... That's the only way to move on from the hurt...