Streetmalam:
Where have I gone wrong?
We are 3 sisters all orphan both mum and dad gone, I and my last born was brought up by grand ma.
At some point I realized that grandma is getting old I have grown up and able to hustle to support grandma so I moved to Lagos left behind my last born with grand ma and the one after me went to be with a family member in calaba.
Am 24, second 21 last is 19
I start hustling to help pay fees for that last born and at a point my second sister had to come to Lagos because I was able to get a place to stay with my guy so she came to be with my mother's brother that I was living with before. They only got her accommodation all other expenses are on me clothing, pocket money,skill aquisition fee and damages (tailoring) in short I was there like a mother just to make our life won't be as worst. After she graduated form learning she stayed back at her boss fashion design shop and don't get paid so I fought with her to look for a job with her skills at start doing at least it may either be a daily, weekly or monthly payment but something will be coming in for her too in order to reduce my expenses on her and fortunately WE got one 50k per month at the age 21 isn't it enough? At first I got pregnant for my guy and I told my sister she acted like it's non of her business and never congrats me or my guy.
I was into POS and after 6months in her employment my employee made a way with my money worth 350k and I got broke.
And my guy just left his old job for a new one and things where not really in line for me and my I looked around to see if I can get help or loan to restart my business but all efforts falls in vain so I turn to my own blood sis to request 50k to add to my capacity to start up with something she turned me down saying she didn't have anything to afford after 6month of 50k per month and ever since then she refused to pick my calls even with the intentions calling to know how she's doing she desists from picking my calls.

Your opinion pls
I didn't offend her in anyways and I have asked her on several meetings to know what her problem is but she always says nothing to me.

Streetmalam:
And my guy just left his old job for a new one and things where not really in line for me and my I looked around to see if I can get help or loan to restart my business but all efforts falls in vain so I turn to my own blood sis to request 50k to add to my capacity to start up with something she turned me down saying she didn't have anything to afford after 6month of 50k per month and ever since then she refused to pick my calls even with the intentions calling to know how she's doing she desists from picking my calls.

Your opinion pls
I didn't offend her in anyways and I have asked her on several meetings to know what her problem is but she always says nothing to me.

Kobojunkie:
I don't think your sister abandoned you. She probably just does not want you putting your burdens on her and for good reason.

You choosing to get pregnant without first having adequate savings to handle your emergencies is your problem and headache. She probably does not even see why you would do such a thing when you all have no one to fall back on. I say you work on resolving your issue between you and your boyfriend. you always try to sound Educated or Exposed on this forum but you always End up sounding silly and petty!!

As for the issue your sister has with you. Somehow I suspect she does not approve of either your relationship or even your pregnancy. Ask her..

Animegirl:


Some people forget that life isn't bed of roses, at some point in our lives we need helping hands.

Even if your sister can't help but for the sake of the unborn child at least let her assist. I'm not saying she is obligated but I hope she as compassion on you.

But OP, the man who impregnated you should take responsibilities of everything concerning you, even though things are hard. Both of you should sort out plans na.

MrBrownJay1:
stop making plans on other people pockets...your sista said she aint got it, why dont you believe her, instead of thinking that she MUST help you by fire or by force...?! SOLUTION: focus on the main issue at hand and SORT YOUR LIFE OUT!

Kobojunkie:
I don't think your sister abandoned you. She probably just does not want you putting your burdens on her and for good reason.

You choosing to get pregnant without first having adequate savings to handle your emergencies is your problem and headache. She probably does not even see why you would do such a thing when you all have no one to fall back on. I say you work on resolving your issue between you and your boyfriend.

As for the issue your sister has with you. Somehow I suspect she does not approve of either your relationship or even your pregnancy. Ask her..

Streetmalam:
My sister is no other person to me.
This guy has been the source of my being able to care for my sister while on her skill aquisition.

Kobojunkie:
I don't think your sister abandoned you. She probably just does not want you putting your burdens on her and for good reason.

You choosing to get pregnant without first having adequate savings to handle your emergencies is your problem and headache. She probably does not even see why you would do such a thing when you all have no one to fall back on. I say you work on resolving your issue between you and your boyfriend.

As for the issue your sister has with you. Somehow I suspect she does not approve of either your relationship or even your pregnancy. Ask her..

Streetmalam:
I doubt because she already has a guy she is dating and she never allowed me to know that guy still date.

Streetmalam:
What options does an orphan with out family help has? And this guy is everything a lady would want from a man.

baby124:
I know it hurts but just let her be. Why don’t you acquire a skill of your own on the side now that you have the time? You did your best for your sis to land on her feet but you don’t know what she’s struggling with. When people are working hard and earning they make plans for their money you know. You can’t come from no where and suddenly put your burdens on them. 50k is not really so much in a place like Lagos. She may not know how to say no because, you think she owes you. Give her time.

6months of working for 50k dos not mean she has 300k. Won’t she survive? Her expenses may cut the cash she has down to like 150k or even less. I hope you know? That is even if they are paying her full salary. Give her time to land on her feet dear. It’s only you and her other sibling she has in this world.

Also try to ensure your boyfriend does right by you, like marriage. Your other sibling, try to help that one too to get a skill. I know it’s a thankless job and yoU are feeling used by this sibling but trust me, you are doing the best thing. In future you really don’t want them as responsibilities on your head. God bless and reward you my dear. You have tried for a 24yr old.

Get your skill, start working and send yourself to school. You seem very smart, many people older than you cannot even accomplish what you have at 24, wow. You will be fine in life. This is nothing, don’t dwell on it, she will reach out to you soon. Work on improving yourself so you can better yourself.

Streetmalam:

You got all wrong.
I wasn't depending on her. Like I said in the write up, I only ask her once for money after then I have been trying to reach her to know about her well being she doesn't pick my calls any more get it, it isn't about money mainly

Streetmalam:

My sister is no other person to me.
This guy has been the source of my being able to care for my sister while on her skill aquisition.

Streetmalam:

You got all wrong.
I wasn't depending on her. Like I said in the write up, I only ask her once for money after then I have been trying to reach her to know about her well being she doesn't pick my calls any more get it, it isn't about money mainly

Kobojunkie:
Well, it isn't wrong to date a guy really. What could be a possible issue is your becoming a single mother.

Acidosis:
Lol. You're trying so hard to make her feel bad for relying on a guy/boyfriend for upkeep/sustenance.

Sorry, but that's the reality in Nigeria. Even the ones with parents need their boyfriends to provide.

MrBrownJay1:


so now for this above reason, you believe that your sister must bend over backwards and kill herself because of your issues?!

in life, NEVER EVER expect people to be you, they will always be THEMSELVES!!! i am sorry you had to learn the hard way, now stop wasting time expecting nonsense of others and SORT YOUR OWN LIFE OUT!

Streetmalam:

You are always in the wrong side side you seem never to under what it means to be ophan without family help just the three of us and grandma, I expect more from her than any other person because only me can do it all...this is it

Streetmalam:
Where have I gone wrong?
We are 3 sisters all orphan both mum and dad gone, I and my last born was brought up by grand ma.
At some point I realized that grandma is getting old I have grown up and able to hustle to support grandma so I moved to Lagos left behind my last born with grand ma and the one after me went to be with a family member in calaba.
Am 24, second 21 last is 19
I start hustling to help pay fees for that last born and at a point my second sister had to come to Lagos because I was able to get a place to stay with my guy so she came to be with my mother's brother that I was living with before. They only got her accommodation all other expenses are on me clothing, pocket money,skill aquisition fee and damages (tailoring) in short I was there like a mother just to make our life won't be as worst. After she graduated form learning she stayed back at her boss fashion design shop and don't get paid so I fought with her to look for a job with her skills at start doing at least it may either be a daily, weekly or monthly payment but something will be coming in for her too in order to reduce my expenses on her and fortunately WE got one 50k per month at the age 21 isn't it enough? At first I got pregnant for my guy and I told my sister she acted like it's non of her business and never congrats me or my guy.
I was into POS and after 6months in her employment my employee made a way with my money worth 350k and I got broke.
And my guy just left his old job for a new one and things where not really in line for me and my I looked around to see if I can get help or loan to restart my business but all efforts falls in vain so I turn to my own blood sis to request 50k to add to my capacity to start up with something she turned me down saying she didn't have anything to afford after 6month of 50k per month and ever since then she refused to pick my calls even with the intentions calling to know how she's doing she desists from picking my calls.

Your opinion pls
I didn't offend her in anyways and I have asked her on several meetings to know what her problem is but she always says nothing to me.

Streetmalam:
You are always in the wrong side side you seem never to under what it means to be ophan without family help just the three of us and grandma, I expect more from her than any other person because only me can do it all...this is it

bigjackass:
It's very possible that she doesn't have 50k to give you. Infact I don't expect her to have. Because 50k is a meagre salary and she has been working for just 6 months. It will take being extremely stingy to herself for a woman to have any savings on 50k salary. Feeding alone will consume more than 30k and that is with plenty management. Daily commuting, clothes, skin, hair, airtime and data, and so on.