obowunmi:

Flogging is necessary in very specific instances.

obowunmi:

Flogging is necessary in very specific instances.

jennykadry:

chaircover:

I beleive that if you over discipline,  the child can go the other way if the parent is not prepared to invest time in that child.

chaircover:

Ive seen that happen a lot of times. I think that they just become sensitized to the beatings and don't really care anymore.

My mum used to be the smacker and my dad never raised his hand but I tell you we had a lot more respect for our dad than our mum.

Why? . . . .because dad never smacked us, anytime we did wrong we felt that we had disappointed & failed him and we felt bad. He always got his change back complete and no inflated book lists

As for our mum we just chopped the cane jeje and went on to the next mischief. No wahala

chaircover:

Ive seen that happen a lot of times. I think that they just become sensitized to the beatings and don't really care anymore.

My mum used to be the smacker and my dad never raised his hand but I tell you we had a lot more respect for our dad than our mum.

Why? . . . .because dad never smacked us, anytime we did wrong we felt that we had disappointed & failed him and we felt bad. He always got his change back complete and no inflated book lists

As for our mum we just chopped the cane jeje and went on to the next mischief. No wahala

Awww. Seems most of us had moms for the beatings
My mum got the gist around when we were entering secondary school that beatings would not do. It became longggg lectures. To tell you the truth, i would have rather taken the beatings than the lecture. Unending string of words like say e no dey tire talk.

jennykadry:

^^ See you, I was having a little argument(on politics) with my mum when I visited naija late last year. This woman gave me the look and started one of her numerous sermon. . . . . ''Don't insult my intelligence woman, when did all this arguments start, are you arguing Nigerian politics with me living here in Nigeria? se'ori'e kpe gan?(don't know if I got the spelling right ) or you think you've grown so big I cannot twist your mouth abi? don't think I have abandoned the disciplinary part of me to old age. '' . I just looked at her and kept quiet jare. I no get time for her wahala

Funny how she scolds us in yoruba

Outstrip:

That was exactly the way it was in our home. My mom was a terrorist. I remember peeing on myself once when I heard her car pull in at the gate. It was totally unnessasary. I feared my mother but respected my father. A smile from him made my day. Even till today I do not want to dissapoint my dad. I always find it hard to say daddy you are wrong even though I am very outspoken. Aww. I love my dad. My mom n the other hand annoyed me the other day and I told her I would throw her out of my fathers house LMAO. It was over the phone so she could not slap me

chaircover:

LOL the funny thing is that even up until now if I stand too close to my mum when she is ranting, I might get a slap. The clever ones amongst us learnt a long time ago to stand out of the way. These soja women sef
But I still love her dearly & she is the best mama in the world

jennykadry:

^^ See you, I was having a little argument(on politics) with my mum when I visited naija late last year. This woman gave me the look and started one of her numerous sermon. . . . . ''Don't insult my intelligence woman, when did all this arguments start, are you arguing Nigerian politics with me living here in Nigeria? se'ori'e kpe gan?(don't know if I got the spelling right ) or you think you've grown so big I cannot twist your mouth abi? don't think I have abandoned the disciplinary part of me to old age. '' . I just looked at her and kept quiet jare. I no get time for her wahala

Funny how she scolds us in yoruba

iice:

Awww. Seems most of us had moms for the beatings
My mum got the gist around when we were entering secondary school that beatings would not do. It became longggg lectures. To tell you the truth, i would have rather taken the beatings than the lecture. Unending string of words like say e no dey tire talk.

vacancy2:



There are even private schools that beat children at least I know of [size=18pt]Chrisland[/size] and K.Kotun. Totally unnecessary and barbaric in my opinion. You don;t beat knowledge into a child. You nurture.

its ik:

@poster

it is possible to train a child without the cane. i agree  and am going to do dat to my own kids when i have them. but wont forget our own days, where we were flogged for every mistake you make.
we ought to remember this, that if you keep flogging a child to correct him and make him respect you. that child will grow up with that fear of the cane.then when he grows that u cant beat or flog him or her anylonger, the respect will not be there cos u have tought him how to fear the cane other than respecting u.
in essence, if a child makes mistakes, dont beat him always. learn to talk to him or her in that way they learn and love you too, but if u always beat them up they learn to fear you wiht out learning wat actually u want them to know about their wrong. wen they grow and the fear is no more , i bet u, u can control him or her. cos u instilled fear not discipline and correction.


thats my own opinion