Ladymogana:
Life taught me that all men are useless, that men are hypocrites, that men are not important to the world.

pansophist:


Dont be selfish. Hence I said you should be able to take care of them at the very least, thats the most basic. Even if your parents does not need your sustenance, it still doesn't release you from the obligation to rescue them from chaos.

It's a noble decision everyone must come in term with. Of course one can choose not to, it simply means they do not understand life. It's where the saying that "a wise man builds a tree he won't harvest from" originates from.

brainhack:
Regarding human relations - “Reciprocate Everything”.

You get love, give love. You get trust, give trust. You get time, effort, energy, gifts; give time, effort, energy, gifts. You get nothing, give nothing.

Reciprocate Everything

Ladymogana:
Life taught me that all men are useless, that men are hypocrites, that men are not important to the world.

JmyNigaa:




Just did that now Sir

BigDawsNet:



What about "Dads"

I don't wanna share any experience here but when you say Family.. nobody is leftout...

Sometime they don't do this things to hurt you purposely... but they really don't know how to shut the hell up which you the particular guy pay the price for their ignorance...

In my own side... I don't keep it away from them because they can hurt me directly... that's impossible...

But I don't trust them giving out my details to third parties that appear to be close to them...

May God help us all...

rhymesnoni:


Thats one attitude i so much detest from my dad too. small issue, he shares with all his Extended family members , Friends and anyone who care to know. sometime I just feel like acting irrational to him, but cause he's my father i can do nothing.

This has made me hate to associates with him, i hate to say this but that's the truth.

I don't know if this is how all dads behave, but I hate people who discuss Family issues outside.

Znation:
Hello Nairalanders,

What lesson has life taught you?

Is it what you've thought it is?

Is where you are today were you thought you would be by now?

" I remember growing up as a child, i thought life is just six years in primary school, six in secondary, the following year for jamb, next is to gain admission into the universty, spend another 4 or 5 years in the universty, look for job, get the money, build my house and buy the latest car in town, and then look for a wife.

But while growing up, i find out that life is not what i thought it is. Six years in secondary turned 8 years rather.

I know of my childhood friend who told me he would become a lawyer, but haven repeatedly written jamb for 5 times without a break through, he was force to start learning a mechanic work.

Sometimes, i ask myself; what is the purpose of living, why is living a life so difficult..

At this point in time, my lesson is that nothing good comes easy; and to be happy, you have to make others happy too.

Have a nice day

Lightway:


You're smart

Too smart

Gatekeepers:
Mine is deep ooo. Life has shown me that it's not of him that willeth or of him that runneth but of God that showeth mercy!

Upon all the things I did to girls, God still blessed me with a good woman in 2011. I will forever remain grateful to God!

wazzihu:
I use to give so much to people when they need help, even if they lie about it, cos I just have a good heart, I had some challenges in life and was financially down, people I used to help took off, no once assisted, thank God I was able to get back.
Since then, I have been very careful with what I do with my money, when you go broke no one will help.
Life has taught me that

Dreamswayne:
You are what you are and the world is what it is.
Change is constant.
No human is worth the sacrifice.

I've also learnt to set up my mind to take disappointments right on the chin...

BigDawsNet:


I don't want to believe all dads behave same way...

Youur story is very similar too mine...

But don't be upset with your pops...

I tried stopping mine but that wasn't the solution until I decided to always keep mute...
And keep things to myself only...

And that has been working for me pretty well...

CaveAdullam:
1. Women will do anything for money.

Lazarus's case and that of the rich man is even better, women will eat both the crumbs that falls from the table and allow the rich man's dog eat them too.

2. Men fear power + physical dominance. If you got one or both, your respect will heighten. And true on a large scale.

3. Children only keep shut when you stand by your decision and accompany it with a rod. Like women, they love going against boundaries assigned to them.

4. How far you will go in life is dependent on the available knowledge or information you have or able to access.

5. Nobody cares about you, but you still end up thinking about how others see you. Human evolutionary instinct wants to ensure that you're not going against the rules of the tribe.

6. Everyone desires to help and show love, but when the burden is placed upon them they run away. These are weak people, the spectators and critics that lacks good sense of judgement. They are accusers and mere talkers.

7. Born into a poor family, a poor nation and a poor background sets you up for monumental failure. Hence, religion becomes a comforter and escape mechanism because chances of success are ultra slim. So, anything you do in such situation to at least upgrade yourself should be seen as success even though it can't be categorized as the norm. You tried my friend.

8. With wealth, influence and power, you not only break the rules, you make the rules and break it as it pleases you.

9. There are no morally wealthy + powerful people. Every powerful and wealthy man plays unsuspicious immoral game behind closed doors. When caught they rationalize it to mean a virtuous act. Or, pretend nothing happened.

10. The poor desires to be rich, and when he is unable, he castigates the rich and calls wealth vanity. Refer to 7 above.

11. Nobody is coming to help you, the few that will do will only point the route to you, you must do the work for yourself, don't expect anybody to do it for you.

12. People are selfish with knowledge because they think once it goes viral they will lose their power. And this is true. It is then left for you as an individual to go down the rabbit hole and and pursue knowledge. Refer to 4 above.

13. Life is not guaranteed in the next hour, assume you'll die sooner and that may help you come up with productive ideas and walk towards it.

14. No big deal being happy or sad, life will definitely take different turns on you, just be prepared and conscious about it.

15. Family is key. Your friends cannot be compared to your genetic line. Though, some friends has proven to be brothers.

16. Respect everyone. Don't view anyone ignominously, as they might know what you don't and can help when you don't expect.

17. Be kind, but always make sure you pay everyone with their own coins. This will ensure they know that in life, nobody has the monopoly of being kind, frugal, arrogant or prideful. Only the wealthy has such opportunity. Refer to 8 above.

18. Stay focus, continue to try and progress. You may experience a breakthrough, but in the case that you didn't made a significant breakthrough, just know you tried.

19. Majority of humans has died and many will die without achieving their dreams. Take heart.

20. Use your money to take good care of yourself. But also know that being selfish is for a short time, when you die another will inherit all your possessions, and he may possibly be your enemy.

21. Do what makes you happy is an escape mechanism to please your indulgence and never makes you want to feel guilty about your reckless behaviors.

22. If there's a process follow it. If it is long be patient and follow, and same if short. The more you try to short circuit the process, the longer you stay there correcting what you ought to have done in the past.

22. Life doesn't go as planned, always ensure you have alternatives and fallback. Don't depend on mere hope, faith, wishful thinking and prayer. You are not different from other beings. So, don't think your case is special.

23. Respect is only given to the wealthy, high status and powerful because humans are myopic, they judge you by your cover. A poor wise man is an object of mockery to the masses. Refer to 1 above.

24. Suffering is part of every process, make
good use of it.

25. The majority of people that are announcing their helps are only trying to exploit you.

26. If there's something to lose or gain people will comply. Better to use incentives than appeal to emotion or force.

27. Only outliers help genuinely from their hearts. The majority will not help if they have nothing to gain from you. Refer to 26 above.

28. You are not in control, independence or democracy are words to make you feel in control. The government and the wealthy men are the people in control. Refer to 8 above.

29. The wrong side about religion is that its adherents take every allegories and metaphors as facts. Meanwhile, when lessons are extrapolated from these religious tales you will find out that man truly needs religion. Refer to 7 above.

30. You don't know yourself until you suffer lack or have abundance.

31. Experience is the best teacher; if you are advice against an act you'll continually regret not taking action. However, some experiences comes with painful scars. Be careful.

32. Everything you say or know is true. However, truth is what has proven itself repeatedly and not void of empiricism and reality.

Thanks.

The5DME:
I really do not subscribe to this idea of not disappointing one's parents by being successful. Our parents had their own lives, and it's not my fault some of them failed to make something out of their life. But I can't live with the expectation of making my parents happy. Let me live my life how I can, and if I'm successful with the way I lived; then so be it. This is just my own perspective sha.

rhymesnoni:



Maybe its old age, but my dad is just 54 fa. its painful.

Thonia69:
I find this interesting...