hectorblaz:

I have been dating this chic for like a month now, and I must confess that she's the best I've ever had. We are so compatible. And she's a walking example of my imaginations.

She told about it like 2 weeks ago but it sounded shallow. But last night when I asked her what was the greatest obstacle we had to overcome in order to get married, she said - RELIGION!

She said she was a Witness and that Witnesses don't marry outside. And that we shouldn't even think it cos it wont work. I have a lot to say but I cant even type it. I couldn't sleep last night. And am getting depressed right now.

I dont know what to do now cos I really, really, really love this chic. I really do need your advice. Can you guys help me?

If not that I have a higher calling and a vision I live for, I would have followed her to her church. But I just cant.

Can I get to convince or persuade her to join my RCCG church? Is it possible? Has it ever happened before?

Her whole family are Witnesses.

We are really in love with each other, though I think mine is deeper. But no one wants to let go of his or her beliefs to join the other person. If I switch, its as good as switching my destiny as well cos I need this pentecostal platform to fulfill my calling, and actualise my dream and visions.

Does anyone out there have any meaningful and workable advice for this dude, cos I would really, really love to get married to her.

coogar:



what's your business with what her family wants? as long as there's mutual love between you guys, her family has no bearing in it. if you truly love this girl, propose to her. . . let her deal with her family, and you can fold your hands and watch the drama unfold. if it gets too hot in the kitchen. . . elope with her, hire parents(i heard it's around $4 per head in oshodi) and do a grand wedding.

sexkillz:

All these stress for what na? Why cant he just free the girl? It's just one month o? What say you?

Mrs.guru:

To be very honest with you poster, a practising JW girl will never be happy to be with you in a marriage if you both have different beliefs. She may marry you now out of passion or infatuation but fews years down the line after the heat of passion has cooled off, physical attraction has reduced and stress of life in the world begin to set in, you'll start having problems because she'll start having feelings of emptiness and she'll feel guilty for not sticking with the congregation full time. She'll then open up to her family again and begin taking steps to practise her faith fully then confusing sets in for you as she'll also want your kids to follow her to the Kingdom hall.
Honestly it is a bad idea to marry a witness girl if you dont agree with their beliefs and way of life.

coogar:

this is one of the most idiotic posts i have read here. . . . .

you are the man(unless you wear sanitary towels) here for feck's sake. it means you can marry from any religion and by rights(especially in nigeria), your spouse must convert to your faith. as a man, i can marry a satan worshipper, a muslim, hindu, buddhist, etc. once we are hitched, she drops her religion and her father's last name to boot!

coogar:

what's your business with what her family wants? as long as there's mutual love between you guys, her family has no bearing in it. if you truly love this girl, propose to her. . . let her deal with her family, and you can fold your hands and watch the drama unfold. if it gets too hot in the kitchen. . . elope with her, hire parents(i heard it's around $4 per head in oshodi) and do a grand wedding.

MyJoe:

This is the 21st century. Besides, her convictions and spiritual inclinations do matter.

xpagnol:

[b]which dream and vision are u talking about while you have been Being Intimate without marriage and you still think the vision is still there for you. [/b]my dear brother please wake up to reality. and know what you want in this life and go for it. mine isnt just a religious vision nor mission but have stayed away from sex for the past 7 months just to avoid distraction and self pity.

when ever you are ready to marry and ask God to give you a wife, He shall always do that for u.

coogar:

21st century my purple Bottom! her spiritual inclinations end the moment i pay her bride-price. she became a witness because her parents were - if she had been born to muslim parents, she would be a muslim. this jehovah witness thingy was forced upon her and that ceremony ends the moment she leaves her father's house.

I have been dating this chic for like a month now, and I must confess that she's the best I've ever had. We are so compatible

She said she was a Witness and that Witnesses don't marry outside. And that we shouldn't even think it cos it wont work

We are really in love with each other, though I think mine is deeper. But no one wants to let go of his or her beliefs to join the other person. If I switch, [b]its as good as switching my destiny as well cos I need this pentecostal platform to fulfill my calling, and actualise my dream and visions.[/b]Does anyone out there have any meaningful and workable advice for this dude, cos I would really, really love to get married to her.

careytommy:

Jehovah witnesses aren't just a christian denomination.
THEY ARE A SECT
they are like the boko haram of christianity

cloud7:

MY BROTHER,A WHOLE LOTS OF THINGS IS WRONG IN MARRYING A WITNESS,FIRST AND FOREMOST,THE LADY IN QUESTION HAS NOT ACCEPTED YOUR MARRIAGE PROPOSAL.IN ANY CASE,U MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS FOR YOU TO MARRY HER.
BUT IF YOU MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS,BE READY TO FACE (SLAVERY) COS THERE ARE MANY THINGS THEY WILL NOT TELL YOU BEFORE JOINING THEM, FOR EXAMPLE,DENYING YOUR (REDEEMED) FAMILY,REJECTING JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR MEDIATOR, PARTICIPATING IN ANY KIND OF SPORTS,INABILITY TO ASPIRE TO HIGHER IN EDUCATION ETC
IF YOU FINALLY JOIN THEM,IT SOUNDS BIZARE BUT ITS TRUE,YOU MAY  NOT BE ABLE TO EAT SOME KIND OF MEAT,ESPECIALLY ROASTED BUSH MEAT,YOGURT ETC, AND THERE IS LIKELIHOOD OF YOU SUFFERING AMNESIA, WILL TELL YOU MANY OTHER SECRETS LATER   [/color]

I laugh and cry at the same time for you!. . . . . What a FALLACY!

jaidopor:

Interesting thread and very good contribution by Myjoe.

For those that actually research Jehovah witness believe, they will discover that the believe is shallow and not based on fact. ut why cant they leave?

First, most born -in are baptized at a very young age (10-15) before they reach adulthood. The moment you are baptized, you are bound to the religion for life. If you leave, you will be shun by other member and your family. Fear of judicial committee directed by unqualified elder and other stuff to keep the practicing jehovah witness in line. Those are some of the reason that people that are IN cant leave or are afraid to leave.

The few that have left are those that are ready to question their believe and put it to the test. Definitely, the believe never stand up to test of time.Witness that are not in Brooklyn or Bethel are usually refer to as dumb rank and file by those that work at their branch office because they refuse to think for themselves.

Everything depend on the lady. If she want to date you, she will leave her religion and follow you to wherever you go. If she is not ready to do this, please leave her quick quick

cloud7:

MY BROTHER,A WHOLE LOTS OF THINGS IS WRONG IN MARRYING A WITNESS,FIRST AND FOREMOST,THE LADY IN QUESTION HAS NOT ACCEPTED YOUR MARRIAGE PROPOSAL.IN ANY CASE,U MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS FOR YOU TO MARRY HER.
BUT IF YOU MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS,BE READY TO FACE (SLAVERY) COS THERE ARE MANY THINGS THEY WILL NOT TELL YOU BEFORE JOINING THEM, FOR EXAMPLE,DENYING YOUR (REDEEMED) FAMILY,REJECTING JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR MEDIATOR, PARTICIPATING IN ANY KIND OF SPORTS,INABILITY TO ASPIRE TO HIGHER IN EDUCATION ETC
IF YOU FINALLY JOIN THEM,IT SOUNDS BIZARE BUT ITS TRUE,YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO EAT SOME KIND OF MEAT,ESPECIALLY ROASTED BUSH MEAT,YOGURT ETC, AND THERE IS LIKELIHOOD OF YOU SUFFERING AMNESIA, WILL TELL YOU MANY OTHER SECRETS LATER [color=#000099][/color]

rabzy:

You say a whole lot of trash as if its the truth. You don't know them but you are posturing as if you do. Who are those afraid to leave, many left and they came back, most of those who are disciplined and shunned as you said still come back and a few don't, its a matter of choice. If you are a Jehovah's withness, you act like one, if you don't you are not. Whether  they are wrong or right is a different matter so just leave it. A lot of people have given their thots on the issue and so the its between the OP and the Lady. All these other ones you are talking about is not the issue at hand.

No mind am! Either you advise the guy o you go to the religion section, where you would find 1001 topics on JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES!

sexkillz:

No mind am! Either you advise the guy o you go to the religion section, where you would find 1001 topics on JEHOVAH'S WITNESSES!

cloud7:

MY BROTHER,A WHOLE LOTS OF THINGS IS WRONG IN MARRYING A WITNESS,FIRST AND FOREMOST,THE LADY IN QUESTION HAS NOT ACCEPTED YOUR MARRIAGE PROPOSAL.IN ANY CASE,U MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS FOR YOU TO MARRY HER.
BUT IF YOU MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS,BE READY TO FACE (SLAVERY) COS THERE ARE MANY THINGS THEY WILL NOT TELL YOU BEFORE JOINING THEM, FOR EXAMPLE,DENYING YOUR (REDEEMED) FAMILY,REJECTING JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR MEDIATOR, PARTICIPATING IN ANY KIND OF SPORTS,INABILITY TO ASPIRE TO HIGHER IN EDUCATION ETC
IF YOU FINALLY JOIN THEM,IT SOUNDS BIZARE BUT ITS TRUE,YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO EAT SOME KIND OF MEAT,ESPECIALLY ROASTED BUSH MEAT,YOGURT ETC, AND THERE IS LIKELIHOOD OF YOU SUFFERING AMNESIA, WILL TELL YOU MANY OTHER SECRETS LATER [color=#000099][/color]

gloriuss:

MR "Skillz" (I like this name better lol), u don vex abi?

quadrant4:

Please when next Jehovah witness knock on your doors kindly allow them to preach to you because they have the truth of God's word. You must also be humble enough to be teachable no pride here pls!

cloud7:

MY BROTHER,A WHOLE LOTS OF THINGS IS WRONG IN MARRYING A WITNESS,FIRST AND FOREMOST,THE LADY IN QUESTION HAS NOT ACCEPTED YOUR MARRIAGE PROPOSAL.IN ANY CASE,U MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS FOR YOU TO MARRY HER.
BUT IF YOU MUST JOIN JEHOVAH WITNESS,BE READY TO FACE (SLAVERY) COS THERE ARE MANY THINGS THEY WILL NOT TELL YOU BEFORE JOINING THEM, FOR EXAMPLE,DENYING YOUR (REDEEMED) FAMILY,REJECTING JESUS CHRIST AS YOUR MEDIATOR, PARTICIPATING IN ANY KIND OF SPORTS,INABILITY TO ASPIRE TO HIGHER IN EDUCATION ETC
IF YOU FINALLY JOIN THEM,IT SOUNDS BIZARE BUT ITS TRUE,YOU MAY NOT BE ABLE TO EAT SOME KIND OF MEAT,ESPECIALLY ROASTED BUSH MEAT,YOGURT ETC, AND THERE IS LIKELIHOOD OF YOU SUFFERING AMNESIA, WILL TELL YOU MANY OTHER SECRETS LATER [color=#000099][/color]