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| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by maclatunji: 4:09pm On Jul 30, 2012 |
Romance in Islam We have the romantic notion of love, meeting someone, falling in-love. Getting married and living happily ever after, sounds like a fairy tale, or a romance novel doesn't it? The reality is that we all buy into this concept, this is what we all desire out of our marital relationships. We expect the other party to make us live happily ever after. But the ultimate reality is that we should strive for Happily Ever Hereafter! There is no such thing as romance before marriage. That concept simply does not exist in islam. In fact it is this very behaviour which has a very negative impact on marriage, this deprives the marital relationship of the mercy and barakah (blessings) of Allah. Superficial and false means of succumbing to our base desire. Yes Allah has created human to love, however True-Love is the love Allah puts in the hearts of a man and women through the bonds of Nikaah. https://www.facebook.com/jannahtreasures   1 Like |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 10:26am On Jul 31, 2012 |
I heard muslem complaining about xtains sisters asking them to convert to xtainity b4 aby serious. The complain about intolerant but where we are with all this muslem sister making islam a condition for marriage. I suppose this is ok.:>:/ 1 Like |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by kokozain(m): 5:43am On Aug 02, 2012 |
I think d major fault is frm our parents had it been dey have make nikkah arrangement even before our BALAGA (maturity) all these issue might not even ensue in d first instance. Apology to d south (am a yoruba bt shcl in d north) dat is y i respect deir arrangement because dat is wat dey do no "karimi"(show off). Even on d day of nikkah dey made it simple has hw d holy prophet did it. So bro & sis pls let re-ajust on hw nikkah ought to be done not infatuation. Hw many broken homes do we hav nw compare to our parents time. Allahu Allam |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 9:43pm On Aug 02, 2012 |
kokozain: I think d major fault is frm our parents had it been dey have make nikkah arrangement even before our BALAGA (maturity) all these issue might not even ensue in d first instance.arranged marriages are not entirely good either and it is not the rule in Islam. So, no need blaming anyone for not engaging in it.Remember also that the consent of the people involved are to be sought before the marriage can be legal .
what does this mean??. You could just have given your advice without this comparison. The Northerners I know and what I have heard of their wedding ceremonies is far from simple. The bride price and all that goes with it is enough to keep a man running away.
Times are really changing. Am not sure though if it is for the worse |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by kokozain(m): 5:49am On Aug 03, 2012 |
@deol wedding arrangements was one of d most practised way of nikkah during d life of holy prophet(p.b.u.h) check how he got married to aisha d daughter of abubakr and hw he gave out fatimah to seyyidinah alli. On d south(west) issue we SPEND exhorbitantly on nikkah just to prove dat we are capable dat make some applicants like me still lookin unto GOD for marital bliss. While in d north deir nikkah started by arrangee if per chance dey (both d lady & bro) cant get along dey will quit and deir parents will still look for anoda person(s) till dey find deir suitors. Wat i mean is 70% of marriage is been coduct by deir parents. Now to d nikkah itself. Dey do it most on fridays. It will be announced after salatu subhi,jumah and asri on dat day. Pple will converge at d venue (some witout chairs to sit on while majority on d mat) and within 10mins dey ar done and u knw d funniest part of it some will share chewgum or sweet as deir menu den pple will leave for deir various homes. All dose dat u ar seeing doing extravagant things ar either not fully based there or they ar political office holders so dey will need to spend those stolen monies on something. Pls dont get me wrong islam does not against extravagancy of nikkah ALLAHU ALLAM |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by olawalebabs(m): 6:51am On Aug 03, 2012 |
Saying Hausa wedding is 'cheap' is misrepresentation of facts, if a man is not capable he dare not think of nikkah. Though the walimat aspect may not be as elaborate as that of the yorubas but the underG money the groom to be must have dish out is enough to re build River Niger bridge, Lol. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by sino(m): 11:44am On Aug 03, 2012 |
^^^are you serious? I was also of the opinion that their nikkah ceremonies are always cheap o xcept for the rich and political office holders o, wey i don dey dream of Hausa bride lol. I also learnt that the bride's parents provide housing or is it furniture and interior decor  Abeg how true is this o? |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by olawalebabs(m): 11:57am On Aug 03, 2012 |
As the groom to be, you provide all the furnitures, wardrobes for the bride. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by sino(m): 1:03pm On Aug 03, 2012 |
hmmm, so na misinformation i don dey carry up and down sef...perhaps its a culture to certain parts of the north and not the entire north. Well sha, most important is Allah provides for us (husbands-to-be), so as to take care of our household amin. 1 Like |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by kokozain(m): 1:09pm On Aug 03, 2012 |
olawalebabs: As the groom to be, you provide all the furnitures, wardrobes for the bride.sorry no u ar wrong as d groom to be what u need to provide is an empty room for her to pack her things in. Some will even come to deir husbands house(s) with all electronic gagdets,kitchen eqiupments,furniture etc dis is been practlised frm ilorin to where north stops pls confirm my statements ma salam |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by olawalebabs(m): 2:38pm On Aug 03, 2012 |
kokozain: sorry no u ar wrong as d groom to be what u need to provide is an empty room for her to pack her things in. Some will even come to deir husbands house(s) with all electronic gagdets,kitchen eqiupments,furniture etc dis is been practlised frm ilorin to where north stops pls confirm my statements ma salamYou cant use Ilorin as a case study, am born and brought up in the north and have a fair stay in Ilorin (My Tertiry education). On this issue, I am saying it as it is. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by kokozain(m): 5:40pm On Aug 03, 2012 |
olawalebabs:which part of d north? U no dere in north not everyone are core hausa we have kaje,birom,nupe, barba etc. Pls where do u stay in d north? Not dat am arguing wit u it might be where i stayed dat dey do things like dis. So back to Ilorin issue where do dey copy deir culture frm? am an indigene |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by olawalebabs(m): 6:45pm On Aug 03, 2012 |
I stay in Kaduna and frequent Kano. Schooled in Ilorin. You can see am all round a northerner, Lol. Where do you stay? |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by sino(m): 9:20pm On Aug 03, 2012 |
Me don confuse o. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by adeshina86: 5:00am On Aug 04, 2012 |
[quote author=deols] @deols, i also go wit ur qualities and specification, it suits my kind..... |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by kokozain(m): 9:46am On Aug 04, 2012 |
olawalebabs: I stay in Kaduna and frequent Kano. Schooled in Ilorin. You can see am all round a northerner, Lol. Where do you stay?i also stayed in kd(in deir mix) if u ar familiar wit kaduna city i stayed at tudunwada along anguar sunusi by PRP we ar d only yoruba den. Som of my frnds will makin jest of dat is beta will leave deir mix becos i resemble christian dey might yamutu intentionaly or mistakenly LOL And I schooled in nasarawa do busrt in to sokoto,zamfara,katsina,Kano sometimes |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by shrek4(m): 6:13pm On Aug 04, 2012 |
Asalam alaikum wa rahamatulaah wa barakaahtu.... Good to see this thread has been revived, everyone is doing very well, wish I could join the convo, but I am preoccupied.... Miss u guys tho Keep up d good work! Ma Salaam! PS: Can we have a BB Group??(Just a suggestion) |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by busar(m): 6:24pm On Aug 04, 2012 |
It z d rsponsbilty of d husband 2 provde evrytin in d house nt d wife and tins(provsions) r nt 2 b shared among d wife n d husband,islamically.salam alaykum,May Allah give us d bst of partner |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 6:56pm On Aug 04, 2012 |
How do i become Muslim? Advice needed |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 7:41pm On Aug 04, 2012 |
^ Hi royal... To become muslim, You have to first of all, believe in the absolute oneness of God and believe in the Muhammed( Peace and blessings be upon him) as his messenger & prophet, also you must believe that Jesus (Peace and blessings be upon him) is a messenger & prophet of God, not God or son of God. Once you believe that, you are essentially muslim, You just need to say the testimony of faith; It goes as follows: In English: “There is no true deity worthy of worship except God (Allah), and Muhammad is the Messenger (Prophet) of God.” In Arabic: “ Ashadu aLa ilaha illa Allah, wa Ashadu ana Muhammadur rasoolu Allah.” Once you say that with conviction, you are muslim..... Please ask any question.... |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 1:56am On Aug 05, 2012 |
tbaba1234: ^ Hi royal... To become muslim, You have to first of all, believe in the absolute oneness of God and believe in the Muhammed( Peace and blessings be upon him) as his messenger & prophet, also you must believe that Jesus (Peace and blessings be upon him) is a messenger & prophet of God, not God or son of God. Ok, but i have a question...If i believe in God.....and Muhammad...does that absolute oneness not suddenly become absolute 2ness? In English: “There is no true deity worthy of worship except God (Allah), and Muhammad is the Messenger (Prophet) of God.” Ok, but if there is only one true deity worthy of my worship(Allah) then why should i give a damn about his messenger? |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 2:11am On Aug 05, 2012 |
~Royal~: Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) was just a man; To become a muslim, It means you believe in Him as a messenger and servant of God... and therefore believe in the message he was given... Belief in all the messengers of God is an article of faith in Islam, You can not be a muslim if you do not believe in all the messengers, that include Abraham, Moses, Jesus and Muhammad.... They came with the same message of submission to the one creator. If you ido not believe this.. then you cannot be a muslim... I would suggest you study more about Islam first. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 2:15am On Aug 05, 2012 |
Ok, i have another question... This quote again In English: “There is no true deity worthy of worship except God (Allah), and Muhammad is the Messenger (Prophet) of God.” How come out of all the messengers only Muhammad is listed as worthy of worship? Why are the other messengers not worthy of worship...why just him? More importantly, why am i to worship a messenger in the first place, why not just worship god? The messenger is just a mailman But, i would really like to know, why only Muhammad of all the messengers is worthy of my worship with Allah. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by tbaba1234: 2:18am On Aug 05, 2012 |
Muhammad (Peace and Blessings of God be upon him) is not worshipped.... No muslim worships Muhammad Only God is worshipped.... You only testify to the fact that Muhammad was a messenger |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 2:20am On Aug 05, 2012 |
Ok, I see, Thank you my Muslim Brother. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 4:34am On Aug 05, 2012 |
@all, Royal is a troll, he doesn't actually have any interest in becoming a Muslim. Ignore him. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by olawalebabs(m): 5:17am On Aug 05, 2012 |
fellis: @all, Royal is a troll, he doesn't actually have any interest in becoming a Muslim.atleast he has been civil all along, let's accomodate him, who knows? |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by Nobody: 5:37am On Aug 05, 2012 |
olawalebabs: atleast he has been civil all along Has he? ~Royal~: |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by thirty(m): 6:34am On Aug 05, 2012 |
sino: hmmm, so na misinformation i don dey carry up and down sef...perhaps its a culture to certain parts of the north and not the entire north. Well sha, most important is Allah provides for us husbands to be so as to take care of our household amin.my sister, its only Allah that can provide. Remember to do Istiar prayer. He may be reach but not suitable. Allah alam. |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by sino(m): 8:55am On Aug 05, 2012 |
^i hv modified my post u quoted, i be guy o lol. No mind my grammer o  |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by olawalebabs(m): 9:04am On Aug 05, 2012 |
fellis:I never see the post you quoted, bad of him then |
| Re: Muslim Singles, Let Us Have A Talk by deols(f): 6:09pm On Aug 05, 2012 |
@Olawalebabs, sino and kokozain are right. The bride provides the furniture for her sitting room and bedroom. Like Busar said, we really should be concerned about the effects of all of these things. in Islam the groom should make the provisions except on occassions where he is not able to and a tradition that makes it compulsory on the bride should not be encouraged. waAllahu a'lam @bros Sino, na wa o..so because of furniture u wan go for hausa bride ehn? If it was for the beauty I for support u o..  |
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