leave the man alone ooo, if he does not want to leave u run, just don't continue with it, get a man, ur man

@Topic
What goes around, comes around. When you get married that's how some young thing will be all over your man !

@post

pls leave the man alone, na so e easy ,

abeg go on with ur life unless u are being carried away with all he is giving u today and just want to get ur part of the booty

he is going to pray hmmm , and wat ansa do u expect him to get.? NO.? !!!@@ Never, he will tell u God said YES GO AHEAD

Do u know the danger of polygamy and 2bd wife syndrome?? then escape for ur life. It wont and wull never help u. pls dear pray to God for your own.


GOD BLESS

@ Butternut

How far??

Hope all went well to the glory of GOD

GOD BLESS

Hey Sis,
Bail

Ask him to invite the first wife so you can all have a round table discussion,

AIDS is real!!!!

my dear, it is not the best in any form 2 a 2nd wife 2 any man. there r a lot of men (good) men out there that will be u all u want and u can keep 2 ur self and urself alone. so gurl, be patient and wait 4 ur own man. gluck!

Pls do not mind the man, he's only interested in seeing between ur two legs for action. Tell him to go home to make his wife beautiful.

Olu-Hak

Sweet-T, God bless you,

what goes around comes around, remember
that when you get married

Baby,

I am a man and to be candid, no matter all the money and love this guy is bestowing on you
it is not advisable for you to get married to him.

First, put yourself in the shoes of the first wife, how would you have taken it?
After which you must look at it from all angles?

Forget the money matter, forget all you think you can gain, and think about what you really wanted.

Don't force yourself in or out of a relationship, so that you will not live to regret it.

Well, to cap it all, we fellow nairalanders are behind 100% in whatever choice you take.

* Remember, we will always be here for you.

there are more than enuf single men around for u to choose from.so,take ur pick n stop trying to break another woman's marrige!!

I pity a poor man im today's world n wiv d ladies we.

do u what it if yes go ahead put i promise u that u will not bb the last becos de man will also come across another woman and also promise marriage.god help us.

Only the best is good enough for you.
Do not settle for less.

No first wife welcomes a second wife, except in rare cases of the second wife coming to help the first wife if she is no longer medically fit.

If the man no longer loves his first wife, he should not lure you into his troubled waters.

Do not be a partner in crime.

Many husbands use the "second wife" or "I will marry you" term to commit adultery.

Every home breaker is cursed.

@ poster Dont do it it   .When the domestic and  physical realities hit home (babies , money issues or guilt) and the novelty of 2nd wifey wears off,he will soon be out on the pull looking for another spring chicken.I am no saint myself    but i try to be realistic and stay one step ahead.Take your time to carefully consider what it is you want to do and the future consequences of your decision.

in da words of Dr Maya Angelou, ''love is many things,the one thing it's not is unsure.''
Honey you sound unsure 2 me, there's a reason ur questioning this thing,dat inner voice telling u not to do it, listen to it!

Poster, just run and give it up. I have this cousin whom is facing the same problem like you not 1 time but 2 times!!! The guy also promises her heaven and bla bla but look what he has done to her? He is just making use on herin the end of the day. First they were not making love at all ause he wants to make sure but than when he found out she is a virgin, he broke her virginity but still is with his wife. Anyways they broke up and now she is with another married man whom also promises her heaven. Bull crap! The way I see it, he is really making use on her. . . For everything.

Why would you want to be someone's concubine?

And you think the 1st woman would just open her hands and welcome you.
How sure are you that both the man and the wife are not planning to use you for some ritual? Imagine a man giving you things and not asking for sex, a nigerian man. Wetin make am follow you in the 1st place?
If you never hear of wetin married women fit do their husband mistresses that wants to end up as co-wives, go to port harcourt.

He says we must pray about it so God can help everyone to undurstand.

craze dey worry am.

abi una don sprinkle something for each other's food ni?

Everything the man told you is purely what he knows you want to hear.
Wisdom tells you to snatch yourself away from everlasting earthly torment

If he wants to marry you, let him divorce the first wife, oops, i forgot, you are in Nigeria.

My Opinion,

1. if you truely love yourselves, let him get a divorce then you guys get married. But bear in mind that your marriage might likely be threathened by another divorce(between the two of you).

Secondly, if your tradition suggest polygamy, be a second wife but you should make provision for a third one.

Thrid, You can wait for your MAN, You might be lucky to meet him soon.

I will recommend you to find an inner peace within yourself, do you seriously want this?? or is it peer or family pressure? Just say a prayer and make a decision you can stand by any day any time.

^^^^^^^^good luck