Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Can u repet the question sir?(no offenscce)

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Ur fiancee is selfish. U should have opened up to ur mum and love ones about what she did rather than covering her up. Na only God know we're una dey get this kind fiancee self. Even if u chose to tell her mum, she would want to cover up her daughter's act and make it look like she has done nothing wrong. U need to show her ARAB. Just luck up and do so.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

Tell her mum the reason she say that and stand your ground because if you don't she will take advantage of it

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

Exactly what I think, This marriage will be only he4 and her family

Godoverevery:


Bro.....I think is just most women trait.

Check around......women family benefits more in marriages.

I understand what you are saying that why I want to nip it on the board now so her family no I won't tolerate such

Bro if they want to give the work to another person let them go ahead, as she collect that money from you collect it from them too. If you start to bend rules now know that it will be like that forever

Family is family business is business.
Tell the family to buy the materials themselves then u fix it for them no need telling them anything, if them nor gree comot body me personally i nor dey mix business with pleasure weda family or friends i dey comot familiarity

dmostcheerful:
Your aunt could have done it.
A bag of rice can only feed 50 people.
That's if someone didn't eat 2 plate or take home.
How much is a bag of rice?
40-50k
Tomatoes is how much?
How much is meat?
You said aside rice she will cook other things right.
Go and sit the fûck down.
I can see other things up there with rope dangling in between there legs, most of them don't even know how to on a stove talk more of boil water, they are the ones advising you.
Abge get out.

You are doing cherry picking, your comment is based on one side of the story no talk about the other side.

Must you all go low at every point in life

Most people agree that this woman robbed him once and then came back for seconds, but op will excuse her behaviour and use ‘women’ are selfish to comfort himself.

He will be back in the future to narrate how his wife still fights him for money while she earns 300k per month. Women are selfish so be a clown for them and stop disturbing us .

Attimes seeing my fellow man falling hands things just de taya me. do away with that girl before she keeps chockin finger inside your eyes.

Godoverevery:


Thanks bro.....I think women are just naturally selfish.

That women are naturally selfish doesn't mean that you have to put up with ...

Believe me when I tell you that there are lots of women out there who would PRACTICALLY cook for free, lots of em!!!!

So don't even entertain the idea that "all women are like that" ...

I can't tell you what to do, but if I were in your shoes, this is what I'll do...

1. Call her mum and tell her that if she can get all the materials you'll need then you'll install everything for her free of charge if need be...

2. Kick that girl outta your house and life...
From your post, I can opine that you already consider that girls family to be your family...

Whilst this is admirable, the fact is that SHE IS NOT and she OBVIOUSLY doesn't consider your family to be her family !!! ...

So take a step back and reevaluate matters...

Fact is, whatever traits you can't deal with in dating/courtship, it's best to call everything off before the marriage becomes a war zone...

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

What do you expect from Nigerian simp men?

Honestly, not even surprised.

Tomorrow, he will open a thread on Nairaland that his wife doesn't love him just like the one on front page.

Simple sacrifices she can make for the man she supposedly loves, but no.

He has seen the signs and still making excuses for the lady (even saying he wants to call her mother) to explain when he should be planning an exit strategy out of that relationship.

I've never seen men as desperate for love, sex relationship and marriage as Nigerian men that they're willing to put up with anything even women who clearly loathes them.

This was clearly a test the universe brought your way to let you know if that woman loves you and given the fact that she knows your financial situation and that you also take of you both bills at home, she shouldn't have had issues compromising.

But I'm sure you will continue because you lots are too desperate.

Very hopeless beings!

Tueh!

Your mistake was pricing her quite low for her service. Now she expects you to repay the favour for her dad. You don't know if she also used her own money to augment the food for your mom. Even if you are the one taking care of her, you are doing that willingly.

Dem no dey mix love with business. It's a recipe for disaster.

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

That is why hooup babes will fleece them really hard! If hooup babes were on the stock market, I will buy the stock and HOLD!

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.



She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

To be honest, though, I am not a fan of mixing business with pleasure. I support her charging you rather than doing it for free. Time is money. It is a reason I separate emotions when doing business with a friend. The issues are she knew your financial capability and STILL used the gas cooker in your house to prepare the meal. That is where she goofed! She should have stuck to the principles of business and used hers. She was not fair at all.

What happened to you cannot happen to me. I will retaliate. I hold grudges, and I hold them till death. I don't forgive or forget. You will fvck up if you fall in. Don't fall in. Allow people to learn a lesson.

Since they want to be mad, teach them how to be mad.

michaelwilli:
Your mistake was pricing her quite low for her service. Now she expects you to repay the favour for her dad. You don't know if she also used her own money to augment the food for your mom. Even if you are the one taking care of her, you are doing that willingly.

Dem no dey mix love with business. It's a recipe for disaster.

Can't you read or comprehension is your problem?

At least you saw where the guy said she was boasting of extra N30,000 profit she made after the cookies. So how did she augment to prepare the food?

Or what nonsense are you trying to form?

Victor2707:


Correct 💯

somebody is saying rubbish you're here typing "correct 💯"!!!

Jovialjune1:
Lol I love her business prowess, because she understands that in any business, she has to make profit and she did

She is smarter than you in the sense that she is not willing to compromise because of family/future family, in order to cancel any form of favouritism or compromise in future endeavours cos we all know family and over familiarity are the first to destroy businesses,

She is wiser than you in the sense that she can blatantly cancel arrangements with you and her parents, she didn't lie to them, whereas you lied to your mum on who did the catering, next time be upfront to your mum and own up to whatever consequence it will cause

My advice is not to explain yourself to her parents, own your shit and learn to put business first regardless of family, never start what you can't finish cos when they see that you compromise once, they will keep coming back, recommending their friends to you, quoting any figures to you knowing you will accept it, and that my friend, is the beginning of the end of your business.

I don't know why people are applauding this comment ... I'm really surprised at how many people don't see the rubbish written up here!

dmostcheerful:
Your aunt could have done it.
A bag of rice can only feed 50 people.
That's if someone didn't eat 2 plate or take home.
How much is a bag of rice?
40-50k
Tomatoes is how much?
How much is meat?
You said aside rice she will cook other things right.
Go and sit the fûck down.
I can see other things up there with rope dangling in between there legs, most of them don't even know how to on a stove talk more of boil water, they are the ones advising you.
Abge get out.

@bolded you’re not making any sense for your well-being at all...how come a bag of rice will only feed 50 people even if each person eat one de rica that can feed 4 people in a party I think there should be extra 14 de rica of rice 🍚


1 bag of rice will feed 4 x 64 de rica of rice=256 people
Meaning 12-14 de rica will comfortably feed 50 people which amount to 13-15k.

Note:If you don’t know what to say keep your mouth 👄 shut and save yourself from bashing

Nazgul:
That girl has shown you over and over again that money and her family tops her priority list before you. How you still refer to her as your fiancee is what baffles me.

Honestly most men are the architect of their misfortune in marriage.

You nailed it.

Deepocean:


Can't you read or comprehension is your problem?

At least you saw where the guy said she was boasting of extra N30,000 profit she made after the cookies. So how did she augment to prepare the food?

Or what nonsense are you trying to form?

The original post has been edited. That information wasn't there in the beginning. Your blood too dey hot.

michaelwilli:


The original post has been edited. That information wasn't there in the beginning. Your blood too dey hot.

Sorry, I didn't know the original post was edited.

Pardon my hot blood.

Gracias

Deepocean:


Sorry, I didn't know the original post was edited.

Pardon my hot blood.

Gracias

No wahala. Happy Sunday.

Godoverevery:
This thread isn't intended to bash any woman but just to let them no we men ain't fools cos I don't no why women will hardly make sacrifice for a man family but will expect the man to be making sacrifices for her own.

Sometime last year my mum wanted to do a little hosting of her follow market women in the house so she needed a caterer to help with food needed for the day. I was to sort that out for her while my other siblings sort the rest.

My fiancee happens to be into catering I had a discussion with her to help cook it.....it was food meant for 50 guest and she sent me a quotation of 120k.

This someone who practically staying with me and am the one taking care of everything.....we had lot of back and forth over it and she said 90k is the last she can do it for.
I beg this lady to collect 70k but she told me 70k will only cook jollof rice with beef while swallow wont be included.
I paid the 90k with pain in my heart cos I felt she wasn't considerate at all cos she knew my financial status at the time and she still used the gas in the house to prepare everything(she made about 30k gain out of me cos she later jabo herself)........no family in business right.

When My mum asked who cook the food I just told her a former school mate cos it will be somehow telling her my fiancee collected that amount for the food.
(Had it been my aunties were around am sure It won't cost up to 50k to cook that food)

Now table has turned her dad need my services which will cost him normally around 450k but am ready to render it for 300k.

Her mum called telling her to plead with me to do It for 200k that her dad doesn't really have money which means I will have to add 100k of my own money to get the equipment since am not charging installation fee.

She brought up the matter yesterday and I clearly reminded her what she did when I needed her to cook for my mum meeting and we really exchanged harsh words.

She later called her mum to inform them to get someone else to do the job that I can't do it.
Am close to her mum and I don't want to create this impression of not being a good potential son inlaw.

So am thinking of calling her mum today and explaining everything to her ....so she can understand things properly or should I just lock up.....(advice needed).

Honestly I want to pay her back for what she did cos she not even remorseful saying she even did me a favor collecting the 90k for the food.

From your first paragraph you have already formed an opinion and the worry is that you call this lady your fiancée.One person offended you it and it is now women will hardly make sacrifices, that is a weird generalisation.

When and if you get married is this the kind of arguments you would be having at home exchanging harsh words and being memory bank for something that already happened concerning common food?.

One of the reasons for break down in a relationship is finances and inability to let go of the past not falling out of love.
You want to pay her back for what she did when church and state should never mix?.cooking is her business not her hobby so she should make her money out of it.In the same way installing something for her dad and buying the equipment from your pocket,you will be running at a loss.I am sure you can sit that one out and get a colleague to sort it and that does not make you a bad “potential son Inlaw”

You did not have to lie to your mum about who cooked the food.

I will advise you,do not call her mum to explain anything so you do not complicate the situation then when in a better mood sit down with your fiancée and have an honest conversation.

I wish you good luck in all of this.

Tutu82:


From your first paragraph you have already formed an opinion and the worry is that you call this lady your fiancée.One person offended you it and it is now women will hardly make sacrifices, that is a weird generalisation.

When and if you get married is this the kind of arguments you would be having at home exchanging harsh words and being memory bank for something that already happened concerning common food?.

One of the reasons for break down in a relationship is finances and inability to let go of the past not falling out of love.
You want to pay her back for what she did when church and state should never mix?.cooking is her business not her hobby so she should make her money out of it.In the same way installing something for her dad and buying the equipment from your pocket,you will be running at a loss.I am sure you can sit that one out and get a colleague to sort it and that does not make you a bad “potential son Inlaw”

You did not have to lie to your mum about who cooked the food.

I will advise you,do not call her mum to explain anything so you do not complicate the situation then when in a better mood sit down with your fiancée and have an honest conversation.

I wish you good luck in all of this.

If everyone is too stick to rule and standards there won't be anything like friendship or relationship trust me.

If knowing my financial situation at that time and she could still not do me a lil favor why won't I pay her back??

Shebi no family and friends in business......let all stick to that and see which gender will try manipulate and bend that rule.

I laff when peeps write this "sit down and have honest conversation " like you think we haven't done that??infact countless time.

My dear one truth have come to realise is most people are not honest and they are in your life with hidden motives.

Godoverevery:


If everyone is too stick to rule and standards there won't be anything like friendship or relationship trust me.

If knowing my financial situation at that time and she could still not do me a lil favor why won't I pay her back??

Shebi no family and friends in business......let all stick to that and see which gender will try manipulate and bend that rule.

I laff when peeps write this "sit down and have honest conversation " like you think we haven't done that??infact countless time.

My dear one truth have come to realise is most people are not honest and they are in your life with hidden motives.

You missed the entire point of my submission and sound offended so i apologise.

Yes she can do you a favour but did you ask?. You requested for her in her capacity as a caterer and negotiated price so that is what you got.

Plus if you have done the honest conversation before and it is not working for you both,plus you are entertaining thoughts of hidden motives maybe it is the universe saying you might not be meant to be.Stop ignoring all the red flags.

Do not put up with someone now then expect them to change after marriage.You both deserve to be happy perhaps with other people.