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Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Nobody: 1:31pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Any man can father a child with a woman. But not every man can be a father to a child. All I have to say! 4 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by jjmk(m): 1:31pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: You are a true man. Go seek out her father and hear his own side of things. Women are so vindictive and it could just be that her mother has been lying to her. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by hosemujica: 1:32pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:Go and hear his side of the story. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by olaniyilukman(m): 1:33pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
virginprincess:your submission is very negative and it shows you have a very bitter taste for men, what of if her mother is the one that abandoned the father. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Babyboyforeal(m): 1:33pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
This is not a question u should be asking, in my tradition the bride price will pay to the father not the setpdad? 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by thinkmoney(m): 1:34pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:Dig everything u can dig before finally marrying her man. Just imagine in the future she has a child for u and run away with the child. Meet the man, ask other family members questions. U can even go do little investigation where they grew up in. Marriage is that serious The patriarch Abraham had is attendant make a laborious journey to a far country and do investigation before getting a wife for his son. It’s that important. For your life, prestige, SAnity and future 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by casualobserver: 1:35pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: Avoid women from complicated families…especially those who do not have a relationship with or know their biological fathers. What the mother did to the father, the daughter will do to you. The mother has set a precedent that it is ok to take the children and alienate them from the father and allow another man to raise them. Don’t say you were not warned. You think it won’t happen to you? Who is going to stop or talk sense into her when she decides to do same with you, is it her mother who took the children and alienated them from their father or the father who is absent from her life? Don’t forget every divorce started with “I love you” If you want an idea of how your marriage will be look at the marriage of your parents and that of your potential spouse…history always repeats itself. It’s called learned behavior, but Nigerians call it generational curses. If you want to marry a woman and the father is alive, that is the person that will rightfully grant you blessing to marry his daughter. If you go to another man for blessing, another man will give blessing for your own daughter. If there is a reason why you cannot go to the father for blessing or the father cannot walk her down the aisle then that is a red flag and a warning to run for your life and find another woman to marry. The only reason why anyone other than the father should give blessing or give a woman out in marriage is that the father is dead. If you want peace and a fruitful marriage, listen to me. If a woman’s father is alive and she cannot bring her father to give you out in marriage, or says he doesn’t matter, she is not from a good home because it shows she has no respect for her father and will not respect you once she is married to you. As far as the adopted father, only a stupid man will give his step daughter out in marriage when the father is alive. It is not his daughter to give out no matter if he has raised her. All this shows to me the step father, the mother and the daughter are not well brought up. 11 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Tingotoe: 1:35pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
satelliteDISH:I think this is very shallow and myopic thinking. Imagine someday a medical emergency happens to their children and they need a close biological relative 's anatomy to solve the problem. Is it to the step father who has no blood ties to the kids he goes to or what? Think far ahead 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Kobojunkie: 1:35pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
thinkmoney:Stop lying! ![]() The servant made a decision as soon as the girl gave him water to drink from the well... the end. ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by nonny1212: 1:35pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Tradition is tradition.. na the popsi right be that |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by complexstuffs(m): 1:36pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
virginprincess: There are always 2 sides to a story. Never judges. a situation without listening to the other side of the story. Learn to apply this in your life endeavours |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by emanobis(m): 1:37pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
My brother, you should try as much as possible to find out if her biological dad paid her mother's bride price; and if his biological dad paid for her mum's bride price, was d bride price returned after they were separated? Now, my advice. If: 1. Her biological dad paid her mum's bride price and it wasn't returned after the separation, please it is very important you go see her biological dad and have a chat with him. 2. If the bride price was returned after separation and she got married to another man, try and confirm if after her mum married another man, was there any payment on her head since d man adopted her and who was the adoption agreement made with? Remain blessed 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by olamilarks(m): 1:37pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:Patiently following, I'm in this situation also! |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by NestateHousing: 1:38pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by 4realsexy: 1:38pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:The traditional rights is for the biolgical father and you can honour the stepfather with marriage proper....... But remember you will also be prone to your wife leaving you one day after little difficulties 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by pongwa(m): 1:38pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:to avoid stories later, meet her biological dad or threaten to quit the relationship. This will turn out to be a trap later on for you as your supposed wife could do the same to you if you don't do the necessary. My verdict don't go ahead with the marriage 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by mrmislim: 1:38pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
sisisioge: Omo, I am shocked. Most of these people are so irresponsible with yamayama ego and rubbish demand for respect, even if they made mistake of inviting you, you should hide your face in shame or make the food choke them. Coming to deliberate on a child you didn’t nurture. Wahala 5 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by josite: 1:39pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Question is simple.who will you prefer to be reporting her to who.can call her and correct her and she will listen to . Be wise pay to both father's. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Prechgold1180(m): 1:39pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Nobody: 1:39pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
satelliteDISH:Mama's boy... How certain are u about the bold ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Talk2sukky(m): 1:40pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
I am yoruba and married to an akwa ibom woman. What i was told was that if the biological father had paid the bride price of the mother, He has every right to get her bride price. 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by oweniwe(m): 1:40pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
mrmislim: - I expected your tirade. - Let me repeat again, the wedding/bride price.... IS JUST A FORMALITY. - If the groom is interested in seeing the biological father, or he thinks it's just the right thing to do, after greetings, small talks and some drinks, what else remain? Nothing more. After the wedding, the groom doesn't have business with him again. - If we are to turn it around... The groom mother is still alive somewhere, but the groom don't want his bride to see his mother at all for whatever reasons, WILL A SENSIBLE, PROSPECTIVE BRIDE BE COMFORTABLE WITH THAT KIND OF ARRANGEMENT? I understand that women like to dish out treatments that they themselves cannot and will never accept or imagine. That is why some women in that situation may be comfortable with their groom not getting to know their father. It's fine with them. But if the tables are turned, except the man have something the woman cannot do without, she won't blink twice before discarding the relationship. CAN YOU APPROVE YOUR DAUGHTER TO MARRY A MAN WHO DOESN'T WHAT YOUR DAUGHTER TO KNOW HIS BIOLOGICAL MOTHER? You will be thinking... What kind of marriage will your daughter be getting herself into? - So if the groom thinks it's best for him to see the man, it's not an abomination... If you see it as abomination, that is bitterness is pro max, it's not healthy. If the bitterness suits you like that, it's okay, no problem. - But just for the purpose of the wedding, if the groom want to see the so called deadbeat father, let him be. After the wedding, anyhow the bride want to do her family relations, that's her business There's nothing hard in that. All that strong worded reply you wrote is very unnecessary 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Joseph77200(m): 1:42pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
satelliteDISH: This isn't a good take on, women lie a lot and you can't judge an issue like this without hearing from both parties and what of if this narration was sold to the daughter and the son-in-law-to-be because the mother-in-law is trying to cover up some past event, what of it she ran away with the child and never let the real father has access till now? Let the guy go ahead and look for the real father that is the best to do. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by GoodbutBadguy: 1:42pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Red flag🏴☠️ Think twice b4 you marry this babe ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Nobody: 1:42pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband:If not for anything for the sake of clarity go and see the man and make ur girl go with u too. Never u take sides in family affairs like this. Always be the bigger man by being neutral and true to urself only. U are a man and u know how females behave when they get bitter with vengeance. Be a fvcking man about it 1 Like |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Josegun(m): 1:43pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
I dont know if this will get to the OP. Pls avoid that family, dont get your life complicated. Peace. |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by GboyegaD(m): 1:43pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: Whose name does she bear? The father or the stepfather? That said, I don't understand why you want to poke your nose into what isn't your business. If you want to know the man just for the sake of it, all good. You should work on your fiancee and make her see reasons why she should at least have interactions with her dad and that way, you both can start having interactions with him. However, your objective of wanting to go investigate is unnecessary. The daughter is who you are getting married to and that is the person you need be united with and concerned about and not the extended family. Lastly, your belief is very key however, is she also having same beliefs about anything happening to her due to some family rituals? That is the important thing for your last point. 3 Likes |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by luminouz(m): 1:43pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Micheal56:What a load of simp-thrash!!!😡 |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by complexstuffs(m): 1:44pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
MetaBroadband: 1) You can't pay bride price to the step father 2) Be careful with this lady because it could be your turn in 25 years from now |
Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by Demurray: 1:45pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
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Re: Should I Meet Her Biological Father Before Paying Bride-Price To Her Step-father by wisdomkid: 1:45pm On Jun 01, 2023 |
Creamypie: Did the Man tried to reach out to them all these years? Did he at least, tried paying for her school fees or care? Ever did anything for this girl to see that life was easy on her? If not, no just dey dish stupid advice everywhere, as if you don't have people you hate too. I totally find it repulsive when people be acting as if the world is all black and white. If that man didn't acknowledge his daughter till now, what right does he have in her life now as an adult? what role did he play in her life? We'll be dishing out good ol advice online, and acting the direct opposite in real life. Peace sha... Nigeria's problem is too plenty to make an enemy of someone because of their opinion. Once again, PEACE, LOVE and LIGHT 6 Likes
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