Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

4ward4:
Don’t make apologizing a common affair in marriage , rebuke her and move on like nothing happened. Making apology mandatory is setting your marriage on an official level, which isn’t health for a marriage as you know you can’t err without apologizing .
Married here and only on serious offenses are sorry used in my house, the rest like what your wife said is rebuked and we are good like nothing happened.

FRANCISTOWN:

As long as I'm concerned. I feel like my relatives need to stay off my wife's mouth. They are not play things for wordplay.

She can possibly bring about her points without comparisons with my relatives.
It's even wrong for a wife to put herself on the same level with my mom. That's disrespectful.

My wife is my wife for as long as she wants to be my wife but my ma is my ma forever.No one compares sleep to death.

Mhizzard:

then is it the silent that develop between them would be the solution.

CoronaVirusPro:
Marry a second wife!

Men with one wives don't live long!

Polygamy creates competition and brings out the best in women.

If you were a polygamist, you would have been spending quality time with the second and third wife, and she would have known her place.

I didn't say you should have a side-chick. I mean marry

FRANCISTOWN:

I'm talking about my wife, not your wife.
Your wife can say whatever she likes to you, or your relatives. That's your cup of tea and it has nothing to do with me.
What I know is, ain't no wife of mine gon' speak to my relative disrespectfully. That's not my world.

madridguy:
My heart aches reading stories like this and I begin to ask myself who exactly is raising weak men like this?

Nigeria men are fast lossing their right as an Africa man and very soon, our women will be chasing men out of their house just like the whites.

coputa:
As a man of the house what do you want to do with apologies, maybe she has apologized through her actions but you kept a blind eye.

Please it's not every single action of a woman that you will take seriously or else you will crumble your home.

As a man in the house,there are a lot of things you have to tolerate.

Be careful.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

santaclaws:


Everything depends on the context, that's my point. Definitely if the situation warrants mentioning her dad to drive a point, it doesn't make it an insult.

Had it been that she insulted the mother or called her names, I would totally understand, even if he chose to send her packing.

The OP couldn't mention any insult, just that he didn't like the fact that she mentioned his mum. Is that enough reason to start keeping malice with your wife? That's very childish!

Ijaya123:


The silent treatment is simply because sitting her down and talking to her has not worked.

ogawisdom:


You are quite a sensitive man sha because this issue is a very light one to me. She is only saying that you love your mum more so no offense there BC it's normally true & she is probably jealous.

Why should she apologize for stating her observation?

Beremx:
From what her grievance in her statement is that you can't repay her but you can repay your mother.

Oga, you're the one to apologize

4ward4:
Don’t make apologizing a common affair in marriage , rebuke her and move on like nothing happened. Making apology mandatory is setting your marriage on an official level, which isn’t health for a marriage as you know you can’t err without apologizing .
Married here and only on serious offenses are sorry used in my house, the rest like what your wife said is rebuked and we are good like nothing happened.

Fountainofyouth:



You have a serious problem with understanding

How can you not see that why she mentioned your mum is because, if she was the one you owed, you would have repaid her by now, but because it is your wife, you prefer to behave anyhow and not pay, very simple something that has no insult, yet you're making a mountain out of it, go and check yourself, you are the problem, not her

The kind of adult males springing up lately ehn, God help the next generation.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

mercy87:
No wonder their marriages break up in developed countries when they travel out because what is this?A woman can't express herself freely in the 21st century. Just freedom of expression..no insult o...is a taboo

LooneyLester:
You're a woman in a man's body

I know simps like you


Imagine a woman challenging you and flaunting your orders


Very soon she'll slap you and you'll be watching her do that



If your wife doesn't agree with you , it's up to you to discipline her and teach her a lesson that she won't forget


After that resort to hot fork


Don't apologize


She should be the one doing that after forking on her knees


If you are odogwu , she'll be submitting her salary to you

BloomingDale:


You should have married your mom or your relatives.

nnenwa5:


Also make sure you don't speak disrespectful to her relatives too. Because some men can't give what they demand.

jelel6:


Not married but that's just it . Expecting apologies is like giving ultimatums. We all know ultimatums backfire the closer the relationship is between persons.

FRANCISTOWN:

Y'all should stay single since y'all gon start unreasonable competition with your mother in-law. Someone who has been there since day one. That's the reason most of yah be praying for the death of your mother in-law forgetting that you will one day have sons.

Owu go soon check many of you.
I pity the men that'll end up with your kinds. Would it not be better to remain single?

A305:
I don't know or care if she is wrong or not wrong with her utterances in regards to your mom but one thing is certain:

If you do not force that apology out of her one way or another (violence not inclusive)— your marriage will never remain the same in terms of power dynamics and who truly is the authority figure in that house.


This is a crucial test for you. Play your masculine cards well. Failure to do so. You will continue to seek her apology or worst case scenario, you will always be the one to apologize for whatever reason.

Plus4you:
Few days ago my wife was angried and utterred some statements that I do not like.
The statement was that she relating an issue by using my mum
The statement was "had it been it was your mum that did that you would have find means to repay her'.
I find it offensive for uttering such a statement, I was offended immediately but I kept my calm because we are already prepared to go out.

So when we came back I informed her that I am annoyed with what she said.

Her reply was that she did nothing wrong with such a statement because she didn't insult or belittle my mum.

I told I'm not but she decided not to apologize for that.

After two days our communication has not been normal and it only greetings.

So the next day I called and discussed it with her but still stands that she isn't wrong.

We have not been in good terms since then,

Please isn't she supposed to apologise despite that I told her I don't like the statement?

yemmit90:


1. You take life too serious, which one be she must apologise.

2. Just warn her not to say that again and move on. My wife don't even know the relationship between me and my family because I hardly discuss anything about them with her. She don't know if I give anyone something or not, so stop discussing your family issue with your wife to avoid a situation like this.

FRANCISTOWN:

As long as I'm concerned. I feel like my relatives need to stay off my wife's mouth. They are not play things for wordplay.

She can possibly bring about her points without comparisons with my relatives.
It's even wrong for a wife to put herself on the same level with my mom. That's disrespectful.

My wife is my wife for as long as she wants to be my wife but my ma is my ma forever.No one compares sleep to death.

ogawisdom:


1. Lol Boss man

2. It's well but if you already know what to do what is the point in bringing the matter to a public forum since you cant tolerate a different perspective.

3. It seems you are newly married certainly below 1 year and the initial gra gra must happen before you calm down to reality.

4. The less empowered esp financially the more likely she may give you 100% submission to your wishes.

5. Money is power, is she 100% dependent on you? He who pays the Piper .............

FRANCISTOWN:


If anyone's got a problem with comprehension, I guess you should look inwardly.

I don't know whether you understand the Yoruba language, but the same statement translated to yoruba would be "T'oba jẹ́'yẹ́ẹ́...". In the Yoruba land. You don't even say to someone "iyẹ".

The fact that the wife brought up his mom simply means she stylishly resents the mom. She feels like the mother is getting a preferential treatment which of course she should.

Any wise woman should not put herself on the same level with her husband's mother. That's psychological illiteracy.

Also, the woman is one arrogant woman. She could have just apologized since she started the fire. But do you know why she wouldn't apologize? She already feels she's on the same level with her husband since she was lending out money to him.
The kinds of adult females we have springing up lately ehn. Marriage will soon lose popularity

jelel6:
■ Not married but that's just it . Expecting apologies is like giving ultimatums. We all know ultimatums backfire the closer the relationship is between persons.