Many couples today are more interested in birthing and breeding children than raising them. Commonplace is assumption that a child's needs ranges from physiological (food, shelter, medical access, clothing), spiritual (religion) to educational (sponsored enrollment in school) dimensions. Positioning children towards self-awareness and teaching them complementary timeless values are either neglected or delegated. Are you on this table?

Ignorance and "I am so busy with work" excuse underpin this trend. Parents who didn't discuss how to raise their children at length during courting or lack pragmatic family information are a danger to society. Copying what previous couples did and present couples do are inevitable. Convention doesn't logically imply correctness. Some parents let chance dictate. They use positive affirmations to mask their vacuity. Also, some parents justify their long absence in nurturing their kids' minds with making money for family wellbeing. Maids and relatives, clueless about details of a husband and wife's marital vision, take over. Sole reliance on school teachers oozes parental irresponsibility. These tendencies harvest low-self-esteemed, non-visionary, mediocre, immoral, and deviant children. The bully and bullied girl in that recent Abuja British secondary school viral video stir parental questions.

In fact, as a potential and actual dad or mum, onus is on you to raise (not breed) your children to become aware of themselves in order to develop unique identities that endure and enhance humanity. But you can't do this from a place of scanty or zero knowledge; that's why I (an excellent personal development speaker) exist to aid you jump this hurdle online and offline. First, reevaluate interactions with your child so far, talk to him or her on distinctness as a human person, define corresponding values to imbibe, and reiterate them daily. Researches in psychology reveal it is best to shape children when young--I recommend from first year. It is more difficult with adults but not impossible. Second, readjust your work schedule. Commit now to spending at least one quality hour with your talking child daily. Listen to the naive questions, comments and use most as avenues to enlighten on becoming assets. Take over from their nannies after you return. There is time. In the words of Carthaginian conqueror Hannibal, "There is always a way. If there is none, I will create one."

However, my recommendation could be accused of indoctrination and underestimation of family tradition. These indicate misunderstanding. Enabling a child attain personal identity conditions him or her to think for himself or herself by rejecting dangerous conformity and modifying learned ideologies upwardly. Consciousness that family tradition is open to revision and amelioration reflects a child on the road to exceptional. Don't breed your children, raise them.


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