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Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Fuckyoumod: 2:07pm On May 09 |
cococandy:why are you lying? For them to be living as husband and wife in UK it means they are legally married. Everything he owns automatically belongs to his legally married wife and children by law. So why is she worried and trying to demonize the man? What's wrong if a wife contributes for the growth of her home and husband? The way you people hate men so much eeh.... God will punish all of you. You people forgot that you are nothing but just SPERM in the balls of a man. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by CrownLands(m): 2:09pm On May 09 |
JB0707: All your property documents should have borne both your names. For you to realize this now! It's not late. For all joint property acquisitions let both your names appear on the original documents. For example: Mr Haji Buhary and Mrs. Tinu Buhary Not: Mr & Mrs Buhary Not: Mr Buhary Speak to your lawyers to effect the necessary changes. So that there will not be tears in future. N. B. I'm a professional Real Estate Appraiser. I buy, sell and value landed properties 4 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by DMerciful(m): 2:10pm On May 09 |
He should have put your name! You didnt notice after the first property? JB0707: 2 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Bananapill: 2:10pm On May 09 |
JB0707: Start your investment separately. |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Kingrshd3: 2:11pm On May 09 |
Kelechi009: You are sighted .. You have actually spoken well |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by eyinjuege: 2:11pm On May 09 |
ihavesense: Then the properties can also be only in her name. 8 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by oliverwrites: 2:15pm On May 09 |
Kooldon:Wow, just wow. To think you are also a woman. All I have to say is GOD bless you. May the GOOD LORD increase your wisdom. |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Lumidee007(m): 2:15pm On May 09 |
JB0707: Madam, keep insisting and stop investing together. Likewise, start planning on your own investment. Don't be like me. I am facing my own deed now ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by lapintoz: 2:16pm On May 09 |
Do the fight thing madam. Make sure he includes your name. His family or one side chic can claim possession in case of eventuality. 5 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Nyanabo(m): 2:16pm On May 09 |
The deed is done already. Going forward start including you name is any future purchase, or have you own seperate investment solely in your name or your children's name. 1 Like |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Shokoloko(f): 2:18pm On May 09 |
maxiuc:Mr and Mrs is not enough. Documents must bear full name of both parties Mr Dele can have multiple Mrs Dele and his favourite is assumed to have ownership - because he will make sure of it 9 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Gtwix: 2:19pm On May 09 |
Let him will some properties to your name |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by shoodboi2: 2:19pm On May 09 |
JB0707 I strongly suggest you record (or better, video) your conversations when discussing with your husband about adding your name to your documents. You should also begin gathering other evidence at this point. Chat screenshots, messages, and all. So, even if he refuses, or he or his family try to be funny in the future, you'll have evidence to help your position. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by GloriousGbola: 2:20pm On May 09 |
[quote author=UjuJoan2 post=129858556] I think the mistake is already made, if you make it as issue it might cause problems in your marriage. Going forward, start your investments separately and You need to put your foot down. If he insists on joint investments, then make sure you see your name on the document before you contribute anything. It’s good to be wise in love, to avoid stories that touch. Trust me, I’m talking from experience![/quote] Ah Uju, your billionaire burned you? ![]() |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Blazadenise(m): 2:20pm On May 09 |
The way woman they think ehn... Like say she cant die before the husband.. |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by samsard(m): 2:21pm On May 09 |
Kooldon:The bolded is mostly if the assets are in the UK, not Nigeria. 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Konquest: 2:23pm On May 09 |
Odotech:The bolded is succinctly stated |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by tiswell(m): 2:24pm On May 09 |
Tallesty1:I doubt this is coming from a man. How were you able to ascertain that the man's family is not trustworthy by merely what the lady alleged? Have you been able to hear from any member(s) of the man's family or just trying to dance to the tune of your female friends here and massage their ego? The lady in question seems to have made some new friends and is already been ill-advised by someone. Suddenly,she remembers that her husband was making investments in Nigeria in his name alone,when 1+1 in marriage is equals to 1. Unless,they are live-in lovers,there is absolutely nothing to worry about here. She is the sole beneficiary by law,( both in UK and Nigeria)in case of her husband's demise. 1 Like |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by DrAda(f): 2:24pm On May 09 |
There is absolutely nothing wrong in having your own investments. Start now 1 Like |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by edmasta01: 2:29pm On May 09 |
JB0707: You seem to be a good woman who is supportive of your husband and you and hubby probably have a good relationship already and this is now threatening that relationship. Can I ask, how did you approach him about adding your name to the investment document? I hope you did not make mention of the fact that his family is chaotic? No man will take lightly if you use style or subtly make snide comments about his family (even if it's true). If you did approach this respectfully, I will advise that you reach out to your hubby again and let him know that for your peace of mind, you'd want a situation where you want Mr Joe Bloggs and Mrs Mary Bloggs are listed as owners of a property or investment that you are both committing money to. If he then insists that he won't do that, then just let him know in that meeting that henceforth, you won't be contributing jointly as you "feel" alienated. Then let him know you'd want to suggest that you invest separately so that you both can have that peace of mind. If he gets angry, don't flinch. At some point, he will come back to his sense (if he is a good man). Don't try to invest behind his back (unless you are ready to see shege in your marriage). I live in the UK, and I can tell you, it's very hard to manage a family on your own if you divorce in this UK. Don't take a harsh action because you want to prove your right. Use communication and at least, if you don't agree on the joint name, at least you both still have a marriage with segregated investment plans. 1 Like |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by shaybebaby(f): 2:30pm On May 09 |
JB0707:You are between a rock and hard place. If you are unable to get investments ( in Nigeria) till date in both your names, then a hard stop on joint future investments is needed. If you decide to go Solo, then your future investments will have to be in Nigeria in your sole name, for the same reason you are not comfortable with the investments being in his sole name in Nigeria. If things go wrong, you will have little to no legal recourse in that country. Invest in your sole name in Nigeria, and the same will apply to him. But do not make a sole investment in the uk. If you do and the relationship goes south, that is still considered marital property as it was acquired during the course of the marriage. He will be entitled to part of it regardless of who's name it's in. All in all, he doesn't seem like he is trustworthy or financially transparent. I'd be seriously taking a good hard look at whether I want to remain with someone I cannot trust to deal in good faith. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by folla: 2:30pm On May 09 |
Continue to gently ask him to include your name in your joint property, while going forward you buy property in your own name and carrying him along. Don't buy any property in your name without keeping him in confidence, so he knows you don't have hidden agenda. If he asks why you're doing this, let him know you're doing this for your children and your own future. Cheers. JB0707: 1 Like |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by iwadobo: 2:30pm On May 09 |
cococandy: If you are this wise, why u never marry ? Na bad Belle dey worry u. U want scatter a happy home. Yoour papa no cheat ? Taaaa |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by babamoha(m): 2:32pm On May 09 |
JB0707: You can insists and at the same time start your investment separately. |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:32pm On May 09 |
jimmyvic: Quote the law i'm ignorant of. |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by cococandy(f): 2:32pm On May 09 |
Kobojunkie: sometimes we lie to ourselves to protect our hearts from breaking. She might already know and that’s why she is here looking for someone to tell her that she’s wrong and her husband could never. Yet he absolutely can and is already doing it to her face. If not, this topic won’t even be on NL. The moment the man noticed his wife is not being included in property that is being purchased with family funds, he should have fixed the issue immediately before she even had time to complain. So I think she knows 6 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:33pm On May 09 |
Lexusgs430: That's a different matter |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by cococandy(f): 2:34pm On May 09 |
Look at the type of coddling we are advocating for a man who’s being deliberately sly to his lady. She should gently carry him along 😒 folla: 3 Likes |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Sapasenator: 2:34pm On May 09 |
Joint account and joint investment na scam. Have your own thing to avoid stories that touch the heart. 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by Collins4u1(m): 2:35pm On May 09 |
UjuJoan2: Listen to this person and cry later, a typical advice coming from someone who has scattered her family and now trying hard to empower women with ill advice 1 Like |
Re: My Name Is Not On The Property We Both Contributed For! by shaybebaby(f): 2:35pm On May 09 |
cococandy:It's the "gently" that landed her in this predicament. 3 Likes |
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