Thar means you are not the owner

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

Yes. If you have kids for him, then yes again.

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

U better be careful else I will personally tell your husband to push you out..what nonsense

007kjb:


U better be careful else I will personally tell your husband to push you out..what nonsense

They live in the UK. He cannot push her out - instead the police will escort him out.

Only a man will see another man being a bad spouse and ask those he’s hurting to walk on egg shells around him so as not to displease him. Meanwhile he’s in the wrong from the beginning.

No wonder Nigerian women hate to build with you people. I always think in my head, “why would a woman want to keep her money separate from the spouse. Is it not one family and they can all be included and benefit from it equally?”

But no. Not with these types of responses. If he decides to go ahead and marry another woman to reap where the OP sowed, the best advice you guys can give her is to keep begging him.

I won’t blame any woman who doesn’t want to build with you guys. Egomaniacal double crossing is the game y’all play

edmasta01:


You seem to be a good woman who is supportive of your husband and you and hubby probably have a good relationship already and this is now threatening that relationship.

Can I ask, how did you approach him about adding your name to the investment document? I hope you did not make mention of the fact that his family is chaotic? No man will take lightly if you use style or subtly make snide comments about his family (even if it's true).

If you did approach this respectfully, I will advise that you reach out to your hubby again and let him know that for your peace of mind, you'd want a situation where you want Mr Joe Bloggs and Mrs Mary Bloggs are listed as owners of a property or investment that you are both committing money to.

If he then insists that he won't do that, then just let him know in that meeting that henceforth, you won't be contributing jointly as you "feel" alienated.

Then let him know you'd want to suggest that you invest separately so that you both can have that peace of mind. If he gets angry, don't flinch. At some point, he will come back to his sense (if he is a good man).

Don't try to invest behind his back (unless you are ready to see shege in your marriage).

I live in the UK, and I can tell you, it's very hard to manage a family on your own if you divorce in this UK. Don't take a harsh action because you want to prove your right.

Use communication and at least, if you don't agree on the joint name, at least you both still have a marriage with segregated investment plans.

shaybebaby:

It's the "gently" that landed her in this predicament.

yep. Give an inch they take a mile

ihavesense:

Do you know that as a lawfully wedded wife, she and the man’s children have a right to inheritance of his wealth. So why the fuss.

What if they divorces in future? Remember UK law is not applicable in Nigeria and these said properties are in Nigeria?
You can't rule out this possibility, I have seen so much happen.

Actually if she starts now she can get what’s rightfully hers whether she goes gun blazing or not.

The man might think the houses in Nigeria are protected from UK government fingers but if they are anything like the USA, his bank statements can be subpoenaed and all the money he squirreled away to build those projects in Nigeria can be re-estimated and he’ll owe her half of it if he wants to keep the properties to himself. That way she get her share and he can go live in Nigerian mansions by himself since that’s what he wants 🤨

michlins:
ok she should simply fight her husband now and fight for the properties too in court.

The mistake is already made, the best approach shouldn't be a warpath with the husband but a subtle but defined tactics to get what she wants.

If she goes guns blazing, she will get next to nothing now but if she gets smart, she will get her home and properties too.

But who says the man will die first. What if she dies before the man

If you are legally married, by law no one can take what is yours......

So then he should transfer every property to her name and exclude himself since they are legally married and he has nothing to worry about.

That’s would be okay. Right?

I don’t know if you think you’re talking to another one of your fellow grey matter deficient scallywags

Fuckyoumod:
why are you lying?
For them to be living as husband and wife in UK it means they are legally married.

Everything he owns automatically belongs to his legally married wife and children by law.

So why is she worried and trying to demonize the man? What's wrong if a wife contributes for the growth of her home and husband?

The way you people hate men so much eeh.... God will punish all of you. You people forgot that you are nothing but just SPERM in the balls of a man.

As a man I won't mind my property in my wife name but will very well advice the woman to insist her name is included in any asset she's a joint contributor to in Nigeria with her man.

Any fair man should understand her fear n do the needful so long she doesn't trust him r his family enough to be fair in case of any situation.

cococandy:


So then there’d be no fuss if the woman puts all the family wealth and property in her name right? After all if she dies, the man is entitled to everything she owns. No?

These are the sick devilish lies you used to deceive women in the past so they’d build with y’all and when you start misbehaving they won’t have a choice to stick with your miserable behinds seeing as they have no other choice

Kooldon:
If you guys are legally married, then you have nothing to worry about.
However, it seems your are more concern about your husband demise before you but what if the reverse will be the case?

Exactly as I thought, maybe she is more interested when the husband is no more

cococandy:
yep. Give an inch they take a mile

Tbh, it's unlikely she's going to see a dime back of what she contributed.

Most likely he did it on purpose..to have something to hold over her. I'd cut my losses..not point in throwing good money after bad.

Many men abroad are like that They claim to be the owner whereas another contributor is there .
In your own case I pray you don't lose totally.Unfaithful man.

shaybebaby:

Tbh, it's unlikely she's going to see a dime back of what she contributed.

Most likely he did it on purpose..to have something to hold over her. I'd cut my losses..not point in throwing good money after bad.

I wouldn’t cut my losses. I’d take the equivalent of whatever my share is of those investments in one way or another. Then he gotta go.

I don’t like dubious partners

cococandy:


But you have nothing to say about a man who’s intentionally excluding his wife from jointly owned family property. All you people love is to cheat and oppress your women. Anyone who gives them advice on how to avoid being mistreated like this becomes the enemy

Once a man gets married everything he has whether gotten before the marriage or while married belongs to his wife too. But I can understand the lady's fear the level of entitlement of Nigerians these days especially family members is out of this world.

Harddiskng:
You would discover all those advising op to start her investment separately are all women.

I don’t know why when women advise women but matrimonial things, it is the one that would scatter the home pata-pata they always advised their fellow woman to do.

I still haven’t figured it out whether it is subconscious or intentional

This one no follow

Why will the husband be making investments only with his name
When it's two of them that contribute to it

Looks very suspicious

The Lady should start her own personal investments

That's how a close relative of mine in Canada
The husband wanted them to do investments together

She no gree
Cause she's had some bad experiences before

Told the Man do yours make I do mine

Barteze:

Once a man gets married everything he has whether gotten before the marriage or while married belongs to his wife too. But I can understand the lady's fear the level of entitlement of Nigerians these days especially family members is out of this world.

Actually that’s not true. Only the things he got while married belong to him and his wife. Pre marital property is for him alone or any kids he might have in the future

Barteze:

Once a man gets married everything he has whether gotten before the marriage or while married belongs to his wife too. But I can understand the lady's fear the level of entitlement of Nigerians these days especially family members is out of this world.

Stop telling these lies!

E don go. O ti lo. Pray that he doesn't die now. You go just be like a househelp before his family. Tell him pop and plain that your name must be included in everything you boughted together. If he refuses tell to return your money, if he still refuses, serve him otapiapia. I dey sell the original, it is very sweet and the price is very sheep

djon78:




This one no follow

Why will the husband be making investments only with his name
When it's two of them that contribute to it

Looks very suspicious

The Lady should start her own personal investments

That's how a close relative of mine in Canada
The husband wanted them to do investments together

She no gree
Cause she's had some bad experiences before

Told the Man do yours make I do mine

She had a bad experience before, she still got married to a man she didn’t trust? Wonderment

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

If he's supporting the idea of excluding you from the documents then separate yourself from the business.

Klass99:


I can't stop laughing🤣.

😩I wasn’t even trying to be funny. I don’t know how my brain produces those phrases

I can advise you to plans for your own properties and investment but let all your children knows about it because of the future purpose even your husband can know that you have so so so investments and properties

cococandy:


I wouldn’t cut my losses. I’d take the equivalent of whatever my share is of those investments in one way or another. Then he gotta go.

I don’t like dubious partners

From where? He's structured the whole thing that she would have to get past legal hurdles in that country plus go through his chaotic family.

You have strength ooo. Me I no Do, I'll consider it a small price to pay to learn I'm sharing a life with a thief.

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

All these things are not as hard as people make it seem sometimes. Both of you are engaged and earning money. There's nothing wrong with having your separate investments na.

Get your name in the properties or u have your own separately with your name.

Am also suffering same faith and branded a bad wife when I wanted to sell off a property. It was then I discovered that my name was not in d documents only Mr (his full name) & Mrs (surname)

Anybody can be Mrs.

I hope the young ladies read and learn

We shall overcome

shaybebaby:

From where? He's structured the whole thing that she would have to get past legal hurdles in that country plus go through his chaotic family.

You have strength ooo. Me I no Do, I'll consider it a small price to pay to learn I'm sharing a life with a thief.

I’m thinking from whatever assets they have there in the uk. But honestly I don’t know how the system works; I’m thinking more from a USA angle. Your spouse can legally owe you whatever money they hid away to spend in another country. They don’t even need his permission to find it; the bank will provide the information when court ordered.

It’s obviously a legal battle but unless it’s a small amount of money, I won’t just let him have it.

Harddiskng:



She had a bad experience before, she still got married to a man she didn’t trust? Wonderment

Lol that she's even still with him na because my family adviced her not to divorce

She wanted to fire him but I personally adviced her not to
They have 3 children together

Most of our Nigerian Men behaves very badly
They were making money together
She was using her money to cater for the family right from when they were in Nigeria
Even process there Canadian PR

Only to reach Canada
She discovered nigger had his own money
But kept it

She was in disbelief
Will call me as her brother
That she wants to divorce the guy

By the way she makes so much more than the guy
A top professional

But I personally adviced her since she had children already
She should just mellow down

Which she listened to
And the kind of family we come from
She should just continue

She agreed
Today they are Canadians
But she is wiser with her money
Based on past bitter experience

But the guy appreciates
Cause he knows if not for the kind of family we are
Our daughter whether in the US or anywhere listens to our advice

If na all these cgirls
Wey no dey tolerate nonsense
Him own for done be


Men shouldn't do unjust things to there wives and feel it's nothing
Lots of Men do very mean things to there women
They should do better

Like in this present case
How can your wife be contributing
Still you exclude her name from the documents
And you have family that behave anyhow

That's meaness as far as I am concerned
We should be just and equity in our dealings

JB0707:
My husband and I both live in the uk and we join all our money and investments together, all the properties my husband acquired in Nigeria doesn’t have my name on it, at first I wasn’t bothered but now i am bothered because his family is chaotic. I started asking for my name to be included and i am not ok with the response am getting. I feel i am just working and I have nothing in my name. I love him but I don’t trust his family. Should i keep insisting or start my investment separately. I am just confused

insist ASAP and if his response is not giving quick attention, that means your speculations are 100% correct. It means you have been dupped and he has negative plans