ItisWell22:
Why the particular mention of GenZ?

Gold diggers abound in every generation.

Gold diggers abound more among GenZ, they don't want to do the work but they want to live large!

SmartPolician:
↪ I don't want to believe that ladies' obsession with court marriages is to get 50% of their husbands' assets. This is the same thing that destroyed marriage institutions in the west. And Nigerian ladies with yahoo mindsets have been its biggest beneficiaries in the west.

That statement in bold is ludicrous! Marriage in the West is not destroyed at all. Rather, it has adapted to the realities of life and living in the 21st century for both genders which is something most people desire and continue to fight for; a system that works for them, not a system imposed on them by some ancient generation that they have no real connections with.

He failed himself ! No woman can try that game with a man who built all by himself in Nigeria. A woman must choose between staying with a serial cheat or live with a polygamist.

sandygechy:
The fact that u think a man can have a fling that can result to pregnancy without remorse is why I’m happy with the judgement!
He should live with his regrets for the rest of his miserable life and advise his fellow irresponsible men who will in turn get worst treatment!

Sisterhood and motherhood is so proud of Mama👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍👍

You eh! That man failed himself. I will build on my own and encourage a woman to build her own and I will even support her. I can even build for the mother of my child and give her as a gift or settlement. Sharing my property cos u want a divorce will never work cos I believe in building alone. Can I send u a private mgs here ? I will like to have a deeper conservation with you. Maybe I can learn 1 or 2 . I just saw ur handle here! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh

Tightpussy2024:

Does immorality have kinds? We are on romance section,it's obvious we aren't talking about money laundering or racism immorality.
I already know what answer to expect from you,I just want you to accept yourself that your "don't judge" or "he who is without sin should throw the first stone' only applies to men. Thus,you are compassionate or forgiving,you are just prejudiced.

Waiting for your answer...

Tightpussy2024:

Only when men are the culprit you remember innocent until proven guilty. If it's dead girls you find on the road,a single mother,or a battered wife,you will always conclude without proof that the women were rude,greedy or wayward.

Oga stated the man had a child out of wedlock during their marriage

An eye for an eye, it is then, wrongs corrected by more wrong, equals? A man gets angry hits the table, the lamp fell, the woman gets angry that the lamp fell, the next day burnt all his clothes. He has a child outside wedlock then he deserves to be homeless. The woman has her kids and a roof over her head. It's truly a woman's world.

KIDfurniture:
I didn’t mention he had the handsome son before marrying the woman sha. Even at that a man can have a fling and result to pregnancy. Nothing was lost. If ain’t married be ready to be a fifth wife or steal another woman’s husband. Reality .

Did he tell her he had a kid outside wedlock when they met?
I'm certain if it was his wife that had a kid outside of wedlock, he wouldn't even have married her.

KIDfurniture:
I have always advised men to build alone . Never build ur home with ur wife! It is risky . Very risky. I witnessed a 60 year old wife and 67 year old husband fight bitterly cos the man had a son outside. The wife knowing fully well she contributed to the property they live in which happens to be only house. Asked court to sell off the property and give her more than half of the proceeds. She provided strong evidence and that house was sold. Old man is now a tenant, old woman moved in with her son after brainwashing all her kids to hate father

Oh, so the man who broke his vows to commit adultery is the victim, SMH. Men are blameless, blame only women.

royalfly:


An eye for an eye, it is then, wrongs corrected by more wrong, equals? A man gets angry hits the table, the lamp fell, the woman gets angry that the lamp fell, the next day burnt all his clothes. He has a child outside wedlock then he deserves to be homeless. The woman has her kids and a roof over her head. It's truly a woman's world.

How about we rephrase it to be a woman have a child out of wedlock? On this forum we see how single mothers are stigmatized,even the one of teenage pregnancy (16 years & the rest). You all ask for accountability from a woman with a child out of wedlock even if she was blinded by love at 16. But a grown man,in his 40s ,that swore before God,you call it a mistake


Well,the law favors the interest of the children,the house goes to whoever the kids stays with. That's the law. I didn't make the rules. So they don't become the almajiris you see roaming around. Or the woman doesn't become the side piece do married men just to feed her children. The laws were made by Men because they know what you people are capable of, the love a man has for his kids is proportional to the relationship he has with their mother. If you all will be responsible for your kids, and your former spouse,no one will enforce the law.

Make God bless this lawyer for defending our gender.

Colonelswitz101:
↪ If una say no to marriage then hunger go kpai 70 percent of una. Is it same Nigerian women who only date and marry for survival or are talking about a different Nigerian women. No matter how your gender try, you can never get the chance to treat Nigerian men like slaves just like your gender are treating those useless western men who gave up their dominance while trying to form woke.

Stop foaming in the mouth about what you don't know. Marriage as it is in the West is enjoyed by both men and women alike! The men do not believe they are useless or emasculated by having to give their women some of what they both acquired during the marriage. Neither do the women feel that way when they are the ones who have to part with some of what they acquired during the marriage too.

KIDfurniture:
You eh! That man failed himself. I will build on my own and encourage a woman to build her own and I will even support her. I can even build for the mother of my child and give her as a gift or settlement. Sharing my property cos u want a divorce will never work cos I believe in building alone. Can I send u a private mgs here ? I will like to have a deeper conservation with you. Maybe I can learn 1 or 2 . I just saw ur handle here! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh

Off course you can

ecolime:
The percentage you get should depend on how long you've stayed in the marriage.

1 year= 1%
10 years= 10%
20 years = 20%

Involuntary full time housewives should get more as it will be difficult for them to start again from the scratch.

It should also depend on how the husband treats her. If the husband has been abusive and he made the decision to prevent the woman from working then I think the woman will deserve a bigger chunk

And Nigerian men must continue to raise other men’s children!
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KIDfurniture:
He failed himself ! No woman can try that game with a man who built all by himself in Nigeria. A woman must choose between staying with a serial cheat or live with a polygamist.

[quote author=KIDfurniture post=131652937]I’m glad she just showed you little action out of many more actions stored in her Ghana must go. Did you eventually marry her ? Plz are you still together ? When I was single I paid all my rent myself and never asked any girl to help me pay a dime. Man must be a man in this life. Never ask for financial help from a woman that is not ur mother or sisters. If you must do plz use a lawyer that will prepare an agreement for the both of you. I v it in mind to build a house for my wife soon. Not big but something nice to appreciate her for being honest & loyal. Future project . God willing. Women can be a curse and a blessing to a man same as MEN to women. Choose wisely]






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KIDfurniture:
I’m glad she just showed you little action out of many more actions stored in her Ghana must go. Did you eventually marry her ? Plz are you still together ? When I was single I paid all my rent myself and never asked any girl to help me pay a dime. Man must be a man in this life. Never ask for financial help from a woman that is not ur mother or sisters. If you must do plz use a lawyer that will prepare an agreement for the both of you. I v it in mind to build a house for my wife soon. Not big but something nice to appreciate her for being honest & loyal. Future project . God willing. Women can be a curse and a blessing to a man same as MEN to women. Choose wisely

This happened about 12 years ago, we separated about 8 years ago. What happened was that both us went to inspect the house, we found out that the place was very nice but the money with me then wasn't complete for the total package. I informed the agent to give me two days to raised the balance but surprisingly, she said she will balance it before another person will take the house. That is how she get involved. But after a month interval, I tried paying her back, she insisted, not knowing she has another plan. How much is the money, we are talking of 70k out of 570k of the total money for the rentage of them.

BreconHills:


What would that be? 😊

A dear friend,a lady, having issues in her marriage.
I don't know if you need details but the girl has really suffered and has finally decided to leave the marriage, after like more than 10 years with 4 children to show. One of the kids is late.
The man is irredeemably recalcitrant!
She's weighing her options.
What can she possibly come out with?
She needs to secure custody, the children'd be no good staying with that man.
She involved social welfare and a lawyer.
But it seems they're not giving her much to hope on.

Trueprophet91:


A dear friend,a lady, having issues in her marriage.
I don't know if you need details but the girl has really suffered and has finally decided to leave the marriage, after like more than 10 years with 4 children to show. One of the kids is late.
The man is irredeemably recalcitrant!
She's weighing her options.
What can she possibly come out with?
She needs to secure custody, the children'd be no good staying with that man.
She involved social welfare and a lawyer.
But it seems they're not giving her much to hope on.

She can get a divorce on the grounds that the marriage has irretreviably broken down.

A female judge in the family division is key. Court registrars allocate cases 🤐

It's rare to get anything out of a divorce in Nigeria apart from custody and child maintenance. Which is very sad.

She must show the benefits of keeping the children together for their mental health and she must show that the husband is not a fit and proper person.

But other than custody and maintenance it is very difficult to get anything out of the courts unless there is an organised family business in which she can show financial contribution or support. Lots of lessons for spouses to learn in the construction of their finances.

I dont understand why the lawyer and social worker feel this way.

Obviously this is a rough piece of advice in the absence of detail which I do not think you should ever provide online or to someone you do not know well.

Hope this helps.

BreconHills:


She can get a divorce on the grounds that the marriage has irretreviably broken down.

A female judge in the family division is key. Court registrars allocate cases 🤐

It's rare to get anything out of a divorce in Nigeria apart from custody and child maintenance. Which is very sad.

She must show the benefits of keeping the children together for their mental health and she must show that the husband is not a fit and proper person.

But other than custody and maintenance it is very difficult to get anything out of the courts unless there is an organised family business in which she can show financial contribution or support. Lots of lessons for spouses to learn in the construction of their finances.

I dont understand why the lawyer and social worker feel this way.

Obviously this is a rough piece of advice in the absence of detail which I do not think you should ever provide online or to someone you do not know well.

Hope this helps.

You're so kind 😊🙏

I believe getting an experienced lawyer is key here, especially @bolded🤔🤔

She doesn't even have enough will to go for full blown divorce, she's looking at temporary separation (for him to learn his lessons, according to her 😁)...

But I think if she can get custody and maybe a little thing for maintenance,she could make do with that.
She should start a new life. She's been through stuff.
Mehn, it's a mess!

Thanks again, I think you said much already, given the sketchiness of details.

She dropped 70,000 only as a girlfriend that year o. You dodged a bullet o. Not all women know their limits in relationships. Some have bad intentions due to past experience. I will never build with any woman. Some girls believe if they assist any man with money they have the right to control his life.

Odidigboigbo:
This happened about 12 years ago, we separated about 8 years ago. What happened was that both us went to inspect the house, we found out that the place was very nice but the money with me then wasn't complete for the total package. I informed the agent to give me two days to raised the balance but surprisingly, she said she will balance it before another person will take the house. That is how she get involved. But after a month interval, I tried paying her back, she insisted, not knowing she has another plan. How much is the money, we are talking of 70k out of 570k of the total money for the rentage of them.

Only a foolish man will raise another man’s kids. DNA is here to stay. I will let you know sef I must confirm before we go far… DNA IS A MUST DO FOR ME. I love you had nothing to do with me doing dna 🧬. Don’t even ask me if I trust u at all. Lol I’m too disciplined to be played

sandygechy:
And Nigerian men must continue to raise other men’s children!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

KIDfurniture:
You eh! That man failed himself. I will build on my own and encourage a woman to build her own and I will even support her. I can even build for the mother of my child and give her as a gift or settlement. Sharing my property cos u want a divorce will never work cos I believe in building alone. Can I send u a private mgs here ? I will like to have a deeper conservation with you. Maybe I can learn 1 or 2 . I just saw ur handle here! Ahhhhhhhhhhhh

Still waiting for your answer please don't run

I m trying to run o! Your handle alone .

Tightpussy2024:

Still waiting for your answer please don't run

Tightpussy2024:

Coming from the gender that will not miss a chance to sham unmarried women ,single mothers or a career women.
Or complain of population decline (in the west),or complain of family unit being destroyed .lol.

Gerr.ard59 will call anyone that wants to have children without being married irresponsible and indecent. Knowing fully well people will want to procraat but hate the burden of marriage

Because research shows that such an arrangement leads to poor outcomes, and women are the greatest losers as exemplified by Tensa20 experiences in Chile.

P.S. Your lovey-dovey healthy co-parenting does not exist in the real world especially in countries with weak social welfare schemes. And to be fair, it does not make sense for governments to support such arrangements with public funds considering the ill-effects on the wider society.

tuoyoojo:
Maybe that is why some women may stay in a loveless relationship as long as the money cones

However, what happens when the man or woman dies, who is entitled to what...over yo the lawyers in the house

He already mentioned it. If a spouse dies, the other partner is allowed as far as he or she can prove their contribution to the acquisition of the property while they were legally married.