ronkebp:

Where are you based and how long do you work for in a 24 hr day? do you have kids?

agiboma:

Have you tried cooking and freezing teh food so that you can defrost it daily and try to save some time.

Fhemmmy:

Sit your husband down and let him see why you need help . . . It is more joyful when you could do all these things together as well as take lesser time, and you would be able to spend quality time together.
Also, like other have suggested, try and cook enuf for the week, put them in the fridge and you just use the service of a microwave all week long.

hbabe:

I am based in Lagos, I resume 8am and close officially at 5pm but don't get to leave the office till 6.30pm. No kids yet.

hbabe:

I am based in Lagos, I resume 8am and close officially at 5pm but don't get to leave the office till 6.30pm. No kids yet.
I have tried that but it is still stressful.

Outstrip:

I don't subscribe to spending the whole weekend in the kitchen either but it really should not be this complicated. If you get back from work at about 8pm everyday then your husband really should be part of this process. What in the world are you guys going to do when the babies start coming. [/b]Sometimes I wonder how my husband and I survived the first couple of years but looking back now I realized that we ran the home like a freaking military operation. Everything was planned in advance for everything to run smoothly but we did it all together.

Knight1:

DO some immediately e.g wash plates immediately so that washing time becomes part of eating time
Lay bed immediately you wake
arrange clothes well etc

queensmith:

This thread made me vomit, and vomit again. Lemme quickly write this before i vomit once more.

You should have named the thread

'HELP ,how do i further send women back to the dark ages!'

Mshew

mutter:

Poster did you not grow up with responsibilities and chores you had to do? That might be why you are having problems now.
It`s just you and your husband so you are practically just cleaning up after yourselves.
The most important thing is not even the tidying but learning not to make a mess. At the early stage of marriage you should actually be deriving pleasure from keeping a home.

As for the cooking and freezing - my family does not eat any food after the second day.

mutter:

Poster did you not grow up with responsibilities and chores you had to do? That might be why you are having problems now.
It`s just you and your husband so you are practically just cleaning up after yourselves.
The most important thing is not even the tidying but learning not to make a mess. [b]At the early stage of marriage you should actually be deriving pleasure from keeping a home.[/b]personally I do not see t big deal there are no kids involved. What are you going to do the day you get regnant and it all gets harder.
It`s called taking responsibility. If you are not good at it - learn.
You should not be asking how career women cope with domestic chores because they do. Look for concrete tips on how to get things done effectively.

As for the cooking and freezing - my family does not eat any food after the second day.

taryour:

Op,honestly i assure you that wot u are facing is far from stresful compared to the chores that will be added when your kids start arriving,by then you will have to take care of your hubby,child,do d laundry,cook,sweep,e.t.c. You dont need a househelp yet as your marriage is still young beside you are still very young and have strong bones to go all d way. My advice is sit down and plan how to go abt you chores and make sure you go by the except situations warrant you do so. As for me since i had my son who is almost 6months,i now do most of my cookin n washin in d midnyt,most times i have to put him on my back while i work and i still have time 100% for my hubby,and tnk God for my hubby he as been so supotive and helpful. Best of luck.

mutter:

Queensmith what is career womans talk? keeping a home is not just about cleaning it but entails so much more, but maybe you don´t understand that.
Besides it does not matter how expensive things are, without cleaning and maintenance, they become useless. I actually derive pleasure from cleaning, it is a good way of letting off steam.
I love cooking my own food, so I can determine what I eat.

Anyone who is properly trained as a chid will not have a problem combining a career with their household.
She does not need a house help.

queensmith:

@taryour- ah sorry ooo u didnt mention that before! I thought you were saying op should prepare to carry the child on her back whilst doing midnisght cleaning when the kid arrives. . . . . . I cant even entertain the thought.
Its good your husband is supportive. which he should be. if he doesnt cook will he not eat?  

I am based in Lagos, I resume 8am and close officially at 5pm but don't get to leave the office till 6.30pm. No kids yet.

mutter:

Anyone who is properly trained as a chid will not have a problem combining a career with their household.
She does not need a house help.