Hijabis all the way. Don't c how wearing hijab will make it difficult to get married. Most serious muslim men will want their wives to be covered. There z dis lady I'm looking @ dat uses d scarf all d tym but hope to make her use d hijab (out of conviction tho) before any serious stuff goes down. Hijab is compulsory (wajib) on every adult muslimah as evidently stated in d Qur'an.

^Good luck with her.

@deols: i don't think i said anything bad or told anyone not to use hijab or obey d commandments of islam; i just gave my opinion and as far as i checked, that is not a crime since i didn't make any rude or discriminatin remark. pls reread my post wit an open mind n if u don't understand, ask me wat i mean. @mactunji: thanks!

bukatyne: @deols: i don't think i said anything bad or told anyone not to use hijab or obey d commandments of islam; i just gave my opinion and as far as i checked, that is not a crime since i didn't make any rude or discriminatin remark. pls reread my post wit an open mind n if u don't understand, ask me wat i mean. @mactunji: thanks!

You are welcome, I am sure deols means no harm. She just snapped at that moment. Oya deols, please say something nice and we can all be #civil even if we #disagree.

Whao. It's wonderful.

Hajbi/non-hijabi,4 me its an hijabi without a second thought,and im an educated African muslim man

bukatyne: @deols: i don't think i said anything bad or told anyone not to use hijab or obey d commandments of islam; i just gave my opinion and as far as i checked, that is not a crime since i didn't make any rude or discriminatin remark. pls reread my post wit an open mind n if u don't understand, ask me wat i mean. @mactunji: thanks!

actually, giving your opinion,I ddnt see as a crime either and was only giving an opinion too. You mentioned people wearing those long, shapeless things that you termed a no, no whereas the more beautiful ones to you were good to go-that is where the problem is.

And then I gave you an advice about dabling into things you have no knowledge of. I hope you learn that and apply it in other facets of life

deols:

actually, giving your opinion,I ddnt see as a crime either and was only giving an opinion too. You mentioned people wearing those long, shapeless things that you termed a no, no whereas the more beautiful ones to you were good to go-that is where the problem is.

And then I gave you an advice about dabling into things you have no knowledge of. I hope you learn that and apply it in other facets of life

It is official: You are VERY PROUD! I knew the bolded was why you snapped but since you did not come-out and say it, I let it pass. Look, bukatyne was prejudiced with her comment but you could have taken a simple post to educate her before snapping.

Saying sorry is not a sign of weakness but a sign of maturity.

@mactunji: thanks once again. i never meant any harm or bias. @deols: won't descend so low as to start any religious or personal bashin. as a christian, i don't do that in real life n i don't c anyreason y i should do it here. @mactunji: if sayin one is better than d other makes me prejudiced, i m sorry. afteral, i don't know if it was specified in d Quran which one is acceptable. i was only givin my opinion on wat i see. take care

bukatyne: @mactunji: thanks once again. i never meant any harm or bias. @deols: won't descend so low as to start any religious or personal bashin. as a christian, i don't do that in real life n i don't c anyreason y i should do it here. @mactunji: if sayin one is better than d other makes me prejudiced, i m sorry. afterall, i don't know if it was specified in d Quran which one is acceptable. i was only givin my opinion on wat i see. take care

I understand, that is why I did not comment on it because deols had become the 'greater offender' with her post by snapping without explaining. I don't blame you or hold any grudge. We are all human beings and can be prejudiced at times without realizing it. I salute your maturity.

Oga mac,pls take it easy on my deols.looks like u just lie in wait for her to goof and u pounce on her. I particularly appreciate u duo's contribution to dis section so I don't like it when u bicker.It's like mum and dad fighting...u know better wat it does to d children.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=A5qdREUUm5Q

bntY: Oga mac,pls take it easy on my deols.looks like u just lie in wait for her to goof and u pounce on her. I particularly appreciate u duo's contribution to dis section so I don't like it when u bicker.It's like mum and dad fighting...u know better wat it does to d children.

Errrr, not really. I think deols is the first person that knows that I think she is amazing and all the other nice adjectives . However, in this case in particular, I think she did not portray herself in the best light and I sincerely think calling her attention to it is in order.

I know you might be wondering: Why do I do that in public? Well, that is the only option I have.

The summary is this: I will not post something just to impress deols neither will I hold back from posting something not to offend deols.

This post of yours is really sweet bntY.

@Sweetnecta, I just watched the video you posted which I rarely do. It is absolutely brilliant! The lecturer has a great sense of humour as well and I love that very much!

bntY: Oga mac,pls take it easy on my deols.looks like u just lie in wait for her to goof and u pounce on her. I particularly appreciate u duo's contribution to dis section so I don't like it when u bicker.It's like mum and dad fighting...u know better wat it does to d children.

hmmmmn! I see your effort. Thanks hun. If I take the job of a psychologist on maclatunji's case, I'd write a thesis that'll awe you all. I'll be quite now. But my dog doesnt lie jeje for too long.

I'll continue to try being civil with him.

@bukatyne, if you read my first post again you'd realise I didnt insult you. my tone might have been harsh to you but I wouldnt have taken an offence on such a thing if said to me. In the long run, my point is clear and is all that matters.

deols:

hmmmmn! I see your effort. Thanks hun. If I take the job of a psychologist on maclatunji's case, I'd write a thesis that'll awe you all. I'll be quite now. But my dog doesnt lie jeje for too long.

I'll continue to try being civil with him.

@bukatyne, if you read my first post again you'd realise I didnt insult you. my tone might have been harsh to you but I wouldnt have taken an offence on such a thing if said to me. In the long run, my point is clear and is all that matters.

LMFSO! That was brilliant + classic all the way. But why do we seem to clash so much? It shouldn't be you know- I could almost say it is unnatural.

You know what? I wouldn't mind reading that thesis. #LOL Abeg start writing!

bukatyne: @mactunji: thanks once again. i never meant any harm or bias. @deols: won't descend so low as to start any religious or personal bashin. as a christian, i don't do that in real life n i don't c anyreason y i should do it here. @mactunji: if sayin one is better than d other makes me prejudiced, i m sorry. afteral, i don't know if it was specified in d Quran which one is acceptable. i was only givin my opinion on wat i see. take care

this is exactly my point. av bn on this forum for a while and I speak from experience. you are not the first to be giving such statements and I have given similar replies in the past. If not for capitalising on the matter, I dont think it would have been a big deal.

My fiance and I are Muslim.Im AA he is from Nigeria(Yoruba),I cover up and other times i dont.We discussed this before we became serious which is key. I dont mind wearing permanently,but he gives me the choice. When he asks me to wear it though of course I do. I prefer scarves.Anyways its definitely about compromise with your other half.

Great video by my Malaysian brother, aiman:: It addresses everything about this topic:


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https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJ647OGui8k[/flash]

deols:

this is exactly my point. av bn on this forum for a while and I speak from experience. you are not the first to be giving such statements and I have given similar replies in the past. If not for capitalising on the matter, I dont think it would have been a big deal.

Look deols, you need to shed this 'victim' mentality when it comes to my posts when they concern you. After all said and done, you are still trying to rationalise and justify your aggressive post to bukatyne.

Do you really think that I am so idle that all I come here to do is to embarrass you? Like I said before, you know I appreciate a lot of your qualities, to what degree I think you have an idea. However, I would become a hypocrite if I see you do or say something wrong and pretend as if what you have done is the best thing in the world.

Secondly, you know very well why I cannot say these things to you in private so there is nothing like 'capitalising' on any matter from me.

You are a wonderful person but that does not mean you are perfect or that you cannot make mistakes or cannot be reprimanded or corrected.

When such instances arise, look at the message and not the messenger. You have grown to distrust me a lot- therein lies our problem.

MyNaijaLove89: My fiance and I are Muslim.Im AA he is from Nigeria(Yoruba),I cover up and other times i dont.We discussed this before we became serious which is key. I dont mind wearing permanently,but he gives me the choice. When he asks me to wear it though of course I do. I prefer scarves.Anyways its definitely about compromise with your other half.

I am sorry but I beg to disagree. Using the hijab has little to do with your other half. Otherwise, single women who have no suitors would not be obliged to use them. It is about you as a woman observing Allah's injunction on you and not because you want to impress or do not want to offend anybody.

maclatunji:

Look deols, you need to shed this 'victim' mentality when it comes to my posts when they concern you. After all said and done, you are still trying to rationalise and justify your aggressive post to bukatyne.

Do you really think that I am so idle that all I come here to do is to embarrass you? Like I said before, you know I appreciate a lot of your qualities, to what degree I think you have an idea. However, I would become a hypocrite if I see you do or say something wrong and pretend as if what you have done is the best thing in the world.

Secondly, you know very well why I cannot say these things to you in private so there is nothing like 'capitalising' on any matter from me.

You are a wonderful person but that does not mean you are perfect or that you cannot make mistakes or cannot be reprimanded or corrected.

When such instances arise, look at the message and not the messenger. You have grown to distrust me a lot- therein lies our problem.

victim mentality? Uv read too much on this forum that certain phrases uv added to ur vocabulary without learning when to use them appropriately.
I wrote a reply to ur previous statement. When I have d time, i'll post it. Hopelly it will help you out of your situation. I doubt it though.

deols:

victim mentality? Uv read too much on this forum that certain phrases uv added to ur vocabulary without learning when to use them appropriately.
I wrote a reply to ur previous statement. When I have d time, i'll post it. Hopelly it will help you out of your situation. I doubt it though.

Huh? What is she saying? Meaning please? I was hoping you would be more objective but since you want to be that way, go to your thread to post it https://www.nairaland.com/751801/muslim-singles-let-us-talk . That is the closest to a chat we will get to on Nairaland. I really don't want to turn this thread into a maclatunji vs. deols drama but if you want to be that way let's go to your thread.

I honestly don't intend to take sides with anyone on this issue,and I've always tried to refrain myself from passing a comment whenever both of you are at each other's throats, but I just have to say this, mac, give deols a break please. The way you go about trying to look out for her flaws to justify her imperfection is becoming embarassing to me. I've been a follower of almost every thread in this section and I know what I'm saying. You really need to stop calling her out unnecessarily. You aren't perfect either, and knwoing your kind of person, I'm quite sure you wouldn't appreciate it if someone keeps finding faults in you.

There are better ways to admonish someone without coming across as a stalker or wateva!

I'd appreciate it if both of you can just read my comment and not reply. Thank you

bhusayor: I honestly don't intend to take sides with anyone on this issue,and I've always tried to refrain myself from passing a comment whenever both of you are at each other's throats, but I just have to say this, mac, give deols a break please. The way you go about trying to look out for her flaws to justify her imperfection is becoming embarassing to me. I've been a follower of almost every thread in this section and I know what I'm saying. You really need to stop calling her out unnecessarily. You aren't perfect either, and knwoing your kind of person, I'm quite sure you wouldn't appreciate it if someone keeps finding faults in you.

There are better ways to admonish someone without coming across as a stalker or wateva!

I'd appreciate it if both of you can just read my comment and not reply. Thank you

Sorry, you can't gag people.

@bolded, you mistake holding contrary opinions and well... being a very "active debator" for that. Like I said earlier: I will not post something just to impress deols neither will I hold back from posting something not to offend deols. I have a principle for almost everything I do. As for deols on Nairaland, that is my motto/mantra whatever you want to call it.

I was genuinely unimpressed by her reply to Bukatyne. Hence, all that has followed on this thread.

maclatunji:

LMFSO! That was brilliant + classic all the way. But why do we seem to clash so much? It shouldn't be you know- I could almost say it is unnatural.

You know what? I wouldn't mind reading that thesis. #LOL Abeg start writing!

I wouldnt mind writing that thesis if not that from experience, it would be a waste of time.

let me however give you a parting appraisal for this would be my last response to you on this forum(I hope Seun brings that feature that allows you block people You dont wanna see soon, so you could be bye gone forever). Am sure of the bickering to follow this But who says I care?

I have been avoiding you for a while and you keep lurking around so your outburst doesnt in the least surprise me. It was bad that I snapped but okay that you call me very proud. Who appointed you the judge of character here, Mr Goodman? and you have the audacity to continually give people tags. oh, and I think you really think am proud but what do I think of you?

NL must be making your life so good that bukatyne's thank you keeps you going. Reminds me of how tpia kept massaging your ego until she confirmed your . . . on another thread. Toba was your bossom friend too when he was obviously antideols. You have the habit of capitalising on other people's matter so you could appear as good. Thank God busy body agrees with me. the following is her response to you on a thread elsewhere.

Busy_body: SEE ANOTHER CASE IN POINT






HOW DARE YOU WHO MADE YOU JUDGE AND JURY

See how you used Ivynwa's evil words which could only come from a devious depraved tainted and tortured soul like her. Your post was equally inflammatory and downright condemning, yet I kept quiet when Jennykadry said you did not join in because i'd rather that died down, See how i have been vindicated, see how Prince was unfairly attacked! But you just don't know when to stop do you!!! I tire for you oh



AND YET ANOTHER CASE



Again, see how you twisted my response to OAM4J [/b]TO COME UP SMELLING OF ROSES when it was something entirely different Elder OAM4J was talking about. [b]You think i too could not have come to translate OAM4J's recommendation as : "Sorry i slacked and dropped the ball, next time i will use more force and possibly resort to violence and bludgeon Maclatunji out of the way so i can get my message across to perx. Think only you can play the game huh. It is not fair oh.

And if as you have correctly deduced up there, everyone is misinterpreting your words, why is it taking you so long to cotton onto the issue that[b] you need to take a step back and go and reappraise yourself [/b] Idowuogbo was right about that Messianic pickin of Joseph badge she gave you oh, Pele pele oh.

https://www.nairaland.com/826801/you-feeling-suicidal-come-here/18#10355927

I put the ones I find very true about you in bold and this isnt all, there's more. . .


What I am yet to understand is how people keep telling you the same thing over and over again and as a grown up man (like u'd want to be called), you havent reasoned enough to change your ways.

hmmn! so that was not even your first time ehn? It is very reasonable then that I ignore you henceforth. you aint worth nada of anyone's time.

Busy_body:


Maclatunji, i don't know what is driving you, but you need to put a stop to it, it is dangerously unpleasant and unsettling. Remember how i asked you back then on this thread before it got cleaned out, saying "whose are you? Who sent you?". YOU NEED TO SERIOUSLY STOP TWISTING PEOPLE'S WORDS TO YOUR OWN ADVANTAGE. IT IS NOT FAIR USING WORDPLAY TO DESTABILISE PEOPLE THEREBY MAKING PEOPLE MISINTERPRETE THEIR ORIGINAL INTENTION. HOW MANY TIMES HAVE YOU BEEN PULLED UP THIS YEAR ALONE ON NAIRALAND FOR THIS? THINK ABOUT IT FOR YOUR OWN GOOD Look at these highlighted examples:





https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=826801.msg10350996#msg10350996








You said you discussed some things behind the scenes with TEHN and made some recommendations to them . . . R231 made his "LISTENING" comment to indicate that this was new to them but they would still like to hear it, yet SEE HOW YOU TWISTED R231'S QUERY which he even highlighted in bold TO YOUR OWN ADVANTAGE and changed it to Perx would not like you to share it, leaving him floundering and bewildered. And when he AGAIN asked what TEHN had done wrong, you slunk away, probably with a smug satisfied job done grin on your face, why! Why do you feel the need to bring others down to exhonerate yourself? Who has accused anyone of doing any wrong except for that immature Ivynwa who is a textbook case of old age being just a number?

the last in bold is probably the reason you always ask if I think youv been acting to bring me down. A part of you definitely knows what you do but you can keep lying to yourself.

and the following is what idowuogbo had to say. obviously, u ddnt learn a thing from them. o ga o.

Idowuogbo:
Iyaoko mi,I just wished Perx gave you a chance.Tunji is here going on and on as usual,his problem is he doesn't want to digest the facts u posted,he is d Messiah and nobody dia tell him the truth.Iya oko mi plzzzz if in d nearest future we have someone battling to survive drop in,fight to get heard.U have a heart, and as brutal as u are sometimes u always careful wen it comes to d life of a human being.D lord is your strength.

@Tunji

Now it's time for Badosky to talk,u always want 2 play d speak truth game and u constantly attack folks wen d truth is bin dished out to u rite! I know what I have to say probably shares little connections with wot we pondering on here,but it's time for u to HOLD IT! Tunji.Dis thread was created by you rite? U found out about Perx tru dis avenue rite? Fine! you and Perx shared something strong no doubts, we all did in one way or another.We all kept tracks of her posts which also includes dis present thread,during d happenings a disturbed gal named GLORYA showed up and i must say in the beginning u took notice of her and Perx.Tunji y did u abandon GLORYA for Perx? Was GLORYA case not strong enough for ur Messiah qualities? GLORYA came on thread looking for me and u ignored her but had da energy to reply Perx straight after on this same thread.Y were u discriminating? Have u mailed or contacted GLORYA? Now am also angry and boiling but pls stop pointing fingers @ Tehn,dis guys aren't gona b wot u expect them to be.

Tunji I advised you offline and told you most members of Tehn are elderly so watch ur tongue,but for u to pounce on OAm4 like dat is extremely sickening,I certainly won't let u get away with it NO WAY!!!.Tunji I dont expect a paragraph justifying ur actions, and I don't really wanna hear ur usual stunts,I just wish u would accept some posts are FACTS.U are not d son of Moses so pls apply silence when due.
Peace!

and I read the thread and could have nudged the ladies on or just add my views but I didnt because there was nothing to gain. Tunji will not learn. he isnt wise enough to. My parting gift in form of an appraisal.

I'll end this by the words of this psycologist. remember to change the word,igbo to maclatunji.

There is something in the psychological makeup of Igbos that makes them always go looking for trouble. In the calmest of circumstances they will always do something that would annoy those around them, create conflict and then live in conflict; they seem to enjoy living in conflicts.

Invariably they would say or do something that even a child knows would irritate those neighbors and do it as if they do not know that such actions irritate people.

https://www.nairaland.com/873527/why-do-igbos-always-go

LOL, all this trouble just not to say sorry to Bukatyne. You try ehn!

bhusayor: I honestly don't intend to take sides with anyone on this issue,and I've always tried to refrain myself from passing a comment whenever both of you are at each other's throats, but I just have to say this, mac, give deols a break please. The way you go about trying to look out for her flaws to justify her imperfection is becoming embarassing to me. I've been a follower of almost every thread in this section and I know what I'm saying. You really need to stop calling her out unnecessarily. You aren't perfect either, and knwoing your kind of person, I'm quite sure you wouldn't appreciate it if someone keeps finding faults in you.

There are better ways to admonish someone without coming across as a stalker or wateva!

I'd appreciate it if both of you can just read my comment and not reply. Thank you

sweetheart, let him sweat please, that was my last to him.

SMH