MRbrownJAY: ^^^no no no bro, the point is that A) you can never attain Killz 5.0 unless you LET GO and open your heart and let that gal in.....because to do so you need to fully trust that person. being with someone you just CAN LIVE WITH (aka almost anyone out there) will only get you to Killz 3.0, at best, lol. B) although you may attain such higher state of mind with another, it is never the same. the beautiful music you create with one is "special" and cannot be recreated with another, therefore that part of your life dies out, and you recreate different (but equally beautiful) music with another one, if you open up like that.

So you kinda implying i "cant" let go of the old, and let the new in?
That there is only one special person for me? And that when she goes, the whole essence of my living goes with her?

MBJ leave story. . . all these is story. . . She is "special" as long as we are together, once she goes, she goes and we move on. . . Simple! Are you saying you still remember all your "special ones"? That you've only told one lady you cannot live without her? And that when they leave, they leave you in MBJ 3.0? I wonder the version you'll be running in now. . . MBJ 0.0001 perhaps?

~Killz~:

So you kinda implying i "cant" let go of the old, and let the new in?
That there is only one special person for me? And that when she goes, the whole essence of my living goes with her

MBJ leave story. . . all these is story. . . She is "special" as long as we are together, once she goes, she goes and we move on.. . Simple!

Are you saying you still remember all your "special ones"? That you've only told one lady you cannot live without her? And that when they leave, they leave you in MBJ 3.0? I wonder the version you'll be running in now. . . MBJ 0.0001 perhaps?

MRbrownJAY: ^^ unfortunately, such state of mind is very difficult to achieve. look at the OP, she would rather live a "miserable love life" and keep her heart safe, rather than love fully and passionately and possibly get hurt.
so it's either she got hurt in the past and dont want to go through it again, or she is so scared of deception that she'd rather live a simple life, happy with what she got and not wanting more.

slimyem: its sad how you are not getting this!
Its not about keeping my heart safe or not wanting to go through any hurt again.
I'm just saying...no human will or can ever be the reason for my existence!

If i make them that,i'll simply stop living when they live... and i'm not willing to sacrifice that for anybody.

I'd live and enjoy every moment fully with anyone i choose but the moment that person decides that i'm not worth staying with,i put him and everything that came with him behind!
Why dwell on sweet/fond memories of a painful past when you can look to better events of the future?

freecocoa: MBJ I can't live without you that i know but can i live with you?

On a more serious note though,how is it that you can't live without someone when you won't literally drop dead if the person goes?quite frankly I'm yet to get that phrase cos I've seen people who moved on and started another relationship when their supposed life went away.

slimyem: if i created something special with you and you stop seeing the need to nurture that special thing with me,there's no beauty in it anymore!
As much as i agree anyone cannot live alone and needs someone one way or another,every someone can be replaced and every special moment can be re-created!

MRbrownJAY:

are you ready to make sweet music? lol!



the way a man will make you feel is different than how another will. the important part is to accept that you can never find happiness while doing just any guys out there. the moment you find that special someone, is the moment you will discover the Freecocoa you never knew existed. that person is UNIQUE, and has nothing to do with the one you are normally!

Idowuogbo: d debate still dey gas ni?

d thread don dry joor!

cocoa keep flirting in my presence u hia

MRbrownJAY:

NO!!!! you CAN let go of ANYTHING, and saying that you cant live without someone is just a "figure of speech". YES there is only one person to create the beautiful music that you guys created, and YES again, when she goes the whole essence of what you guys created (aka Killz 5.0) disappears and you go back to being Killz 1.0.



at least we are getting somewhere!!!! if she is "special" then she is more that just someone you can live with.



i remember them all because the music we made was special, the feelings they brought to my life is/will always be special, its like walking on clouds. if you've never felt this way (aka the best version of yourself) then you are seriously missing in life!

also, you can never go below 1.0, thats your basic self. when these women leave, you get right back to where you were before you met them, aka single (1.0). as a single guy, you can be happy and fulfilled in life, BUT, that happiness can only take you up to 3.0. to attain 5.0 (the best version of yourself), you gotta be with someone, you gotta have that woman in your life that will help carry you there. IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO GET THERE ON YOUR OWN!

slimyem: MBJ,you keep going round and round in circles.
It takes time to find a special someone or a perfect match in replacement,yes!
But its all in time!
And if what i had in the past cannot be compared with what i have now,so what?
Have i stopped living because of that?
Does it mean that i wont be enjoying this new experience because of a 'SPECIAL' past?
Bottomline-the'i can't live without you' phrase is bullshit!,a fallacy!,a delusion,a sham,a hoax,an aberration!
Lots more i can call it to make it sink in with you but you wont just get it!

freecocoa: Yes i'd really love to but wait what genre of music are we talking here?

So in other words you are saying there's only one special one for everyone?or we only get to have a special one just once in our lives?

How is it possible that i can't find happiness doing some other guy after I've lost the supposed "special one" when i must have fallen in love with someone else?or do we also get to fall in love just once?

~Killz~:

MBJ, i can live without a woman.

MRbrownJAY:

lol, take it easy!!!!! you are mixing everything up. i am just trying to tell you that there are people in your life that will bring fantastic feelings to your life, that you "shouldnt" live without. what you had in the past "could" be compared to what you have now, if you find that special someone BUT, if you just settle for anybody (aka someone you can live with) then you probably wont enjoy life as good as you did with that special someone.

but hey, if you are just seeking for common feelings with common partner, then fair enough.

as i said to Killz, if you found out that chicken tasted great but then went right back to eating bread everyday, wouldnt you aim to taste that SWEET CHICKEN? again?!



your girl is here again being jealous........... Idowuogbo, let your babe breathe a little and be herself na? accept and cherish her for who she is, rather than trying to change her for who you want her to be!



no, i am saying that there is a level of yourself that you will only discover when you find the right guy. when its over, you will hopefully find a new right guy to get you there again etc. some find this guy once in their lives while others find that person more often, it depends on individuals......and some NEVER find him because they are too scared to open up.



as i said, its all down to chemistry. you may find everything right with someone and yet your "juices" wont flow like that. everything needs to be perfect in order to make beautiful music, your essence needs to be on point.....and sometimes it only manifests itself after time.

what do you regard as falling in love? when do you believe you "love" someone? what makes you think someone is IT? and how do you know that what you had with your "special one" in the past was IT? unless you have experienced it before, you will never know how being your 5.0 self feels like.

~Killz~:
Someone i can live with until death do us part! That "I can't live without you" line is plain BULLSHIT!

Majority of people reading this have been heart broken at least once. They suffered that heart break from someone that they must have said "I can't live without you" to. But the person is no longer with them. . . Are they still not alive? Abegi make i hear word!

I cant live without you ke, are you food?

lefulefu: i can never live with slimyem yem
she go cut off my manhood wen i offguard

~Killz~:
Killz 5.0 is attainable with anybody. . . Let's say My "special" one (with whom the "music" we made together won the grammys ) leaves me. Is MBJ saying, she won't meet someone else to make special, and that Killz will NOT find another special lady? And that 2 of us would be miserable apart while it's obvious we are not compatible?

Bobo yi funny gan mehn. . .

I can live without her. . . She's special when we are together and the essence of my living while she is there. But when she's gone, she's GONE! She doesn't reduce nothing from me, just as i do not her. If it's not meant to be, NO bullshit music will keep us together. . .

Idowuogbo: Mr MBJ, who is jealous?

Cocoa send him dat text message NOW!!!!!