A friend of mine has been doing everything jst to satisfied his wife bt his wife never appreciates them,he smtimes washes his wife's clothes,cook the meal and other stuff.Bt wenever he buys smtimes for the wife u see the wife calling him all sorts of romantic names,my good husband,my sweetheart,my honey,the best husband in the world.etc.The guy is doing well and providing for the family and not a stingy type.
Does it means that Africans and Nigeria women appreciates gifts more than affection and care,ur girlfriend,wife or fiance wl regard you as a caring man wen u buy more gifts for them.
so,is buying gifts makes one more caring than showing love and affection?
lets hv ur views and opinions.

You mean affection as in flowers like the white people? That is not for Naija women. They want cash, either in the banknote form or converted to a gift. No joke with Naija women O!

@johndoe,so they are more materialistic hmmm
cn i hear frm the women.

It all depends on the type of woman it is. What she values most (money, material things etc) may be diff from what lady X values the most (pampering, catering, adoration etc). These needs define the kinds of things she wants fulfilled as per that time.
Above all, most ladies (Continentally speaking) like it when you buy them things.
He just has to do a mix of everything at the right time.

Give me all. If you can't, don't apply.

na caring as in i love you with mouth i go take get better for bank ?
na man with head for him shoulder we dey pray for

hey darl', i'd like to have steak dinner. na that place i wan go chop steak a'la peri peri.

stillwater: Give me all. If you can't, don't apply.

who dey apply before?

^^^Lol.

Any man that can spend money

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armyofone: na caring as in i love you with mouth i go take get better for bank ?
na man with head for him shoulder we dey pray for

hey darl', i'd like to have steak dinner. na that place i wan go chop steak a'la peri peri.

So if I buy you rose flowers, am I not caring enough?

Johndoe100: You mean affection as in flowers like the white people? That is not for Naija women. They want cash, either in the banknote form or converted to a gift. No joke with Naija women O!

They really suck honestly , nigerian girls are disdained from civilisation . They love recharge cards than flowers

A man who can eat the coochie and make her woman squirt all the time.

[quote author=ReLaTE]A friend of mine has been doing everything jst to satisfied his wife bt his wife never appreciates them,he smtimes washes his wife's clothes,cook the meal and other stuff.Bt wenever he buys smtimes for the wife u see the wife calling him all sorts of romantic names,my good husband,my sweetheart,my honey,the best husband in the world.etc.The guy is doing well and providing for the family and not a stingy type.
Does it means that Africans and Nigeria women appreciates gifts more than affection and care,ur girlfriend,wife or fiance wl regard you as a caring man wen u buy more gifts for them.
so,is buying gifts makes one more caring than showing love and affection?
lets hv ur views and opinions.[/quote)....."African Mentalility"....Not all of them anyway.

The guy who show as much love,affection and dedication and he would expect in return from his loved ones

armyofone: na caring as in i love you with mouth i go take get better for bank ?
na man with head for him shoulder we dey pray for

hey darl', i'd like to have steak dinner. na that place i wan go chop steak a'la peri peri.

You have just said it all

When a nigerian gurl says yu are nt caring? It simply means you don't give her money or buy her gifts.

stillwater: Give me all. If you can't, don't apply.

So if hundred of guys apply to give u al,dey 'l al av dia way.i wonder wetin go remain 4 ur market.*shake ma head*

The two are very essential, but affection carries a bigger weight for me as long as it is sincere.

As per your friend's wife, she is simply ungrateful. She doesn't know what she has until she loses it.

ReLaTE: A friend of mine has been doing everything jst to satisfied his wife bt his wife never appreciates them,he smtimes washes his wife's clothes,cook the meal and other stuff.Bt wenever he buys smtimes for the wife u see the wife calling him all sorts of romantic names,my good husband,my sweetheart,my honey,the best husband in the world.etc.The guy is doing well and providing for the family and not a stingy type.

But the guy should know all these during dating and before marriage..Abi e just see the lady today then marry her the next day??

In my vast experience with Nigerian women and black Americans, I can tell you emphatically that women naturally are obsessed with material things but the American babes(most of them) value time spent together, they are more understanding and are able to contribute together as long as you treat them with respect, an average American babe knows that it is her duty to contribute to part of the bills, no excuses but Nigerian babes from the on-set are taught to be parasite, they see males as sole providers, the absolute solution to all their problems and when a man falls short of this amplified status, he is immediately labelled as uncaring, inferior and irresponsible.

Does it means that Africans and Nigeria women appreciates gifts more than affection and care,ur girlfriend,wife or fiance wl regard you as a caring man wen u buy more gifts for them.

Give me affection and keep the gifts, if I can't have both.

It means a man that gives his wife money or whatever she needs anytime she want it. Even if the children are dying of hunger.

ReLaTE: A friend of mine has been doing everything jst to satisfied his wife bt his wife never appreciates them,he smtimes washes his wife's clothes,cook the meal and other stuff.Bt wenever he buys smtimes for the wife u see the wife calling him all sorts of romantic names,my good husband,my sweetheart,my honey,the best husband in the world.etc.The guy is doing well and providing for the family and not a stingy type.
Does it means that Africans and Nigeria women appreciates gifts more than affection and care,ur girlfriend,wife or fiance wl regard you as a caring man wen u buy more gifts for them.
so,is buying gifts makes one more caring than showing love and affection?
lets hv ur views and opinions.

Truth be told, MOST women are materialistic. It's ingrained into their DNA. It's not so much of a bad thing coz that's how they are. Race has no stand here coz if white women are different, why do they hack a man's life to pieces in divorce proceedings? Nigeria is a very harsh place to live in so it brings out the animalistic instincts in women. In the western world, there are cushions provided for the citizens that doesn't make the women appear so desperate but all in all...every woman wants to marry Mr. Tall,Handsome,Generous and extremely RICH!!! That's the cold truth.

Why should i wash my wife's clothes?

@Poster,
Sorry to say this but i think your friends wife is a prostitute. If she only showers him love when he buys her things, that why i said so.

what she needs to be loved may not be cloths and other things but time. your friend should search well to know her need.

There is nothing wrong for a woman to want gifts.nigerian men do not know how 2 make a marriage intresting they bore you with it.don't we all watch hollywood movies and see how husbands always remember to take their wives out and never forget gifts on birthdays and anniversaries.nigerian men same routine all the days of your life.

harakiri:

Truth be told, MOST women are materialistic. It's ingrained into their DNA. It's not so much of a bad thing coz that's how they are. Race has no stand here coz if white women are different, why do they hack a man's life to pieces in divorce proceedings? Nigeria is a very harsh place to live in so it brings out the animalistic instincts in women. In the western world, there are cushions provided for the citizens that doesn't make the women appear so desperate but all in all...every woman wants to marry Mr. Tall,Handsome,Generous and extremely RICH!!! That's the cold truth.

True, that is how it has been from Adam, women want "comfort" in every sense of the word, financial comfort, material comfort, marital comfort and so on.

I love money and that is just the truth, don't know of others shaa!!!
- give me affection and gift will love the guy to pieces and i mean a "forever" kind of thing,
- now!!you have affection and no gifts; understandable, but it should be due to lack of wada not because the guy does not know how to spend on gifts.
- Then no-affection but have gifts to throw around; shove the gifts up your*****.

abbey621: In my vast experience with Nigerian women and black Americans, I can tell you emphatically that women naturally are obsessed with material things but the American babes(most of them) value time spent together, they are more understanding and are able to contribute together as long as you treat them with respect, an average American babe knows that it is her duty to contribute to part of the bills, no excuses but Nigerian babes from the on-set are taught to be parasite, they see males as sole providers, the absolute solution to all their problems and when a man falls short of this amplified status, he is immediately labelled as uncaring, inferior and irresponsible.

MAY YOU LIVE LONG MY BROTHER!!!! talk about a shallow mindset... its d 'mugu's i blame tho.