milkygirl you have gotten the solution and answer to your problem,why are you still here.

you cannot make,love,coerce or even wash something to make this guy stop giving his sisters money.
the guy is not ready to stop giving his sisters money.
the sisters are not ready to stop asking their big brother money because you are in a committed relationship with him.
you cannot change anything even if you decide to marry this guy.
and you cannot be a good samaritan or tolerate one.

simply------------------------------

PACK YOUR BAGGAGE AND GO.LEAVE THIS GUY TO MARRY HIS SISTERS.SIMPLE.

@ Poster

I'm Igbo O! but that doesn't mean i should support what is not right.

I feel you. It's not like the guy is a millionaire - he's trying to start up his own life with the little resources he has.

These so called sisters have jobs O! It's not like they are broke O! they are just being wicked. they want to save their money and keep drying their brother up.

I feel you should explain to your guy that if he continues like dis, he would not have any savings to put up his future.

I'm not saying he should not assist them when the need arises, but putting people that have jobs on monthly allowance to his own detriment, abeg that is too much.

He has to make a decision on which is more important to him - supplying his siters greedy needs or building a future for himself.

I once had a guy like that. this one was not even his sisters dat were demanding; it waz one grandmother's step son's daughter somewhere in the village, or one uncle he has never seen b4 but hears his name and he was always complaining that he was broke. He cud not plan his life (cos any little money he saves they are already there with their demands).

Me, I did not even tell him anything but I just resolved in my mind that I can't marry him. one day he told that me dat one of his ex's was always complaining about his extravagant life style and he was begining to see reasons with her.


So talk to him about it, don't nag him O! Explain the consequences of his actions to his future. If he still doesn't see anything in it - and you cannot stand it any longer, then you could leave the relationship. But someday he would appreciate the fact that someone once cared enough to advice him - and he wud see what he has done to himself.

Hope it won't be too late by then!

Good Luck!

thank ur stars ure not yet married 2 him.dis is a time u have 2 make a decision a firm one at dat.ull av 2 ask ur fiancee who is more important in his life ur sef or his sisters cos gal trust me afta wedding u wount av ur privacy.u r still complanin of his sisters.his cousins will come sef.i'm not of d opinion dat extended family members should not come n tax dia ''bro'' (its dia ryt as some uneducated inlaws say) but wen its becomin 2 much n its drainin him (especially d fact dat dey r workin ,common).den u'll know.abi is it wen he has done fada xmas finish n deres no food in d house or money 2 pay children skulfees or miscellenous.gal dis r all d tins 2 put in2 consideration by avin a serious meetin wit him b4 u get dat ring cos as soon as u say i do u'll av 2 put up wit woteva u see in dat house n nobody will folow u there not even d ppu on nl dat r givin u advice.i'm not in anyway goin 2 marry an ibo dude (anyway my fiancee isn't from dat part of naija n i thank god wen i listened 2 my parents wen dey said i shouldn't bring an ibo man in2 dia house,dey know wat dey saw anywayz) if u still choose 2 go ahead wit dat marriage inspite of dose serious "parasites" u'll experience u beta build a strong boundary between ur husbands finances n his sisters. at least if dey were still in school dats quite understandable.allow him 2 takia of his moda very well n u 2 will also send money so dere wount be any excuse dat "since he has been goin out wit dat gal he hasnt bin takin care of us".d moda cant say dat n if d children say so u r justified because dey r workin.d only person dat deserves d spendin is d guys mother FULL STOP.

@OP
I understandwhat u're saying regarding what u feel would potentially be ur home but what you have to understand his,the guy is meant to be the head of the home and when he can't recognise what is important and not and you have to do the thinking for him then you're both not on the same level of thinking and not at the same page.
At the moment his sisters are the most important people in his life not about you guys getting married
A guy ready to get married would stra planing for his wedding or where does he expect to get money fr marriage if all his money hsgone to his siblings,maybe he expect you to foot the bill fr his wedding.
You're feeling sorry for someone that doesn't feel for sorry for himself.
Stop supporting him when he doesn't have,his priority are not straight yet but urs are.
Stop wasting your time with him and his sisters,am sure you've got better things to worry about than him and his sisters.
If he wants to support them let him go ahead and if you don't see any change after talking to him but no fight ohh or nagging,abeg leave the guy and his family before people start looking for your head ohhhh

He's their blood ad if they can't pity him and tell him the truth.


Forget all that babes and if no change abeg leave before people start saying it's since you've maried their brother tha things haven't been well with them,
Abeg lt me leae the topic with my long story.


Just do what is right and am sure u already know but we just try to ignore it with emotions and nonsense dat don't make sense.

@poster, dont u just hate ibo's! U should have used this as d topic 4 ur thread 'I am dating this guy who his sisters are too demanding'. Must u include d "ibo"? U even made it clear u've heard shit about ibo's which u now believe cos of d guys sis. Do u know ur children will be ibo's if u eventually get married? U'll want to have girls too, wont u? How will u feel when ppl think what u think abt ibo gals about ur girls. Thank ur God that guy is not me. I wud've called off d relationship even if u are queen elizabeth & tomorrow s our wedding! Do u know my lil sis used to send me recharge card when i was in d university & she just finished sec sch? Even when i was doing my nysc & she was in d university, she still sent me recharge cards whenever i asked her for it. All those while she sent them cards, she knew clearly i was richer than her at that moment still she didnt hesitate 2 do so. Thats what family do. Thats d least of d examples of what she did. Time & space will fail me to kip goin on abt her. Ask me to choose 2day btw an ordinary girlfriend & my sis, i wont even think twice before choosing my sis. So watch ur loud mouth. Why wont they wanna benefit from their bro now that he's single? With this kinda thread u put here, if u eventually get married, d guy is gonna kiss his family goodbye forever. In short, i better stop writing cos vex don dey catch me big time. I pity that ur dude u're just waitin to kill him with high bp once u get married. Good luck with that!

@ topic

I am sorry but guys like that will never change.

The ibo guy has not married you yet and you have started complaining of the way he spent his money on his family.
Inshort,You will not be a good wife to any ibo man because ibo guys value their family.And let me ask u this question ,do you know how many people in his family that must have helped him in life before you met him?
Pls. if you dont love him b/c he helps his relatives go and look for Edo guy that will marry u who will not give money to any relatives.

i can see quite a number of immature men on nl whose passion is 2 take tins personal.as 4 dose guys dat r in d fada xmas tin 2 ur family widout tinkin of d family u will make carry on.maybe u'll marry from ur family members.am sure guys like dem r ovagrown babies who dia mother still breast feeds afta marriage.dey can ask dia moda y dia wife is actin like dis on bed.dey r dose guys dat would rather believe dia moda dan dia wives i call dem BABY HUSBANDS who got married because dey r d only successful people in dia family,d rest of d family members r notin 2 write home bout so dey r "entitled 2 drain him 2 his last kobo,even if his younger bro is married n has a job.anyway i cant even go n inch close 2 such guys,even if i see symptoms of Baby husband i go pik race sharp sharp.besides my people av said it a "rich man" (so to say) among 10 begging siblings is still a poor man full stop.weda una sis help u or not u no fit find job 4 her make she dey earn salary abi ?na 2 run u dry na ur own way of sayin thank u.

Kuylie, Aint u just another hate! I neva really needed d things my sis gave me cos d whole family s doin fine (from both parents to all siblins - even my sis hu'z still an undergraduate). Family sticks 2gether - get it into ur thick skull! We do these lil things 2 keep d family unity goin.The b!tch aint part of d family yet & she's giving orders as 2 how to run d house! Whats she gon do when she comes in? D guys sis' know what they'll expect when d guy marries her so they want to get all they can from their bro before he goes into bondage/hell! U sound like ur only hope of enjoyin a beautiful happy family is in ur husbands house. I've had it, still enjoy it & hope to continue enjoyin it with a wife hu's not like u nor d poster! I hope u get to c what family really looks like one day. Till then, keep hatin; I'm luvin it!

Krissykriss:

Kuylie, Aint u just another hate! I neva really needed d things my sis gave me cos d whole family s doin fine (from both parents to all siblins - even my sis hu'z still an undergraduate). Family sticks 2gether - get it into your thick skull! We do these lil things 2 keep d family unity goin.The b!tch aint part of d family yet & she's giving orders as 2 how to run d house! Whats she gon do when she comes in? D guys sis' know what they'll expect when d guy marries her so they want to get all they can from their bro before he goes into bondage/hell! U sound like your only hope of enjoyin a beautiful happy family is in your husbands house. I've had it, still enjoy it & hope to continue enjoyin it with a wife hu's not like u nor d poster! I hope u get to c what family really looks like one day. Till then, keep hatin; I'm luvin it!

All this you are ranting is pure garbage. It is stupidity to give to others to your own detriment. Obviously the guy is not ready to settle down. Those woman wrappers get on my nerves.

Thats one unavoidable flaw with NL threads. Very hard to make an intelligent decision based on a very one sided story.

Fact is some women are greedy and jealous. So it can be true that the sisters are milking the dude dry or that the poster (another girl) is crying wolf for nothing. Either way, U cant tell from just this story.

In any case, they are not even married yet, so she still has the option to leave. The OP need not open a thread on NL to realize that.

Girl you've to accept the fact that he's helpin his sisters, bcoz you didn't know what he & the sisters & the family @ large passed thru b4 he met you. You ve to live with it or bounce,

cudeh:

Girl you've to accept the fact that he's helpin his sisters, bcoz you didn't know what he & the sisters & the family @ large passed thru b4 he met you. You ve to live with it or bounce,

What help is he giving when they have a job of their own? So because your family helped you, you are no longer entitled to build your own life abi? Do you know how many people are overseas living a miserable life because they must pay their families for what they did for them?

One thing is gratitude, another is plain stupidity.

Michelin, Believe me, d guys is not giving d sis' to his own detriment. D POSTER THINKS HIS GUY IS GIVING D SIS' TO HIS OWN OR WOULD I RATHER SAY, TO HER (D POSTER) OWN DETRIMENT. I know girls & how they think so I aint surprised about this thread & ur last comment. D poster is very greedy & she better work on gettin better cos when the mumu love that blinds d eye before marriage clears from d guys eyes few yrs after their marriage, she'll be back to square 1! This advice is for y'all ladies. It'll be at least 5yrs from 2day b4 i think about marriage but i know too much abt d institution; even enuff to be a marriage counsellor! I know things i dont even need to know; dont ask me what.

@kris krisy u rilly make me laugh with ur childishness did i mention names or did i refer 2 anybody am sure u replied me cos u fit in perfectly 2 my description of BABY HUSBANDS.and 4 ur information A HAPPY HOME BEGINS FROM A HAPPY HEART.my biological home is filled with so much love n happiness n it's just goin 2 be a replica of my matrimonial home were everybody is com4table n theres trust not a "love dat is displayed my sendin r.card." infact u can send a dozen it is allowed,wetin concern anybody noby ur home  

@krissy krissy u refer 2 ur wife 2 be as a BITCH so sowy 4 dat "somebody'' i rilly doubt it weda u av d slightest respect 4 WOMANHOOD at least i've seen another warped thinkin man on nl who has tot me 2 stay 100 million pole away from tins like u wen i see symptoms in men like u.

Kuylie, Aint I just wastin words with u! Its bn a displeasure. Marriage is realer than a relationship. Dont need to give u more lessons cos it'll be tantamount a freebie. U cant afford my lessons

The ibo guy has not married you yet,so why are u interested on how he spend his money?

activities:

The ibo guy has not married you yet,so why are u interested on how he spend his money?

And how is he going to get married if she spends everything on his sisters?

u sure r wasting words with me cos u arent marid or planin 2 get marid yet u av d experience 2 be a marriage counsellor HOW RIDICULOUS.dats d most foolish n unwise tin i've ever heard all my life. an experienced marriage counsellor dat is not ready 2 settle down till d next 5 yrs.how can u say ure experienced enof wen u've not even married n av no plans to do dat yet u r Experienced enof.Thank God u've realised ur folly,d earlier u find somtin 2 do bout it d beta 4 u,instead of exposing ur foolishness on nl.d bible even said it dat wen a fool kips his mouth shut he is acknowledged 4 bin wise,just 4 d mere fact dat he has realised his folly and doesn't want 2 expose it.

michelin89:

And how is he going to get married if she spends everything on his sisters?

The way he spend his money does not concern her since they are not married yet.

activities:

The way he spend his money does not concern her since they are not married yet.

And I ask, are you going to give him the money for the wedding?

michelin89:

And I ask, are you going to give him the money for the wedding?

Do you know who much the guy has in his account?

activities:

Do you know who much the guy has in his account?

You have no argument jor.

Kuylie, I'll be stupid to call u foolish cos u're soundin like worse! Some churches have leaders hu are celibates yet they give marriage counsels that are effective (i aint no church leader tho). So what am i tryin to say? U dont have to be in there to know mo about it. Coaches dont play yet they do most of d job & get sacked when d job is not well done! Most of d times onlookers/spectators have d better analysis than d actual participants. Some reasonable ppl have approached me pieces of advice recently (yesterday) & have found my sayins beneficial. I'm not a talkative & I talk slow; inshort some ppl i act shady cos of it. For ppl (not haters like u & d poster) hu can see, i'm refreshin whenever they seek my advice. I'm not claimin to be wise in my own eyes cos d wisdom of this world is foolishness with God. My job is not offerin counsel; i've got better things to do but i wont deny u 1 anytime u ask 4 it. U need to understand life to enjoy it & u sound like someome hu z got a shallow, peripheral understanding of it. A wonderful home is a result of hardwork, it doesnt fall from d skies. D poster will get to understand his guys action 1 day if they eventually get married(thats if she doesnt push him to marry someone else). There's this sayin we were taught in primary school, it goes thus 'He/she that does not know, and doesnt want to admit that he/she does not know, is a fool, shun him/her'! Imma shun u 4 now. And for d record, i'm 26. I'll be happy if it makes u any angrier but if it doesnt, so be it.

Activities, i think i like u. Ask them o. Does she know how much d guy has in his account? I bet d guy will be in deep sh!t if she knows. She even concluded that if d guy eventually becomes financially down, d sis' will never come to his aid! Help me ask am her how she take know. D thread is all about a misguided opinion about a particular tribe. D poster just wants to start a tribal war but has had little or no success. I think she wants d guy to be xtravagnt in spendin for her. When d guy isnt doin so, she blames it on d sis'.
@Poster, Go listen to 'Blame it' by Jamie foxx & T-pain & u may get to put ur blame somewhere else. Better still, put d blame on Akon - he said u can put d blame on him.

Krissykriss:

Activities, i think i like u. Ask them o. Does she know how much d guy has in his account? I bet d guy will be in deep droppings if she knows. She even concluded that if d guy eventually becomes financially down, d sis' will never come to his aid! Help me ask am her how she take know. D thread is all about a misguided opinion about a particular tribe. D poster just wants to start a tribal war but has had little or no success. I think she wants d guy to be xtravagnt in spendin for her. When d guy isnt doin so, she blames it on d sis'.
@Poster, Go listen to 'Blame it' by Jamie foxx & T-pain & u may get to put your blame somewhere else. Better still, put d blame on Akon - he said u can put d blame on him.

Thanks krissykriss,
Don't mind the girl.I thank God for the ibo guy b/c his money is reaching home .

@krissy kriss.i tot u had a problem with foolishness,i dint know it has degenerated 2 INSANITY i just cant help laughing jeez .a mad man at 26 isn't a mad man 4eva,u still have hope 2 recover ur senses back .cos it would be abnormal 4 a normal person 2 reply an abnormal person,i understand ur PATHETIC STATE OF MIND so i''l excuse ur irrational statements it's u dat can counsel wen u refer 2 a woman dat as not even entered ur house a B**ch Mentally derailed fellowwho's constitutin a nuisance on nl

Kuylie, 1 piece of advice, make proper use of punctuations when next u wanna reply me! It'll give me less headache while i read ur stuff. U see, i give advice even when i dont know am doin so. I'm just too good.

sharrap there.ure no more a marriage counsellor,ure now a punctuation mark professor on nl.lousy fellow. shebi na u know punctuation mark PROFESSOR OF MARRIAGE AND PUNCTUATION MARK ,SO UR insanity has not left u.nuisance,lousy fellow.

Kuylie, me think u like moi so much! I like u too baby. Believe me, we'll make d best couple. When we fight, d name callin is gonna be awesome! u can help me deal with my insanity; i'll be very grateful if u do. Whatcha say?

I REJECT DAT IN JESUS NAME me also think u r too agressive 2 be a husband.someone u r yet 2 b marid 2 calin her a B***CH.we r certainly not compatible cos trust me i wount let ur SIS near my matrimonial house AND AM SURE U CANT PUT UP WITH DAT .ME CANT ALSO HAVE SEX WIDA BABY HUSBAND,COS ME FINK URE GONNA TELL UR MOMMA EVERYTIN DAT TRANSPIRED .besides who's gonna settle d verbal insults(,if it doesn't extend 2 violence nywayz)