kbaba12:

please i like to meet the person called ADEBOO.Is that your surname or your name because that is my surname.here is my e-mail u can reach me now i am on line.hope to hear form u.and ple if anyone knows her should give me her e-mail cal tell to buzz me.THANKS

Adeboo is a short form of adebukola.
What do u want?

What?

Oh girl am so sorry.
I can't imagine livin in the same house as a man and not talking to him (especially when i want a little sometin, sometin during the night).
But never let any family member stay with u if u can help it- they add to the strain.
Just go to nija girl and do the duties u supposed to and pray girl.
You need serious spiritual intervention, this is the time to get people praying for u.

Have u told your Mum, what did she say?

Am sure he will come round or girl is there more to this story than this?

MOI.

odiaseo:

I use to be a maestro in giving the silent treatment, but now I try to get over my anger quickly and try to resolve things with my wife before going to bed on in bed. True, the male ego prefers the woman to start the reconciliation, it shouldn't always be like that. I guess couples can take turn in breaking the ice so the other person doesn't feel bad having to do so all the time.

Very well said ma man cause when one party always breaks the ice they may just get bored of doing that.

D-reloaded:

I think the sister in law is a witch sef.

Instead of her constantly telling the OP things that will make her feel worse like "oh guess what, brother brought chinese, he doesnt want your food", shouldnt she be talking to her brother about his current behavior?

That's what a sane person who isnt looking to destroy a home would do.

They usually are.
They are the worst group straight after Monster sorry i mean Mothers-in-laws.

I have had experiences with them, they are horrible.

D-Loaded and Davidylan, i know what u mean but i know what am saying - she just has to keep him sweet for the sake of peace.
D-Loaded, i understand what i mean, have been in this kinda madness before and it was totally not my fault but i had to apologise seriously sha

D-reloaded:

If a guy can move out over something like that, then he never loved her in the first place and the marriage was a sham.

Girl u may not find it easy to believe but Men can be that bad - the marriage wasnt a sham. He is hurting now and the situation will get better.

@Poster, girl just keep praying and being nice to him around the man - (just make sure u keep looking good around the house- wear those sexy lingerie u used to wear and cook his food as normal) it may take a while though - but he will come around.

davidylan:

Your point is well noted but wait . . . even if he accepts will there now be rules for when she can and cannot laugh in the house? If a woman isnt free within the 4 walls of her husbands house to make mistakes then where will she be free to do so?

The problem i see is a long term one. She is only 27, has no kids for this man and she has to beg for weeks and get family and friends to calm her husband for something so trivial? What happens when they both reach 45 and she mistakenly puts too much salt in the rice? Will he take a koboko to her?

No thats not it. He couldnt expect her not to laugh when he isnt a sadist.
Look why are u talking like this? Some Nija men well dont let me say what they are - they come up with the most ridiculous things they just are bog babies like i have said.
If she leaves him for something that can be solved in ma opinion - she is gonna keep going from one man's home ti another to another.

D-reloaded:

adeboo,

I've read all that she has written, seems like she's been begging from the first minute she laughed. What else is she supposed to do? The didirin even pushed her aside when she wanted to greet him as he came to the house. What else should she tolerate in the name of appeasing someone?

People say that she should get others to beg on her behalf, meaning she would have to tell these family members that she laughed at the message? Who wants to hear that? If anything they will probably join him and make things worse. I personally don't believe in letting family members in couple arguements, neither do my families. They hardly ever end well.

Girl i understand what u said - sorry for getting ur name the first time round.
But like i said, men are very difficult. There are silly things they accuse u of just for the sake of peace in ur home - u have to apologise.

She has to keep apologising for the sake of peace nd to keep her man in the home - cause she knows he is a good man and if she lets him go for something so petty then thats just wrong.
Its good that she has admitted her wrong then she knows where to go after this.

They have said if u wanna get somethig from a monkey then u have to become one (i think thats how it goes but u all get the gist)

davidylan:

What pride does she have left? He has ridiculed her before his "little" sister (who i presume is younger than she is), forced her to lie at work and go seeking help from friends who ordinarily would never have seen her in times of distress . . .
She has probably cried and begged and been shunned in front of his family members . . . what pride is left to swallow?

For this reason and many i am grateful i was born a male. Is this how women beg their husbands for every little thing? I'm looking forward to getting married and being a big baby too.

She still has the pride of having him at home even thiugh he aint talking to her - he could have moved out.
Abeg Poster, beg like there is no tomorrow o.
You and only u know how good this man is to u o.

OyinboNo1:

i'm genuinely curious, if you can't lay your hands on 1k, how are you browsing the internet?

do something romantic, buy a nice card for 1k and write a restaurant date "coupon" to be redeemed when you get a job.

LOL, LOL
Coupon in Nija? aRE U JOKING?

Its mad cause when u sign at the doted line, u wanna stay with the person for better or worse.
If people leave their matrimonial home and pursue 'sex workers' then they are just taking the easy way out.
Is that how he is willing to live the rest of his married life?

What exactly does he say he finds in the 'sex workers' ?
Why cant he introduce whatever he sees there at home.

Its just wrong - thats why its very important to marry who we like.

D-reloaded:

Obviously no where to be found as usual. Nonsense. But I do agree she should get her own ticket for the funeral before they say she's behind everything.

If you husband wants to keep acting like a child, let him continue. Go to the funeral, pay your respects and leave him be. Let him cool down on his own. You've obviously tried to make it up to him, does he want your head on a platter? Make I hear word jo.

Jyork, i understand what you are saying but the thing is that she wants this relationship to work, she has to seriously swallow her pride and beg like there is no tomorrow.
She still wants him and she loves him, she has to beg seriously (u know men are big babies).
I have seen homes end for excuses less than that.

How old is she?
I did something like that when i was like 16.

She is taking the whole honesty in relationship thing to another level.

Thats disgusting.
Well there are guys who would wear their boxers maybe the next day and that but for more than that, thats just disgusting.

Itsnot by force to be in a relationship now.

Tell ur girl u cant afford anything expensive - tell her ur budget and let her decide how it will be spent.
Am sure she would understand.

But i dont think she meant to laugh.
There are times that there are funny words that are spoken out of people's sadness.

Girl, i feel for u its just unfortunate that it happened when he was there.
But why is he taking this like this?Have u spoken ill of the mother in his presence, have u openly insulted his mother?

Girl just like its being said if u can make it to Nija, do it.
Take family members along, do the thing the wifey is supposed to do. Make sure that he sees u are real sorry, make sure he sees that u really didnt mean what u did.
Get some elders to apologise to him on ur behalf - he is grieving now, he needs someone to blame for this like we all do when we are hurting.

Go to Nija even if u go separately, go to their family home and do what the 'iyawo' is supposed to do.

Keep apologizing and be on ur best behavior so that he sees that u are truly are the good person that he married.

Good luck girl.

I think that if u enter a relationship and live with the person then it tends to take all the excitement out of the whole thing. (i dont know whether u are living together) but if u do, then there isnt anything to look forward to.

I also think u probably need to give each other a break - cause its only natural that we get bored of things.
You also need to inject some fun, do the things u used to do when u first met.
Send texts, still go on dates and its all good.

lai-lai:

it might be during the period of malice that someone might just try his luck

What does that mean?

opokonwa:

I will ask her (my mum) if she (myy mum) is fine

Would u really?
My mum would definitely clock me one in ma face - i wouldnt dare ask her that.

almondjoy:

Just have a good fight that would last the whole periiod and avoid both occasions altogether like my darling husband does.

Got to love him.

So are u saying that he would fight his girl every single February?

Girl u re too good to fall for that.
Men are real good at telling u stuff - dont believe it.

What does he mean by saying he will be disgraced - damn him i say.
Damn every man that tries to take advantage of them. DAMN THEM.

Girl, if he is so not attracted to her - then ask him if he is sleeping with her?
And why she is pregnant?

Please dont fall for this, he is a liar and he shouldnt take advantage of u. Girl, cut off all communications to him, dont let him rope u in, cause ur life will be on hold while he enjoys his married life.

I pray God will open ur eyes soon sha and then u will truly see him for who he is -.

You better tell her that since her birthday falls in the same month as valentines - tell her that she gets a present and thats it - maybe treat her to a nice meal on valentine's day and then hope for the best.

Nope thats so petty - but however, i did take back ma tape which had all ma nija jams on it.
I didnt really give him, i borrowed him so it was only rite i took it back cause it had ma jam on it - sambo ribobo by sauce kid on it.

When he tells me, i will share with the world.

Yes i do have someone that i absolutely like on this forum.
He so knows himself.

Light skinned people usually attract more people.
Thats just the fact.

Not all light skinned people are pretty or handsome though - trust me i know.

No way!
Omo its for better of worse o. Thats why u are supposed to open ur eyes wide before u marry.
Dont overlook certain issues and say u can change him or her while married - its not proper.
You are tied to that person for life.

Oga o why cant people just let love breath.

But why are ur people saying u can marry?

Girl its gonna be hard cause it just seems u still love him.
U just gotta move away or stop all communication with him, dont go to the places u know he would be, stop all contact with his friends or mutual friends.

Well girl, u see that all this is gonna be hard.
Just keep the faith, it may all work out.