You guys make it sound like its soooo eaaazzzyy!! well its not! I have been talking to this guy for the past 10 months! How do i just simply pick the fone and say "Dude, sorry its over now" shuo! Una harsh o!

Lord_Reed:

Hmmm, baddingurl is our Naija Boi the 1 min man?

https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=212525.msg3280056#msg3280056

LMFAO!!!! Yeah he is the one alright, I've been able to tame him into being a STUD in the act

Ok People!! I DON HEAR! Im sticking with Guy no 1!

the question now is, what do i tell guy no.2 so he undastands and lets me be. The bobo don dey arrange seriously for a grand wedding when he gets back, (I mean guy 2!)

TheSeeker:

Cheating led you to talking about a possible relationship with another guy while you were in a relationship. Whatever intention you had to have started the conversation with the second guy wasn't well. You cheated and that's my stand.

Cheated?! I havent even met the guy! Besides, as much as i trust the first dude to death, you guys are totally UNRELIABLY EVIL! this is simply why i dont want to take chances and play the fool.
Afterall that was what i was doing that got my heart broken when the asshole i was meant to marry years ago knocked up two small chics at one time! and trust me, he was near PERFECT. since then i have been loving with head and a bit of heart,

190:

I work in an international bankand earn enough money to even relocate on my own if i ever want and wherever the hell i want to.







SINCE WHEN DID CREDITLINK MICROFINANCE BANK WHERE U MOP THE FLOOR NOW BECOME AN INTERNATIONAL BANK

CHop money~

i understand your situation perfectly
takecare Jare and kip eating money from 2 hands~
it would Hook u in throat very soon~

;DSo for your mind now, u have dished an insult? Anyways i aint commenting on any of your posts again since i know how empty headed u are!

~Sauron~:

Dump the 2 of them.

,

saltnsugar:

I live in UK and i don't know why girls are foolish.Once you are in the UK all the girls are falling like pack of card.Do you know the number of girls queuing like you? You are a disgrace to the first guy, are you perfect to say he has his faults.Now i believe the study that say women can give up 95% for 5%.
We look nice but you will know what we are after xmas (sleeping with you and going back to base ).What made girls in Nigeria girls think those outside don't have Girlfriends? It baffles me.
Shaa i will stop here so that we can still use our cousins to arrange cheap whores in 9ja with the usual marriage.I think its poverty that is causing the problem.
A word is enough for the wise.

1. My reason for stating his location is so u'd understand y we havent seen each other yet
2; It baffles me how u would think that its the fact tht he lives outside the country is my major bone of contention, hiss, abeg abeg wake up to 2009, the guys in Naija at the moment are more stable and reliable than all u plate washers over there so abeg enof with the insults


Omo na wah o!!! see how i come find trouble!

izeek:

seems u have your mind made,
why bother us here with your tale of shame and greed.

I no beg u read my post so Im wondering what i typed to have attracted ur myopic mind,

Ujujoan:

So the fact that he's rich and he's in jand makes him incapable of true love

Personally, I dont give a hoot about what the guy wants or what is best for any of the guy. Anytime anyday, I'll advise her to go for what she wants and if she says she wants guy 2 . . . I'll even help her plan the aso ebi!!

I give her enough credit (based on her age), to think that she'll make the right decision. But it'll be wrong for her to go ahead and marry guy A just because they've been dating for a long time. If the tables were truned, the guy wont do it for her!!

I have a friend that's 32 and she has been dating her BF for over 10 years . . . guess what happened? He left her to marry a 25 year-old. That's life, you deal with such things. The guy's not in jand and he's far from being rich!

I dont judge people based on how rich or poor they are!! And dont forget that the fact the guy's abroad dosen't exactly guarantee his wealth!!

I have news for you young man, once you are a nice-looking, comfortable, decent young man here in Nigeria . , 'girls fall for you like a pack of cards' . . . Jand sef dey too far!!

Thanks  Ujujoan, my points exactly! this has nothing to do with wealth or poverty cos in actual fact, this guy in the UK is currently Jobless and has plans to come back to Naija and get something doing!!

jidobaba:

The Devil & The Deep Blue Sea
a.k.a. The Prince & The Pauper

babe, so u wanna be braggin here say u got janded toaster, ehn.
anyway, since u already wetting your mouth as well as your panties for the janded dude, go ahead, masturbate.
a girl's gotta eat now

See this ewu awusa! berra shut that dirty hole in ur face, lout!

it is wah for these Nairalanders sef!! e no get wertin person go write wey dem no go throw insults join!

190:

this gurl is Just infatuated by the 2nd guyz money

u wan go UK abi~ dont worry guy #1 wud take u there if u want

please check this thread out

~~wahala dey~~~
refers to people like you~

U dont have sense obviously. Cos if you did, you wouldnt be thinking about the money aspect as that is nowhere on my problem list. I work in an international bank and earn enough money to even relocate on my own if i ever want and wherever the hell i want to. So Benz 190, take some air and Piss off!

4llerbe:

what comes to my mind is the song- you go see danger danger wahala dey.

u dont need advice. take your choice and make up your mind that whatever you get in the future you must not complain.
i feel sorry for the first guy though cos even if u marry him its always at the back of your mind to compare him to what u would MAYBE get with janded bobo.

i hope and pray God hooks him up with the woman he deserves cos i dont think thats u!!!

u say your 34? figures, though one would think u will be better equipped mentally.

and as they say dont marry out of pity. unfortunately all this advisers will not be married alongside u in your home. OYO LO WA O always remember

No comment on tthe posters remarks cos really, there is no  need to! Sounds like u have enough issues on your hands already




For all y'all who have given out sincere and honest advice without badbelle and envy, thanks ever so much.

Thanks guys for your replies,

For starters i can understand y some of you would think im selfish and some others would think otherwise. I am trying to make a life changing choice and i truly appreciate all your response so far. It truly means a lot.

Okay maybe i should stick with guy no 1. But what will i now tell guy no.2 to make him forget about me? It will hurt me to have to do this but really as some of you have said, I would have to be with him to be able to make a better choice. That time i do not have as both have proposed Jan. 2010 as the Trad month. I dont want to break anyones heart really and if you ask me, I WANT BOTH GUYS . Gosh, guys please no vesk as i am not playing anyone. My family think im some kinda mammywater as i am still single till now, Im 34. I need to make a choice, but a good one; afterall, i waited this long to do so!

once again, thanks for your advice,

Hey people, I am really down right now and need some real good advice. Would appreciate if you drop SENSIBLE replies as im totally confused right now,

I am in love with two guys,

Guy one:

Weve been together for years now and I love him dearly. He is a year older than me and has a decent job. Before anything else we are great friends and have our good and bad times, but all in all, we love each other and plan to get married soon. He is the typical everyday and tries his best to please me in a real sense of way.

Guy Two

Gorgeous guy who is desperately in love with me and wants to marry me ASAP. he has all the means in place and he is a very great guy too. Met him through my best friend who happens to be his cousin. He was finding wife and I was recommended. He was a born bred and buttered UK guy and hasn’t been to the country in a while. I haven’t met him in person but we have been talking for the past 9 months and we flow very well. He is hell bent on making me his and has vowed to come in Dec. for the trad. I must confess; he is everything I ever dreamed of in a guy. The first one has flaws here and there but this second dude is near perfect….oh and he is 7 years older (which I consider perfect by the way )

So the question now is WERIN I GO DO?!!! I am so confused as I love the first one based on what we share and who he is. The second guy; I haven’t met, but still feel something really strong for him. No worri guys; I don check: he aint been married before nor does he have any love child anywhere, I mean this guy is quite impossible to believe, his types are extinct! His cousin who happens to be my childhood friend guarantees that he is for real and would make me entirely happy for the rest of my life. I have been through some pretty rough times with the first dude as his people dint accept me at first and stuff but now, they are game.

Please I would appreciate any reasonable advise as I have run out of ideas!

What is wrong with the Men of these days? ? WHY THE HELL WILL YOU WANT A GALFRIEND outside wedlock? It aint by force to be a bad guy! If your wife aint treating you right, why dont you freaking talk to her?!! why cheat on her? Small time, you go come back to NL begin yarn say your wife catch you and you cant loose her!!! freaking pant!

If he is ur fiance and he is for real why the question? I am assuming fiance should mean he has proposed to you and has given you ring and met ur peeps etc. If not, stop dulling yaself and ask him str8 up what he wants with you. Time they say, dont wait for anyone o!

johnnygan:

well thats what u think man


quite frankly, i think u should work for me girl.

No way hosea! I would have to give you a list of thangs any man worthy of my time should possess b4 we can even converse towards that line, but of course i wouldnt expect u to scale thru the prequisites!! So "Mr. Qualities a woman should possess" goodluck in your search for a Mannequin and Software engineer as i don change my mind to help configure the microchip!

I have an idea: Why dont you just buy a mannequin, get an engineer (preferrably a software engineer) to program a microchip with all ur requirements (you can add more if you like) and insert it in the head compartment. That should work fine 4 ya! see ya mouth!

ps:
for the Software programming: I can help write the program for you at a rebate cos u are a Nlander

ezme:

I'm in my fourth year( studying engineering) in the university(uniben) hoping to graduate 2010,I'm almost through with school but can't find true love,i don't feel ugly but the girls just don't come.I had seek love but yet i didn't find it. I've patiently waited but to no avail ,my friends don't know I'm single ,they just think i chose to keep my love life private.The beautiful ones seem to love money,that i don't have now,but a bright future(at least I can still make first-class honours) and a sincere heart i have to offer but still i don't get the love I seek.I don't feel ugly,I won't say I'm am drop dead gorgeous but I think anyone would proudly introduce me as a boyfriend.I don't think the problem is spiritual because I don't believe what you are ignorant of affects UI'm not entirely poor but I'm self sufficient(I don't need your money,but won't provide all your need as I'm not working) So if there any nairalander who can feel she can settle for my situation(preferably a uniben student,so distance won't be a barrier) and if you are serious I will send you my contact.

Guy, Stop trying to get laid and finish up with school . According to your story above:
1. U are still a kid
2. U cant afford a woman
Besides that you feel you are good looking dont mean u are so do an opinion poll and find out what the chics in your school think.
If you wanna make that first class, u berra stay off the women folk and finish up with school. When u start making the pepper, if you like, make you wowo pass the hunchback of Notre damme, CORRECT chics will buzz around you. Goodluck and i hope you heed to this!

ok now i understand y u are like this Adam Brody! U for talk since na , Make u dey carry dey go, Im done wasting my time on you. Cheers m8.

e dey pain u oh !!! weakling oshi! At least i thank NL for one thing: It has helped u improve on ur spelling, typing and grammatic skills. So as long as u are learning, you are free to continue running that wet toilet-roll in ur skull u call a brain . between, Merry Christmas. Hope you don't climb ur neighbor's Christmas Goat all in the name of getting back to the female species

U had better go and see your people ojare. For starters, why is she hell bent on dumpin you if you go? is she on good terms with yr family? Do they know her? If yes, do they like her? if yes, so wtf is her problem? U wan marry the babe? If yes, then make her go with you. If no, tell her to talk to the hand and catch the first flight/bus/canoe to calabar and have a 1daful christmas celeb!
On the other side; you sure say there aint a conspiracy by ur family members to catch a wife for you and your lady has an idea?

davidylan:

Adam . . . if you're half as good as you bleat . . . you wont be talking about your "conquests". Actions speak louder than words.

I noticed one thing as i grew older, the real bad boys tend to be on the quiet side.

You're not a bad boy, you're just another drenched weasel.

Way to go David!! U couldnt have described him better

Adam Brody:

@poster

Tell her to fu***k off jare!

In fact if you beg her die and she stupidly agrees to come back, woo her, toast her, be nice to her, make her believe you now love her more, sleep with her tire and when she least expects it, Dump her ass faster than lightening.

PAYBACK IS A BIt***CH!

But if you don't get to woo her back, drown all yor sorrows on another chick. It makes me feel better atimes and it might just be the best remedy for you too!

Cheerio!

@Adam
Mehn, i need to meet this chic who turned you into a headless chicken like this! Whoah!! All this ravings of a wounded chicken

Anyways back to serious talk ojare

@poster
When a woman is fed up, there is nothing you can do about it. So i'd advise you to let her go. But before you decide to heap any form of frustration on the next chic you decide to date, you just search deep within yourself and find out if you treated her fairly or not. I am sure you'd be able to tell. If you treated her fairly and got dumped, then take it like a man and move on with ur life, I dont think any lady is worth loosing yr head over. If she wasnt, then i'm sure you'd be cautious not to make history repeat itself again as relationships aint about recieving only. Its Symbiotic.

_{guys who insult ladies are just gutless bitches.}

Adam Brody:

Now i am really pissed!


Aren't you guys tired of the undue insults?

In fact looking at your statements atimes is enough justification for my actions. Days gone by, i had a rethink and hopefully thought i might choose another path and decided to let this issue go, but weighing the balance of probability from the so-called advises, i detect a lot of sour grapes coming from most of you because i sleep with girls and dump them and that is enough to make you guys condemn me to hell!

You know what, don't care anymore!

You can yarn all the rubbish about me and swear till thy kingdom come that evil will befall me because of my actions, Thats is your wahala!

I spent the whole week past trying to feel remorseful and regretting what had happened and seeking ways to amend, but it is obvious, there is no redemption from you lot.

So its better to continue what ever i have been doing and recieve whatever reward come what may than for me to regret, stop my actins and still carry a guilty heart and still not be redeemed by you lot!

So BottoM Line:

F***k you all! I am done with all thes insults!

P:S: I converted from a christian to an Atheist because my heart was broken then. Every body has a reason to change faith and beliefs and this is mine. Whether it goes down well with you or not, is your problem not mine and i choose to furnish my anger on a non existent god even with more venom after seeing all these Condescending replies.

So girls beware: I might be the one next to date you and if it happens you know what to expect. don't waste your time warning your sisters, daughters, nieces or Aunts! I am likely going to be the next worst nightmare to one of you!

bla bla bla bla,
Take rope and create a connector between ya neck and the ceiling fan in the closest room you can find for all the care in the world.
_{mmmtttcccccchhhhhwwwwwwwwwwwwww!!!!!!!!!!!!!!}

NaJa HaJe:

Right . . . . People , , , People, , , People !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! calm down

Someone (Babarazy) started off this thread seeking honest help!!!!!!!!!!! Let that be your focus.

If the original poster has not been negatively impressed please come back and tell us the situation surrounding your initial post. I would love to hear your story.

OKAY  DON DO! Y'all should stop giving this boy undue attention and get back to work!! so what if the guy wan spoil Allow him!

@Adam Brody:

Carry on Bro. Check out all them gals and be using and dumping them. ONE DAY, u shall meet ur size,  and i hope you will have the balls to share the story on nairaland telling us how the experience took you back to being a good boy (Note i aint using "man" - cos a real man would have his priorities straightened out) and dedicating ur life to serving in a church as a pastor for the rest of your miserable life!
There! I said it.



_{Hisses, walks out of this room and BANGS the door reeaaaalllly hard!!!}