With the result of the Ekiti state elections and what is happening in respect to Osun state,i have come to the conclusion that the problem in Nigeria is deeper than corruption. Its hard to understand why any Nigerian would still put their lives in the hands of a PDP flag bearer,not to talk of the likes of Fayose and Omisore who are of questionable character both morally and judicially-if the word exists. Ironically,they are thriving in Yoruba states,filled with yorubas who lay so much emphasis on cultural and moral values!
The pure truth is,if James Ibori can wriggle his way out of his present predicament with the UK law enforcement and return to Nigeria;do not be surprised to see him contesting for president in the not so distant future. Ordinarily,in a sane country someone like that,who has been proven to be a criminal should not even smell a whif of recognition but down here anything goes-its the jungle!
So what then is the problem if not corruption? I have come to the conclusion that there are three fundamental problems Nigerians(take note,i mean Nigerians as in the mass populace-individuals) have;
1)Amnesia
Nigerians forget everything;from their past heroes,to terrible criminals,to fuel subsidy scam,to ASUU strike,to Doctors strike,to aviation scam,to #bringbackourgirls...all these issues come up,we do what we know how to do best-curse,shout and Talk and then everyone forgets and life goes on. Nobody gets punished,removed from office or sanctioned,infact its like we clear the road for them to loot the more. My brother said the other day that the chibok girls are in the mercy of boko haram,that they would probably only be released when all of them have given birth and the children are becoming too much in the camp. I agreed with him,but with recent developments of how BH are acquiring their own territory,they might just have enough room. Those girls are already being forgotten;they dont make the news everyday again,no longer trending on twitter....ebola is now the selling news. Our actions even say we have forgotten them,becuase when you see PDP as a party doing so well in elections,you wonder are the peole really unhappy about all these? Are we not glad about all the scams which have gone unchecked? Are we not delighted with our current poverty level and insecurity?
Personally i would rather vote a goat,even a donkey or a pig into office than anyone from PDP,just to show my displeasure in the 15years they have had power. If we actually did this,anyone or party that goes into office would have it at the back of their minds that the Nigerian people do Remember and they would serve us better not becuase they love us but because they know we do not forget!

2) Lazy
Oh my,Nigerians are lazy! We can pray and fire those demons but when it comes to the work an average Nigerian is looking for the shortcut or another way to circumvent the process. A big problem is our over reliance on religion in this country-which breeds laziness. It seems our natural answer to every disaster in this country is prayer and prayer curses,but zero action. In the Bible,God saved Noah and his family through an ark but Noah had to build that crazy big ark-i know i would not like to be one of his sons then. Moses climbed a mountain for days,weeks,months just to get the miracle of the ten commandments. People remember the vision of pharaoh which Joseph miraculously interpreted but fail to understand the enormous hardwork involved in managing food resource for virtually a whole continent through a period of plenty and farmine. When following religion we interpret it to suit our own taste and selfish needs. The fair truth is Nigerians cannot stand up for what is right because they are too lazy;for them prayer,curses and side talks are easier options which give them a pseudo-impression that they are actually doing something.

3) A love for life- 'jaiye jaiye'
No one loves life more than a Nigerian. I mean i have met people from other countries,Africa and beyond and none of them display and unquenchable zest for life like your average Nigerian.
Beaten black and blue;old,poor and hungry: Nigerians still treasure their life till their last insignificant breath. Pushed to the brink of oblivion through poverty and insecurity by a government that hardly cares,talk of a revolution is hardly possible because Nigerians would rather find another way that puts them at least danger-opportunistic behaviour. Its safer to kidnap innocent civilians and demand ransom,its more rewarding to scam online,runs,prostitution,etc...at least no one gets shot or detained like they do in protests. Nigerians are the only people who i see that could only be brought together to protest a matter as serious as fuel price hike by music,food and jamboree. Once the jamboree stopped,people gradually dispersed and forgot about the seriousness of the matter. Why will anyone take your DEMAND serious when they see you dancing like clowns on tv on a matter which would further empoverish your family that was brought about by the greediness of a few-they should have seen angry,hungry faces instead!
I was making a trip and this old lady in the bus said a prayer. What struck me most about the prayer was her continued emphasis on protection,how the bus must not have accident,how we must not die....and so on. It was so palpable,her fear of death; this lady of over 80 something,with a scanty arrangement of teeth i presume the only thing she would be able to eat must be thoroughly grinded. She would have undoubtedly seen it all,but if we were to be in a crashing plane would still fight me viciously for the last parachute. There is actually nothing wrong with wanting to live,but when your love for life impedes you from making a mark or difference then that is where there's a problem. If the people of South Africa loved their lives more than their freedom,they would still be squatters and slaves in their own territory. We are not so different from them in our present predicament-we work for a few to enjoy the benefits. We are the ones suffering from the insecurity and poverty in this country brought about by corrupt and bad leadership. All our leaders are far away from harms way,they do not understand what we mean by epileptic power supply because they enjoy light 24/7. The time really has come for us to make a stand and show our displeasure not just by words of mouth but by action. Lets do the unthinkable and vote PDP out! Lets send shock waves through the spine of our supposed leaders. Let them for once be held accountable for their actions and inactions-that is what democracy is about. For 15years we have deteriorated as a country and its not more arguable,its totally palpable. We cannot continue to pat them on the back and say welldone. Bottomline is lets start to hold our leaders accountable,this is the only way we can move forward as a nation! No room for sentiments,zoning or 'my brother' again. We cannot continue to use our future to 'play kite'.

Everyday you attend a service in MFM you hear different types of prayers and see different praying styles. Some of these prayer points can be particularly funny. Here is one;

Every monkey that has been eating the banana of my life in this year 2013,you shall not follow me into 2014....fall down from the tree and die....#MFMfamily.

Share your own hilarious prayer point(s)

When I think about xmas certain words come to mind; merry,hope,enthusiasm,expectation,joy family and ofcourse gifts. Back in the days xmas to me was more about toy cars,xmas tree,video games,no chores and ofcourse plenty of fried rice and chicken(+ rare dishes).
Looking at the present and the past,nothing really has changed,the only difference is there has been an upgrade in my level of thinking and reasoning. The evergreen fir tree(used as xmas tree) is a sign of hope throughout the winter season--hope in the promise that the rest of nature too will awaken to new life in the coming spring. Hope also in the promise of everlasting life in Christ. I just saw a xmas tree as a child but now I see hope.
The toys,gifts are what I see now as expectations. Everyone has what they look forward to, and like how I would work hard both in school and at home just to make sure I impressed my parents enough to get that particular toy car I never fail to ring in their ears; we are grown now but look around you, we are still working hard to get ourselves that xmas 'gift',the only difference is we are the ones paying for it now.
Christmas marks the beginning of the last week of every year and hence its a time for thanksgiving,making merry and also reflecting on 350+ days. Its an escape we all love to indulge in.....I know I do. Its a day I like to pause.....and actually forget my worries(not pretence) and enjoy the gift of life...
My message this season is; many times we try so hard to change who we are from that little innocent child to 'grown-ups' as an answer to life's struggles. The fact is we carry that little part of us all year round,and when we fight it,it fights back. One thing constant is every year will bring the same challenges(what to eat,what to wear,where to work,etc) but we already know that;so do not lose yourself trying to fix something you should be prepared for, rather upgrade and improve that 'little' you....
Merry Xmas,celebrate the goodness in life.

What do you mean?

Love is an essential element in every relationship..oops! did I say love? Oh,I meant true love.
True love is what you give without expecting any in return,you just do it because your heart,your body and mind cannot afford anything otherwise. It is pure, without envy and always quick to forgive. You do not stumble on true love,you work to achieve it; a building process.
It is not about the quarrels or fights but the lessons learnt. It doesn't linger on hurt but it heals and matures. Everyone has a chance at true love because at the end of the day we all choose the paths we walk on and decide the extent to which we are willing to give. There is no holding back here because the 10% you hold back will slowly chop at the other 90%.
Its not the easiest of tasks for two people of different backgrounds to peacefully coexist. So when you find that person,who loves you regardless and always has your back,then you best hold on tight and let them know how special they are.
Shoutout to my baby,the best I ever had!

The Only Me I See Is New and with you.

Not every problem can be solved with blinded reliance on prayer alone or juju or Alaadura. The Bible even makes us understand that God will crown our 'EFFORT' with glory. This is where I come in. I have a gift and I intend to use it. I take note of every detail(even the tiny ones),the ones nobody cares to see and translate them into patterns and behaviors. There is a reason why you do even the simplest things uniquely and this provides answers to a lot of questions in the right hands. I provide the following services;

1) Battling an addiction and you intend to stop,I am the guy you go to.

2) Marriage; looking for husband/wife and you have done deliverance so many times yet no results. I tell you its most likely not "the Powers of your father's house" but something about you that's chasing him/her away or you are simply not looking in the right pool. I can help!

3) As a guy you don't know how to woo a girl for a serious relationship....I'm a believer in the fact that every girl can be swept of her feet,you just need the right broom and a job too. I can coach you.

4) Career choices,the kinds of business to go into.

5) Marital Issues: You keep fighting and arguing and its affecting the bliss. Whenever a couple fight there is always a root problem facilitating these fights e.g a new job,children,stress,etc. Until you find the root,the branches will continue to grow.

6) Trying to get over a bad experience

7) Any other thing you can think of....but I do not do magic!

I believe at the end of the day all power belongs to God. We are only tools in his hands. I am Docii,Nigeria's first Mentalist at your service.
08063808401
1st set of callers get a free session.

Policewoman: Arrest his sorry azz. If he like make him fling himself into lagoon, he must explain what he is doing with fake papers. Bus drivers nakeding themselves, okada people attempting suicide. All in an attempt to evade the law.

Where is the sensibility in this statement? The man said he did not know the papers were fake....in civilized countries the police investigate such matters and catch such people who provide fake papers. We all have had experience of fake goods after paying for original. Only God knows how much he must have paid to obtain those
Papers. Here is a man who despite the harshness of the economy(enough to make him want to commit suicide),he still tries to make ends meet in a clean way,with the Okada obviously as his only hope and the police who should be your friend can only Frustrate. How about catching the real crooks and give a brother a break!
Hissssss.

Some years ago,Martin Luther King stood in front of the whole American people and told them about his 'dream'.
This was no ordinary dream but rather a bureau of ideas and vision conceptualized in the mind of a man, driven by his will to build a better place. This passion led to the realization of a new Dream-'The United States of America';where the blacks began to exercise some of their social rights(even though with caution). His actions,morals and words inspired a nation from a state of irrational stagnancy into a future of diverse possibilities!
I have come to see that even at this stage we do not have the fight in us-which is puzzling!
We do not have a common goal even as youths,continually sidelined by the powers we elected. I therefore implore every youth at home(ASUU strike),jobless,frustrated,broke and broken to dare dream again. Forget what your country can do and rather think of what you can do for yourself and let's unite under one banner-PROJECT GREEN. This is a coalition of forces ensuring every young Nigerian is a winner through the creation of jobs,opportunities in agriculture,research & industries.
We are working earnestly with to ensure all of these,and we can achieve it but not without your voice/support.
I believe in the countless array of talents present in the country and the abundance of resources God has blessed us with. I see hope amidst all the misery and I'm adamant Nigeria can reach the peak of greatness. I have a dream that one day young Nigerian men and women would hear the clarion call and take up the mantle of leadership by the strength of their thoughts and rejuvenation of their hearts. I have a dream, that one day a man will be judged by the intelligence of his mind and fruitfulness of his hands rather than his accent/language or the wealth he has managed to amass.
I have a dream that one day,leaders would understand the responsibility of the oaths they have sworn and extol the colors of our nation.
I believe that one day we all,will come to the realization that the future is in our hands and the change starts with us;right there in our little homes,schools,church,mosque,marriage,relationships and inter-relationship,etc.
I have a dream and its not Vision2020....its in our immediate future, present now,in the hearts of those who BELIEVE,in the eyes of those who SEE,in the mouths of those who cry with PASSION and we breathe it everywhere we go!
Therefore I urge you my Brothers,my Sisters;PASS on the message,REVISIT your expectation,ENLIST your voice,FOLLOW the progress- PROJECT GREEN!!!
Help yourself,do not remain idle,help pass this on(bring the future close), and follow @ProjectGreen_NG. #GREENUP

ATMC: at a point yhu mixed the guys and girls and i wonder 'yhu actually wrote this? well...

Don't get what you mean...

I'm in the middle of it all

When I saw the picture of Halima Dangote this morning I got motivated to write this. In addressing this topic we are taking all conditions as constant minus the money i.e. A good upbringing(culture,moral,religion),both sets enjoy love from family,attain the same level of education,etc.
NOTE: when I say rich, I mean born into wealth,and living in it. Same applies to poor.

RICH GIRLS
With the present situation in the country,these set of girls are in my opinion the best to date not necessarily marry(its a different ball game entirely). They still believe in love,get impressed by little things (because they are surrounded by the big things all the time) and will actually allow you take charge of things without clash of egos or complex. They are really gullible due to exposure to the nicer shade of life,so they still find it easy to trust and are open minded.
Their environment forces them to be ambitious because they are surrounded by people who have the means to be successful and if not by education,they will pump money into a business till it starts to make profit. They are not demanding and a date out with you is only an opportunity to spend good time with you. They might not make good spouses primarily because they are so used to comfort and easy life,when the honeymoon stops and reality of marriage sets in;divorce is not an expensive option.

POOR GIRLS
They move around the 'real' players and bad boys; the poor boys and middle class boys. They are the schemers,plotters and never say never kind of guys(will talk more on them in the next post). Over exposure to these kinds of guys turns their hearts to 'pomo', and you find a lot of them before the age of 21 totally indifferent to the idea of love. They get suspicious when things are good and discontent when its bad. They are mildly psychotic as things are never easy with them.
An average poor girls ambition is to get married to someone who would take care of her and have children. They crave material things(the saying you crave what you don't have suffices) and lack self-belief to actually go after it themselves; therefore their boyfriends are in trouble. When they do have money they blow it on liabilities as that's where their confidence lies. You find most 'Runs' girls in this class and they become really good schemers too, over the years but lack of ambition limits them unlike the male counterparts. They do not appreciate little things,hence are not very romantic but if you want a marriage that will last and you are comfortable they are the right kind to marry; because at this age they are mentally tough,resourceful and will withstand even violence so far there's money.

Middle class girls are like chameleons due to the fact that they mix with the two classes. They are confused most times and tend to be followers. They make really good partners but are also prone to a lot of mistakes like cheating. They can swing either ways,as their behavior is dependent on their environment,till they form their identities(whether good or bad). At the end of the day,most turn up good because of their close bond to family. They make quality spouses and can be 'aboko ku' sometimes.

Beaf!:


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First to comment? Do you think this $hit will get to FP?

@Post
Yes it is a muslim party and they are not asking for your vote. Shove it!

You lack common sense

When you look at the current setting of the party,its really hard to believe otherwise. Most of the political bigwigs in the party are muslims,and majority of the Governors are muslims too. I start to wonder if a criteria for rising in the party is your religion.
There is no doubt that I believe in the ability of the party to actually free this country from the economical and social slavery which we have been sold into by PDP since 1999;but the question I ask myself is are we not going to be sold into another kind of slavery by an administration under APC- a slavery in which you are guaranteed a seat at the top not by your qualification or skill but by your religion.
If this is not a conscious effort on their part to create a sought of 'religious' cabal,then I think its an issue the leaders of the party should look into going into the election. Right now most,if not all of the meaningful posts within the structure of the party is held by muslims.
On a final note,I think that going into the elections in 2015, the APC has a great opportunity to usurp power from the ruling party but an issue of significant importance like this could be played on and manipulated by their opponents.

There are some questions that keep ringing in my head and the answers paint a new dimension to the words Grace,Mercy and Love.
You ask yourself did God actually evolve His ways with man's progress in science and technology or all is just part of His master plan in balancing time. The invention of science and progress in technology opened man's eyes to many things just as the fruit from the tree of knowledge of good and evil,hence God had to adjust His approach to man. Is this the same thing happening now.
Can you imagine churches sacrificing lambs now? There would certainly be a lot of protests from animal rights activists.
The fact is God is so understanding he will not thrust upon us what would cause confusion in our midst or what we cannot handle. He speaks to us in the language which we will understand. If you are looking to hear from God,He is not going to speak to you in french when you only understand English. He is going to communicate with you in that simple way you go about your everyday life which we so often overlook when waiting to hear from Him because we have our minds set on an extraordinary encounter.
This Evolution theory has really eased my mind when I think about the current trend in churches-as regards preaching prosperity,prosperity,prosperity!
Maybe that is really what we want to hear and God knows we NEED to hear it and that is why He has mandated His ministers to speak more on that. Its not rocket science to know that to catch a thief you have to mingle and study their ways. He has only chosen to come down to our level by identifying with our pressing concern,so its easy for us to relate with him.
This is the same thing He did when He sent Jesus to come to our level,living amongst us,facing the same problems and teaching us how to overcome them,albeit He came at an appointed time...
God has always adapted His ways to communicate with His people right from time. When the Children of Israel cried out for a King(1samuel8:4-7),God obliged and adapted His methodology so as to maintain the relationship with His people. A true leader knows when to yield to the cries of his people so they do not become discontent and grow disconnected.
God is the same yesterday,today and tomorrow and that's a fact but He is not human and so He is not prone to the weakness of being swallowed up by the law or getting caught up in His ways-He remains an understanding father.
The same way parents now are adapting their parenting methods and putting less emphasis on the whip,and developing other techniques because children are gaining more exposure day by day; God has been doing this over the years,slowly dropping the whip whilst accommodating our sins in the bid that we will come back to Him.
One thing for sure is that God's message to his people will EVOLVE soon,and we will hear more about HOPE to nations. He loves you and cares about you,why not take His outstretched hand and come back to His will today.

I was born ready....and even if that is debatable;circumstances,life and time surrounding the average Nigerian youth calls for everyone(including me) to be ready to put up a fight. I really do not want to live all my life,dependent on generator.

It is really sad when you look down the memory lane of Nigeria. There was a time when young graduates got jobs with ease. There was a time the youths could get jobs with only an O' level qualification because of its abundance. There was even a time the Naira and Dollar were equals.
There was a time we had leaders who had visions for the country and actually had a clue.
The question really is-why are we here?

We are here because of a lack of identity and a common ideology/belief/goal as a country. If you have a child,try this practical example,ask them about the history of Nigeria- and I am not talking about silly questions like; when did Nigeria get their independence or What are the colors of Nigerian flag?
I mean real questions like; who was Obafemi Awolowo,Nnamdi Azikiwe.....what did they do? Why was Nigeria formed? what made Nigeria great? How were the tribes formed? Why were they formed?
Some of these questions I myself do not even know the answer till date,but you see American kids and they know the answers to a lot of these questions and even more in respect to their country. They are taught the common belief and goal of their country and that's why the saying "God bless America" is all but glued to the lips of every American. They are 'brainwashed' right from their tender ages to believe in the 'American dream' and that is why an average American would die defending the county's integrity even though the country is also corrupt like ours.
The simple difference between America(+most countries making headway) and Nigeria is that they are limited in their excesses by the belief in that common goal while we are unlimited.
The FG will not yield to an agreement of over 5 years that will improve an ailing Education sector because they do not care if Nigerians are paying exorbitant fees to school in Benin Republic or Ghana. These are countries who live/lived through us. There are certain things Pride would not make you do or will make you do, even if you are to suffer for a while. This pride as a nation and collectively we do not have a fiber of it. The youths on their part do not even have an identity. We do not know who we are and think so little of ourselves. If not we would not be in such hurry to graduate from sick institutions. The intelligent thing is, instead of patching things up like always,why not make a final stand and support what ASUU is fighting for(which is a damn good course) till the end. If we give in now only to resume another strike two years from now aren't we fools?
The Government does not know who they are. Must we follow like zombies. We are NIGERIAN youths,kings in our own rights; we deserve the best and must surely demand it. Why must we be deprived of electricity,water,food and now quality education when there is plenty that will instead be used to campaign for your votes to further impoverish you!
Based on Natural resources and population density,we should be the best in Africa by miles and rubbing shoulders with the world beaters albeit we are stuck in 'hell'. So much that a 14 year old boy who should be in school is busy plotting how to escape the country as a stowaway in a Benin to lagos flight. He was utterly disappointed when the plane landed in Lagos-SHAME!
Its a shame to a Nation that a 14year old does not mind risking his life,forgetting his family and friends all in a bid to get the hell out of this country-it really is that bad.

Finally Nigeria is that kid who inherits so much wealth,did not really go through life to forge an identity,so he blows the money,has so many children with different women and has no time for any of them. The kids grow having no clue themselves,just scattered up and down following the wind and dancing to whatever music life plays. We share the same traits with the Arabs,they are only 'blessed' with scanty population and a common religion. So even when its wasted it can still go round. USA,China and almost all other developed countries on the other hand struggled and forged an identity and hence their present economic status reflects it.
The onus is therefore on the youths to forge an identity,if not for us but for the coming generations-its about time we stopped eating shit like dogs. ASPPIRE FOR MORE!

baby_123:
Na wa o. All of this untop other people matter. Do you have a job, hobby, personal projects and responsibilities. You seem to want to carry the problems of he world on your head. If these people tell you to shove you advice will you kill yourself? Am sure if your siblings tell you to mind your business you will kill them. Let the world solve its own problems while you take care of yours. You seem to know what is going on with so many people from the outside looking in. Maybe you should look into yourself and solve your own issues which I am sure are bigger than theirs. I hope you listen to advice as well and stop ranting. Never mind Coogars support he has people he gets fun out of arguing against. Even when he knows its outrageous. You my friend need to relax, have some hot steamy s$ex and a cold beer. Then reflect on your own life .

Martin luther King took on the problems of a whole race....if he decided to mind his business probably the blacks would still be pissing in the bush now and have restricted movement. Like I said I'm not a saint,and life is a learning process. I seek to improve with every passing day.
Answering your questions; I do have hobbies,I write articles,poems,swim,I never miss an arsenal match....I have Projects;one of which you would hear about soon(ProjectGreen),its an idea that would create job opportunities for many. socially I have always being fit. What I have seen,people I have been blessed to meet and places I have visited. I will not go on because its clear we are from two different worlds.
Ofcourse I cannot kill myself when someone fails to listen because at the end of the day I have my life to live and many other people to exchange ideas with.
As for the s€x and beer part...lol...I think I have taken enough alcohol for a lifetime,and you do not even want to begin to go down the road of 's€x' with me(what do you know). At the end of the day life is not all about s€x and alcohol.

This issue is one which I am passionate about because you look around now and you find no love-even in families,friendship and relationships. You ask yourself why and the answer is simple;everyone is so competitive and stuck on themselves,they do not really care who gets hurt in the process of getting what they want,not necessarily what they need.
A 'friend' of mine has this ex who is now married. Even while she was in school she was stringing the both of them along till she finally got married to her husband a year ago. The husband is young,comfortable,reserved,has a good paying job and financed her while she was in school. My friend on the other hand is a 'party' boy.
So my friend sends her a message on facebook last month telling her he's in lagos(they had not spoken in over a year before that). She replies almost immediately and sends her number. The next day she was in our hotel room with her wedding band on display. She did not have sex with him(because she was on her period) but she gave him 'oral'. While I was outside I kept thinking to myself and I was really sad for the rest of the day. I had told my friend not to go on with it but he did not listen,apparently the thrill of having someone else's wife was too much to pass on. It has affected our relationship because I can never see myself doing that and believe me I have had such opportunity. I mean why would I wreck a family because I want to cum.
The husband called her while she was there to check on her,so I do not think he neglects her. She came in a brand new car courtesy the husband.
So I asked myself why would you be so wicked to not just anybody but someone you made a promise of commitment to. Its simple,she wants to be happy-its all about her needs. Its her life! She has not done anything fun in a while and so the thrill of living her single days once again was too much to pass.
If she had thought to herself the effect her actions would have on her husband(it could really wreck him) she would most likely not have gone ahead unless she hates the man which I do not think is the case because immediately his call came in it was like she snapped out of a dream and realized she was in the wrong place. I am not a marriage counselor so would not go into that but the fact is two people put needless pleasures ahead of someone else's feelings. People have committed murder for such things and what happens;he spends his life in jail,your kids become orphans,all because its your life,your mistakes and nobody's business how you choose to live it. To me that is a reckless way to live and only minors are permitted to live carefree like that.
My advise,if you want to be carefree as an adult,forget about work and life's struggles for a while,take your family out on a vacation or hangout with friends-be responsible and most of all do not step on other people's feelings because of your own ambitions or wants because at the end of the day nothing last forever but the lives we touch leaves an endless memory.
P.s
I am not a saint,I do have regrets,but when I am old,I want to look back and see lots of accomplishments + lots of happy faces.

baby_123:
Drawing a line in where it affects others is left to interpretation. Besides if an adult chooses not to bother about how you feel about their life or how it affects you. What can you do about it other than move on? And stop letting someone's misdirection a affect you to the extent of being upset about their life choices. I agree with you though. But playing this I must impose myself game on an adult usually backfires. Even if their life is heading for a crash

No one talked about imposing. You cannot force a grown man to do something,unless ofcourse you are responsible for his feeding and upkeep. If we live together and you have a habit of smoking,i will tell you take it outside. If you stay beside me and you love hearing your music at the maximum volume,I would knock on your door and ask you to tune it down if it disturbs me. If someone has bad hygiene and we actually share tools,I will talk to him/her about it because I do not want 'craw-craw'.
This is not IMPOSING,its simply making a fellow adult understand that,if you do not live alone and you have family and friends around you,then your actions have effects one way or the other in other people's lives.
Btw the way you beat about this IMPOSE,you sound like someone who would have issues with taking advise,IMO.

jidegirl12: That bolded Aphorism is just an Hyperbole IMO ... I don't believe any human in their right mind ( sane) will preset himself for failure just cause it's okay.

As the matter of fact, that saying happen to be one of the best recipe for raising a child... We all are bound to make mistakes... Nobody's perfect.

As per the 419 and Nigerian government ... Everybody will reap what they sow.... Lets not mix apples with oranges here.

Success is not an easy task. Its actually easier to fail,so people have just invented a way to make failure seem okay. Its just the same way when we were in school and you do badly and your parents ask you why you failed then you respond- "the result was generally bad". In other words it is okay that you performed badly. My parents would ask me the people who managed to pass,do they have two heads? When I answered that question I stopped being among those who failed. You hardly find someone who would admit he made a mistake/failed because he was careless or reckless. So now people just feel,its okay, and for anyone who tries to tell them you made this mistake because you are unserious....they say mind your own goddam business!
Truth is bitter and no one likes it.

Mistake: an error in action, calculation, opinion, or judgment caused by poor reasoning, carelessness, insufficient knowledge, etc.

A lot of Nigerians do not know the gravity of many actions because an average Nigerian is not raised to think deep. We are raised in a competitive setting where everyone faces his own race and does not bother how his actions affects his fellow man. I have a life,I have ambitions but what makes me different from others around me is before I do anything I think how it will affect the people around me. I do not go to the pot and serve myself without putting in mind how many are at home,and say sorry when one person does not get food.....when I'm outside I make extra effort to comport myself in a responsible way so I do not mislead anyone(whether you like it or not you have someone who looks up to you)because not everyone has the same level of discipline. That you can conveniently drink 10bottles of beer,does not mean the little boy who admires you would not become addicted if he tries it. I try as much as possible to make sure I do not cause anyone pain with my actions because how far does your 'Sorry' go. If everyone lived their lives considering the feelings of others,there would be a lot less problems and more happiness especially in this part of the world. A leader who repeatedly makes mistakes but still holds on to power not thinking what is best for his people- why blame him,he was raised with the mentality that its his life,his regime, and nobody's business however he chooses to rule. In life mistakes are inevitable but you do not base your life on it. Rather you base your life on the pursuit of perfection and learning from the mistakes that come with that hustle.

Check:
1)If your roommate is not hygienic- its his life his mistakes
2)You have people who smoke around,and even if its going to reduce your life span as a passive smoker its their life,we must mind our business?or sorry will magically increase your life span?
3)You have an unserious sibling who clearly does not know what lies ahead and so makes mistakes but since it his/her life we allow them make those mistakes knowing fully well the repercussion. Would sorry recover what they lost?
4)When I was in secondary school and was always playing pranks and the teachers questioned my upbringing-would sorry make my parents feel less horrible?
5)If you got a girl pregnant out of negligence,carelessness....would remorse feed the baby?
6)Yolo....and it is nobody's business so you get high,drive and hurt somebody....when your eyes is clear, you say sorry abi?
7)You have friends who do not take their work seriously(for whatever reason) and because its their life you mind your business and when they become useless you start giving them 'peanuts' or runaway-you are the close substitute of the devil.

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Harbosede02: Big talk...fnx

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tpia@:
Just mind your own business!

Eod.

Face your own life if you have one.

Why typing up epistles to justify your lack of manners and bad breeding.

Not to mention neuroses.

Tilapia it really shows you lack intuition and basic cognitive abilities. You belong in the shallow waters with your pint sized brain fellow species where you guys can peacefully coexist 'minding your own business'.
Next time adults are talking you do not just jump out of your 'little pond' snorting when you do not comprehend the significance of the issue that is on ground. Maturity is not a function of age but wisdom and from what I have just seen,you are a stark opposite of everything the word stands for.
By the way its neurosis,would have given you a tutorial on singular and plural,but it would be a waste of time and effort.
Please,where are the bright ones?

That statement really irks me. Just as much as a tweet I saw yesterday did, and I quote- "I was born to make mistakes not fake perfection". Now mistakes make us better but only when/if we realize that we never should have made them in the first place!
If we have a preset mindset that our existence is defined by making mistakes or our failures then we will never be mentally challenged to achieve something greater-victory!
Mistakes are common place but victory sets YOU apart from the rest; strive for it,long for it,chase after perfection and most importantly cry and 'kick' yourself when you make mistakes.
There are two kinds of people who motivate,I have found;
1)Those who inspire you with tales of woe,regrets,mistakes.....and you think to yourself I must not live my life like this so I do not end up this way. Ofcourse this is not a nollywood flick so not every story has to have a sad ending but fact is every mistake is followed closely with a 'price'; be it time,love,trust,money,missed opportunities...

2)Those who inspire you with tales of victory(albeit hard fought),triumph,success,overcoming challenges and temptations.....and you think I must live my life like this. Make your pick!

When you are old enough to realize that when you fail in school it affects your parents or when you do something immoral it breaks their heart. Then the picture starts getting painted and you see you are not the only one in it-you come to terms with the fact that its not just about you,your life and your mistakes.
You begin to see that your actions have effect on the people around you;the little ones who look up to you, your parents who have built their hopes on you,your friends/family who believe in you.
You see the DEPTH in the choices you make and that; when you steal public funds it affects millions of people...when you abuse someone it kills their confidence....when you cheat someone it makes it hard for them to trust others and this goes on like a cascade.
A few Nigerians have made a name for their countrymen as potential thieves and 419ers to the international community-their mistake/failure,now our burden.
The statement "my life,my mistakes" is a very selfish belief eulogized by egocentric 'adolescents' who still believe the sun rises and sets on their behalf. If you are 18 and above and still have this notion then you need to have a rethink because this in my opinion is the major reason why this country is corrupt and upside down- everyone justifies improper actions with selfish beliefs and misguided notions.

Its a sunday,the one day out of seven that we are required as christians to go to church and spend some time in his presence. So let's see how many nairalanders are in church or those who are too hung over to leave their beds,the latecomers,the '2nd' service attendees....etc

The question is- what are you doing this sunday morning?



And if you are in church, the question for you is- why are you browsing nairaland during service? #Godiswatching, you better have a good reason.

Chillisauce: Lagos is the worst place in Naija,

Imagine a day I visited my friend in lagos, i was bored and decided to use the library beside unilag. after i tried the public transport. I gave him 200 naira, to receive 150 naira balance. They just stopped me where I had no idea and in the middle of the road, he was shouting for everyone to get down that he is not going any further, I was like....WTF, get down in a moving truck and in the middle of the road with my balance still with them.


I was surprised ppl jumping off and it was left just me, they (driver and his boy) were shouting at me to get down and same time turning around. I didn't listen to them, they turned and immediately started loading the bus again, the opposite direction. I tried getting down even in the midst of ppl struggling to enter...I succeeded after plenty of stampeding.

Anyway, got down asked for my balance from the driver since I didn't see his boy, he didn't even listen just drove off.as he was driving off I just saw his boy running after the bus and same time jumping into it.

There you go, am in the middle of nowhere, my balance gone, I was pissed. Not because of the money but the way they took off. For their mind they were very smart.

I curse both of them with every power I had, both satanic and Godly power. I then took a cab home.


I tell you, If I had seen a taxi immediately with a police or soldier around, I would have chased t hem and give them the beating of their life. Even if it cost me all my life savings
That was the last time I tried public TP when in Lagos.


That place Menh, *shruggsss**

I know that feeling.
I don't even enter all those buses....I would rather walk,because those boys eyes too dey red!

Nowadays I get really pissed off when people blame the government for our many problems because the biggest problem this country has is its citizens. Lagos for example is the worst possible place to raise a kid,that's if you want that child to have any moral justification or shred of love.
It seems we have gotten so caught up in our everyday lives we forget how to show kindness to people. We forget the guy next door who has no job,we forget the lady always standing at that bus stop selling corn(come rain,come shine).
We get so caught up in our little world,we forget that not everyone had the privilege of an education,not everyone even had the opportunity to 'struggle' to complete school like you did.
You see beggars on the street,you do not know half their story and all you say is "why can't she find work". Ask yourself this questions; which work? Is it the work that graduates are still looking for? Or the one you are ready to give them? Or are you willing to give them money to start business?
Some girls were raped as teenagers and had to take care of babies while they themselves were toddlers.
Yes, I know life is unfair but do we have to make it a wicked and cold world/jungle because that is what we have become-cavemen.
Yesterday an ambulance was trying to wade through traffic whilst transporting an accident victim and people were still dragging space with it.....a man blocked the road for about 5mins because he wanted to go one way and could not move a little for the ambulance. The police had to hit his car repeatedly before he detoured to the left for the ambulance.
A friend of mine wanted to send some money to his brother,same yesterday and for some reason he could not access his account,so he asked another friend who he had being chatting with since morning(on basically frivolities) to help him send the money and he would send it back the next day;that was the end of the conversation.
It really pained the guy,but he did the same thing to me not up to 5minutes later. We use the same account so I also could not get cash,but I have a second account with little money. The distance from our present location was considerably much and using a cab of 300 to withdraw 1000 was pointless-i would have to walk on an empty tummy. He had enough money to take care of himself till the next day,so what I expected was as my friend he would say "guy u no fit dey walk dat distance nw,shebi na 1k....take u fit gimme 2moro".....instead he got a cab and left me to my fate.
As I walked I was so angry and a lot of things crossed my mind,but like I do always I said a prayer- I told God to help me not to be so busy with the struggles of life and myself that I forget to notice or deliberately ignore that; my friend has no money,my brother needs a hug,my sister needs protecting,my father needs someone to talk to,my mum feels lonely,my children need new toys,my wife needs to be reminded how beautiful she is.....etc
Me and the guy still hung out that evening but everyone had their money in their pockets-unfortunately that is not my description of a life!
Its a vicious cycle,it starts with you and me and it can only be brought to end by you and me. Some of us have forgotten our people in the village,our pregnant wives,and our sick parents.....do something different today,a tin of milo is just 650!