I was severely slapped on the ear/face for reading ur "toasting msg" to a certain girl,that was not in any self defence MR.Thanks everyone,i know i will leave sooner or later,but as advised i will go to court to get a restraining order.

I never thought i would be saying this ,but here i am.

My husband whom i dated for 8 years and have been married to for under 1 year has turned me into a punching bag.i went through his phone and confronted him via bb msg for a chat he had with a certain female friend and there and then he started landing slaps on me,my head,ear,face etc for more than 6 hrs i have been feeling intense headache.

He apparently has a problem with his family,which he refused to disclose to me about which seems to be annoying him.He beat me mercilessly in the presence of our maid.


I've been of great assistance to him before we got married. Right from our university days, i always shared my pocket money with him,etc. been extremely nice to him even though i have my own human errors.

Looking back now,he always had the signs of wife battery,but in a way,i blame myself,because when i should have left,i discovered i was pregnant thereby being trapped in such a terrible situation.

My parents think i have the best marriage because they are aware of only his good sides,but at home, behind closed doors,he is a demon.

I am living in a nightmare,don't know what to do.

I feel like running away.

pls nairalanders help ,i don't want to be the woman her husband killed.!!!

My hubby helps in the kitchen particularly as am pregnant,even b4 i was,he used to do it occasionally particularly when i needed to get to work so early.it's just love and understanding.ur wife isn't urged househelp.

Most of what they spent may have been on catering,the casket,accomodation ie hotel for guests ,sewing of ashoebi ,buying /printing sourvenirs,burial program,etc.so don't be quick to say they spent too much.

Fast tarck whats ur advise?

Re u d one dat labelled dem against me?hw do u no de re true?do u no me

If u are verbally abusive,i no people who arent so stop saying all men are the same,he who wears the shoe knows where it pinches,u just hv an idea whats going on in the rship ur not there.u havent tasted any meal i cooked so how can u judge?

Re u so sure his lapses are only verbal abuses?and how are u so he teaches me hw 2 do wat he wants&i don't want to learn?hw are u also not sure ders a general reason he's irritable&finds fault in everything even wen ders no fault

Once a woman has more money than her husband nothing she does will ever be rigth.

Gemstone,may God bless u everly for ur contribution,dats what I tell him everytime,no matter what,he'll still be verbally abusive,weda d girl can cook clean till d place shows his reflection,good in bed etc etc,he will still call her "fool"dats his favourite word.my dear even before he discovered I couldn't cook 2 his satisfaction or clean to his taste,he has always been verbally abusive and always looks for how to blame me for everything dat goes wrong in his life.I have put up with dis 4 more dan 5 years its embarassing,no single atom of respect,I'm always abused,always called names etc.well thank God I'm still single,will make a better choice by d grace of God.am nt trying to brag here,but am extremely nice person he can attest to that,but all he wants is never do anything wrong or say anything wrong.even his family appreciates my efforts more than him.well thanks again everyone who has contributed.I would really love 2 have a conversation with his wife in future because den,she wld be a great cook,great mum great everything,but also verbally&maybe physically abused 2.

Henrico dats grea,dats the kind of love I'm looking 4,by Gods grace it'll come 2 pass.good 2 no men like u Exist outt there.just never been opportuned to meet any.

Yeah quite obvious he doesn't love me,on a 2nd tot I won't post my detailed version like I promised.will just leave it here return his ring&move on with life,thanks to all d good hearted people who gave good advise.hope 2 meet a very nice person in future,hope 2 b d best 4 someone else.cheers guys case closed

I am not on both ids shollypop I used a friends ipad and dats her own I'd.

Shollypops God bless u,u sabi every.dear all,I have too much to say but unfortunately I have to go to work now,so stay tuned.

Hi all,

I've been dating this guy for almost over 5 years. He's very hot-tempered & verbally abusive. At the slightest provocation, he calls me names e.g. fool etc.

He's presently waiting for a job to click. I visit him most weekends to keep him company since he's bored most of the time. He always looks for one fault in me or the other. When I leave especially for work in the morning after being with him, he starts sending me messages of what I did that's wrong, and what I didn't do etc. He teaches me how to cook to his satisfaction, and if I make a suggestion, he gets mad at me and starts calling me all sorts of names. Most times because he's so particular, I always ask Him how he wants a particular food cooked, because if one thing is put before another and it's not the way he does it,he wont eat the food again. Even times when I make a suggestion and he refuses, I do what he says yet when I go, he'll send me abusive messages saying "why did I want to do it that way, am I a fool? etc and a quarrel ensues, despite doing it his way.

He's pushed me severally and I fear he may be physically abusive too. Anything I tell him about myself,he uses it against me when next we quarrel. Please I need advice,the most embarrassing thing now is, we've been engaged for a year and from the look of things we may be breaking up very soon. I've been wearing his ring all along. How do I go through the shame of not getting married to him despite everyone knowing us together?

How to go about teaching her,u also must show humility when teaching her.is it dat she closes her ear when eg u say,add maggi?or if u suggest she uses say 50naira leaf and she suggests something more or less,but still sticks to yours you'll still abuse her with it for eg saying i wanted 50 naira leaf u wanted 20 naira dont u no its too small,fool etc etc.dunno if u get my point.
How re u teaching her?do u always abuse her at evey point in time Saying u dont no how to cook etc.it matters alot oh,its not enough to be abusing her all the time because she cant cook.how do we no shes not willing to learn?does it mean she has never cooked a nice meal?well my advise is,pray Bout it,be less verbally abusive(if u are) be a gentleman about it,speak softly,make suggestions etc.dont be too authoritative,tell her things like "this is how i prepare mine,i would like it this way'