Yippie! Its 7:55pm. The day is gone and I didn't go to his place. Its wasn't easy but I did it. Thanks all for giving me the support that's been a boost to my strength. He has called me today un-countable times. I actually did go to my big sister's place because he can be very funny you know. He might ask to speak with one of my nephews. Not that he's done such before but you never can be too sure. I pity him already and miss him too but not like a week ago. I'd go see him tomorrow and I've promised myself that there'd be no sex. I also want to start refusing him that. Gradually we all will be disentangled from this cocoon. I'll keep you guys posted. Good night all.

@opsydudu
Thanks but no thanks. I dont need a relationship now.

Guys, its not easy o. Weekend is approaching & I'm so afraid I wont go running back into his arms. I miss him silly already. I've not seen him since monday morning I left his place. We do talk on phone regularly though. He asked why he's not seen me this week & I lied I need to catch up with a lot of things in school. The urge to go see him is there, the thought that weekend is around the corner is making me so Hot (sorry abt that i didn't mean to say it). This is the first weekend I'm going to spend without being with him except those times he goes home for xmas. Even at those times, I go to his house to stay either alone or with my friends. It makes me feel better than being anywhere else. I've traveled to his home town with him on 2 occasions and his folks & siblings all like me. Pls people I want to correct one impression here, he did not deceive me. It was a decision we took together after my sister spoke to me about the risks of having sickle cell children. I'm not ignorant of how devastating the ailment can be. My secondary school best friend & her elder sister all died from it. Maybe it contributed to my giving up on us too. So it wasn't entirely his decision alone. Also, he was not cheating behind my back. I know my man well. Yes they say you can never know completly a man, but my case was different. I cannot give him a bad name now because our not being together is not his making. He will be devastated if he finds out I'm leaving for good. Its not gonna be easy for him too. But even at that, we both still know its not going anywhere. He still takes care of me like nothing has changed. I can imagine how he'll feel when I don't turn up this weekend. I intend to use my sister's place as an excuse. I can find a good excuse to give him based on that cos he has great family values.

Now to his ex-girlfriend he's marrying, I'll bet my life he was never seeing the girl behind me. If by any chance he ever cheated on me, it wasn't with the girl cos this girl in question wears pride like a dress. Even though he loves my guy madly. At the early stage of our relationship, she use to call him once in a while and I've also been privillaged to speak with the girl at those times. She was happy for us and asked me to take care of him o. That he's like a big baby. So when my guy came back from xmas this january and told me he ran into her and she was still single, I encouraged him to get together with her if possible than having to start all over again. At least, the devil you know is better than the angel you dont. This is how it happened. Yes I like the girl cos I see her as someone who can take care of him the way I would have, I respect her also and I envy her at the same time because she is with him now for life.

About my new boyfriend, I'm going to take the advice someone gave me here, I think it will be a bad idea to tell him all that was happening behind his back. It will break his heart. I intend cutting all communications with him. If he calls me fine but I'd never return his calls. If he asks I'd say I've been too busy to see him or call. He'll get the message.

I promise you guys I won't go my guy's house this weekend no matter how difficult and I'll let you all know how I faired by monday.

Thanks all.

Unfortunate I'm at his place at the moment for the weekend. I've been following your replies on my phone even at night while he was asleep. He has left for Lekki to his big brother's place this afternoon. Ordinarily we would have gone together before. It is really getting clearer to me every minute that things are no longer the same, the more reason I should take my leave. Thank you all for ur advice. Who says pouring out your heart to someone doesn't help situations like this? To all who has given me straight from the heart advice, may God protect you from walking this road. I'm getting my confidence back. I know I'm beautiful. I get tons of toasters and admirers. I certainly is leaving him no matter how painful. I'm also going to tell my new boyfriend the whole truth abt what has been happening. I'm also going to leave him. I think the only way to help myself at this point is not another boyfriend but to stay away from men. Nurse my wound and come back later as a fresher in say 6months to 1yr. Once again, thank you everyone. I just found a friend and family in you guys. I love you all.

Really as sad and moody as I am, I cannot help but comment on this sh1t. So whoever the retard is that put this together is hoping for a pat on the back abi? The pant is not only disgusting, it is also repulsive. Don't expect your man to get jiggy on sighting this stuff. G-String is the mother of all undies. The brainless individual that come up with this sorry sight should better come up with some other thing to redeem his/her smeared image. I laugh.

Oh poor him. He is not a bad guy. I must say emphatically that the 6 years I was with him, he never for once cheated on me. If he did, then the girl or girls he cheated with must be stupid because I have till date a key to his house. Till recently I've had my belongings at his place. He is one of the coolest guys I've ever seen. My friends envied me both the once in school and my hood girls. The friends I've made along the line all liked him and always encouraged me not to mess up because there are not too many of his type out there. Were we alter bound before the discovery? YES. I'm from a good christian home and my parents dear not find out I already was living with a guy at 20. Yes love can make us do silly things. I was properly brought up reason there were so many things I couldn't do aside my having a man I can die for. When we made the discovery 2yrs ago, it seemed the end of time for both of us. We wept for days. Along the line we agreed to part ways but not to give up on the love we have for each other. It seemed a simple thing for me until he had his introduction in march this year. The girl he is marrying (his ex) now, they ran into each other last december and got back together. He got me pregnant; it was a mutual agreement so we could risk if I can have a normal baby. But when I confided in my elder sister she screamed that my daddy will spit fire since I'm not formally married to the guy. She also talked to me on the dangers inherent in what I want to get myself into. It might interest you all to know, my dad is pastor in our church and my mum a deaconess. Knowing the that the outcome wont be easy I had to plead with my man we abort the pregnancy. He loves me so much but we should all understand that realities can't be swept under the carpet. Love can go sour given certain conditions mostly when families starts to bump him. I'd rather he marry some girl and we still preserve the love we share than me watching it go sour with me in it. It'll kill me. I later started feeling I should allow him marry as he is not getting any younger. But now that it has happened, the thought of him with another woman is killing me. I wish I never encouraged him in the first place. I have so many wishes but its too late. Can I please just make do with the little of him that I can have? Please am I insane already because sometimes when I'm alone I start to call his name and cry. I need heeeeelp.

My sister, yes he does love me no doubt about that. He doesnt have as much love for his wife. He just chose the girl because she is one lady amongs his numerous exs' that her love for him is likened to mine. She left her half cast boyfriend for him. I don't know what my problem is but I feel I can have a part of him since I can't have all. I am not sure I want to relinquish the little of that I have even after his marriage or mine. Its adultery Yes! But why did God allow this sort of fate befall us? Sometimes I just feel like killing us both but I feel for the poor wife.

First I want to appeal to members here who will respond to this post to be kind enough to understand what I'm going through. If you must criticize me, please let it be constructive and not bashing me. I need help and that is the reason I have come here. I won't want to made to feel worse because I have seen lots of responses to other peoples post that I consider offensive. I don't have good friends I can relate with. The only two I have in school are big time runs girls who has nothing good to say about love and relationships.

My Story:

I'm a 24 years old yoruba girl in love with a 35 years old ibo guy. I met him when I was 18 and he was my second boyfriend but my first and only love so far. My first relationship was less than 6 months when he came and swept me away. The 6 years we've been together has been the best 6 years of my life and in this 6 years (and still counting), I have never cheated on him. I have in some occassions hung out at night or day time with friends to either a party or a club (which he always knew about before I decide on going), I have on several occassions received money or gifts from admirers and I always tell him about it. He is so supportive and very understanding. Aside my first boyfriend (cos I didn't meet him a virgin. I wish I did), he is the only man I've been with. he loves and adores me and to me, he is the only man on this planet earth.

Today, he is getting married to someone else. He has done his introduction, the wedding date fixed, he has even introduced his wife to be to me because I made him promise me he will do that when the time comes. I also promised to do the same when I find a man I can tolerate (cos I don't have love again left to give) as a husband. Why are we not getting married today? FATE! We are both AS. This we discovered 2 years ago. I don't want to bore you all with what happened when we found out. The girl he is marrying today is his ex girlfriend. they broke up a year before he met me.

The problem now is, we still love each other so much. Mine is the worst case because the fear that I am loosing him is making me love him even more. I crave for him per second. To help myself, I have started another relationship since october last year but its only a formality. I'm not in love with the guy cos I don't have any to give. I like him though because he respects my decision of no sex. The no sex decision is because I can't stand another man touch me. The love of my life's wife is not in Lagos so I still go to spend weekends with him. Endavours to see him at least once or twice every week before weekend proper. I have sex with him all the time except I'm on my monthly. I tried to help myself dis-entangle from him sometime by deleting all his pictures on my phone, but that made it worse instead, because I don't have anything to look at again when I miss him. I get so cold when I hang out with my new boyfriend because I find myself thinking I wouldn't have been doing this if all was well. Every music reminds me of him. if I see a car with the semblance of his my heart jumps off my head. Its killing me slowly. I want to move on but i can't. the WILL is there but my soul can't let me. I am envious of his wife I must be sincere. But I also know there's nothing I can do about it. I lived with him for my first 3 years in the university. I go to school from his house and only go home on weekends. i'm in my final year now (UNILAG). Now, everything about him is sweeter. The sex is mind blowing, coiling up in bed with him feels like heaven. he also is not letting me go. can I ever survive this?

Please my fellow ladies, if you have been through a similar experience before, how did you deal with it. I'm madly in love but I know we can't be together.