try banks. they accept everybody.

Ask him if he has heard about magun.

I've read through all the posts, and it seems that we Nigerians and intent on celebrating mediocrity and living in self delusion with nonsense talk like "There are many peeps with 1st class without a job"
What nonsense.
In my school, even before we had graduated, shell had sent a letter inquiring for a list of students with a G.P. of 4.5 and above. some banks sent letters inquiring about students with 2.1 and above, and even held an interview in the school just after our convocation.
It is almost impossible for someone who actually worked for a 1st class to be without a job in this country, unless the person is not interested. Let us not delude ourselves.
I did not get a 1st class, but I respect those who did, and I dont try to put them down in order to raise myself up.
A good first degree will enable you start well in the job market, but a third class does not spell doom either. Some nairalanders have given some marvellous ideas on what to do especially concerning professional certification, which I believe will help even those who graduated with better degrees.
However, some people are not academically inclined, and should try and find out where their real talent lies before taking the next step.
In this life a good degree is not essential, but it helps a lot.

Seun

I have some advise concerning both Nairaland and Nairalist.

Concerning the Nairaland job section, is it possible to modify the site in such a way that posts are not immediately
shown on pages, but will have to be moderated by a moderator who will decide whether to show it or delete it? The
advantage is that spam posts will never make it through, but the disadvantage is that the moderators will have to be
very dedicated as they will have a lot of posts to deal with at first, but this volume will reduce as spammers come
to realise that they cannot beat the system. This is how the BBC and CNN run some of their forums and it keeps things
from getting out of hand.

Concerning the Nairalist site, I think it would be nice if you could create a section where potential job hunters can
upload thier CVs by filling a form, and a section for potential employers to fill a form outlining what they want in
in an employee. You may then match these forms together and find out which CVs match what the employers are looking
for. In order to protect the privacy of the job hunter, you could then contact the job-hunter and tell him that
so and so company is looking for someone with his qualifications for so and so position. If the job hunter is interested
you could then foward his CV and contact details to the employer.

I know that these two considerations will take a lot to implement, but I think it is worth a thought.

I would apply to be a mod, but my internet access is erratic, and I think I'll defer that application until when I
have steady access.

Overall, I think you are doing an excellent job, and when I hammer, I go buy Nairaland and employ you as webmaster!
keep up the good work, bro!

Just got it working.
Thx a lot guys!
Now I can really enjoy this phone

Hey guys, I need a little help here.
I just bought a Sony Ericsson k800i and Im trying to configure the internet settings, but with no luck . I tried the settings on the mtn site, and it doesnt work. I also tried the Sony Ericsson website, but did not get much help there.
Is there anyone here that is familiar with the phone who could help me out?
THe setting I used were:

Account Name = MTN GPRS
IP Address = 10.199.212.2
Port = 9201 (for WAP) or 8080 (for HTML)
Username = web
Password = web
Access Point Name (APN) = web.gprs.mtnnigeria

or variants of this (eg making the DNS the same as the IP)

Any help appreciated!

For me it has to be 'You Fill Up my senses" by John Denver

I just love that song.

If the relationship is distant enough that it is allowed, then there is nothing wrong with it. However, find out before things get out of hand.

One of my family members wanted to marry someone whom we later found out was distantly related to us (very very distant), and it was not allowed in my village. I know how hard it was for this person to give up the relationship.

So my advice to you is to find out first of all and make sure.


On the flip side, if so many family members are going to oppose the marriage, are you sure it is worth it? They may see things you do not see, becuase they are able to look at the relationship objectively.

Based on the info you have given, my best advice is that you leave the relationship now, before it gets too messy.

Sorry for taking so long to reply, had some business to attend to that took me away from the net.

@Sangreal
Your basic premise is false, I have not slept with her ( and I do not intend to unless we get married, God-willing), therefore the rest of your analysis is irrelevant.

@ Uju
I really do not understand why you are being so aggressive here. I am simply expressing a feeling and wondering the way forward. It IS not my intention to break her heart, Your conclusions about me being a 'born player' and dumping girls being my 'lifestyle' is wierd, considering that I said earlier that this is my FIRST relationship,
Statements like 'spitting out of my mouth' and 'acting lost' are out of place here and will not help matters.

Did somebody break your heart? I am not him, dont take it out of me.

You do raise an important point concerning the girls feelings, and this is one of the main reasons why I will not end the relationship.

@Sowura
Your post makes sense to me. I understand that good things take effort, I have experienced this from other aspects of life, however, I did not apply this to relationships. Maybe this is because I have bought into the popular notion of fairytail love, and happily ever after endings, But I like your advice about putting efforts into the relationship in order to make it work. I am going to give it my best shot. thanks for sharing your insight.

@ndividual
I am youngish - 23 to be exact - and Ive spent a little time thinking about the whole thing, I think I'll try n put more effort into the relationship in order to make it work. (Been trying for a some days now, and I think I am regaining some glimpses of the original magic) So, wish me luck.


@ everyone , thx for taking time to share and offer advice, u guys are the best!

thats food for thought, I'll chew on that for a while, thx a lot.

No way.
I need someone who is strong where I am weak, and for who I can be strong where the person is weak. I dont need someone who has my strenghts and weaknesses, no way!
I am reserved, I need someone outgoing, I tend to think too much, I need someone who does not brood, etc
If I marry someone like myself, how will we survive a situation where we are both weak, and how will we avoid conflicts were we are both strong?

thx, ima1, for the reply, at the moment we are not together, we are in different parts of the country, temporarily,
I miss her, but not much, and Im thinking maybe its because I am kinda self absorbed, like a loner, I dont require or desire a lot of social interaction,
However, my main problem is that leaving her would be like going back on my word (I promised her that if the relationship did not work out it would not be because of a lack of effort on my part),
Then I also have the feeling that if I walk away from this, how can I guarantee that I will be able to stick to any lady in the future? that also brings up fears of cheating on my partner, something I am really afraid of, now It seems to me that I am that kind of person, I dont know, Im really confused,

I just entered my first serious relationship months ago. I've always had fantasies of how wonderful a relationship would be like, and I could not understand the why men could not just stick to one lady. Most of my friends that were in relationships told me how lucky I was to be free of women, but I did not believe them.
Anyways, I saw a pretty girl that fit most of my expectations, and I went for her, got her, and now she is head over heels in love with me.
However, I am tired of the relationship, feeling imprisoned, and I want to move on. But I have no tangible reason, the desire for her just died down, and she is noticing and complaining, which is adding to the problem.
Personally, I do not want to be the kind of man that will promise something, then live the girl hanging, we talked about long term plans, and I want to stick to those plans, but the desires are just not there anymore, (besides, Im beginning to find other girls really attractive)
So I need advice from nairalanders,
Is this what I should expect from relationships in general? (if this is the case, then is there any point in moving on?)
Should I try and work on it and try to stimulate those feelings I felt before, will it work?
what should I do?

Your comments (even yabs) are welcome, and I would really like it if people who have experienced this sort situation could give me some advice
(at the moment, I'm trying to see if I can re-animate that initial attraction)

I think cutting oil supplies in order to bump up prices is a bad and insensitive idea. If the world cannot afford expensive oil, why should we make it artificially expensive?
Im not an economist, but I think that if OPEC reduces output, and the price goes up, the countries will import less oil, and start looking for alternative power supplies, It makes sense to look for higher prices when the fundamentals of the global economy is strong, but when there are talks about a global recession, does it make sense,
It seems kinda greedy to me. Countries like Iceland are almost bankrupt because of the financial crises, and OPEC wants to increase their burden by reducing oil supply to them

if telltoo or her boyfriend is as 'BUSY' as he wants her to believe, how come he has enough time to be coming to nairal land to see what we are gossiping about? How come he has enough time to register and post a reply instead of just calling his chick and settling issues?

He wants us to believe that he is extremely hard up, but he has enoug to afford an internet connection or at least to visit a cyber cafe and browse sites like naira land. (Abi na Y-Y boy?)

And his tone is too harsh and defensive, it is not the tone of a man in love, it is the tone of one who is defending himself at all costs. There is nothing in his post that suggests he loves the babe:

he says
and if youre getting bored because i no longer take you out then, what do u xpect me to do? go find someome who will!

Regard to the religious thingy, its strictly between u and i, if we can live with it fine! if not, fine!


what kinda tone is that?

With regards to religion, it can really mar a marriage and should be given really serious attention.


But as someone said earlier, A man will spend a lot of time on whatever is high on his priority list. It is apparent that his girl is not high on his list.

My advice to the poster: Bail out. The guy does not like you enough. And if he is the one who posted that reply, then he is a damn idiot. Bail out.

Somebody really needs to smack the senses into your skull

*saunters in for breakfast as usual.looks around and casually blasts the socks off mdsocks. Mustay decides its not safe to stay and dashed outta the room. time for breakfast.*

What is expected?
Precious Little. They are to understand who is the boss and act accordingly. Else, the secretary steps into the equation

*licking his chops_{the meal is almost over}*-

*Strolls majestically into the room, gazes around at the carnage going on, saunters to the center, and sits down to have breakfast, confident in his odeshi from ijebu-ode, okija, and india.*

Guys, na wa o! Before we crucify the guy, we suppose understand that in some parts of northern Nigeria, a 14 year old girl is game. Whether it is right or wrong, it is thier culture.

Personally, I dont subscribe to premarital sex, and the way the guy bragged 'I deflowered her when she was 14 and she was OK with it' really riled me.

She was OK with it!!! Stupid idiot, what the hell does she know at that age? YOu could do the same to a 7 year old and to your putrefying mind, you would think she was OK with it. Pervert!!!

If it is culturally acceptable for you to marry the girl, marry her! Dont come here to disgust us with your filthy escapades with girls that you are twice as old as.

Also, work on your English. It is terrible. Else, speak am for pidgen!

In a relationship, it takes two to do everything: To tango, tangle, quarrel, fight, and to have a misunderstanding.
There is seldom any case where one party takes all the blame. Both parties usually have a part to play.
While the poster has given us a picture of her husbands misdemeanors, we have heard nothing of her actions in the marriage. All we have heard is her nice qualifications, her wonderful kids etc. What role did she play in her marriage?
Only pigs will trample a pearl, men will not, because we all know the value of a true gem.
If the poster is perfect, then her marriage will be. If not then she is not, and for us to be of any use in giving advise, we must know the true picture.
So these are the questions I would like to ask the poster:
What role did you play in the degeneration of your marriage?
HOw have you tried to save your marriage?

I am not trying to justify her husband, he has a lot to atone for, I'm only trying to see the other side of the coin.
(Seun, I think you are to hasty in putting the entire blame on the husband)

My take on this issue:

Degrees measure a mixture of intelligence and seriuosness, but are not the sole determinant of anybodys future prospects.

1st Class: Very Serious and hardworking. May or may not be intelligent. Contrary to what people think, one of the hardest things to do in Naija is to 'runs' a 1st Class, especially from a federal University. It might be possible but the person also has to put in a lot of academic effort, and then maybe tie up a few loose ends. MOST 1st classers are for real and should be respected and not put down. But a minority are also fake.

2nd Class: Either hardworking with average intelligence or unserious but very intelligent. However; this degree can be 'runsed' so about 50 % are unmerited.

3rd Class: Average intelligence and very unserious or a hardworker with below average intelligence. No 'runsing' here

In other to verify those who merited their degrees most organisations have E N T R Y E X A M I N A T I O N S. If you feel you deserve your degree, take the exam and pass! If not blame yourself and then IMPROVE yourself and stop making stupid investigations into the nature of the degrees of others. How will that help you?

heres my own:

Me: for not giving a damn as long as I get paid
You: For the same reasons as above

the poiticians: For using the above reasons to their advantage

@ Kuwena

you do not know me but I followed your posts. Allow me to make a small comment here.
This thread you started was wonderful and I really think you are a wonderful person, however, adversity has shown you for what you truly are: A hypocrite. You said you have chosen money over God, but if you really do some soul searhing you will realise that you chose money over God a long time ago. By using such terms as 'by Gods grace' etc you thought you could get God to bless your search for money so that you could proove you were a man to your family. Now that your dreams have been shattered, you have shown who you truly serve.

This is what the devil said to God:
, stretch your hands and strike what he has and he will surely curse you to your face" Job 1:11

Kuwena, was the devil prophesying about you?

Job passed his tests, but you are in danger of failing yours. Here is Jobs secret:

The Lord gave and the Lord has taken away;
may the name of the Lord be PRAISED" Job 11:21

Kuwena, did you think that by going to church and praising God that He would be obliged to do what you want? Man, this is the creator of the Universe for crying out loud, you cannot make him do anything. He keeps his own council. Whether or not you arknowledge Him does nt reduce His worth, it only affects the morale of those of us who were following this thread and thanking God for you.

If you were a christian just because of blessings then you do not understand the meaning of Christianity. Christ said to his disciples: FOLLOW ME. Ask yourself was Christ a rich man? He had to perform a miracle just to pay tax!! Following Christ means suffering with him, a catholic should know that.

When Jeremiah was pitying himself and complaining this is what God told him:
If you have raced with men on foot and they have worn you out, how can you compete with horses? Jer 12:5

If Nigerian LNG has worn you out how can you succeed in another mans land?

Kuwena, I love you and it pains me to see you so. If you get the time, try and read the book of Job and learn how to deal with pain. I'm praying for you and hoping you bounce out of this. Thank you for sharing you inner struggles with us, it takes a man to do so. Sorry if my words seem harsh. The longing of christians is Heaven, and LNG is no where near heaven.


The Apostles left the Sanhedrin REJOICING because they had been counted WORTHY of SUFFERING disgrace for the NAME. Acts 6:41

How adultery go fit help your marriage?
When your wife finds out, try telling her that you did it in order to 'help' your marrage.
When you travel, she and houseboy fit 'help' una marriage, hope say you no go vex.

Now i'm hooked to nairaland!

Crazy post, thought it was meant to be a civilised (ie politically correct) way
Crazy replies. Thumbs up to sauce kid

Niaja peeps are not just the worlds happiest, but the world's funniest.
I've been laughing my way through this thread.
Guys, keep it up!

_{dashes out of the room, grateful to still be alive, and unpossessed}

my man, this is my advice to you:

Have no hand in the breakup of her relationship. Let it self-destuct on its own.
Just be her friend, and when the time is right, make ur move.

My man, if your lady is uncomfortable with the new kid on the block, respect her and add some distance. If you cant, then it is obvious that the relationship with the corper is not as platonic as we would like.
I wonder how evil this necessary evil is.

@ Emeka,

Word!

Personally, I support the senate. The people of Bakassi are Nigerians, and why should some old white men at the Hague tell us to abandon nur people and we agree as though we cannot think for ourselves. Do you think the Americans are stupid when they dont recognise the jurisdiction of the Hague?