@ poster very interesting topic i have lived abroad over ten years now,,,, am 24 now most guys here wen they are ready to marry they go home. i have tried asking why the reason are so lame that it makes me laugh sometimes.
- because i want the person that can understand my language
- there is always a differnce
- these girls here are wild ( they dont know there right from left)
- you can find a decent gal and so on and on and on
My findings have also made me to understand that those guys that go home and marry some chick that they hardly know, there marriages are always on the LEAP is either they are not happy or they still flirt and the compitition here between wives brought from nigeria is so high.( Cars, etc) so its a very serious issue.

@ topsy, i undersood wat he wrote BUT the FACT still remains that this dude is playing wit fire , ONE OF THE THINGS A MAN AINT SUPPOSED TO DO IS LEAD ON A CHICK YOU KNOW VERY WELL U DONT WANT. He is feelin so cool saying he has a thing FOR LIGHT SKIN CHICKS, he is ***** I wish am that chick will deal wit him seriously. Men like him make women like us think ALL men are the SAME.

@ poster i belive u have waisted her time, why are here asking us wat to do whilst u know the RIGHT THING TO DO, call her and tell her how u feel after 6 yrs, belive me PLAYA it wont be easy on you, u didnt just find out u wont marry her, why were u still keeping her thats wat pains me more in this situation do u think 6yrs is 6 days wt the hell were u thinkin . And you have the nerves to tell us u need help u dont need help,

@ crazykid i belive that you refren from calling any child born out of wedluck BASTARD because ur parents married and gave birth to you dont make you no BASTARD as long as the baby has a father he/she is NOT A BASTARD. Mind your language.

I think the fact here is that most people think single/divorced moms cant just be the right one, because of the stigma related to it, i think that in the society we live in most educated folks still live an uneducated life beacuse they are couped in there own SMALL PERFECT WORLD. My daughter loves and respects my fiance and thats the most imporatnt thing to me.

@ Secretz, yes its difficult but as time goes on it becomes a part of you, you tend to leave with it. My daughter is 9 now am 24 gettin married in months.
Its fun, its different, i think about her before every decision i make, she is the first in my life. But its not like wat most people think its is.

@ poster very interesting topic BUT i guess ONLY those in that shoes can really tell where it pinches. Am 24 i have a daughter i have encounterd alot in my little life meet people who say they would never date single moms, people that say why did you have to get preg out of wedluck. meet mother that told me his son lookin for a wife not a mom, i've seen a lot but i still BELEIVE it boils down to ORIENTATION most people come from a world that everything has to be WHITE people dont make mistakes in them while some come from A COLOURED world where they look at the 2 SIDES OF THE COIN.
That's why most single mom find it difficult in the society because of the STIGMA attached to been a divirced or a single single mom.

2 poster for me am buying the material for the dress the accesorries ( earings) and i pay for there hair. they pay for there shoes and sewing. I guess its easy.

@ poster its a pity that u entagled urself in this mess but point of correction all women are not the same , am gettin married in a months time and i have such temptations coming my way i dont indulge in them cause i know its distraction for me. Becareful of wat you doin girl dont expect positive answer ferom people cause u messed up BIG TIME.  One question for you
HOW WOULD YOU FEEL IF ITS YOUR FIANCE IN THIS MESS?

@ bawomolo, because i dont see the reason fighting or stressing myself over a guy that aint wort it. i will find out why he is doing it but if there is no reason will ignore him totally.

@ poster personally i will not confront him neither will i make him know that i have already found that, will continue to threat him nice . But will try finding out why he is cheating on me.

THINKING OF DIVORCING HER, serious, you want to divorce her beacause u cheated on her and marry the maid i guess. ANU MPAM

@ poster it ok, my mom had 4 girls before the boys so its fine,

@ poster
For every month make plans on wat u need ie write it down Monday to sunday for a whole month, if you are a christian package all your offering for the month too. ( also include extra expenses)
anything that is not included in ur list for the month u dont need it, you can move it to next month
it helped me alot.
try it,

@ how much is that in $ ?

@ poster eh disvirgin her, u no get shame self if na ur 16 yrs old junior sister guy won disvirgin u no go arrest am,

2 POSTER FOR MY DAD'S 50TH I ORDERED CAKE AND BAKED A BIG TURKEY AND INVITED SOME FAMILY FREINDS OVER, MY MOM'S 50TH I THROW HER A BIG BUFFER BASH AT HOTEL IT WAS LOVELY .
I SIGGEST YOU DO SOMETHING U CAN AFFORD.

@ POSTER WE ARGUE ABOUT MY TOO MANY SHOES AND CLOTHES, MY TOMMY AND ASS BECOMING TOO BIG FOR HIS LIKING, WE GETTIN MARRIED SOON SO AM WORKING ON THE TOMMY THING,

2 POSTER YES SOME ARE GOOD NOT ALL SOME ARE JST BASELESS NO HEAD NO TAIL, SOMETIMES YOU WONDER HOW THEY MANAGE TO PULL THOSE MOVIES OUT CAUSE TRULY SOME ARE RIDICULOUS,

@ poster the dude saw me walkin out of the supermarket and he walked up to and he said " i wanna get into your skirt" am like that cool i wanna see wats in your jeans too. he laughed, now u know the rest,

@ poster i just saw RELOADED heard alot about it , it too over-rated, especially the part that Desmond lost his job and meet the chick he was flirting with at his house, and Ini Edo asked the chick if she knew him, ( men its the same chick she almost fought at the resturant) conversation was so long and unnecessary,

@ poster definetly Angie jolie and beyonce, too overrated

@ poster. i hate the fact that right now in a matter of weeks my fiance has to be giving a LONG LIST that i have no idea where thats coming from, its driving me crazy,

@ poster i could bet she is not cheating, she is very fond of the guy which is not really good cause you are engaged to be married it will shift her attention to the guy,,, just play your card very well YOU are the MAN here so sit up and protect wats urs before its late.

@ poster, take a measureing tape and record the measurment the next time u do it, then when next you meet use the measuring tape and check it again. JUST KIDDING
Your mind is just playing funny games on you and if you cant TRUST her let her go. stop killing yourself. TRUST AND BELIVE IN HER.

@ poster i have been out of Nigeria for 13 years with my parents and my younger ones but we still speak ibo, my daughter even speaks ibo so its just a matter of FAMILY most parents teach there kids English forgeting the mother tongue.
So i sugggest it not something someone should be proud of that you are igbo and cant speak it. How many Americans cant speak American english, ? To me its just a MIND-SET THING

@ poster am dark skinned but am Igbo, i guess some igbo men like light skinned women and they force the insecured ones to light there skin.

@ toppiano true talk, for me it wasn't like expected it, most people over exaggerate it.

@ OMOIBO, wat do u mean if i remember very well i can see u MALE not female, all the posts are from mothers not those who dont know anything about child-birt. i dont think there is anyone who has contributed that has not had a baby, but so be the case they dont know then.
 Personally 2000 when i had my first baby most of my female freinds ask me how it was TO ME its an experience that i CANT explain. caue at the moment i felt differnt things at the same time. NO ONE IS A KID HERE.
  So mind your post,

@ poster, honestly yes it is painful but another way its an experience that most women cant be able to explain cause at that moment all you want is deliver the baby so i cant really say. but after the pain subsides. Another thing is most women are LAZY( they dont do any form exercise during pregnancy) and when they get to the labour room it seems like the whole world is coming to an end. My dear pain is part of life so dont be sacred to get pregnant its a good thing.
Also when u get preg. try to be having more sex, it helps. peace