"If not that God showed her to me"... When a simp opens his mouth.

The fact that you even wanted to snap birthday pictures as if its your birthday is enough reason to beat nonsense comot for your head.
The signs have been there, you only choose to make excuses for her. You are just a sponsor.
I'm sure this malo will write an epistle for her on her birthday.

I did worse sha but learned valuable lessons

Hehe such a manipulative woman

There's a guy that lived with my uncle for 5 years until last week. He's very honest and hardworking guy but he's not rated that much in the house. My uncle is a very successful entrepreneur. He own schools and other businesses. My uncle's wife has a shop and this guy is in charge of it. Being at a very strategic position, it sells a lot at least for the size of the shop. He makes like 500k to 600k sales monthly from the shop but through all these honesty and hard work I haven't seen any reasonable move to help this guy, its like the food and accommodation he gets for free is enough. So last year march, I advised this guy to start looking out for himself and start saving at least 10k for himself monthly cos nobody knows when he will exhaust his usefulness and have to leave, these people are rich in millions. I in fact snitched on my aunty for this guy cos I heard some discussions that suggested he's not rated at all. This guy went and told my auntie everything, that I'm encouraging him to steal from them. Gosh this generated so much heat to a point that I had to leave, they didn't ask me to leave but I felt it's time to leave. Fast forward to last week, this guy called me that my uncle and his wife asked him to go back to his village and start his life (mind you that guy is just a very distant relative) and all they gave him was 15k for transport. He was almost crying and even had the guts to want to bad mouth these people with me, I felt enraged not with my uncle but the guy but I didn't say much. These are the people you sold me out to and now you want to play victim with me.. All the same I still feel bad for him

Rolly22:


Exactly and he can even kill with this type of Jealousy,why calling girl’s of 18 and 19 minors??

Jealousy? This society is broken.. Seems like most of y'all can even sleep with 16/17 y/o if they open legs.
Jealousy? This word is very funny

Belafonte:


Sorry to say but you're simply a jealous asss mufucka

Does he trouble you over your poor taste in women? Werey. GTFOH

Jealous? Your thought process must be very messed up for you to think like this. 18y/o I can easily fvck if I want to?
You know there are two types of men that sees fun in this:
1. The very stingy ones who can't date their mates for fear of responsibilities and
2. The ones that are too bad in bed so they choose girls they're two times older than. These ones only feel pains and nothing else.

Kobojunkie:
I mean distancing yourself from the guy is the commonsense thing to do here, is it not?

As a teacher, wouldn't it seem the most intelligent thing for you to do since you have a reputation to uphold?

It's okay I have heard you

posty56:
if yare Disturbed then distance yourself from the guy since both of you moral ethics doesn't align, simple and short or else stop complaining

Okay just distance myself and act like nothing wrong is going on right?

Kobojunkie:
If you feel this shame and remorse you speak of, why is he still your friend?

Or are you here to tattle because you never reach to sleep with some of the small girls? The gals never dey look your way yet?

Lol such a funny question. I can't even imagine myself carrying small girls around. For my self esteem and the fact that I can't be dragging over sex with a little girl.
Secondly, I can't be sleeping with students I'm teaching.. Like how will I stand before them in the class? I have a grown woman that befits my age

I'm 31 and my friend is 34 years. Lately we've been having some issues over the above topic.
I don't know why but he takes so much pleasure in sleeping with girls he's far older than. Like 18, 19 years old girls (very tender girls).

Anytime I complain about this, it becomes an issue. He even think I'm jealous of him, in fact he told me today to stop been jealous but frankly I feel very embarrassed anytime he brings such girls to our gathering.

We are new in this area but people have already taken notice of this and its even rubbing off on me now.

The funny thing is he doesn't even feel any shame or remorse about this.

Hello guys, something happened some days back in my area and it has become a topic for debate this.
A guy claimed he sent a lady 1500 to visit him and the lady didn't show up so he uploaded the lady's pictures, phone numbers and social media profiles on Facebook to shame her and even threatened to sue her.
Today the lady has instituted a court case against the guy for defamation. According to the lady, she offered to refund the money when she couldn't make it but the guy refused. She has already pressed charges and uploaded the summons on Facebook.
For the sake of better argument, I would love to know from those who have better knowledge of the law than me, IS THERE ANY CRIMINAL CASE HERE? IS THE LADY RIGHT TO SUE? WHAT DOES THE LAW SAY ABOUT THIS?

It's Career not carrier. I guess you didn't notice that.
Nothing is more depressing than been stuck with a job you don't like. In this case the 100k job is even worse as it offers no career prospect. At the same time, you mustn't have a perfect career at your first attempt. You need the money now more than the career growth and prospect BS. Na pesin wey chop belleful dey enhance career.

Secondly you sound very rigid about engineering, be flexible enough to understand that your best life may not even come from engineering. Be open to many things but not as many as to get you confused. Na money we dey find no be career

Good day Nairalanders, I'm a 400L student of Benue State University, I'm on the verge of loosing my last semester result in 300L level cos I didn't register for a single course. I couldn't afford my school fees to gain access to the portal so I had to forge my exam card to sit for the exams hoping that that I will run around and raise some money during holidays before they start processing results. As it is now, they're processing our results yet I still don't have any immediate means of raising the fee. I'm humbly coming to my nairaland family, pls help a brother out, I know how hard things are out there for everybody but I really don't have a choice now. I can't afford a spill over cos the weight is already heavy on me. Please help a brother in need.
I have attached a screenshot of my pay reference and my Matric number (BSU/ED/TEC/17/44345) for confirmation. (portal.bsum.edu.ng is my school portal). Below is also my account details if anybody wishes to assist me. I will appreciate every little support. Thank you in advance
3106793843
IORYANGE OLIVER ORDUEN
FIRST BANK
NB: Last session was 2019/2020 due to covid and ASUU. We are a session behind.

This man. I'm strongly suspecting him


All of a sudden he became famous for some controversial reasons after his mom's burial [There's nothing that poverty cannot make you do or reason]

What still keep that girl around you is that phone she's waiting for, keep your money and discard her, she doesn't worth it [Too much sense in few words]

We're not lucky with leaders but I think this man right here is the worst thing that has ever happened to Benue State.. Man is just busy buying land and accumulating personal wealth

Thanks brother

Rickmann:



Lesson well learnt bro..
I'm still healing from mine as well.

The truth is , most girls aren't worth it and the hurtful part is that they will still have the nerve to say ' all guys are the same'

Sometimes, this love is overrated..it only takes out all ur energy and leaves you exhausted in the end but I know better now and I'm stronger.

I don't feel embarrassed in any way.. Unlike you I'm not scared to show my weakness. It happened and I learnt.

Lordbinsmar:


You are the one embarrassing yourself here, poor academic performance because of vagina Pipu. I cry for you

Beautiful beautiful words there. Thank you

zed7:
You're growing into a man. You have learnt valuable life lessons, I congratulate you.
Don't bother going back, it will still end up crashing. You will both end up unhappy because it will be a forced relationship. Keep the beautiful memories you have with her before it becomes overtaken with bad ones.

Bro the truth is, most times I feel like I needed that hurt, it has opened my eyes to a lot of things even the ones I thought I couldn't handle. Crazy how pains help you refocus. I pray you heal soonest

Rickmann:



Lesson well learnt bro..
I'm still healing from mine as well.

The truth is , most girls aren't worth it and the hurtful part is that they will still have the nerve to say ' all guys are the same'

Sometimes, this love is overrated..it only takes out all ur energy and leaves you exhausted in the end but I know better now and I'm stronger.

I can't agree less with this. You've spoken well brother. You know I really don't get where this lady gets the audacity to even act funny when she see me with another lady.... This same lady wants me to be seen with her by the people she heavily disrespected me before... Sometimes I just wonder how stupid I will look like before these guys... God No

Expresswriter:
When a relationship starts on a high note of excitement or when a relationship begins way too fast with both partners always being in each other's world all the time

Chances are that it won't last.

I commend you for not accepting her back.

Never, ever accept a woman who dumped you for another guy.

She's not coming back because she has realised her mistake but because you're a supply to her-- a supply that gives her attention.

Narcissists are fond of displaying this type of trait.

They use people and dump them.

When the people they dump heal and start doing great again, the narcissist will try coming back.

Never accept such people back into your life.

Ignore them.

Ignore her.

Never allow memories of the good times you had with her becloud your reasoning into accepting her.

Those were faked acts.

Narcissist are good at mirroring.

They study you quickly and know so much about you in a short time then they begin to do, say, act the way you'd want them to.

Avoid them. They're actors with an evil heart.

I wasn't into that either bro, she just got me used to it, like we can't just wake and continue with our lives like, we must check on each other

Pilate2016:
Calling someone every morning and even four times a day? Nawao.
Truly I can't be in a relationship.
I can never do all these rubbish in the name of love.

Yes I have. Thanks

Nonexisting1:
I hope you have taken redpill because if not, a second heartbreak is coming your way sooner than you think. True love doesn't exist in the hearts of women, get that into your skull. A woman will love you for a reason and when that reason is no longer there or when she sees someone with better offer on that, she will head for the door. Wise up and love only your mother and sisters.

Bro sometimes try to read before embarrassing yourself, I can't remember saying I scored zero

Lordbinsmar:
SIMPle guy detected.

Kuku talk say you no sabi BOOk.

How ordinary girl go dey make you score zero for book. Oloodo rabata.

Naa your parents I pity for giving birth to a SIMP. You dey waste your parents money dey call vagina Pipu four times in a day.

1billi:
Ogbeni shut up and focus your thinking for money, ordinary chewgum relationship you don dey give advice like divorced married man.ozwor

I met this lady in our 200L (2019) and we started dating.. We were both good and at least 80% faithful to each other. I found this mad vibe in her that I have never had before. We could chat for a whole night without getting bored.. We never ran out of jokes for once, she knew what I love and what I hate, she can tell when I'm about to get angry and I knew that much about her too, I can tell when she's about to tell a lie, when she's feeling insecure, we were best of friends then, she can hit me up with a call and discuss silly things just to laugh. My whole squad knew her and actually loved her.. She was the toast of all my friends cos she can come around and boom the whole place becomes lively..
But I started noticing some changes in this lady late last year around July, I started complaining, she always promise to change but was only getting worse everyday, she started ignoring my calls and msgs, chats became more of arguments than the usual jokes and laughing emojis, babe started disrespecting me heavily. We had a ritual of calling each other every morning and I actually got used to it, she stopped doing this and even when I call she will sound so disinterested, we went from calling each like 4 times a day to not hearing from each other for a whole day to weeks. Mehnn I was hurting badly, found out she was now dating a new guy, was broken tbh, I tried everything I possibly could to salvage the relationship but the more I tried, the worse it got and more hurt I was becoming, I begged, did lots of funny things to get my woman back, at this point I was slowly dying inside, my studies was greatly affected, my productivity dropped, was no longer going to the library, was eating less.
To a point I realized I was chasing a lost cause and turned my attention to forgetting her and moving on yet it wasn't easy, there were days I will kneel down and pray to God to heal me and help me forget about this lady.. I knew it will take some time but the pain eventually subsided after it finish teaching me the intended lessons and left but the lessons I learnt from this experience are invaluable. The funny thing is this same lady for a while now is trying to come back to me, she gets mad seeing me with another lady, this same lady knows she can't get half the energy she used to get from me yet is willing to come back, I still care about her and wish I can still love her the same way I used to but I just can't,
seeing her reminds me of the pains, heartache and disrespect. I wish she never broke me this bad

LESSONS LEARNT
1.Never trust people 100%, always leave room for disappointment cos someone you love and trust so much can also ruin your life forever.
2. Never overlook a red flag in your relationship, always discuss it out before it develops
3. Never ever take your mental health for granted in any relationship
4. Know when to leave before you start looking stupid.
5. Pray whatever they're hiding from you isn't enough to kill you

[quote author=Demigod22 post=104438517]I started dating one small girl like that since February, she said no sex, then last month I realized I enjoy my own company than be in a relationship without sex. So she was playing with my beard, I warned her but she was still doing it. I got angry and sent her away, she broke up with me that night and I was genuinely happy.

My only problem now is my ex that said we can have sex but she doesn't want kissing because it reminds her of how she was abused, I can't have sex without kissing.[ Bros babe wants you to know you have bad breath]

Oh you mean him being a Catholic, he's not a born again and saved yet?. Young lady I think your problem is with the church he attends not his lukewarm behavior when it comes to spirituality or whatever

Oga this is something you should have tackled during courtship not now.
Some ladies sef, no man is supposed to have her attention more than you

Hot nyash? Another one

Seems like you are speaking for me bro. Have similar situation at hand. Sometimes I wonder how she's easily happy without me but I can't do same

Seeing this makes me wonder who do Benue like this