^^^jazz ke? for which place.lol. it was a friends mum oh, they came visiting, they were saying the soft part of the head was wide and she was saying thats what she uses for her babies oh, cant imagine..

@all, I gave a litle milo to my son so I can start trying as he is almost a year but the next day the pooing frequency increased and a nurse said that there are beverages for toddlers, didnt get a name though. Pls how true is this? as anyone heard of such?....Inquiring mind wants to know!

^^^ no be lie! same village oh!!! lol@ 7for girls 9for boys.lol. The massaging is very important for me! Mum do say because they'v not learnt hw to turn conveniently, they tend to hav body aches from sleeping long on a position and also additional fat can make the nerves tight so U loosen it by massaging and give room for easy expansion and added fat. Sometime if my boy becomes over active and refuses to sleep early, even till 12midnit, I'll just grab him and give him a relaxing massage and everybody can sleep in peace. aba!.. but I do the thing the way am comfortable with oh.lol....thinking of it now makes me laugh!

Kudos to elderly mum!(tho thier theories can irritate me oh...imagine one talking of using grinded tortoise shell for babies head. WHAT?!!!wer U go see am? U want the baby head to resemble tortoise? )

^^^ thanks! Heard that word for the first time when I went to the south south(of Nig) , I think they use it more there...dont know. It sure taste good.

Warfibabe: hello mum.. I know some peeps think it is not necessary but have you tried massaging his navel with hot water?(Not burning hot o!) My older son was that way until my mum pointed out that their navels takes time to close up and heal after the cord has fallen off, that I was suppose to massage and use the baby mentholata till three months. I did that to my son and the whole crying, wriggling, grunting everything stopped. With my newborn I am still doing it and it is working fine for me.
It is well with us o!

Very true! Truthfully I forgot this, maybe as I am not used to the colic word. Yes, I'v always known navel disturbs babies real good! My mum also emphasised the use of mentholetum, I remember refusing initially bc Pead said not apply anytin. I couldnt help it once when I couldnt figure out the cause of my boy's continous crying(and stretching pushing up his tummy)and as soon as I applied it the crying stopped and he slept. I did consistently till 5months oh(if not more self)

Wafibabe, do U know the amusing thing? mum said while applying the mentholetum, they normally put a finger around the.navel and apply in anti-clockwise direction for boys and clockwise for girls wetin concern me wit direction....elderly people's ideas can be very funny .

uzoo:



The meal looks yummy. As much as i enjoy eating fish i don't like eating the head,but i really cant throw it away so i give it to whoever is interested in eating bones in the house.

I dont even bother bringing the head home, for kroaker and titus they cut off the scull part from the market but the head of the cat fish is spared oh! lol.

beauty?:
Rice, gravy and fish head, mhennnnnnnnnnn, i love fish head.

3 layers Cake (vanilla, cashewnut and pineapple)

Beauty, give me the cake!...thanks in anticipation Hey can I ask where you'r from 'cause of the word "gravy".

krystal101: Join me! I jes made this for oga to enjoy when he gets back from work.

I like the color! Enjoy!

^^^ Congratulations on your baby boy! Am so happy for you! Am sorry I dnt know any remedy for your situation hoping other mothers help or you may wnt to read previous posts.

Just to say a big congrats sis!

@op was she doing this befor, befor she got preg? preg women tend to feel they are out of shape and their spouse may not see them attractive. If this is the case, she will feel more insecure now than before. If U can, limit Ur visit now, invite your son over instead or go with her always, as someone has emphasied. Spend more time with her and she will feel prefered. In your discusion about your son, AVOID frequent mention of his mother...Draw the line.

You can also gradually make her feel its her first son..."when have you decided we go and see our son"...hard but possible, that way she may feel involved... She decided to marry you, she automatically "adopt" your son...
All the best.

tjskii: As per stopping breastfeeding,do it gradually so that it won't be so painful,u can start by breastfeeding only at nite for a couple of days,this wil reduce d flow of milk,afterwards stop breastfeeding completely,this way is better than using drugs,and wen u stop try not to use a hot cloth to massage d breast oo

Thanks. I need this too. For the past 1month I'v been breastfeeding not more than twice in 24hrs. Hoping that stopn wont be painful oh...

nimzy13: Mommies in the house, please I need urgent response. My 11weeks old baby has refused to suckle on a feeding bottle and I will be resuming work on the 16th of this month, have tried various method even tried different feeding bottle teat yet he won't suckle on it. Am seriously scared cuz I intend taking him to a creche next week, and I don't know how he will be fed. So confused on what to do.

Sorry for the stress and pressure. my son also refused bottle initially but wit patience and perseverance I succeeded. Initially I didnt push it and was using spoon(as doctors advise now), but it wasnt fun at all then I tried bottle again. I'll alow him get a litle very hungry and I wont put him to breast but will use the bottle and leave it in his mouth even if he doest suck. After a while he will suck jst small. I reduced putting him on breast for while instead I expressd and giv him mysef or my mum does so he knws he had no option. Now he takes it very well and is still using bottle.

Heard not all children accept it but I pray yours do soon.

afrobaby: Hello mummies, my daughter will soon be 1 year old and intend stopping breastfeeding soon, what is the best way to stop, naturally or with drugs, I read that those drugs used for drying up milk can cause cancer in the future, any one with a different view, I heard stopping naturally is usually very painful too

We are in d same shoes. Stoping by month end and dont realy know what twil be like but I'v decided to just stop and use nothing! I gues it wont be more painful than when I use to have very full breast with milk or more painful than labour contractions?lol. Keeping fingers crossed til then...

Wendy80:
Take alot of Kunu(neatly prepared oh)..U will add weight......funny enuf I'm trying 2shed weight........

No be lie! It should make her add. I had to learn to take kunu bc of breastmilk, but bc of it's tendency of making one add weight, I see it as 'poison' now!

Bawss1:

Stellasmeza that cake is to die for!

You csn SHOUT that again.

Stellasmeza great job! You have a query oh! You didnt just make the cake, you went ahead to snap the whole process of eating it, leaving us with the imagination and a wet mouth!

Wendy80: Somthn happened I̶̲̥̅̊n my estate last night, a lady lost her 3weeks old baby. The baby has bn stooling for 3days and instead of seeking medical help,the lady prefered 2call mothers with newborn 2ask what 2give 2her child. A Moda asked 2giv Jelosi and flagyl or somthn like that sha. 2days after the baby was stl down n very pale dats whn she decided 2go 2 †ЂΞ hospital. Long story cut short, the child died. The cause of stooling was discovered to be Jaundice.
Lesson 2be learnt here is wha is wrong with ur child might not be same wth anoda child even if dey exhibit same symptom.we are all here 4 one anoda but pls let's try as much as possible not 2giv drug prescription.
The Moda whu Prescribed jelosi n flagyl is feelin so bad now but she said dats wht she gives 2her kids.

Wow! wow!! wow!!! Wendy you dont say!
I realy feel for her oh. You have a point there oh! Even though my baby's pead makes jest of our(hubby and I) coming too often, I dont mind oh! I just laugh and tell her that thats why they are there and afterall she is not doing it for free. She even laughed one night when we went at 2am bc of cough.lol. funny now but I gues they will still say why didnt U come earlier God forbid.

I have said on this thread befor that I dnt think we are Doctors or medical personel just mothers with some form of experience, and even if we are, we cant well examine your child online, so that should be put into real consideration...

May God console her and give her double for her trouble.

Tinkybabe: I'm more interested in the unique arrangement of the pencils. .How was it done?

Exactly! this crossed my mind and I made up my mind to give it a try practically...realy anticipating d process.

Jade William:
Havin dat teachin experience cud help u in future&u said ur kids wil b attendin day care there too so dat's lik killin 2birds wit a stone.My cousin got a teachin job in a private sch;was bn paid 35k mthly but d workload was so much.Sh resigned&started creche in her house;collectin 15k per mth for each child(7am-1pm.If u'r child wil b stayin beyond 1pm,extra money wil b charged)&sh's makin it big&spendin nothin cos d mothers bring their children's food.Now,sh has gotten a place sh wants 2start nursery sch.This's within 1yr

My Dear, that creche thing is money oh, more still if you'r on your property. I sat one day to do the calculation mysef. In my baby's creche its a nanny to 4babies or 5toddler, imagine. Here they colect 10k per child so its 50k for 5toddler and dey wont pay the nanny more than 20-30k per mnth. Altogether they have about 15-20kids, making about 60-100k per month depending. Hey, dont forget we buy 'supply' monthly oh!...2toilet soaps, dettol, detergent and toilet rolls. Some creche even pay as high as 35-40k per month here!

We want to work/pursue our careers and we have to give birth so somtims we cant help but patroniz day care centers.

tjskii: Though someone just told me they don't giv kids in nigeria mmr and chickenpox,ow true is this o,so I can kno if I shud continue panicking

Sometimes I wonder how this kind of info spread. Does it mean that the person have not heard about or seen someone with chickn pox in Nigeria? Baffles me even though I cant deny the fact that such news exist. Hope you get a hospital convinient for you. Take care of baby oh!

ify's world:
My dear Itsmelex, by 'modern day slavery' i mean working 4 peanut. Tanx 4 ur ideas. I've not tried any buisness before, de reason am being sckepical. I think i'll do as u suggested by taking up de teaching job while i nurse my buisness. And also have my children in de sch daycare. Tanx, u are de best. U beta start thinking of becoming a consultant.

You'r welcome sis. laugh @consultant.lol. My career is very far from that oh but all my sis keep saying I studied psycology,passing with a first class.lol, not true at all. Best of luck!

ify's world:
hi all, kudos to u all. My love to ur Lo and Dh. I need ur advice. I was a banker till i gave birth last yr to my twin boys, motherhood forced to resign...mmhh i no easy. Fast forward to now, am searching for job, but since am based in onitsha my chances are limited. De only available job is teaching and de pay is too poor b/w 17-20k. So should i take up dis modern day slavery for de sake of having time for my kids or should i start a buisness of my own? Mind u, i need child friendly answers. My first daughter is only 2yrs 4mths. Cioa

Wow! realy tight but solvable. By 'modern day slavery' do U mean doing nothing or the teaching? I would say the pay is very poor for the teaching knwing you may be considering paying a nanny or day care center. Hav you tried business befor and are you confident in laying your hands on it? Business can be more flexibl than teaching. Another question is; do you think starting the biz would yield more than 20k monthly now?

You may start the teaching for a few months(am thinking they close by 2-4) while trying your hands on a business to be sure of what to venture in. When certain and steady, you could stabilize in it, quit teaching and may get someone trustworthy to be there in the evenings or anytime when you go attend to home and kids. I hear they say business is a risk.

Good luck in whatever you decide. Big hug to you kids!

Warfibabe: Hi all!.. I just stumbled on this thread, and will like to join you guys. I am a mum of two kids (boys) age 19 months and 2 months. Being a mum is a very wonderful experience though sometimes you just want to ram your head through the nearest wall. It would be nice to learn from other mummy's here especially those with children under 2 years how they are able handle their home front, and would also love to contribute in any way I can.
Thanks.

True! Welcome. Warm regards to your boys!

omogemi: @$wtme n @Jade Williams, pls mothers at what age is d chicken pox vaccine take as well as d MMR vaccine? Is it too late for my baby at 10 mnths?

My baby jst clockd 11mnths and has not takn the chickn pox vaccine. Seeing your post I had to bring out his vaccine card to comfirm and this is what my hospital's schedule is like (startd frm birth so others can comfirm)

AT BIRTH:
Hep B
Oral polio(OPV)
BCG

6 WEEKS:
OPV
Penta1
Rota Virus
Pneumococal(PCV)

10 WEEKS:
OPV
Penta 2
Rota Virus
PCV

14 WEEKS:
OPV
Penta 3
PCV

6 MONTHS:
Vit A

9 MONTHS:
Measles
Yellow fever

12-15 MONTHS:
MMR
Chicken pox + VitA

18 MONTHS:
OPV(Booster)

FROM 2YRS:
Typhoid fever
Meningitis(CSM)

Again, this is what my hospital gives. You may still want to find out frm a practitioner. Not all hopitals, health centers give all d listed vaccines.

(14+4)*3=54

***modified***

from the clearer pics posted, its obviously 72(18*4)

Hummingbird: ello mummies..ao u all doing? Av not been feeling fine,av barely closed my eyes in d last 72hrs,my BP has risen up(160/90) and am so restless,pain all over joint, I feel so terrible   av bin placed on drugs n uncountable injections,bt everytin seems nt to b working,bin placed on labelatol(300g twice daily) bt no improvement yet,am even afraid to breastfeed my babies cos my aunt said dey might start running temp since I av fever too,ao true is dis?hs anyone bin in my shoes before?wat oda tins can I do? N please pray for me..thnk u

Wow! Beloved, I feel your pain, we realy do! So sory about what you'r experiencing. My prayer is that you get well soon. Pls as much as U can worry less ok? It will be difficult to take Ur mind off thnkn abt hw ur babies are faring, wishing U can be there for them at every call, but in showing concern dont be anxious. Avoid getting your emotions to the extreems....too exited or too angry! Have you been able to get help? Its not easy for us with single babies so I can imagin wat it must be like for U.

I dont knw abt the fever aspect oh, mayb U ask your Doc. I did EBF for six mnths, even witout water. Doc said I can stil brestfeed evn wen I hav high fever and was on antibiotics. The docs can tell beter.

You can listen to cool music to help you relax and get your mind off things.
My husband use to say 'must you do all today? cant some be left for later?'lol. Pls leav those chores, items that could be left and take som 15mins nap wen U get a chance.
Thirdly, I can excus myself from a visitor after few mins to rest, I dont care!!! expecially if its one that has come for no positv reason, and at a tim wen I could get rest!


Dearie, you'r always in my prayers!

limsycutey: Hi everyone, I have a question, it's about my niece, she's 11 weeks old, on a normal day, she poops like once or twice, but for the past five days she has been in pooping about 7 or 8 times everyday, my sister has been giving her oralyte(sp?) to keep her from getting dehydrated,but she's getting worried cos its going on for too long. I don't know whether this has anything to do with it but it started the day she went for her last immunization,

5days is quit much. Hope the baby isnt weak? stooling can sap one's strenght! I'v heard some immunizatn for sine babies can cause reactns lik rashes but not heard of stooling. When my baby reactd to a food once, he poopd upto 6tims and the nxt day doctor prescribd ors and Zinc(10mg). He barely took d ors but I disolvd d zinc in water nd he tuk it, d stooling stoped.

You can take her to see d pead or google about the zinc for babies to know more. So sory, pray she gets beter pretty soon.

Wendy80: I'm surpriz 2hear pple say Nan causess constipation, I've bn giving it 2my daughter from 2months and neva experienced that.........what I knw is once u have started giving ur baby anythn apart from Breast Milk, U must give †ЂΞ baby water.

Wendy, babies reactions to food/milk are very different. Even if most ppl accept a brand, there may be at least a baby that may reject and react to it.
At 6mnths I startd my baby on sma, he didnt like it. I stopd and tried afain at 8mnths and no sucex. I even tried one lactogen my mum said she used in those days, no sucex but with NAN2, from 9mnths+, I can breastfeed once or twice a day...he so love it, no constipation or what have you. That's for me and you and may not be for another.

Jade William:

Walai,wen I was takin kunu 4breastmilk 2flow vry well,my tommy was big.Inshort I added weight&there was strtchmark on my bum&lap.I had body image&self esteem issues.I didn't consult my doc but I started takin lime+lemon&grape.My baby wud suck,hav tommy pain&stool immediately&her stool was greenish or one kin colour,atyms mixed wit slight blood as if d stoolin bruised her anus wit one kind of smell.I thought it was infection.Her paed asked if I was dietin or on al these herbal weight trimmin tea,cos sh said those ar d thngs dat cud cause it&dat her lab was clear,no sign of infection.Ofcourse I said no' so sh said it shld b somthng I was takin dat sh's reactin to or makin d BM acidic.I don't knw d r/shp though but sh said if u read d labels on those weight trimmin drugs,it says do not tak if u'r lactatin so I gues It shld b d same wit takin lime too.As long as u'r breastfeedin,u'l b addin weight til u stop.So I dropped al those s**t.Vry bitter 2tak.I just lost weight on my own&d stretch marks disappeared except d little ones on my lap whch I'm usin ori&glycerine oil on wit tremendous improvement.

My sis! You were not the only one oh! Kunu worked well for me but I observed it made me add weight. I stoped it oh! Still breastfeeding slightly but have worked and still working on my weight. I vowed never to take it again oh not even if I have twins or triplet!!lol

corrall:

Congrats darling.

On the skin thing, i think you should use coconut oil. Natural coconut o, made at home. that is what i use for my baby and her skin is glowing everyday.

I second this! I make mine personaly and mix with his cream and his skin is ever glowing!! I think it also prevent spots, rashes and some other skin infections 'cause they hardly appear on his skin only once when he ate a 'fake' cereal.

Oh My God!!!
This is realy coming out great! Lovely!

Yes indeed the window 'canoe' did magic!
Great job oga spider!

missmishel: pls mothers in the house. where can i buy breast pump in abuja or lagos? which is the best one to buy and how much does it cost?

I realy dont know tge best but I got AVENT manual pump from garki hospital at 8500, and it worked well for me. I also got that same type for my friend at SAHAD supermaket(abuja) at same price.

Any good store/supermarket should have the brand you settle for.

omogemi:

forget medical literature, this is reality. dont u know some children bring out boils when teething? @ least i ve seen that b4. its different for each baby to my own understanding.

No wonder!!! When my baby was bringn out his upper teeth, he had boil first on his back, then on his arm and later on his tigh. They were coming one after the other and I guesd it was bc of the teeth, I didnt go to the hospital oh cause he had takin much antibiotics since his birth so I gav him saint leaf water (dnt know how I got the boldness to do that!!!lol), and he was fine in two daz, dnt knw whether its the saint leaf or the emergance of the teeth.lol. Hmmmm, God help us!

nikkygal: I've been following this thread and finally decided to join in. . . . .I made this Seafood Efo riro (Vegetable soup) over the sallah break. . . Essentially made up of Crabs,snails, crayfish & shrimps. . .

Enjoy

warning: ogugua doesnt like snail!! dnt knw why ooo.lol

nikky I LOVE sea foods! d best for me and nutrious too.....but wait oh, why U put the crab hands na? they look like they are still alive and can pick a fight with me if I try to eat the food! **frowns***

Hey! that doesnt stop me from having a taste oh! am d judge you know.lol


@Ogus, my eye don full for all this Ur food. I dont need tasting to judge 'cause U'r already certified!.... I just need my full share!lol

Good Job Oga spyda! Wow! Do you know you'r creating jobs for people in your own way?(more than some ministers.lol) Weldone sir!!!...Yeah, I'm a female but I got real interest in these things as dad had always carried me along and now I'm my husband's culsultant.lol

Wish you smooth progress in this project aswell!

veronix: Hi everyone, i just put to bed 12 days ago. My baby and i are fyn, but i had a CS and nobody around to help me with the baby except my husband. What i want to know is that will there be any problem with my health if i don't use hot water as required.
Secondly, what is the work of shea butter for newborn babies.
Thirdly, what can i do for my tummy 2 go down quickly.
Thanks.

Congrats Dearie, the Lord is your strenght oh. I also had CS and was told no need for the sitting on hot water and those stuff but I had warm bath and warm drink for 12weeks!(so I was told to do) and my hospital physioteraphist said tummy exercise should be until after 12weeks(dnt if other physio would sugest earlier)
WENDY is very right tying of the tummy isnt adviced, bossom feeding helps too.

Pls take things cool and dont push yourself so U dnt feel pains at night when you lay down to rest.

You can also use this product...C-panty.
www.briefessentials.com/view_product.php?iid=2&catId=37&pdId=1512

Got one for my sis and it was great, they didnt have it when I needed it so I went for a girdle. Bought goods twice from them and was delivered to me in abuja(my mind was up initially oooo.lol)