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meggy 11:

Very interesting guys.pls continue to entertain us.
@Jaiyne, i must give it to u i have learnt some things from you and as you know, no knowledge learnt is wasted so thank you.
@Datope, we are actually not writing GCE or WAEC but we learn everyday so don't get upset, afterall english is a borrowed language.
You guys should keep it coming and on a lighter note,Jaiyne,pls feel free to correct my mistakes i really wanna learn!!!

Thanks meggy 11 for understaning where I'm coming from regarding the English. And you're right - 'no knowledge learnt is wasted'! By the way, your English looks fine to me!

Glad to have contributed to your entertainment!

Since this is the last time I will be responding to your messages apart from correcting your English, let me take each point one by one.

Stella: To use your ‘Pull Her Down Syndrome’ (this recurs often in your messages), the way I see it, going back to my original topic, your precious Stella is the one that’s guilty of this syndrome. She deliberately gave the world a false and negative impression about Jaiye’s family (and as a reminder, that’s the family I’m close to, not Stella’s) because she wanted to play up the ‘widow’ thing to gain sympathy and attention for herself. She would have gotten that anyway but she decided to pull that family down to paint a picture of the beautiful young widow with the evil in-laws, rising above all challenges and doing it all on her own. Till today, the Aboderins still get undeserved insults because of this. She’s beautiful, talented and she’s a wonderful actress (on and OFF screen) which is why people believed her. But she’s no angel. That’s the bitter truth and nothing can change it.

Our discussions: Clearly we are not on the same level intellectually so I can’t continue this discussion with you – it’s not challenging or stimulating for me. In other words, I’m done with you, Datope as far as this topic is concerned. When I feel like it, I will correct your English when you address me so that you will continue to improve.

In conclusion, I advise you (seriously) to do the following:

1. Work on your English (and French if you want to use that, but I suggest you master English first) Oh, and by the way, it’s ‘repondez s’il vous plait’ and not ‘reprendre sil vous plea’ so if you are trying to impress with another language, you need to get it right.

2. Develop yourself intellectual y – read books, newspapers etc so that you will learn to present your arguments clearly without resorting to insults. You will notice that (unlike you) I haven’t used words like ‘stupid’, ‘ignorant’, ‘devilish’ ‘full of strives’ (whatever that means), ‘jealous’, ‘ envious’, ‘bitter’, ‘sucker’, ‘failure’, neither have a told you to dig a grave and jump inside or go to hell and you know why? Those childish insults don’t mean anything. On my part, I have only stated facts about your writings: childish, immature, bad English.


3. Take a ‘chill pill’ – calm down girl!
That’s it for now – I will only reply you with corrections of your English if at all (my French isn’t as solid as my English but it’s way better than yours!).
Follow my advice and the only way to go is up. Ignore my advice and it will hold you back.

All the best.

Oh - will do the corrections on your last write-up later - I've got to dash! Glad to be of help.

Cute - your English has already improved a bit! You're obviously taking more time which means I've had a positive influence on you! I also notice that you’ve added some French (though it’s very basic)! C’est bon – tres bien!

You're still lacking in the area of intelligent discourse but that will come with time and practise.

Keep up the good work!

Let's face facts Datope, your English is terrible! Yes, pidgin or any other language for that matter, is allowed in nairaland but there is life outside nairaland! No doubt you would have shot and will continue to shoot loads of 'bullets' in your everyday life. Unless you face facts and address this matter. There is no way it won't hold you back in life. You would never get far if you were working in a serious company speaking that kind of English. Get a copy of 'First Aid English' and of course, a dictionary (not too advanced so that you don't get confused) and study them well.

Don't hide behind 'hating me' and fighting for Stella - she is getting on with her life in spite of our exchanges and she doesn't know you from Adam! Face your problems - improve your English and do as much reading as possible so that you can develop more intellectually and learn to state your case without throwing childish insults at people.

Let me know how it goes. Actually, you don't need to let me know anything: if you continue to write in pidgin, I will know that you're not developing yourself and will feel 'honoured' though disappointed (for your sake) that you've chosen this method of communication because of me. If you choose to write in English and there is an improvement, it means you would have taken my advice to better yourself. Don't 'cut your nose to spite your face' or 'throw the baby out with the bath water'. (I hope you understand those expressions). In other words, hate me if you like but work on improving yourself - it's for your own good not mine!

Good luck!

NB: I will correct your grammar anytime you're brave enough to write in English, especially when you are addressing me. This is how I can help since you really want me to be your pa.

Hiya!

Would love to be your personal assisstant and help you improve your overall packaging (inner and outer, especially inner - ie make you sound more sophisticated etc). Unfortunately honey, you can't afford me.

But let me see how I can help. Let's look at a few things:

1. You can't hide your bad English behind pidgin English - nairaland knows the extent of your English grammar.

2. But yes, I think it's great that you are choosing to communicate in pidgin English with me - obviously you are so much more comfortable with it! (You sabi am well well!)

3. I can see that you are giving us different options for some words to make it seem as if your grammatical errors could be deliberate - it's not working.

4. To re-emphasise my second point, yes - you definitely flow better in pidgin and also you will not be exposing your limited English that way!

Smart Girl!

Thank you madam English!

I was not writing waec, jamb or communicating with someone that need me to promptly and correctly dot my i's or cross my t's. You are nobody, an ordinary hater! who find it difficult to cover up her hatred and jealousy. I don’t need to be meticulous in my writings to you! Anything goes for haters!

You can sit down all day with a copy of your “Dictionary” and Common Mistakes in English to correct my grammar. Makes no different about how I feel about you!


My dear Datope,

Nevertheless, I will continue to correct you and unfortunately, there is nothing you can do about it in the same way that I can't do anything about your immature insults! You only need to compare my approach to the topic and yours to realise that mine is much more intellectual, controlled, mature and reasonable!

ENGLISH GRAMMAR CORRECTIONS

1. 'someone that need me' should read 'someone that need[b]s[/b] me'
2.'who find it difficult' should read 'who find[b]s[/b] it difficult'
3. 'Makes no different' should read, 'Makes no differen[b]ce[/b]'

'I don't need to be meticulous in my writings to you' (questionable but we can leave it like that). You don't need to be meticulous where I am concerned but you need to be meticulous for your employer or if you're trying to send a business letter etc to a serious company on behalf of a serious company etc.

And finally, I didn't have to sit down with any book (I'm hot, aren't I? and it only takes me a few minutes to correct your grammar, depending on how bad it is.

So my dear, continue to hate me and insult me - the English lesson will continue! (Please don't thank me - it's just one of my contributions to the development of mankind)

Take care.

Okay – ‘madam know-it-all’, I’ve been keeping quiet while dodging your insults and ‘bullets’. I think it’s time for an English lesson now:

1. ‘Stella Damascus’ - its Damasus

2. ‘I want to give you an advise’ - should read, ‘i want to give you some advice (with a ‘c’ not ‘s’) and you can’t ‘give an advise’, you can only ‘give advice’

3. ‘In other word, get a life’ should read, ‘in other words’

4. ‘get a life and stop making innuendo about another man’, should read ‘get a life and stop making innuendoes about another woman, (she’s a woman or you can say ‘another person’)

5. ‘not at loggerhead’ - as your ‘oga lawrence’ said correctly, its ‘loggerheads’

6. ‘there is and will always be an excuse for every deserved insults’. Should read ‘there is and will always be an excuse for every deserved insult’. (no ‘s’)

These are the main ones. There are a few others but we can find ways to justify them. And I’m sure you now realise that the ‘advise’ you used in several places is meant to be ‘advice’. Can’t go into the grammatical details love, sorry – no time.

So at least your English will improve a little more after your exchange with me.

The moral of this story: Before you insult people make sure your English is solid!

Oooooo - temper, temper! so passionate in defence of her heroine!

Love it!

Datope, reacting to 'negative reamarks' is still no excuse for insults! Everybody has a right to their opinion and also a right to discuss whatever they want. Anyone who feels that the issue is overflogged or doesn't want to know should say so or ignore the comment.

Lets all behave in a mature fashion - there is absolutely no excuse or need for insults!

Take care and God bless.

Awwwwwww, what a shame! It's such a pity when people have to resort to insults to get their point across. This sort of attitude may limit your progress in life. This is my humble advice to you. In the meantime, if anyone has any civilised/positive comments to add, I look forward to hearing from you.

Datope, take care dear.

"Let the dead bury their dead, the woman cannot burn herself because her husband is dead, if mourning for years as some of you want her to do could bring him back, fine, but since it cant, let the woman live her life",


Please read what I said carefully - I said 'I was happy when Stella remarried' especially for the children's sake! My beef with her has always been that she allowed the press and fans blinded by her beauty and talent to crucify the Aboderins and paint a very false and negative picture about them! And this is the family of the man she claimed to have loved dearly! That's it! Because being close to that family, I know what they went through. By all means she should get on with her life but she shouldn't create wrong impressions and try to pull people down just to make herself look good.

Jaynie, this your hatred never do? This thread started almost 4yrs ago; at least your mindset over the matter suppose don go down; you've always ask reader on this post to watch out that events will unfold, so far non of the atrocities you claimed Stella committed has been confirmed. Biko, my people say if you chase someone and you no catcham, he better make you leave am alone. you no look at post for over 1 year and after you do; na stella damascus, na wetin?
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Hiiiii! I'm back again! I said time will tell and I think it has! When Stella remarried (Emeka Nzeribe) last February, I thought, 'thank God, the girls will have a stable family life now'. Now this marriage is in serious trouble - serious accusations of Stella being unfaithful & bossy towards her husband! Some will say 'the wicked press, they have started again'! These are grave allegations so why hasn't she sued the tabloids? I would have for the sake of my children and family name!

Or perhaps its just another 'wicked' family like the Aboderins, abi? Or Jaynie's so-called 'hatred'?


Time is beginning to tell.

Why do people find it so hard to believe that stella is a cheat? I'll tell you why - because she is a fantastic actress! I say there is no smoke without fire! If Emeka Nzeribe's relatives were at the funeral, presumably representing her husband, why didn't she give any of their pix to the press? She chose the pix that one of the publications carried - it would be wrong and direspectful for her to exclude her in-laws if they were there, at least one pic would have been used! Thats my take on the situation.

As usual sha, time will tell.

Datope, You don't get it, do you? It's nothing to do with hatred - it's all about facing reality. Because something happened four years ago doesn't mean that it the subject has to be closed! Afterall the person who made the comment i referred to decided that it was worth a mention after so long. Does that make us shallow or stupid? I think not. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion and allowed to express it whenever they want. Besides I know more than you do being closer to the scene. People don't get ahead in life by showing hatred - they get ahead by being realistic and living in the real world which is what I am doing!

Thank you o, synderella - you've captured the situation in a nutshell! Haven't visited this topic for a year, just thought I'd check to see what the latest thread is! You obviously are not affected by the fact that she is a beautiful talented actress like most the contributors to this topic - you are calling a spade, a spade! Well done!

Compliments of the Season to all!

Hi josh josh. Thank you so much for your unobjective, realistic view of the situation! You've said you don't know me and you don't even know if I'm telling the truth which is why I appreciate your comments even more. Thank you again for not being star-struck! Compliments of the Season!

Ha ha! Omogenikky and snazzydawn - alright, you guys got me there! Keep the popcorn and soda if you like but I don't think any subsequent input from me will be worth it! As I always say - 'whatever makes you happy, guys!'

Sorry datope, no pix!! One of these days sha, Keep smiling!

Uchetobi, thanks for being fair. As I said before, i wouldn't mind some suggestions on other topics to watch. I'm done with the stella issue so that 'the other side' can stay happy. For those of you who were about to sit back with soda and popcorn to watch 'the battle', sorry to disappoint you! It won't be from me. My intention was not to put anyone down but to bring some reality to the whole situation. I may still write something under this topic if I feel like but I won't say anything about what stella did or didn't do. I've expressed my views on that already and that's it. Now I'm talking too much! Keep happy, guys!

Yes, I came back o! Just had to say that I'm glad that you guys are happy with your conclusions. Keep smiling and stay happy!!!!!!!!

Omogenikky and datope - whatever makes you happy guys!

Datope and Omogenikky - you guys are obviously dreamers like a good number of people out there. Stella is definitely beautiful but (I'm sorry to disappoint you!), she's no angel. You prefer to fantasise about what stella has 'been through'. You guys should get yourself a real heroine! You're smarter than this, surely? A young woman has deceived you and a millions and you've fallen for it!!! This is sad. You know what? I'll leave you to your dreams, and I will leave this topic for you - can't handle the narrowmindedness! I'm outta here! (Good riddance, abi? No sweat. Take care of yourselves)

To those of you who tried to bring a touch of reality to the topic, I say a big thank you. Minds like yours will go a long way to help keep wrongs in check.
As I always say, God is in control and time will tell.

Byyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee!!!!!!

Thanks uchetobi, i really appreciate your comments and the fact that you are trying to understand where I'm coming from. In the end, I would also love for her to settle down and get married if only to provide a home for those beautiful daughters of theirs.

Hey- doesn't matter who I am, I have a right to my opinion, not so? I admit to being an aboderin supporter and my posts have been one-sided because right from the beginning, everyone, everywhere was prepared to think the worst of them. The whole stella matter has been 90% plus one-sided in her favour against them. This is still the case today although a few people are beginning to wonder. I know the aboderin's very well and I will stand by them any day. Nobody speaks for them so I have appointed myself!! I still sometimes wonder why they don't use their punch to tell their own side of the story. Everyone was/is happy to believe one side - why not give them the other side and let them judge for themselves? It is unfair for her to raise herself up at the expense of others. Anyway, I wish her well because I'm not here to put her down, just to bring balance and reality to the story (self-appointed heh, heh!). In the end, time will tell!!!

Thanks Angel101 for that dose of reality - we need people like you to keep it REAL! Enough of the fantasy!!

Too bad - I can cry over whatever I like and I don't mind telling you that it was this topic that brought me over to nairaland - I stumbled on it by accident! Since I am so boring and jobless, this, unfortunately, is the only topic I'm watching. Phaps you could introduce me to another one but this topic will always interest me for as long as people wish to comment on it (Iknow a lot - yeah, yeah, too know - sabi-sabi etc etc - hey, that's me!. Waiting patiently for your suggestions.

Her family have no right to say "this is how she treated her husband etc".

And she has no right to give false impressions about her husband's family. That is the crux of the matter! Make them look like the wicked in-laws so that people will love and adore that angelic face even more!! No how, no how, God will judge and everyone will get what they deserve!

Days after could mean 5 days or 100 days. The point being made is that it was too soon after Jaiye's death to go out clubbing. You say people would have stopped her from going out. Which people? How come they didn't stop her from going out to perform when she did? She's as free as a bird. Nigerians should wake up and stop worshipping a saint where there is none. She's so clever - she has fooled you all! Sorry o!

Finally, people have started being realistic about Stella. The saying, 'never judge a book by it's cover' is very appropriate here. She can be anything she wants to be because she is a fantastic actress and Nigerians want a 'sweet' story. If the true story about how well the in-laws treated her came out, it wouldn't be 'sweet' for Stella or her adoring public! That's life. Anyway, I hope she changes her behaviour for the sake of her beautiful girls. I wish her well.

Oh, one last thing 9ja4eva, smearing the image of a dead man is a cowardly thing to do because he is not around to defend himself. Fortunately, Jaiye had a good heart so he probably won't haunt you or appear to you in your sleep! But my advice is - DON'T PUSH YOUR LUCK - HE CAN SEE ALL OF US!!